Forgiveness: The Universal Understanding We All Need to Take Up

Forgiveness - the miracle medicine | VirginWhile I’ve always been the type of person that can go from sugar to shit-storm if I feel my safety is threatened, I’ve never been able to hold a grudge for very long or ever really able to get into the whole revenge thing if someone does me wrong. This tends to hold water whether that wrong is simply being told a disappointing lie or even if it’s a huge, out of nowhere “screw you”.

For my entire life, instead of scheming ways to make people pay for the harm they’ve caused, I instead was more interested in the reasons why they had caused the harm in the first place. The yearning to understand this has always overpowered the need to get even and any advice to get back at them never appealed to me, nor did harboring any long-term bad will or feelings towards the person.

So, what is it that allows me or anyone else like me to turn my inner spark into a raging fire only when it’s a matter of physical survival? And why do most of us put ourselves in this same bucket; forcing life to shake us to the core before we even consider making real change in our lives whether it be via our perceptions, beliefs, thoughts, words, actions, or all of the above.

I’ve come to realize that it’s because we have simply forgotten who we are; all of us. And perhaps that’s the whole point of being here. In my heart of hearts, I honestly feel we are all here to help one another, no matter how “good” or “bad” of a person the world might consider us to be. And I’ve always had this strange ability it seems to be able to see the full spectrum of both polarities in people. So, whenever someone I care about does that hurt me or to betray me, while I, of course, feel the pain, I am also just as able to not let it take away from the good, loving, positive parts of the friendship or relationship, especially if it was mostly this way…

You see, as humans, we all know we make mistakes. Some of us even take a few more times than others to learn our lessons, but the point is we ALL mess up at times, we all over-react, we all lay slave to our emotions, we all let untrue thoughts haunt us and take away our self-worth, and we all judge and judge one another.

But what I figured out is the less I judge and the more I show forgiveness the more I am able to love myself. It sounds ironic and completely ass-backward and sometimes I can’t even make sense of it myself, because this path I’ve chosen for myself has been quite a painful one. Living in the world this way allows me to love deeper than most, but also get hurt just as deep. It comes with a price…

Looking in at my life, especially if you are close to me, you might ask why such a nice person allows others to treat her so poorly, or why such a gal with huge dreams doesn’t put more energy into herself over those she cares about, and again I’ve asked myself these things for years. No, I have literally tormented myself with these exact two questions for almost my entire life, and it wasn’t until recently that I finally asked, “WHY? and WHO is this for???”

You see if I’ve learned anything in my 41 years on Earth is that my purpose is to see the light in others they are blind to and lead them to it, so they are able to see the path they need to walk to turn it on and shine brightly in the world…and for so many years, I had people asking why I couldn’t do it for myself and I felt horrible for it, like I was never good enough or where I needed to be. The DO Lectures - Forgiveness Isn't About The Other Person

But as I surrender to life, and flow with what comes through my heart, I’m learning more about what I truly love and what my gifts are giving back to me. I had just never allowed myself to be open to it because I always looked at from such a limited perspective. But if you can learn to zoom out, to remember that everything has a purpose and that if someone you cared about did genuinely just make a mistake and cares enough as well to ask for it; then forgiveness is definitely warranted.

Forgiveness; whether or not you are forgiving something big or small or give second or third chances, or even forgiving someone you still never want to see again, it is always for YOU. It is about maintaining YOUR inner peace. Because that is the space you always want to give and receive from for it to be authentic; that is where love blooms, grows, and comes crying home to at times just to held and told everything is OK.

There is always a higher purpose to things and that nothing really exists but LOVE. Everything, no matter how painful it can get, is here for our growth, our experience, our sharing, or remembering who we are. It’s all for us to find our way home, to help one another, and especially to be there for those who refuse to even open their eyes to look around. And this I am convinced, is my life path, my purpose albeit a freaking painful one. From the outside I know it looks like I am fated to be a forever doormat or that I believe I deserve no better, but what I’ve come to realize is that on some level, this is what I’m here to do. I’m here to help the blind see, the abused heal, the angry cry, and the lost remember.

And perhaps the greatest thing to remember here is that forgiveness is for GIVING and something we should all TAKE up! 😉


Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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The Gift of Gratitude & Loving With No Regrets

Beautiful pet cat memorial print Rainbow Bridge Gift | EtsyThis week I wanted to write about something near and dear to my heart…gratitude. So many times we find ourselves taking things for granted, and while I don’t believe it’s intentional, life always has a way to remind us to appreciate everything we have, and to never assume something you care about is trivial.

It’s sounds cliche, but as the saying goes, “You don’t know what you got until it’s gone.” Unfortunately, I experience a heart-breaking reminder of this just two days ago when I had to say good-bye to one of my furbabies, Obi. 

I rescued Obi from a shelter in Chicago in 2015. It was immediately following my separation from my first husband, and after seeing Obi, I felt like the recent hole in my heart had a chance of being refilled.

I always said that Obi chose me that day, not the other way around. As I walked past the various cats (wanting to take them ALL home), Obi caught my attention because he was the only one with his little nose sticking out of the cage, and also the only one who welcomed me with a “meow” as I approached.

I stuck my finger in his cage and he immediately put his head down and butted the cage door as to say, “YOU human, I choose YOU.” It took 0.0003 seconds for me to fall completely in love with this little furball and although I already had my 15 lb. orange tabby, Lukas at home, I didn’t think twice to adopt him. Obi was going on 4 at the time, and I was blessed to have another 5 wonderful years with him.

A few months later I underwent surgery and that cat did not leave my side the entire two weeks of my recovery. He seemed to have a sense of when I was in pain and would always do his famous head-butt when he was attempting to not only get some pettings but also to let me know he could feel what I was feeling. And soon enough, that interchange of energy was mutual.

Later that same year, Lukas and Obi make the 2,000-plus miles trip from Chicago to Phoenix when I decided to relocate and get a fresh start. Immediately they loved their new environment as now they could lay outside in the warm sun any time of year. And that quickly became Obi all-time favorite spot. You never know you have a cat . . . | Rainbow Bridge | Pet grief ...

In Jan of this year, my husband and I were blessed to discover that were are expecting. We couldn’t be more excited and since finding out I always made a point to talk to my cats and let them know there would soon be a new addition to our small family. Lukas didn’t seem to care much, but Obi would sit there and listen to me intently talk about my son’s anticipated arrival later this year in September. 

Unfortunately in all the excitement and joy of planning for Aleric to join us in the world, Obi had somewhere along the way caught a pretty bad respiratory infection and while there were no immediate symptoms, he started to slowly lose weight and the luster in his normally shiny silver coat. He was still eating and drinking as well as snuggling like normal, but I could just feel something going on with him. A few weeks ago I noticed him sleep and taking really hard breaths. My vet said to keep an eye on him but as long as he’s eating and drinking that it should pass.

But it didn’t pass and on the 18th he began to hide in various areas of the house and was just not himself. I heard that cats will often do that when they know they’re going to pass over the rainbow bridge, so I called the vet immediately. We ended up taking him to an Emergency Vet and to our dismay and utter shock, they told us there was nothing they could do and that the humane thing would be to put him down.

The thought of my little friend struggling for breath broke my heart into a million piece and I knew it was the right thing to do…I had to let him go. As I write this with tears in my eyes and memories in my heart, I am still plagued with the regret I wish I could’ve done more, or seen how bad it was earlier on. Thinking that there must be something I could’ve done to save him.

The look in his gentle eyes as he passed on is something I will never forget. As I told my lil friend how much I loved him and thanked him for choosing me as his human, he looked at me in a way that has forever touched my soul and my heart. I could literally feel him saying thank you and that he loved me too.

I know it takes a certain audience to really understand the kind of effect losing a pet can have on a person, but especially since being pregnant, I realize that Obi WAS my kid. And the more I think about it, my pain is not only valid but reminds me of the fact that animals can often touch us in ways that not even another person can.

And as he left his physical body, Obi gave me a gift I will forever cherish, a sense of gratitude and a vital reminder that all we ever have is this moment and to never, ever waste even one on things that bring you down. His gentle soul will always be a part of me and I somehow even feel more confident as a soon-to-mother.

Obi was truly an angel in my life and I can only hope that everyone in the world gets to feel as loved as I did while being his human. The joy he brought to my heart is something that can never be replaced. So let this be a celebration of life when the rest of the world seems hellbent on destruction. I honor Obi for the teacher he was and for reminding me of the student I will always be – one who knows that there is never an end to our learning and growing.

To all of those out there who may be in mourning over a family member, friend, or in my case a beloved pet, I just want you to know to never stop loving as much as you can in this life…because all this ends. And there is nothing perhaps more painful than love unexpressed.


In remembrance of my dear friend, Obi: 8-28-11 to 6-18-20


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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Conscious Awareness and Human Experience – How to Know the Difference

Is Conscious Awareness a part of your marketing? | Social HubSiteWe all know how easy it is to get caught up in the moment, but what about staying calm in the moment? Why’s that so much more difficult to not just master, but simply pull off here and there when you really need it? Well, for starters it is because most of us are not taught the actual truth of who we really are as children. And it’s this “not knowing” that is the root cause of all fears and anxiety we experience in life. As they always say, once you face fears, they dissipate…

We are taught as children that we are merely this skin and these bones and these thoughts in our minds and perhaps even that when we die that we literally “end”. But science and spirituality are finally beginning to play nice, and when we allow their principles to work together, they now show us that like the energy we are, we never truly end, we merely transform.

No matter what we’re taught; chances are good that most of our parents were not aware of the Truth that we are this pure energy of conscious awareness; that we are ALL the awareness that is actually moving this skin and these bones and these thoughts. We are what is inside or rather behind these going’s on in our physicality and mental worlds. Yet we are not OF them. We are the Force.

I recently watched a video presented by the awesome Deepak Chopra and he explained where human consciousness resides in such a way that even if you are new to the topic, you can easily grasp the understanding. He explained it so beautifully, it was actually his words that inspired me to write about this very topic this week. He states that human experience comes and goes, while conscious awareness is unending; infinite…it is YOU.

Experiences, that is, everything occurring outside of yourself in our perceptual reality is the stuff that we think “happens to us”. And while we consider our experiences to be that which shape and mold us throughout our lives, if we zoom out a bit and see the entire picture (pun totally intended), we see that it is our perceptions of those experiences that have in fact done the shaping. How we’ve reacted and responded to life is ultimately what determined what life threw at us next. Well, isn’t that curious? 🙂

This brings up a vital reminder of how important it is to be directing your life rather than simply reacting to it. When we live on auto-pilot, sure life will continue to just “happen” and experiences will come and go, but we will not have consciously played a pro-active role in determining the shape our lives take; and I’m sorry, but that’s a huge waste of your gifts, talents, and abilities.

When the great sages, monks, and gurus speak of “going within”, this is why they repeat themselves into an eternal meditation with these words…because it’s literally the greatest advice you can offer another human being. It’s like opening the floodgates of Creational wisdom, pointing the way and letting them carve their own path; which one must always do to obtain that wisdom meant only for them.

When we go within and turn our awareness upon ourselves, a funny thing happens. You begin to tune into what I can only call the Divine Silence which is ever-present and eternal. It is here where you can find that inner peace the Zen Masters alike find Oneness within, by going through this Silence; and ultimately becoming this Silence, only to realize they were this Silence all along. Expand your conscious awareness - A message from Neptha El Ra ...

Which brings me back to Deepak and how he explained perhaps the simplest way I’ve ever heard to help someone detach from an emotionally heated reaction to an experience and to disown any baggage from it that is weighing you down. He asks you to imagine that experiences are fleeting, linear, they come and they go; they are temporary and reside in 3-D space-time reality. Consciousness, however, is infinite, eternal, timeless, unbound, no beginning, and no end and does not reside in time-space.

Therefore, he suggested that to help you stop responding to things so emotionally or from being so attached to things, you can start to make little changes like this…

Instead of saying, “I’m hungry…” say “I’m aware of the sensation of hunger…”

Instead of thinking, “This is really scary…” think “I’m aware of this fear…”

This will help you stay in your awareness, in the present moment (which is your power), without attachment to the experience itself! This gives you so much more freedom in how you choose to (or not to) respond/react to experiences in life. This can help you go from living on auto-pilot to being the conscious creator being you were meant to be!

tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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Stories of Self: How to Pull Power From a Painful Past

How to Get Over a Painful PastI realized something not too long ago and that was that it is so great to have dreams and aspirations. They give you hope, something to look forward to, and to plan. Dreams can help you align your gifts and talents with those things you absolutely love to do the most so that you can bring to fruition a living that you never have to consider to be “a job”. To me, THAT is the definition of success.

With this realization, I also took in the understanding that you can’t always keep your dreams “out there” in front of you. You must bring them in close, into your heart, into your reality and beliefs, and most importantly you must welcome them into your NOW.

When we keep dreams as a proverbial carrot dangling in front of us, sure they may keep us moving, or they may just keep us daydreaming and growing ever resentful of those around us that took steps we haven’t yet. There’s a certain safety in always having our dreams out in the distance. It’s comforting to know we always have that goal to strive for and deep down it might terrify people to actually reach the horizon and achieve that goal, because then what do we do? Actually enjoy our lives? 🙂

This is where the anxiety stems from…straying from the present moment into a future of uncertainty or one that you have convinced yourself is full of impending doom or failure. Sadly, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy if we do not become aware of it.

Just as our perceptions of what the future holds are subconsciously tied to the faith we have in ourselves to make the choices needed to get us there, we need to consider how our perceptions of our past can act to limit or alter just how many steps we take or even attempt to take towards ever creating that future we dream of.

I often say that the stories we tell ourselves cause us the most suffering. It is not usually situations that are necessarily good or bad per se, but the stories we tell ourselves about them and the judgment we create in our minds. When we convince ourselves those things just ARE this way or that, not only are we limiting ourselves to having to now navigate within the constraints of a small box, but we are also putting ourselves in the equivalent position of getting into a car with no steering wheel.

We may not stop to consider how damaging or hindering our own thoughts about things, people, and events from our past can affect not only our present lives but our future as well. If we hold onto guilt, regret, anger, or shame for things we did or didn’t do; things others said or didn’t say, it is us that keep ourselves locked in a prison in our own minds. And oftentimes, if we just simply revisit these events we have tortured ourselves with for so long, we may see them in a completely different light. Motivational Wallpaper on Future: If you focus too much on the ...

Can we KNOW for sure that the way we perceived the events actually did happen the way we keep replaying them in our heads after all these years? Did the person really mean it the way we took it? Hanging onto these perceptions and stories; this is where depression can come from that feed our insecurities and fill our minds with the “what-if’s” and “I should have done this or said that”. Our past is meant to be our teacher and while the lessons are often painful they are what add to your integrity and strength.

There are so many factors that allow us to justify our hanging onto things from our past like we are doing something to get back at the other person. Or that it’s benefiting us in some way not to let it go and move on. But what we don’t often realize is that forgiveness is never about the other person. Forgiveness is so YOU can have peace; it has nothing to do with them. And letting go and moving on doesn’t mean you are a sucker or had one done over on you. It means you simply respect and love yourself enough to cherish your own peace of mind. You are confident that you deserve to be happy and that nothing anyone has ever done or said to you is ever worth losing your smile.

This is not to suggest that we all become unemotional robots; not in the least. To experience the full spectrum of emotion is human and is, in my opinion, a beautiful thing (yes even the sad or “negative” emotions). What I am saying is that all emotions serve their purpose and that is ALL they are there to do. To serve their purpose and be let go of. If we sit with emotions too long, they begin to consume us.

Happiness is NOT an emotion; it is a state of BEING. It cannot exist anywhere but inside you and cannot be found in another person or in future time, yet that is where most are conditioned to look for it. Joy IS an emotion and like all others is fleeting and temporary and the trick is to learn to ride the wave of emotion that comes with life. Happiness isn’t some destination in the future that we need to strive to get to. It is a state of being that we either choose for ourselves or we don’t and regardless of what is ever going on, we always have that choice – no one can take that away from us.

Healing Our Past | Awakening JourneyIf we are always thinking that happiness comes from or is taken away by others, guess where it will always be? Just out of reach. No wonder so many of us are so guarded, untrusting, or on edge! Yet, once we realize that happiness is there within us at all times, smoldering like embers in those unique gifts we haven’t yet gotten the courage to share with the world, we no longer see the world as a place we need to compare, compete or conquer.

I say the key to unlocking our self-inflicted prison is merely self-love. Once you learn to love yourself, the door appears. Once you get the courage to approach the door with the intention to explore what lies on the other side, you will then be anointed with the key. The funny thing is, the key was within your own heart the whole time.

We ARE our greatest dream. And the greatest day of your life will be the day you find out.


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, a heart-centered Graphic Designer, and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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The Duality of Order: A Perspective on Forced Control vs Chosen Organization

You Love Collaboration. Do You Think It's a Substitute for ...The word “order” can often mean different things to different people. That meaning can also shift or be influenced, I am completely convinced, by how much “in control” one feels over themselves and their own life. That feeling in and of itself can also shift with our moods, and when things appear to just “happen to us” in life.

It is my understanding that the first 7 years of our lives are the most influential. During that time, our growing brains are literally sponges to the body of information around us. We may not fully grasp the concept of how our perceptions of the world may be completely different from another’s, but somehow I remember innately knowing that so many adults functioned in a state of fear and victimhood.

It did not take me long to lose the delusion that adults knew everything there was to know and that I was completely safe in the presence of adults, especially my family and teachers. With having come flying out the womb with a list of questions, I’ve never had a problem with voicing my opinion or asking questions to better understand things. It’s like something was left in me unsettled, like a wobbly chair, and I couldn’t regain a sense of inner peace or balance until I had received information that quashed my curiosities.

When I began asking questions that seemed to make adults very uncomfortable or even angry, I, unfortunately, began to understand that adults really are just “big kids” and that no matter HOW old you are, we are all doing the best we can from what we know. What I didn’t realize until much, much later in life was that ultimately, the level of our own ignorance is a personal choice.

After a certain point in life, you are forced to take responsibility for your choices, actions, and words and also the responsibility of dealing with the consequences of those choices, actions, and words. If we do not learn this vital trick to maintain balance in our lives, we miss out on a major life lesson that for me personally has acted as the foundation upon which I now build my closest personal relationships.

I remember being 14 and being told to clean up my room and thinking “why? I like my things everywhere and why are adults so stuck on complaining over such small things?” It wasn’t until I had to be the one to tell myself to clean up that I began to understand that it was never so much an intention to ruin joy or fun, but rather a request for a demonstration of what self-organization skills you have learned.

Being 41 and going on 23 weeks pregnant, I am constantly thinking about how I will reflect on this new life I am responsible for. I mean how do you teach “what works” if you’re still learning that yourself? I’ve since embraced the fact that I will never know it all, but that doesn’t mean I can’t offer guidance on those things I do know.

At one time in my teens, a closet full of dirty/clean clothes existing as a huge ball on the floor was empowering; a show of rebellion against the tyranny of parental demands LOL But now I actually honor and require organization in my home, my mind and ultimately in my life. It’s not that I sold out, but rather learn a new perspective that only certain experiences in life can offer.

Nowadays, I cringe if things are out of place or there’s clutter because the energy I get now is not empowering at all. In fact, it’s disruptive to my thought process and actually makes me feel disempowered. It’s not OCD or that I’m some control freak who will lose her shit if there’s a dish in the sink LOL It’s more like when things are clean and “orderly” and when I created that order, I get the same sense of personal power that I did by rebelling against the same thing as a teenager.

It’s really funny when you know that, and think about the many pointless arguments between people who merely have different perspectives on some things. When you step back and open up to accepting that in a third-dimensional world allows for an almost endless way to see or view something and just because you see a different side, doesn’t mean my side doesn’t exist or that your side is somehow wrong.

I am obsessed with the Laws of Nature and have always been fascinated by the Fibonacci Sequence and how math is literally the language of Nature. We all know math is in itself an order of numbers that cannot be broken. It maintains and expresses this constant in every corner of nature. You can disturb this order, but Nature ultimately will return to balance; there is no other way.

This understanding allows me to see that “control” is not always a bad thing. It’s the mixture of ill intentions and self-absorbed ego that makes it negative or an unpleasant experience. But control doesn’t need to feel negative. When expressed within a mutual understanding of all moving parts involved, it shifts from something that makes the individual feel less than to something that now shows the individual that it is a valid part of the whole and that when it the individual uses free will to take a position to maintain the order, then it becomes chosen organization.

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This is how small armies blessed with a hell of a lot of communication, respect, and heart can overpower the largest artillery if those act from a place of fear, a need to overpower and control, and ultimately create a vibe where the sense of communion or chosen organization is lost to a personal agenda. Basically, one respects all parts in being vital components for the success of the whole, while the other is merely using the majority of the parts merely to serve one or a select few of the other parts.


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, a heart-centered Graphic Designer, and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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A Brief Exploration of Human Desire

What is it that you desire? – The Freedom KeysWhen we consider the many facets of desire, we can see just how complex they can be and how they also can act as a driving force behind the actions we take or do not take, in our lives towards that which we want most. Why we desire things can vary from person to person and some of us might only consider our desires to be those naughty things we’d perhaps like to try in the bedroom someday. But desires go way beyond the bedroom and if truly pursued can seriously change your life in some majorly positive ways.

Now, it’s important to understand the difference between desire and infatuation. Infatuation is simply entertaining that part of us that thinks we are not good enough and so we project our insecurity onto someone else whom we’ve convinced ourselves is the epitome of all we’d like ourselves to be. When we are following that kind of energy, it’s coming directly from the ego, not from heart or Spirit and can often leave us feeling even more insecure as we form beliefs we must always be comparing ourselves to others, or living up to some proverbial expectation of perfection we’ve created in our minds.

Desire, TRUE desire comes from the lower chakras and you can feel pulling from deep in your Soul when you get that “gut” feeling that something was definitely meant for you. When you love doing something so much it just brings you immeasurable joy when you connect to in a loving, creative space. Desire, while it resonates with yearning and longing, is an outward expression of being open to connecting. It is not reaching from a place of need but from a place of curious anticipation for the raw experience.

When we are following our desires for the first time, it can be quite exciting! If we’ve lived a mostly reserved life where we always quieted that voice wanting us to take certain chances and risks when it came to love, work, etc. then the first time is something you will always remember. And yes I totally meant for that to sound cliché lol because it seriously can be as exciting as your “first time”. Your adrenaline is rushing through your veins; you’re in an almost altered state of bliss where time stops and nothing else exists but the moment…

Desires come from the various structures of life (love, finances, spiritual growth, health, etc.) and can look quite different depending on their area of origin. I think it’s safe to say that most of us would like to think that we are giving all areas the equal attention it deserves, but where our lives feel “out of balance” can give us the most clues as to where in our lives we are NOT following our desires. What is your deepest desire?

You might think it’s impossible to have harmony in each area of your life simultaneously, however, once you begin to act on your desires, which some people may even call “following your dreams” in certain circumstances, you will begin to see how the Universe actually strives to be in balance, and since you are a sliver of the Universe itself, your life is not excluded from this divine infinite intention.

The key is surrendering to the call of your heart. Tuning in to the call is a matter of learning how you receive information. Some people feel warmth or cold, some hear actual words or frequencies, while others see colors or visions in their minds. It’s all a matter of being willing to ASK, and then perhaps the most difficult part; stepping back and letting go of “the how”.

Instead simply trusting that you will get your answer, however, you MUST be clear when you are asking questions as there are no such things as cosmic innuendos or subtleties. You must be as clear and concise as possible and you will receive just as clear and concise answers. From where? The answers you seek always come from within you; it’s just a matter of how you connect with your Higher Self that determines how they are then communicated to your waking consciousness and even your Sub-conscious mind.

“Inspire Desire!” 🙂

Acting on these feelings, words, visions that you receive will only allow your connection to gain strength and this will ultimately allow you to trust yourself in a way that gives you the confidence to shine and share your gifts with the world. You may even be inspired to teach or coach others to do the same because it just feels so good to live authentically!


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, a heart-centered Graphic Designer, and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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This Will Put a Smile on Your Face: Some Good News with John Krasinski – PROM 2020

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John Krasinski highlights some good news around the world including workers bringing joy to their jobs, weather forecast from Brad Pitt, NASA astronauts from the International Space Station stop by, plus John throws a Prom party for every kid in the world and invites you to relive #SGNProm with special guests Billie Eilish, Jonas Brothers, Chance the Rapper, and Rainn Wilson.

The Give and Take of Personal Freedom

The definition of true freedom (With images) | Freedom, Iyanla ...If you’ve been reading my articles for a while, then you may have also caught on by now that I feel most alive when questioning the status quo, and am not afraid to “go there” and write about topics many would consider sensitive or expletive. You would not be wrong to assume that I’ve always had issues with authority (not so much getting in trouble, but rather asking so many questions and oftentimes asking questions of adults they simply could not explain), although throughout my life I’ve managed to find the delicate balance between speaking the Truth at any cost, and showing compassion in my delivery. 

One of my favorite quotes is “I would rather be slapped hard with the Truth than caressed gently with a lie.” I’ve tweaked it a bit to my own taste, but the message remains. That message is that oftentimes the person being the best friend to you is the one telling you things you may not want to hear per se, but speaking them mindfully with the intention to truly help you.

I was the one where if you constantly asked if something made you look fat, even if it didn’t I would say yes. Not to be cruel, but rather not to continue to feed the jaded opinion of Self and need for outside validation. Just to get the person face to face with their self-created facade of Self and realize that no matter what they look like, weigh, etc. that they are still worthy of love and acceptance. And in the end, I was always the friend at the ready to offer both whenever and however I could.

My good intentions were not always received as intended and often I realize I can come off as insensitive. And oddly enough, it’s because I innately see people’s greatest potential (call it a gift or a curse, I am still trying to figure that out LOL), and when I could see people literally in their own way of happiness, freedom, confidence, etc. it would propel me to share what I could see and feel about the path they needed to take to get there. It’s no surprise I’ve ended up becoming a Reiki Master Teacher and a Holistic Life Coach as I thrive in environments where I can get people off their proverbial asses (or their real ones) and back to living full lives!

I am a firm believer that we are all mirrors to one another and have even written about that ingrained phenomenon that connects us all in a separate article. So it goes without saying that if we are aware of and insightful to the bigger picture of our everyday interactions, whether with family, friends or strangers, we will see ourselves in almost everyone we encounter. And this insight has proven to be an excellent tool for personal growth and healing trauma. Many people avoid growth and healing at the first sign of uncertainty. But as the saying by Deepak Chopra goes, “Every great change is proceeded by chaos”.

This fact we mirror energy back and forth to one another may trigger some to disagree right away claiming no resemblance to someone who could potentially be rude, cruel or even dangerous to others. However, what I’ve come to learn in over 20 years of studying energy and human consciousness is that we cannot react to something we do not acknowledge resides within ourselves. And yes, this goes for both positive or negative traits.

Perhaps one of the oddest insights I’ve had is the realization that we cannot feel jealousy towards someone unless we see the POTENTIAL within ourselves. So, while feeling “green” or envious to another may make us momentarily angry or feeling like we aren’t as good, it can completely change our opinions if we look at it from a different perspective. All envy truly is, is the acknowledge of inner potential that has simply not yet manifested. Bryant McGill Quote: “True freedom is where an individual's ...

So, another way to explain jealousy would be that the person is merely reminding you of your OWN potential. And when we feel like we’re living our best lives or doing all we can to succeed, if we mingle with this emotion, it will soon tell tales that poke and prod you back into action and out of procrastination.

How many times have we seen it in movies? The younger, more fit college guy moves next door and all of a sudden dad wants to work out and get ripped. Somehow, the mere sight of the younger version of Self has prodded a reminder of how good it felt to be in shape and perhaps admired once in a while for having toned abs. It’s not really anything that guy did or even IS, but rather the reflection we allowed ourselves to see.

While anger can be an incredible motivator, I’ve come to realize that if you approach something new with clarity, calmness, and conscious response, then you also open the flood gates to learning life lessons that will not only propel you into action physically but often times emotionally, mentally or spiritually as well.

And this leads us to the idea of what freedom truly is. Regardless of your environment, your culture, your religious (or not) upbringing, we all get a say (and honestly, the final word on) how free we are and will ever be. What I see in the world today is a case of mental slavery where we’ve become content to be told what to do, well into adulthood and rarely stop to question the rules, those who make the rules and why or when we ever agreed to them?

What I’ve realized in my time here on Earth is that if we harbor ill will towards ANYONE or ANYTHING outside of ourselves, we only subject it to having a huge influence over the quality and direction of our lives. It is only when we realize that WE make the rules, and somehow, like a bad dream we awoke to find ourselves lost, and in a state of spiritual amnesia, where we have forgotten our power and who we truly are.

When we surrender choices of our lives in any way shape or form to another, whether 1 or 100 other people, we are literally agreeing to be put under a spell. And until we revoke that spell and reclaim responsibility for our lives, our health, and our happiness we will always look outward with the expectation that is where satisfaction comes from. And if what is “out there” is doing things differently than I am, then I will reject it because it reminds me of the freedom I’ve since handed over to an invisible force.

This is why, especially in a time like this where the world feels upside-down, twisted and bass-ackwards, it is vital to the survival of compassion and true humanity to remember that if we expect the freedom to be who we are from others, then we must also relinquish the need to control what they think, feel and do.

In the end, we cannot take any of this material world with us when we go. Be sure not to take regret and resentment in its place. And when life looks like there’s no chance to hang on, that’s when you know it’s safe to let go…of your expectations, and need to spread what you feel onto others, no matter how much you believe you are coming from a good place. I refuse to be caged in my home at this time, and that has pissed off a lot of people on social media, but if someone didn’t invite you into their personal home life asking for opinions, then just like the message we’ve all been bombarded with goes, “stay the f*&^ck home”. 🙂

Do what is best for YOU. And respect others enough to allow them to do what is best for THEM. True freedom is all about “give and take”…

Love you all. <3


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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The Not Knowing

One of the best things you can do is not come to a conclusion about something. To leave it at a loose end.



Now is a pretty good time for not knowing, I reckon.

Imagine you had two piles of fresh, crisp writing paper. On the left pile is written all the things that you know. I mean, everything. On the right side is listed all the things that you don’t know. All of it. Which pile of paper would be highest? We both know the answer.

How high would that right-hand pile be?

Though we can’t really put a number on it, it’s going to be mighty high. It’s going high into the sky and towards forever. And we know it. Or rather, we don’t know it.

And the most incredible thing is, that pile would never stop growing. Not even when we die. All those things stacked high against an infinite sky, and beyond, in this universe of trillions of stars, of darkness and light.

Forever is always beginning, but never ends.

Why then is it that we are so certain that we are right, or that our understanding of the universe is correct?

What gives me the right to write these words, when there is so much about  everything – including this topic – that I haven’t the foggiest clue about.

Would you give your power away to someone like me, who is writing a book about power?

I wouldn’t.

But what I might do, is listen. For a moment, at least.

We people know so little. And yet each of us, with our tiny, tiny window on the world, is also a small universe of wisdom and understanding. That we know anything at all is a miracle of perhaps 13 billion years of cosmic evolution. Maybe more. Who knows? I don’t.

Yes, it’s true that there are many fools in the world, and that we are all fools. Sometimes.

I could tell you some stories. About how foolish I’ve been. And I will. Later.

And yet here I am writing, and here you are reading. Because we both believe that there is something in this exchange. For both of us.

For a moment. Till we passed.

Happiness Strategies of Emotionally Intelligent People

By Vineetha Reddy

Did you ever wonder how some people face any situation they are put in with panache? That’s because they have a high level of emotional intelligence, which means they can manage feelings like anger, happiness, insecurity, and fear better. Therefore, their responses to most situations are appropriate as compared to those with a lower degree of emotional intelligence. Such people are often happy, and there’s so much to learn from them. Their happiness and self-satisfaction can be directly linked to their high levels of emotional intelligence. Here are a few strategies they follow to stay happy that are worth emulating:

They Are More Self-Aware

The first step towards a happy state of mind is to identify what makes you negative. You need to be aware of who or what puts you down. Avoid self-criticism or self-pity. Emotionally intelligent people are always aware, and their awareness works as a powerful tool to maintain high levels of happiness. Being aware helps you remind yourself of your strengths and stop that self-deprecating monologue that runs in your head all day. This strategy will help you fight those thoughts and focus on your core strengths and triumphs.

They Are More Compassionate

Only when we care for other people can we be truly satisfied with what we have. Compassion can make us feel good, and it also teaches us a lot about other people. Emotionally intelligent people care for others selflessly. Wishing others well, without any expectations, makes you a better person and gives you satisfaction or a feeling of fulfillment that nothing can beat. When you feel what another person is feeling, it builds a rapport between the two of you. That is the power of emotional empathy. When you have strong, caring feelings even for people you don’t have a strong connection with, your happiness grows by leaps and bounds.

They Always Manage Their Reactions

Another way in which emotionally intelligent people avoid negativity is by managing their reactions. They use their awareness to control their own emotions as well as those they interact with. When we do not have control over our emotions, we tend to act in inappropriate ways. This might also adversely affect our thinking. Emotionally intelligent people have a sense of balance that enables them to maintain their composure, which, in turn, lets them communicate successfully with others.

They Surround Themselves With Positivity

Another strategy emotionally intelligent people follow is to always surround themselves with things and people that make them happy. They know who or what can trigger sadness or negativity, and hence, they spend more time with positive people. They like to achieve success and experience every bit of it. They are often high spirited and find ways to make life fun, not just for them, but even for those around them. And that’s what makes them stand apart from the crowd.

They Are Always Looking Forward

Emotionally intelligent people never dwell in the past. They learn from it and move on. They are always looking forward to something and work on it. Emotionally intelligent people understand failures do not define their worth. They do not get anxious or depressed over problems or challenges that happened in the past and are not bogged down by failures. They are more passionate about what they learn and how it will help them in the long run.

These are a few ways in which emotionally intelligent people maintain their happiness. Follow these tips, and you will start doing better at work and relationships and live a happier life. Emotional intelligence deepens your empathy and your ability to utilize your skills better and makes you a better person. So, practice these strategies and see how they impact your life.

Author Bio: Vineetha Reddy

Being a regular practitioner and adviser of everything related to nutrition, fitness, health, and wellness, I also have begun to write and contribute to this knowledge ecosystem on sites like StyleCraze.com. I strongly believe that the ingredients you find in your pantry provide the best benefits for good health. Follow me for my best ideas and solutions

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Take One — Meanings, Purpose and Lighting Fires  (with the Added Bonus of Eternal Youth)…

It’s the age old question we ask ourselves at some point in this discombobulating journey of life: What is the meaning of it all?

“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.” — Sophia Loren

In this video, you’ll find out what ignites us — juicy little human beings with a propensity to create the most wondrous things — to stick around or to incarnate in the first place! See if you agree…


My book ‘Creative Expression – How to find your inspiration…’ is full of game-changing views on how YOU can understand and totally ace this life!

“The comfort zone is the great enemy to creativity; moving beyond it necessitates intuition, which in turn configures new perspectives and conquers fears.” — Dan Stevens

You can download it for free at my site https://www.CherieRoeDirksen.com (when you subscribe), view the entire audio/visual here on YouTube or buy the paperback at any leading book store.

Next week, I’ll be diving into page 2 which is ripe with more succulent ways to tap into your creative psyche.

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Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author/columnist/radio presenter, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook(The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She has an official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates). You can also check out her Facebook band page at Templeton Universe.

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6 Signs Overwhelm Is Taking Over and How to Reclaim Your Inner Calm


By Liz Smith | Always Well Within

When I rewind back several years, I was one of many doing the juggle between raising a young family, running a business, dealing with ill health and all that life throws at you. Amidst the daily goings on of life, there were moments when I felt that I was surely going to buckle under the pressure of it all. As a quiet introvert, I never intended to lead a frantic life, yet somewhere between newborn babies and an ambitious brain that just wouldn’t quit, I found myself knee deep in overwhelm.

Related Article: The Simplest Way to Create More Calm in Your Life

My story is not unique, in fact, I know it’s a sad re-account of countless women and men everywhere, all pushing and striving just to get through the day. When you examine the truth of it, most of us know the current pace of life is not working, yet the idea of slowing down appears more frightening than our frantic attempts to keep up.

Common Signs of Overwhelm

When you live in a constant state of overwhelm, consumed with anxious laden thoughts, there is literally no room for anything else. If you long to experience less overwhelm, firstly let’s take a look at what overwhelm may look like in your life.

1) Poor focus – Do you find it hard to focus on one task at a time or prioritize one task over another?

2) Frequently rushing – Are you rushing through your day? Do you watch the clock and constantly worry about not getting everything done? Do you hold a belief that you must do it all or things will not get done?

3) Dread and disconnection – Do you wake up with a sense of dread some mornings or a lack of enthusiasm as you move through your day?

Related Article: 3 Steps to Inner Peace: Meditation Techniques to Quiet the Mind

4) You can’t say no – Do you find it hard to say no? Do you agree to tasks and activities that you know you don’t have time for? Are you worried about letting others down?

5) Tears and tantrums – Are you emotional often? Are feelings of helplessness, stress, confusion, and frustration familiar to you? If someone were to ask “are you okay?” do you feel like you might break down and cry?

6) Indecision and inaction – Do you find it hard to make decisions and procrastinate on taking action?

If you find yourself reading along and nodding in acknowledgment of these signs of overwhelm, I understand. This was me a few years ago, trapped in a mind that didn’t know how to slow down and a body that was willing to be dragged along for the ride.

The problem is, deep down I knew my state of overwhelm was a choice. In my heart, I wanted a life of deep, soothing, serene calm. I craved the bush hills of my youth, the dirt beneath my feet and the stillness in which to revel in it. It was this inner calm that my heart has been calling me towards, countless times throughout my life. It turns out I just needed to teach my mind and body how to get there.

Related Article: Feeling Overwhelmed? Remember You Are a Servant of an Unstoppable Force


7 Surprisingly Simple Rules for Authentic Happiness

By Jordan Gray | Jordan Gray Consulting

I am not a doctor. I am not a researcher. I am not a happiness expert.

I am a human being who has (at the time of posting this) lived for less than thirty years and has accumulated thoughts about how life works. These are some of those thoughts. I hope that you get value from them.

Here are seven necessary rules that I believe you need to live by in order to experience a durable sense of authentic happiness.

1. Feel your feelings fully

Stress is simply the compounded unfelt feelings that live in your body. The more things you don’t feel, the more stressed you feel.

When you don’t feel your feelings, tension shows up in your body. You get sick easier. It’s harder to be happy about life.

Practice cathartic practices. Release anger. Relinquish jealousy. Cry fully.

Remember… life isn’t about feeling better, it’s about getting better at the feeling.

Regularly allow yourself the time and space to let it all out. You’ll be glad you did.

(For more help on how to feel your feelings fully, read this post.)

2. Give more

We all suffer to the degree that our mind/ego convinces us that we are alone. That we are isolated. That life is ours alone to suffer through.

Honoring your emotional states is necessary… but so is getting out of your head and back into the remembering that your life is ultimately about service to others.

When I feel stale, stuck, stagnant… I start chipping away at my service to humanity. I check in with a client who needs support. I write an article that will hopefully alleviate pain in the world. I send one of my best friends a message telling them how much I love them.

Related Article: Unconditional Giving Is the Key to Receiving More Abundance

When you get stuck in your head, try giving more.

Give whatever you can. Give your gifts. Make art. Volunteer. Ask someone you care about how you can make their life even 1% better, and then deliver on that promise.

This will be part of your life’s mission… today, and forever.

3. Live simply

A cluttered life is as ineffective as an umbrella with a hundred tiny holes in it.

Cut down on the number of things that you allow to take space in your calendar.

Invest in a few deep friendships rather than spreading yourself thin with a hundred acquaintances.

Acknowledge that you wear 20% of your clothing the most, and donate the rest of your wardrobe to people who will actually wear what you ignore.

Work in your zone of genius more often than not, and let go of the dozens of things that you do that are taxing, time-wasting, and unfulfilling.

Live simply. Your heart will thank you for it.

4. Seek to understand others

Instead of expending endless energy trying to make yourself seen, known, and understood, seek to understand others.

How many months of your life will you save by avoiding petty jealousies, arguments, and ego-squabbles by seeking to understand the person across from you first?

Related Article: Let Go of Clutter and Live a More Simple Life

Do you have a judgment about someone? Learn from it. Own your projections.

Does someone trigger the fuck out of you? Is it hard for you to be around them without being in your head and quietly resenting them? Great. Another learning opportunity. Use it all. Your mind is your greatest teacher if you are willing to observe it without judgment.

Everyone you cross paths with is a teacher for you. Never forget this simple fact.

5. Engage in regular flow states

Crying, self-reflection, honoring your body… all good things. But it is also imperative that you are regularly filling your life with positive flow states.

Ever heard of flow? This guy wrote the bible on it.

In essence, flow is the state of being fully immersed in a specific activity. You can experience flow while dancing, gardening, cooking, having sex, or creative writing.

Whatever it is that you do that makes hours pass by in the blink of an eye, make sure you’re regularly scheduling these things into your calendar.


4 Signs You’re Emotionally Drained (And What To Do)

By Aleksandra Slijepcevic | Lifehack

We’ve all heard it. We’ve probably all said it. “I am just emotionally drained today!” Rarely, however, do we ponder where this phrase comes from, or just how literal these symptoms and sensations might be.

According to Healthline, emotional exhaustion is a state of being severely emotionally drained or depleted, from the build-up of stress from either your job or personal life, or both.[1]

Sometimes, this term can also be used to describe “burn out,” and the sensation of simply juggling too much and feeling the effects of a lack of energy to continue.

When we think about how fast-paced our culture and society are, it’s not a big surprise that we could all fall victim to these symptoms and ailments.

Who Experiences Emotional Exhaustion?

We see these symptoms readily in overly demanding jobs, whether in offices or in manual labor. However, emotional exhaustion can spring from any myriad of occupations, from parenting to creative work to entrepreneurship.

No one is exempt from feeling emotionally depleted, but there are ways to see it coming and to arm yourself against it.

Signs of Emotional Depletion and What to Do About Them

Below are some signs of feeling emotionally drained, and what you can do to help yourself and your loved ones.

1. Feeling “Stuck” or “Trapped” in Life or a Particular Situation

The Sign

When we’re feeling emotionally drained, we have a hard time changing and broadening our perspective of any given situation. If we’re struggling or trying to find a way out of a job, relationship, or problem, not feeling emotionally healthy can act as a strong deterrent from creating and maintaining a fresh, positive outlook.

At some point, all of us will feel stuck in a problem in life; this becomes a sign of emotional drainage when you start to feel like you are inherently stuck within this situation, with no energy or way out.

This can also manifest as a lack of motivation to seek out new solutions, or a feeling that we’ve resolved to trudge through our problems and simply accept that things aren’t going to change for the better.

As a result, we may develop depression, anger, and irritability, which can manifest as physical dis-ease, such as headaches, physical fatigue, muscle soreness, lack of sleep, and poor appetite. [2]

The Solution

One way of getting through this sign of feeling emotionally drained is to seek out help. This can be in the form of a dear friend or family member, or it may present itself in the form of professional help, such as a therapist, doctor, or alternative medicine healer.

In many instances when we are feeling stuck and trapped in life, we have a hard time pulling ourselves out of that constant, negative loop that our mind plays through. This is really where the benefit of the community can come into play.

Seeking out help not only alleviates the burden of having to feel and go through this problem alone, but it also allows you to receive input and perspective from outside, the neutral source that could be the breakthrough you need.

Other people can have a huge impact on the way our problems present themselves, showing us an alternative solution we would have never considered or found on our own.

2. Lack of Motivation to Work, Create and Pursue Goals and Dreams

The Sign

Too much stress can burn out even the most joyous of plans and initiatives. It makes us feel like, no matter how hard we try, there is just not enough emotional or energetic bandwidth to do anything at all.

This attitude and these mental and emotional states can make it very difficult for us to finish work, enjoy the process of creating something, or tackle goals and plans that we’ve committed ourselves to.

On a physical level, stress and lack of motivation can interrupt our energy levels to the point where we’re feeling fatigued, sluggishness, and a lack of an appetite.

We may feel sleepy during all periods of the day and show a clear disinterest in performing or being productive. We may also show apathy towards the things that usually bring us happiness, like making plans with friends or taking care of our physical, mental, and emotional health.

The Solution

One way of re-energizing ourselves when we do feel a lack of motivation is to start to get clear on why we’re lacking it in the first place. [3]

Maybe it’s because we’re stretching ourselves too thin, and our to-do lists have become seriously overwhelming. If this is the case, perhaps we can look into prioritizing our work by what is the most critical, and tackling those tasks first. [4]

Another reason may be that you’re falling into the “People Pleaser” rabbit hole. This is where you’re committing your time and energy to get things done for everyone else, without checking in with yourself first.

Can you actually handle that task or fulfill that promise? Do you even want to? These are important questions to ask, and be honest about the answers!

Once you take these steps, you can re-adjust and re-evaluate where you want to spend your time and effort, therefore kicking up your emotional energy again.

3. Irritability and “Flying Off the Handle”

The Sign

When our emotions aren’t in check, we have a harder time controlling what may be perceived as irrational anger or sudden outbursts. In reality, when we’re in the thick of that “burn out” sensation, we’re desperately trying to keep our cool and keep our work and tasks from falling apart. It’s exhausting, depleting, and just frustrating!

In these moments, when our emotions are fried and desperate for a reset, it’s easier for us to give in to anger or irritability, or to sudden outbursts of rage. Emotional depletion just looks for an exit, and it doesn’t care who receives the brunt of it. We may feel regretful later, but at the moment, we’ve lost the ability to check ourselves.

The Solution

One powerful way of dissolving that anger is through the breath. When we’re angry and frustrated, our breathing and heartbeat quicken, all leading to an activation of the fight-or-flight response in our systems. When that kicks in, it’s harder for us to think rationally or make sound decisions. Instead of acting, we RE-act, and not always in the best way.


The Gift of Growth & Manifesting Your Own Metamorphosis

We tend to find it easier to smile when things seem to be “going right” in our lives. We may have found the perfect mate, landed our dream job, have a supportive and loving family, and find that overall things are pretty smooth sailing. But what about when that perfect mate cheats? Or we get fired? Or that loving family rejects something about you dear to your heart? What does that do to us on a soul level and why is our reaction to it vital in the level of growth we take from it?

Believe it or not, we are not mere victims of circumstance. Yes, environmental factors play a huge role in our overall development, and how we are treated and what we are taught about ourselves and the world around us as children is pretty much what we take into adulthood. However, it doesn’t have to stay that way. We are always free to choose our next step, our next reaction, and our next goal.

So, how do we react when life gives us a swift kick where the sun doesn’t shine? Do we get pissed off and curse the Universe or God? Do we take it out on those around us whose lives still seem to be going pretty well? Do we go into hermit mode and recluse ourselves into a month-long pity party? Or do we step back and try to see if there’s anything to learn from the situation…anything good that could come of it…any reason the Universe may have “made it all go to shit” perhaps to make way for something even BETTER!?

“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” – Bernice Johnson Reagon

I’ve come to learn that life really is a matter of personal perspective. You can live 90 years with each day incredible and purpose-driven; full of creative ambition. Or you can live the same day over and over for 90 years. It’s really up to you, no matter where you come from, who your parents were, what gender or race you are, or nationality you are born under. Yes, these factors have their own undeniable struggles, but those too are calling to be looked at in an entirely new way. When one sees “short-comings” not as obstacles, but as catalysts for motivation, the world opens up with new possibilities.

If the greatest leaders, peace-makers, speakers, loving-hearts of our time had let themselves be mere victims of circumstance, imagine how the world might feel a little less full without their voices ever being heard; without their presence being known to the world; without the differences they made, ever being made at all. My point is we ALL have that ability within us, to do such incredibly wonderful, great things. The only difference between “us” and “them” is how we choose to see ourselves against the rest of the world.

And with great vision, often comes great growth which can bring one to endure great pain. Why so? Well, consider the caterpillar’s journey through metamorphosis. If its vision only stretched as far as becoming the best caterpillar it could be, it would be denying itself of its true purpose, which is to become the spectacular butterfly. The caterpillar must be open to the belief that he is so much more than what he can physically see now and that in time he will naturally grow into his magnificence. He doesn’t need to plan for it, or hope for it, or wish it. But he will go through the complete and utter destruction of his current self and what he knows himself to be in this moment as a caterpillar. And that can be terrifying and is guaranteed to be quite painful.

“How does one become a butterfly? They have to want to learn to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” – Trina Paulus

And as humans grow, whether intellectually, mentally, spiritually or all of the above, we are not that different from the caterpillar. We often get torn apart, hearts melted, broken and beaten down into an unrecognizable pulp, but in the end, we endure as a stronger, wiser version of our former selves. We have become the proverbial butterfly. Only as humans, we get to do this continually throughout our lives as we go through our life lessons and experience what we would perceive as those “painful” times in our lives. Those times that we look back on and whose memory can still make us cry, bring forth anger or sadness, or even guilt and regret.

These experiences stretch us and can hurt in terrible ways, but if we look at the pain as a measure of strength, we often realize that we are so much more capable of handling life’s trials than we ever imagined. And with this comes unexpected respect for the pain as you begin to realize that without it, you would not be the person you are today, for it is the pain that pushed you to face your greatness and to pursue your perpetual purpose. It is in the pain that we find appreciation for the little things we take for granted every day. And we are gifted with the knowledge that without a bit of struggle, we’d never learn how to fully break free of the self-defeating limitations placed upon us by society. Pain challenges us, and it can be our greatest motivator for change; a catalyst for new beginnings and for me personally, perhaps the greatest mentor I’ve ever had.


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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