Firewalking and Dirty Dancing ~ How To Courageously Surrender


Have you ever done something that really scared you?

I'm betting you have.

This post is about stepping into that kind of warrior courage, and it's also a call for you to step into a different type of courage as well. If you like a good challenge, read on.

On February 27, 2014, I celebrated my 51st birthday by walking on fire!** It was scary and exciting, and yes, it was a big “hell yeah!” afterwards. In short, it was definitely an accomplishment – even a milestone – in my life.

But to my surprise, something I did a few days later was even BIGGER than the firewalk. It wasn’t bigger in the American sense of larger, faster, more bad-ass. But rather, it was “bigger” because it made me step up in a way I’d rarely done before… it caused me to step up in a more “feminine” way.

Stepping up courageously requires a lot of 3rd chakra/solar plexus energy.  We have to ignite our center and dig into the fire of our soul to get the courage to storm past our typical fears (like the fear of pain, maiming or death – not fun stuff to say the least!). The 3rd chakra is a quintessentially masculine chakra. It’s the chakra of courage; of the Warrior fighting the most formidable foe or even the Knight fighting the mythical dragon.

But there is another type of courage that may be even more important in this age of mass-connection and Goddess energy, and that is the courage to be in our feminine; to connect, trust and most importantly, to fully surrender. For the women of the last half-century, like me, who have forged careers in a masculine world, this type of feminine courage is needed more than ever – it’s our saving grace.

That’s what my video is about this week.

I was genuinely pleased with my firewalk achievement, but I’ve been displaying that kind of courage since I was 3 years old. I’ve been quite the independent, little tomboy. Last year, I jumped out of a plane for my 50th birthday simply because the idea of it scared me. Enough said.

This year is my 1-2 year Chakra Life Cycle year. This means it’s both a masculine (1) and feminine (2) year for me. So yes, it’s a good year for me to be strong and independent (1), but it’s a good year for me to learn to be truly trusting, easy going and to surrender as well (2). And since I’ve exercised way more independent “go for it” energy than feminine surrender energy in my life, the latter provides the most balance in the big picture of my growth and transformation.

But I digress. Let me continue with my story. I did the firewalk, and when Tony Robbins’s “Unleash The Power Within” was finished, I went on a birthday cruise (note the symbolism of going from fire to water – masculine 3rd chakra to feminine 2nd chakra).

On the cruise, they had a big deck party where everyone danced like crazy. A young guy who was an excellent dancer came and began partnering with me. He took my hands and started leading me. I’d never done any couples dancing, so I didn’t really know how. But I’d made a vow to myself that I would surrender more in my life, so I just followed where he led, and it was really fun.

Then, over the din of the music and mayhem, he asked me if I knew the “Baby move” from Dirty Dancing, and if I’d ever done it. I experienced a strange mixture of fear and excitement. Yes, I knew what it was, and no, I had never done it.

Now, if you somehow missed the glory days of “Dirty Dancing,” let me fill you in. The “Baby move” is when Jennifer Grey” runs and jumps up into Patrick Swayze’s arms and he holds her over his head as she holds her body swan-dive style. You can view it here (the big jump is at 3:13 if you want to skip forward):

The next thing, the dancing stranger asked me was, “You want to do it?” (the jump) And before I could answer “no,” an “okay” came flying out of my mouth.

Whoa… Did I just agree to do it?

Apparently I had. He moved across the deck and beckoned me with a wave of his arm. I ran toward him, he yelled “jump!” and I did (or at least my legs did!).

He lifted me up and suddenly, I was over his head and he was turning me in circles, something I thought was part of the original “Dirty Dancing,” but on second viewing, discovered was not. I guess it was just a bonus.


I had trusted and survived. I had done more than just surrender into surrender. I had leaped into surrender! And even as I write this, I now realize that my leap out of the plane was a very similar thing – a courageous act of surrender. Jump and then just trust and let go. I guess I am always subconsciously seeking that masculine-feminine experience.

Are you willing to take action AND surrender? In order to be wholy-whole, we all need to be able to do both, and honor our masculine and feminine sides. I want you to experience the rush of achievement you get from taking brave, independent actions, and also the deep fulfillment you get when you fully surrender.

If you’ve experienced a lot more of one or the other in your life, then this week, I challenge you to make the lesser one more important and build your “warrior” or your “goddess” muscles.

Also, if you’re a man who hasn’t really stepped up to climb that mountain (the male essence) or a woman who has rarely truly surrendered and been soft and vulnerable (the feminine essence), try it out. Embrace the bio-spiritual tendency of your gender and enjoy. There’s a whole lot of healing in it.

Here’s to your full-bodied transformation! Blessings, Vicki

** I was unable to video the firewalk, but Oprah experienced the same firewalk with Tony on another date and videotaped it. Check it out:

Vicki Howie

Vicki Howie is the Creator of Chakra Boosters Healing Tattoos™ (find out what inspired her to create them here). She's also the Creator of Chakra Love, the Chakra Life Cycle System® and she's the Co-Editor of Conscious Life News. You can visit her website,facebook page and youtube channel for lots of free chakra info and gifts. If you enjoy her innovative chakra work, you can pre-order her new book “The Key to Your Chakras” here on Love and blessings!

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