By Jordan Gray | Jordan Gray Consulting
I am not a doctor. I am not a researcher. I am not a happiness expert.
I am a human being who has (at the time of posting this) lived for less than thirty years and has accumulated thoughts about how life works. These are some of those thoughts. I hope that you get value from them.
Here are seven necessary rules that I believe you need to live by in order to experience a durable sense of authentic happiness.
1. Feel your feelings fully
Stress is simply the compounded unfelt feelings that live in your body. The more things you don’t feel, the more stressed you feel.
When you don’t feel your feelings, tension shows up in your body. You get sick easier. It’s harder to be happy about life.
Practice cathartic practices. Release anger. Relinquish jealousy. Cry fully.
Remember… life isn’t about feeling better, it’s about getting better at the feeling.
Regularly allow yourself the time and space to let it all out. You’ll be glad you did.
(For more help on how to feel your feelings fully, read this post.)
2. Give more
We all suffer to the degree that our mind/ego convinces us that we are alone. That we are isolated. That life is ours alone to suffer through.
Honoring your emotional states is necessary… but so is getting out of your head and back into the remembering that your life is ultimately about service to others.
When I feel stale, stuck, stagnant… I start chipping away at my service to humanity. I check in with a client who needs support. I write an article that will hopefully alleviate pain in the world. I send one of my best friends a message telling them how much I love them.
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When you get stuck in your head, try giving more.
Give whatever you can. Give your gifts. Make art. Volunteer. Ask someone you care about how you can make their life even 1% better, and then deliver on that promise.
This will be part of your life’s mission… today, and forever.
3. Live simply
A cluttered life is as ineffective as an umbrella with a hundred tiny holes in it.
Cut down on the number of things that you allow to take space in your calendar.
Invest in a few deep friendships rather than spreading yourself thin with a hundred acquaintances.
Acknowledge that you wear 20% of your clothing the most, and donate the rest of your wardrobe to people who will actually wear what you ignore.
Work in your zone of genius more often than not, and let go of the dozens of things that you do that are taxing, time-wasting, and unfulfilling.
Live simply. Your heart will thank you for it.
4. Seek to understand others
Instead of expending endless energy trying to make yourself seen, known, and understood, seek to understand others.
How many months of your life will you save by avoiding petty jealousies, arguments, and ego-squabbles by seeking to understand the person across from you first?
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Do you have a judgment about someone? Learn from it. Own your projections.
Does someone trigger the fuck out of you? Is it hard for you to be around them without being in your head and quietly resenting them? Great. Another learning opportunity. Use it all. Your mind is your greatest teacher if you are willing to observe it without judgment.
Everyone you cross paths with is a teacher for you. Never forget this simple fact.
5. Engage in regular flow states
Crying, self-reflection, honoring your body… all good things. But it is also imperative that you are regularly filling your life with positive flow states.
Ever heard of flow? This guy wrote the bible on it.
In essence, flow is the state of being fully immersed in a specific activity. You can experience flow while dancing, gardening, cooking, having sex, or creative writing.
Whatever it is that you do that makes hours pass by in the blink of an eye, make sure you’re regularly scheduling these things into your calendar.
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