How to Be Happy Alone – 6 Tips to Use Today

Written by on December 2, 2014 in Conscious Living, Happiness & Humor with 2 Comments
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Frances Masters | Wakeupworld

Older Woman Smiling 680x380Rarely do we associate loneliness with happiness, but is it possible to be alone and happy?

Loneliness and, in some instances, seclusion are things that millions of people grapple with daily. Loneliness can be imposed by circumstances such as the death of loved ones, family moving away, work obligations or social anxiety. Loneliness can also be self-imposed in situations where people withdraw from society into a secluded and “atomized” existence if they feel they cannot find “their place” in the world. Some people are also loners by nature and prefer living in an environment where they have all the physical and emotional space that they need.


Society often regards lonely people as remarkably unhappy and even awkward. We are wired to socialize and interact and that is why lonely situations can be viewed with a great deal of suspicion. But loneliness can also be disastrous on the individuals who find themselves in an enforced loneliness where outside circumstances beyond their control are the main causes of their loneliness.

In such situations, it is easy to lose your sense of proportion. For example, you might lose your sense of organization. Your thoughts will wander off and you are unlikely to get any productive work accomplished. In some cases, loneliness can even contribute to suicide when lonely people feel that their lives are not worth living if they are unable to build the social bonds that will make their lives meaningful.

Is it possible to be alone and happy? Here are some important tips on how to be happy alone:


Take Good Care of Your Home

It is very easy to neglect your home when you are not around other people. Before long, you might have dishes piling up, dirty cups all over the place, a mountains of dirty clothes.

Even when people are not constantly walking into your home, it is in your best interest to keep your living place clean, tidy and well organized.  A clean home equals a clean mind. When your mind is disorganized and lacks focus, it will be difficult for you to get anything worthwhile done.

When your home is clean, well-organized and tidy, you will feel happy whenever you walk in and all you will wish for is to spend more time inside and savor the moments.

Create Something

Being alone without any distractions provides you with a great opportunity to bring forth your inner creativity to build something that you truly value. If you have the writing bug, you could blog, write a novel or an e-Book on a topic that you love.  If you love painting, you could immerse yourself deep in the comfort and calmness of solitude and let those creative powers burst through

Solitude is particularly a fertile ground for the creative minds who love to work with intense focus and without any distractions. Isolation can offer you much inspiration to get something done and also boosts your productivity immensely. If you need something done that will require intense mental focus, then you better do it in an atmosphere of solitude.

Treat Yourself to a Great Date

Who says people who live alone do not date or have some fun? Do not let your life slip into a monotonous routine. Find ways to break your routine by coming up with more creative ways to inject some fun. A date, even if it’s with yourself, can really energize you and inject excitement into your life.

Go out often and have some coffee. Dance, drink and be around other people. You can also go out on picnics, outings and other outdoor activities.  If you work a lot indoors, consider shifting your work to more public places occasionally.  The possibilities to form new networks, relationships or simply be happy around people are endless.

Cut Down on Mindless Consumption

When you are alone or lonely, it is easy to drift quickly into mindless consumption of things such asbooze, the latest comedy series, Facebook or food. You do not have to keep track of every little piece of news that happens in the world. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t spend your time consuming meaningful media. Try watching documentaries, news commentaries or things that make you think.

Whatever you consume when you are alone, it is important to do it in moderation.  If you are beginning to gain an obsession with something that adds zero value to your life such as social networks or sports scores, it is important to cut down so as to find new productive pursuits.

Eliminate the Noisy Thoughts

Your thoughts can be your best friend or your number one enemy when you are alone.  It is therefore important to work extra time in order to eradicate those negative thoughts or negative energy that will drag you down.

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  1. michdm@hotmail.com' micheline dm says:

    I can not explain how deeply lonely I am.It seems that I feel I have no place in this life or world.I never “receive” attention just because I am alive.I am exhausted of having given so much,having helped so much and having been rejected and not accepted in my family.I have a career of 35years of prayer and all I can say its a waste of time.

  2. Info@marialua.com' Maria says:

    Dearest Micheline

    I was so touched when reading your reply. I feel your despair and want to reach out to you. Our modern day society is built in such a way that as humans we value “independence” above community.

    I myself get very lonely at times and this isn’t right. How can it be that there are so many people on this planet, and yet we suffer with chronic loneliness and isolation.

    Everyone needs to help others as much as we need help ourselves. It is how we are naturally wired.

    It’s OK to be alone at times, and I really got a lot out of this article. But we have to feel as though we are connected to a wider community.
    We are all made of the same stuff, and come from the same place, and are all connected.

    To feel perpetually lonely and isolated is a disconnect from this higher truth.

    How can we turn this around??

    With love

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