You’ve probably heard the term Tantra or Tantric Sex a time or two, but what the heck is it? And what makes it so different than everyday, ordinary sex? Well…abso-freaking-lutely everything!
Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning, “woven together” and we can all imagine how when we are lost in the moment with our lover in a pretzel of passion; the definition seems to explain itself. Tantric sex isn’t for those who are only into surface feelings and sensations or who are mostly concerned with their own needs being met. If you tend to be more of a selfish lover, or even a bashful lover afraid to ask for what you want, then I highly recommend giving Tantric sex a try, because the level of connection and intensity it brings will be like nothing you have ever experienced in your life.
Couples who are actively practicing Tantric sex can find a sense of union beyond the typical act of love-making and perhaps the best way to describe it would be that it feels as if you forget where you end and your lover begins; you literally merge on many levels, almost dissolving into one another. It’s about being so aware of each other, that your awareness becomes unified as well as your motions, and this easily accounts for the mind-blowing orgasms that follow.
Tantric sex is not for everyone as it does require a willingness to be open and vulnerable with your lover. It’s a literal removal of the masks we wear every day and going beyond physical nakedness. It’s allowing yourself and your lover a sacred space where you both can be as empty of labels, judgments, expectations and resentment that we often carry and pass onto our lovers, and instead bring wholeness to the experience so that both are left feeling fuller than ever.
If you would like to try Tantric sex but perhaps have no idea where to start, I always recommend the breath. Tantric sex to me is literally like a sensual, moving meditation and a great practice to get you and your partner going are to sit (clothes optional lol) and face one another and simply tune into one another’s breath. It often helps if you can place your hands on one another’s hearts to tap into the feels of your heartbeats. This will get you both into the same rhythm and create a mutual awareness of each others energy.
So why try it at all? I think that many of us grow tired of the routine and this often brings drama and unresolved expectations into our relationships because we don’t often know how to rekindle those feelings we once had for our lovers. We often forget what made us fall in love with them in the first place, and Tantric sex, which to me is simply another term for “sex fully present in the moment”, gives you the opportunity to reconnect in ways you may not have previously thought of because it lets you look at things from a different perspective.
While most people tend to get insecure or angry and distance themselves when they feel there are issues in the bedroom, being even willing to try Tantrix sex is literally opening a floodgate of passion that you may not have even realized has been lying dormant with you both. We all love to be seen and validated and with the intense eye-contact, mutual vulnerability, attention, and awareness, with each person sharing the same goal (not necessarily their individual pleasure, but creating pleasure together), this process seems to bring new life into areas many couples thought were long since dead and gone.
Sometimes all it ever takes to remember what magic you are capable of is to see it in your own lover’s eyes. And when you are both willing to open up and be that mirror of love to your partner, incredible growth and closeness are possible beyond your wildest dreams…AND fantasies. 😉
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com
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