20 Natural Ways to Boost Your Libido for Better, More Orgasmic Sex

By Vivian Kelly | So Feminine

Have you noticed your libido come to an unexpected halt lately? Whether life’s stresses have gotten the best of your mojo or your hormones are to blame, everyone’s sex life has ups and downs. While a dry patch isn't the end of the world, it sure makes life less fun. So what are you waiting for? Help unveil your inner sex goddess by taking on these natural ways to enhance your libido. Sexy results guaranteed.

Suffering a libido malfunction? We all experience a dead sex drive at some point during womanhood. Let's be honest, sometimes life just gets in the way. Stress, kids, too much work, fatigue, they can all cause your libido to go into hibernation.

Don't fret – you aren't alone. There are plenty of things you can do to ignite the lust back into your life and banish that waning libido for good.

To get the best out of sex, we tapped into the brains of sex experts and nutritionists alike to find out what you can do to revive your sexual desire – the natural way.

From sensual aromatherapy to frisky food here are the best tips and tricks to put the sizzle back back into the bedroom stat.

1. Dance your heart out.

Get your libido going with a boogie down. Not only is dancing a great form of exercise, but it will help build your self-confidence in the bedroom too.

Durex Embrace’s Sex & Relationship Expert, Susan Quilliam says, “Find a form of exercise – like dancing – that you can do regularly and enthusiastically.”

Moving your body and shaking that booty can only help you to connect back with your body and can help you feel sexier too. Whether it's down to toning up through dance or simply discovering that your body can do things (like coordinate itself), dancing is a sure fire way to get your mojo buzzing again.

Why not try a salsa class? It’s intimate, burns off tons of calories and is undeniably sexy!

2. Get plenty of shut-eye.

If you're fatigued or lethargic then the last thing you'll want to do when you get in the bedroom is have sex. If you’re known to be a night owl (working late, finishing that to do list, or staying up watching Girls) it’s time to start changing your ways.

Aim for 8 hours of sleep each night. Light some candles, hum to yourself to sleep, count sheep – anything you need to get more kip! Having a well rested body will ensure the rest of you (like your mojo) is able to function better.

3. Reduce your stress levels.

Stress has never been a good friend of ours. Constant worrying, poor judgement, memory problems and depression are only a few of the many different ways stress can affect us.

Susan says, “High stress levels don't just result in our bodies prioritizing relaxation over strenuous passion. Stress also makes us less able to concentrate on sex and to lose ourselves in the moment.

“Unwind from the day's pressures before you start to make love and you'll find yourself feeling more sensation and so much more desire.”

To de-stress your life go for walk, take up meditation or start smooching your sweetheart (it releases feel-good endorphins).

4. Take your time.

If you're an on-the-go type of person and have no time for getting hot and heavy you'll need to start scheduling sex into your diary.

“A recent DurexEmbrace survey reports that two-thirds of people feel that their career, housework and childcare leave them no time for intimacy. So carve out opportunities for lovemaking – diarize them if necessary – so you have at least an hour to concentrate on pleasure.” says Susan.

It's not very romantic, but once you start reeking the benefits you'll see your sexual increase desire tenfold.

5. Get touchy feely.

Without a physical connection your sexual intimacy is close to none. Small meaningful gestures like running kisses down your man's chest or holding his hand while you're spending time together will help build more physical attraction in your relationship.

Susan says, “Often we don't feel like sex because we've lost a physical connection with our partner. Start with tiny steps – a hug on waking, a kiss before bedtime. Reach out for each other. Hold hands while watching the box sets. And if at all possible, sleep naked.”

6. Spark emotions.

The key to lasting love and sex is building an emotional connection together. Deepening your relationship through emotional connection can take your sex live's to a whole ‘nother level.

“If the bond between you and your partner fades, desire will probably fade too. Make sure you're still emotionally connected by making regular opportunities to talk, share, confide worries, hopes and dreams.” says Susan.

Date nights do actually work!

7. Stop worrying about your body.

Cellulite? Flat-chested? Women have always been known to feel a little self-conscious at times. Embrace your insecurities and consider them unique to you.

Susan says, “The more you like your appearance, the more you'll be able to let go and feel desire. The DurexEmbrace survey suggests that women who feel best about their bodies are those who have most physical contact with their partners.”

Grow to love yourself. Your confidence will drive him crazy.

8. Make it with massage.

Consider sensual oils as an investment for better sex. Taking turns to massage each other will put you in touch with your sexual energy.

“A once-a-week massage is a great way to keep desire alive even if you haven't the opportunity to follow that up with something more raunchy.” says Susan.

Add a little music to the background and start putting the fun back into sex.

9. Focus on foreplay.

Improve your sexual foreplay by discovering new techniques and giving yourselves more time before sex (i.e. try not to jump him!). Trust us – your sex drive will be through the roof.

Susan says, “Whole body massage, genital stroking and licking, delaying your orgasm – all of these will remind your libido what good sex is really like. And, they'll build your arousal levels so that when climax happens it's an explosion not a whimper!”

10. Bring the changes.

A study at Ruttger's University suggests that novelty initiates sexual desire, which in turn, triggers more sexual activity.

“Try different positions, locations and scenarios. Flick through your favourite sex manual together and find things that you've never done but both want to try.” says Susan.

Whether you experiment with kinky sex, spanking, new positions or fantasy role play, thinking outside the box will be stimulating in more ways that one.

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