Is Optimism a Choice?

Written by on February 17, 2019 in Happiness & Humor, Inspirational with 8 Comments

Is Optimism a Choice, Barbara Sinclair Holistic Health & Healing

Optimism cards by Reed Seifer at Grace Heaven Organic Salon

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Many years ago someone said to me “You’re always so pessimistic.” Frankly, it took me by surprise. After all, I’m a Sagittarian, and by nature, we’re pretty darn optimistic.

To make matters worse, this was a Virgo (notoriously one of the most pessimistic signs in the Zodiac) saying this to me.

For some reason I never forgot that statement and the other day, while looking at the above photo that I took (cards by Reed Seifer at Grace Heaven Organic Salon), I had a lightbulb moment.

I remember my response to being called a pessimist. It was something like “Well, if I’m too optimistic, I’ll be devastated when bad things happen. If I think the worst, then I won’t be so disappointed.” Wow. It must have been almost thirty years ago that I said that.

Pessimism: A tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future.


I realize now that what was going on was less about pessimism and negativity and more about FEAR. Or, perhaps that’s the root of all pessimism.

According to Ayurveda, anxiety and fear are the curse of the Vata-type person. They can take over our lives. I knew zip about Ayurveda back then and for most of my life I battled to keep the anxiety and fear demons at bay.

I worried about everything – losing people I loved, losing things, getting sick, dying, change, the weather. You name it – I worried about it.

Eventually, I found yoga, energy healing, and meditation and everything changed. I’ve talked about the melting away of my anxiety and fear after starting a meditation practice many times before. It was a profound shift for me.

Whatever your constitution, it’s not difficult to fall into a pessimism trap in the world we live in today. Things look pretty bleak, right? But pessimism, fear, anxiety, negativity, and lack of hope all seem so heavy and dark, and an unfulfilling way to go through life.

So, I wonder – is optimism a choice?

I don’t think anyone today would call me a pessimist. I live my life very much in the moment. There is nothing that could be taken away from me anymore that I don’t feel I could handle. I have experienced grief in many different forms and have survived the sorrow to come out on the side of optimism. Hope, light, a joyful way of living.

I’m not even sure if this has been a choice or if it’s just been my own life’s journey and I’m lucky to have arrived at this state of being. I attribute a great deal to the fact that I no longer suffer from crippling fear and anxiety.

It could also be age-related. I’m in my wisdom years and perhaps it’s easier for me to let go of expectations and live my life more simply.

But I know lots of pessimistic 60+-year-olds. Bitter, fearful, and unable to let go of the past.

And I know lots of optimistic young people who, despite the state of our planet, are able to live from a bright place of optimism.

You could be homeless but filled with peace or you could be wealthy and so miserable you want to take your own life.

Go figure.

I don’t judge others for where they are on the optimism/pessimism scale. We all came into this life with a different set of circumstances, different personalities, and a unique reason for being here.

But wouldn’t it be the loveliest world if Optimism could tip the scale and drive pessimism away. Our world would be so much lighter and brighter.

For me, on days when I feel pessimism creep in, I get out in Nature, listen to music, ride my bike, and meditate. It’s amazing how things can shift.

I’d love to know if you think Optimism is a choice.

Much love,
Barbara

Barbara Sinclair is an artist and holistic health practitioner with a passion for Ayurveda, the ancient mind/body system of healing and longevity. Barbara was able to heal herself from years of fibromyalgia, a chronic pain condition, by adopting an Ayurvedic lifestyle. She is now pain-free and joyfully shares these methods with her readers and clients. Barbara received her Ayurveda training from Wise Earth Ayurveda, the first school of Ayurveda teachings in the US. She is also a certified holistic health counselor and energy healer.

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  1. 10206483507957994@facebook.com' Maureen O'Donnell says:

    Of course…

  2. 1362993357060433@facebook.com' Jane Maroney says:

    I have to be. It’s the ONLY choice for me at this time……

  3. 10207359101647687@facebook.com' Francesco De Agazio says:

    Hello, I share your point. But, it is not only something based on fear, when has an ideology in building and grounds, that once tuned, will show a reality from another angle prism.

  4. 168479513535166@facebook.com' Jodie Schuetz says:

    Happiness is a choice. I’m so happy I figured it out!

  5. 196228270740517@facebook.com' Arctic Fox says:

    I’m an optimist – I definitely have faith that something bad will happen.

  6. 10208575809983136@facebook.com' Alonso Bogarin says:

    Yes, it is.

  7. 977816885599490@facebook.com' Ti Amo says:

    There is no other choice but to be …
    What else to do …
    Cheer ….

  8. 1055400424477687@facebook.com' Bebelyn Gonzaga says:

    Optimism is needed us to choose or else be heavy all the time.

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