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The 16 Stages of a Relationship and How to Survive Them and Even Thrive Through Them

Posted by on July 24, 2017 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex, Thrive with 0 Comments

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By Aya Tsintziras | The Talko

It’s not exactly rocket science that relationships aren’t super easy. You meet a great guy, you fall for him more and more every day, you want to be with him all the time, and then boom, you’re officially in super deep. You could never live without him, or at least that’s how you feel. But then things take a turn for, well, not necessarily the worse, but not really for the better, either. You realize that he’s not as 100 percent perfect as you originally thought that he was and you guys have to work out some issues big and small. Thankfully, you can get tons of help and advice since even though you’re a unique human being and so is your boyfriend and so is your relationship, everyone goes through very similar struggles when it comes to love and war. Here are the 16 stages of a relationship and how to survive them.

16. The Beginning Stage

So you’ve met this amazing, insanely ridiculously wonderful guy and you can’t even believe your good luck. He’s pretty much perfection in a human being and you would rather not even think about how this is even possible because you don’t want to jinx anything. You’re doing everything that girls in new relationships do. You’re talking about him 24/7. You’re gossiping with your girlfriends over wine and fries and joking about your wedding day. You’re stalking him on Instagram and Facebook and Twitter and hoping that he never finds out how much time you honestly spend on his social media feeds. It’s the beginning stage of the relationship, and you’re feeling like a crazy person. But you can get over this and still keep him and not scare him away. Just calm down, slow your roll and remember that things don’t end up working out, you will be 100 percent fine. Since you did attract him, you can totally reel in another guy. Just remember that.

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15. The Netflix And Chill Stage

It’s kind of hilarious/ridiculous that this counts as a relationship stage nowadays but here we are. It’s 2016 and we definitely Netflix and Chill when we first meet someone. In case you’ve been living under a massive rock, you probably know this means you hook up while pretending to watch a movie or TV show or whatever. But this is bad news for budding relationships because it can be completely impossible to know whether he just wants something casual or he wants something real. The only way to get the answers that you want is to make sure you’re planning dates as well. Maybe you can grab dinner or drinks somewhere before you Netflix and Chill. It’s an easy strategy but it honestly works, because you’ll figure out his intentions really quickly.

14. The Honeymoon Period

This is about three to six months of a new relationship, and while the time period is definitely debatable, let’s go with three months. The honeymoon period is when you and your guy can’t keep your hands off each other. You make out in public and aren’t even ashamed because you just want to kiss him 24/7. He seems perfect and you can’t see a single flaw in him or in your growing relationship. You have a connection like nothing else and you can’t imagine life without him. You literally think you would die without him. Okay, so calm down. You honestly would be ale to survive without him. It’s hard right now because your hormones are going insane and you are so happy, but you need to remember that he does have flaws because, well, everyone does.

13. The 3-Month Growing Pains

This is when things get really crappy. You’re realizing your new boyfriend has tons of flaws, and what’s more, you’re not even sure if you can deal with them. You’re starting to get annoyed by every little thing he does. And these things aren’t even such a big deal, especially since just a week or so ago they didn’t even bother you at all. You honestly don’t know what to do. Well, here’s a tip: you can totally survive this time period. It’s really not as big a deal as you think it is. All you have to do is talk it out. When he’s annoying you, tell him. It’s okay if it’s a silly thing that bugs you because he’ll laugh and you’ll laugh and suddenly it won’t seem so serious at all.

12. The Making Things Official

Okay, what a tricky, tricky time. You don’t want to scare him away when you’re having The Talk but although this is a horror story of a conversation, you absolutely need to make it happen. You need to get on the same page and make sure you both want the same kind of relationship. So go ahead, get honest, dig deep, and talk for hours. It’s okay if you bring some alcohol into the whole thing — you’ll both be much happier and really appreciate the liquid help/distraction/courage. Make sure he doesn’t feel pressured and make sure that you’re proving to him that you’re not going to be a stereotypical annoying girlfriend who is his “ball and chain” or whatever guys worry about. It’s important to tell him that yeah, you like him, but you have your own life and stuff going on and you’re not going to just focus on him 100 percent of the time.

11. The Jealous Stage

At some point, you start getting suspicious of your BF, and that feeling turns into jealousy. You don’t want to be a green-eyed monster. It’s not attractive, and honestly, who looks good in green? Yeah, not many people. But you don’t have to go through his phone and laptop and totally freak him out, and no, he’s not going to dump you. So just go ahead and talk to him about whatever is bothering you. Say his hot female co-worker is getting under your skin, or that you’re not comfortable with him chatting with his ex-girlfriend on Facebook messenger when he’s at work. Honestly, with good communication, you can survive anything.

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10. The Meeting Each Other’s Friends Stage

This is super important, and maybe even more important than meeting each other’s parents and siblings and whoever else. That’s because if you can’t stand your boyfriend’s best friend and have to see him all the time, or vice versa, well, you’re going to have trouble on your hands. You might not think it’s a big deal and that you shouldn’t care about who your BF surrounds himself with, but friends say a lot about you. You want to know if he hangs out with total weirdos and jerks. You really do.


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