The Paradox of Presence: How to Give From a Place of Receiving

Image result for allowing people space to be who they areWhen we think of our relationships, one thing I think we can all agree on is that there is always something to give and get from them. And what’s important is how we perceive these acts of giving and receiving on an individual basis. A lot of the times, we act on our personal beliefs and the meaning we have applied to the people in our lives, certain situations and the roles that either can play. And we sometimes forget that our own perceptions are not always accurate to the truth.

What happens when we apply our own meaning to the things people do or even don’t do, we begin to form judgments about them; and usually, these judgments stem from preconceived expectations we’ve placed upon these particular people. While we all choose to step into various roles we play throughout our lives, we don’t all remember that there really isn’t anything constant in this world except for change itself.

The trouble starts when we forget to see the person as a soul, and instead see only the roles we’ve placed upon them. This ultimately can lead one to resent those that seem to grow out of any particular roles that don’t serve us in a favorable way. We may tell these people, “Gee, you sure have changed.”…like it’s always a negative thing.

The way I see it is if someone is not causing themselves harm, then it’s wise to zoom out a take a look at the wider perspective of this person’s recent shift to see what’s really going on there. It is in our best efforts to make sure that we are not interfering with their karma or personal growth. To be conscious of the bigger picture in another’s life not only demonstrates compassion and empathy, but also a willingness to create a loving space for this person to grow as their own spirit is inclined to, and not merely at our own influence.

It may seem paradoxical, but when we give the person the freedom to be who they are and we make the conscious choice to love them just the same regardless of their choices, we are also giving them the freedom needed for them to create the same spaces for us when needed. In this selfless act of giving, we are actually opening up to receiving on the most personal level.

So, next time someone you love does something to annoy you or that seems “out of character”, remember that we are always ever-changing souls of creation, forever creating each moment from our thoughts, wishes, hopes, and dreams. And to be able to act as a mere observer looking through eyes of appreciation over judgment is perhaps the greatest gift of all…because it’s one that is simultaneously given and received to and by ourselves.

Much love and have a bountiful, grateful weekend my friends! 🙂


Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to

Tamara posts new original articles to CLN every Saturday.

Follow Tamara on FacebookTwitter and Google+

Tags: , , , , , , , ,


If you enjoyed this article, subscribe now to receive more just like it.

Subscribe via RSS Feed Connect on YouTube

New Title

NOTE: Email is optional. Do NOT enter it if you do NOT want it displayed.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

FAIR USE NOTICE. Many of the articles on this site contain copyrighted material whose use has not been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making this material available in an effort to advance the understanding of environmental issues, human rights, economic and political democracy, and issues of social justice. We believe this constitutes a 'fair use' of the copyrighted material as provided for in Section 107 of the US Copyright Law which contains a list of the various purposes for which the reproduction of a particular work may be considered fair, such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, and research. If you wish to use such copyrighted material for purposes of your own that go beyond 'fair use' must obtain permission from the copyright owner. And, if you are a copyright owner who wishes to have your content removed, let us know via the "Contact Us" link at the top of the site, and we will promptly remove it.

The information on this site is provided for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional advice of any kind. Conscious Life News assumes no responsibility for the use or misuse of this material. Your use of this website indicates your agreement to these terms.

Paid advertising on Conscious Life News may not represent the views and opinions of this website and its contributors. No endorsement of products and services advertised is either expressed or implied.
Send this to a friend