By Adrienne Mansfield | Man Decoder
Yes, we all know men like getting blow jobs, fantasize about threesomes, and generally just love sex and want it all the time. But let’s delve in a little deeper into what men really want in bed and wish women knew.
1. It’s All About The Attitude
Guys want to have sex with a woman who is actually into it. Eagerness and enthusiasm go a long way. A lot of women have the attitude that just letting a guy have sex with her is some kind of gift, and guys hate that.
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If you are just going through the motions, or doing it out of obligation, as a favor, or because you want something in return, that’s a major turn off.
The ultimate turn on to a guy is being with a woman who is enjoying the sex just as much as he is.
2. Make Him Feel Wanted
Men have a strong need to be sexually wanted. Just telling a man “I want you” can do all kinds of things for his ego.
Letting him know how much you enjoy sex with him also works great. Try telling him, “I love having you inside me.” If you’re too shy to say that aloud, try texting him.
If you don’t want to be that direct, you can let him catch you staring at his butt or any other part of his body that turns you on. Perhaps even touch him more than usual, especially in naughty places.
Objectify him a little, lust after him, and let him know how much he turns you on. You’ll catch him off guard and make him feel like he’s so sexy you just can’t control yourself.
3. Initiate Once In A While
Traditionally, men are the ones who initiate sex. They’re wired that way as a result of their ancient hunter ancestors.
Most men love to take charge and are cool with initiating sex most of the time. But it can get old when he has to be the one to do it every time.
Remember how guys need to feel wanted? When you never initiate sex, your man might start to feel like you’re not attracted to him.
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Whisper in his ear how badly you want him inside you, or stick you hand down his pants. If you really want to rock his world, wake him with a morning BJ.
However you decide to initiate sex, it’s guaranteed to make your guy happy because for once he doesn’t have to be the one to do it.
4. Take Control
Although men love to be in charge, they like to be dominated every once in a while too. It can get boring after a while to be the one who is always in control.
It drives a guy wild when a woman grabs him, pushes him down, and has her way with him. A woman who knows what she wants and goes after it is a huge turn on.
If you tend to let your man take control all the time, try turning the tables and taking the reins once in a while. Not only will your man be in for a surprise, but he’ll know without a doubt how much you want him.
5. Confidence Is Key
Confidence is the sexiest trait a woman can have. Whatever insecurities you have, remember that your man is with you because he’s attracted to you and wants to have sex with you.
A woman who can take her clothes off with confidence is much more attractive than a woman who asks her man to turn the lights off first. Men are visual creatures and get off on seeing you in all your naked glory.
If you are uncomfortable, try soft lighting that will hide any flaws you’re stressing over. But in all likelihood guys would never notice those little jiggles or that cellulite you’re so worried about. They’re just so thrilled to be there with you, naked!
6. Be Vocal
Guys love it when you let loose and get loud. A woman who can express herself in the bedroom is a huge turn on.
Whether it’s moaning and groaning or uninhibited screaming, they appreciate the feedback that whatever they’re doing is working. Guys need to know they’re doing a good job. They want to know that they’re driving you so wild that you can’t help but scream in ecstasy.
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Throw in a little dirty talk and you’ll send him over the edge! Give him a filthy play-by-play or let him know what you want to do to him next.
