I feel as if society is about to merge a seemingly ending period of craziness with another that's just beginning as we roll onto into (or fall down a flight of proverbial steps into) 2021. Last year proved to be the year where the world went to shit, while my own personal little one was blooming me into motherhood. Up was down, in was out and whatever was reported on mainstream media “news” could be outrightly called the exact opposite of bi-partisan reporting. But then again, what else is new?
The media has once and for all gone too far and perhaps has been the catalyst to finally wake the rest of the people up as there remain those so ingrained in their own beliefs that they refused to question anything the talking heads of media told them to do, regardless of how hard it insulted our senses of normalcy or made any sense at all. It was literally the year that showed who has been doing their research and who would rather be governed with lies and told what to do like children.
Any who, that brings us to our dear old friend the ego. Most people think the ego is a terrible thing that must be squished and really has no positive attributes and nothing good to teach us. This couldn’t be farther from the truth as the ego is your greatest emotional compass. If you are at the level of conscious awareness to be able to look at your ego from an objective standpoint, you can observe how it reacts to things, likes to always take the lead, and how it protects itself no matter what. The ego hates change and will do whatever it takes to keep things in your life just as they are.
When we are able to pick up on these cues, we can use the ego as the tool it was meant to be and let it show us those areas that perhaps we need to look at within ourselves. Those places where we hold fear and might put up walls with people. Or those places where we get reactive quickly and our temper takes over. Whatever area you see yourself reacting emotionally is an excellent indicator that it is your ego holding the reigns and not your conscious Self with a capital S who is grounded and centered in the heart-mind.
When we are grounded and centered, we always give ourselves that moment to choose our responses instead of unconsciously reacting to things all the time. And the more you do it, the more empowering it becomes. This is how you evolve your ego (into a more useful tool); by stepping up and calling the shots when you can see how the ego is holding you back in places you know you need to progress. If there’s something you’re struggling with to reach your goal, for instance, say you want to be a motivational speaker, but large crowds frighten you, then your conscious self would turn towards the fear, knowing that is where your growth lies. You would recognize that your ego would want to do a complete 180 the other way.
Most of us have experience making both conscious choices as well as letting our egos do it for us. Some of us are put more energy into making sure our egos don’t rule our lives, while others let it run wild. This is always easy to recognize as what I call “loud insecurities” that often come out in the form of bragging, not appreciating things, taking things for granted, etc.
Another way our egos play a huge role is when it comes to our personal relationships. Unless we have actually taken that time to really get to know ourselves and have put in the work it takes to master habits and consciously create our character, then we will always reflect and project in our relationships. We pretty much all do it, and it’s really how we learn…about ourselves. What we can’t see in ourselves, we will be forced to see in another.
When we choose to depend on others to create feelings within us, maintain certain emotions, or withhold certain expectations is to take control over another life and to at the same time take responsibility for our own emotions and put them in the hands of another, when no one else but ourselves even has the power to do so. It simply appears that others make us feel this way or that way, but they are simply bringing forth things that already exist within us. Perhaps they may feel foreign or like they’ve been laying dormant for decades, but I promise you, everything you have ever needed, need now, and will ever need is already within you. You are not empty, you are full of infinite awareness just waiting to become aware of its own infinity.
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer, and a Conservative voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality.
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