Every single day the pain was getting worse, thinking it was ‘just a toothache’, I put it off until a more convenient time for me to deal with it. One day with the pain no longer bearable I went to have it looked at to find out that it was not a root canal as I had thought, it was a neurological condition called Trigeminal Neuralgia. Google informed me that this was considered “one of the worst pains known to humankind” and has also been called “the suicide disease” for its progressive extreme pain and chronic features. Yay me.
Have we turned these “tidings of cheer” into mere expectations that can only be fulfilled by a swipe of your credit card? Have we taken the spirit out of the celebration, regardless of the religious or non-religious context your beliefs fall under? Do we simply go along to get along because Hallmark has taken over yet another day on the Gregorian calendar, and to feel connected and a part of something, we must then conform to make it all about the presents and less about the presence?
If we are always in pursuit of happiness, how do we manage in the face of sadness, regret, loss or disappointment? What are we to do with these shadowed, uncomfortable and sometimes frightening emotions? It seems that our culture, and our yoga embedded within it, is held hostage to notions that happiness, passion, adventure and pleasure are to be pursued and celebrated as the highest values of human existence. And without doubt, most pyschotherapeutic, meditative, yogic and other transformative practices are intended, ultimately, to help us move from contraction to expansion, from darkness to light, from enslavement to freedom.
Welcome to the season of peace and joy. Do you feel it? For many people, a more accurate name would be the season of stress. Shopping, parties, shopping, wrapping, sending holiday cards, traveling, cooking, eating, decorating, oh and did I mention shopping? They all add up to stress. At least they can if you let […]
We can’t control the outcome of any situation. We can only control our actions. That means we can aim for a particular outcome, and do everything in our power to achieve it, but we cannot control what actually happens. We can’t control other people, the weather, bureaucracy, or anything else that is outside of ourselves. Obstacles will always get in our way, and we have no power over them.
I’m Easy. Well, not THAT kind of easy … although, in my 20’s… For a long time now I have been noticing that we reward ‘all that is difficult’. Like, “I studied hard for that exam” and, “It was a rough week” and, “I pulled an all nighter to get this project together for my […]
Many of us know that forgiveness is a good thing, right? It frees us from bitterness and anger, two emotions that not only don’t feel good but they can also ruin our physical health and hold us back from all the good we might achieve and experience. I know that many of you have worked on forgiving others. But what about forgiving ourselves? Even if we’ve gotten pretty good and consistent about offering forgiveness to others, isn’t forgiving ourselves often the most difficult?
I think life flashes us these false “End of Trail” signs all the time. But we don’t have to believe them or heed them. And THAT is my final Cathedral Rock Lesson: There’s Always More So Forge New Trails. The most exciting stuff begins where the tried-and-true leaves off, right? Now, let me be very clear, there are definitely rewards for going beyond where you usual do (or where others have rarely gone before), but there is also usually a price to pay. Paved roads are easy to walk, whereas creating new pathways in your life may require that you pull out your metaphorical machete and start hacking away at that jungle brush.
Not every day is good, but there is something good about every day. It takes a strong person to see the positive on down days. The key, I have learned, lies in letting go. It’s about realizing that, except for your own thoughts, there’s nothing that’s absolutely in your power. Knowing and accepting this gives you the ability to cope effectively with life’s constant stream of little tragedies – an aptitude we call resilience.
I spent much of my life tiptoeing around my desire to find a group of people among whom I could be unconditionally loved and accepted, while staying in alignment with my true nature… I tried to find my tribe, but I always felt like the odd duck swimming with swans, who all seemed to enjoy a sense of belonging I never quite felt.
We all go through our day-to-day lives tolerating things that stress us out. To make things worse, we have been doing this for so long, that we don’t even notice anymore. Stress is man-made, and we can make changes in our lives to live a more stress-free life, and a happier one at that. Here is a list of 20 things you’ve been tolerating for too long, and some helpful solutions to take away the stress they have been causing.
We’ve heard the expression “live in the moment” so many times that the words often lose their meaning. We lose track of the fact that much of the time, we spiral off into thoughts that have little to do with the here and now. Buying coffee, we forget to meet the eyes of the stranger serving us. We obsess over how we look instead of noticing how we are being looked at – by a loved one, for example. When we fall in love, we worry about losing love, rather than enjoying the blissful feeling of being in love. So how can we shift from judging our lives to actually living and enjoying them? Here are three key elements to making the most of the moments of our lives.
At any given moment, life is filled with unanswered questions, but it is the courage to seek these answers that continues to give our lives meaning. Honestly, you can spend your life wallowing in despair, wondering why you were the one who was led down a road strewn with trouble and confusion, or you can be grateful that you are strong enough to survive it and step forward.
I Am Enough. A couple of years ago I logged into my infrequently used Twitter account one day and found a flurry of messages congratulating me on my nomination. Nomination for what??? Apparently I had been nominated for a FIERCE Woman Award. I was touched that the nomination was in the category most meaningful for […]