Forever Fixin’ to Fix: Why It’s OK to Be OK and How to Just Be OK With It


Who hasn’t worked at changing something in their lives? It’s kind of the point, right? Well, maybe ‘change' is more the means, while ‘growth' could be considered more like the end we are actually trying to get to. And yes, we should always have personal exploration and expression of our gifts, talents, and abilities as well as our quirks, flaws, habits, etc. be at the forefront of our game-plan, but what do you do when you reach a bump? A positive one we'll call a milestone…Or a negative one we'll call a plateau…

See, regardless of the bump being what we would perceive as a positive or negative thing, we always seem to immediately go for the latter and assume there’s instantly more to do the second you reach the marker.

The good old ego has us convinced our efforts up to this point don’t count and right now, something new is vitally needed to light a more inspiring, a more encouraging, and perhaps a tad hotter fire under your ass. Immediately, a next step must begin and the celebration (if it was a milestone) is over…

We, humans, are forever fixin’ to fix shit.

Yes, of course, continuing the path past the milestone is necessary to actually complete the goal, but what I’m getting at here is where the heck was the part set aside for YOU? For your rest and reflection? For your soul to absorb all the new found awesomeness you just gained from that new experience and hard work? Where is that time you set aside for yourself to stop focusing on fixin’ shit, and just be OK with being OK for a hot minute?

Many of us are not quite able to love the things we are trying to change about ourselves and I get that sounds rather odd and counter-intuitive. I mean, if we liked this part of ourselves, why would we want to change it, right? Well, yes…and no. As I touched on briefly, everything in this dimension of duality works in reflection and can often appear reversed or backward. We literally live in a world of paradoxes. This is why at the core of this teaching is the adage of As Above, So Below or Go Within or Go Without, which basically states the macrocosm is a reflection of microcosm and vice versa and that if you do not know thyself, you cannot know thyself in the world. And to KNOW thyself, you gotta be OK with thyself, ya dig?

Actually using some of this time to reflect, when the times does come, we can then more accurately gauge on how far we have come and re-adjust our sails if need be when we are ready to resume our travels on the goal path. We hit these bumps for a reason; to give us that new perception, that rush, that boost to push us a bit further than the norm, so it catches our awareness and put it back onto ourselves and what we are doing. It also reminds us what we are capable of.

But for some, it will never be convincing enough, no many how many milestones are passed, they are always seen as plateaus, even the goal itself sometimes! Some of us learn that the mere fact someone is trying to teach us something, or how to do something we already know, but perhaps in a different way, that there is something wrong with us; or else why would we need to change, right? What we weren’t taught was that it is not us that is imperfect, but rather behaviors and mechanisms of the evolving mind, which carry out the desires, and purpose of the soul.

With our consciousness forced to view the world outside of itself, literally never being able to set physical sight into its own eyes (windows to the soul), we have to rely on one another to reflect back to us that which lies within ourselves that we cannot see. Unfortunately, we humans tend to focus on the negative, but I’m here to tell you that we reflect ALL facets of ourselves to each other; the things we like about ourselves and yes, the things that we might not that we still carry some shadows around with.

When we can observe all parts of ourselves, those shadows we are bringing light to (representative of those things we are trying to change), with not even love, but a neutral acceptance, we have arrived at the moment. Don’t force anything, that is what is most important here. if you cannot muster up love for parts of yourself you’ve been hating on for years, who can honestly expect you to be comfortable beaming love over there? I get it. Ease on in…it’ll happen. The point is to stick with it…and stop trying to fix it! <3


Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to

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