The New Sexual Man: Why the “Performance Model” Is on Its Way Out

Written by on May 11, 2015 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 2 Comments

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By Christina Antonyan | The Mind Unleashed

In the 1960’s the free LOVE, self – expression, and peace movement began 
(in some western countries) and men were introduced to foreplay and suddenly challenged to bring women to orgasm. There wasn’t a lot of pressure to succeed at that time, because for the previous 2,000 years women’s sexuality had been suppressed. Besides “good girls didn’t do that” anyway.

Today, being a good lover is challenging. Women are now on the other side of sexual revolution. Women don’t just want sex. Women want great sex filled with physical and emotional nourishment. For men, this creates performance anxiety, because there is always the concern…

• What if I can’t satisfy her?

• What if my penis isn’t big enough?

• What if I can’t get it up or last long enough?


• What if I can’t give her an orgasm?

This traditional model of sex focuses on male performance rather than creating pleasure for each other. The man has to make the right moves, pretend to know things that he doesn’t, and put on a great performance to prove something. This creates so much unnecessary anxiety, pretending to be interested when his not, and lot of joyless sex.

Check out this article: Female Therapist Defines Conscious Sexuality.

The Good News…

This traditional ‘performance’ model is on its way out. It’s being replaced by a new model.

The new model of sex emphasizes pleasure, closeness, intimacy, learning about self, and enhancing your pleasure as well as your partners. Sexual Love is the fuel in every passionate relationship. Without it, it’s like having an airplane with no jet fuel – you can’t fly anywhere. You can’t have new experiences. You are stuck in the same sexual routine that is no longer exciting.

The New Sexual Man

More and More, I see that there is a ‘new sexual man’ in the world. A man who wants to experience lovemaking to its full potential. A man who desires to make love in such a way that it opens his heart to one of life’s greatest pleasures and fulfills his deepest purpose and desires.

A new man who wants to know everything there is to know about lovemaking. I am not referring to just intercourse – anyone can do that. Lovemaking is an art.

A different mindset about lovemaking

▪   Just thrusting in and out for an hour doesn’t make you a great lover, it makes you a fantastic porn star. What’s important is the time you and your lover take to create the energy while making love to fully awaken your senses. This allows you to build the feelings of passion and intimacy.

▪   It’s better to give a woman a little of what she wants then a lot of what you think she want’s.

Check out this article that shares 12 health-related reasons you should have sex every day.

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  1. peter@kress.ch' Peter says:

    excellent content of the article.
    unfortunately bad grammar.
    danger: bad grammar distracts from a good content. So, please, be very careful !!

    • Christina@confidentlover.com' Chrstina Antonyan says:

      Thank you Peter, I will definitely have to work on that :)– Thank you for pointing that out. I am in search of someone with excellent grammar skills, if you know anyone, please send them my way.
      Cheers

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