One time or another it hits us all. That feeling of drudgery by not yet knowing your purpose in life. Or perhaps the frustration lies in knowing your purpose, but feeling as if living it and obtaining your goals are simply not in the cards for you. This could be the case if you had the type of parents who pretty much told you what you’d be expected to grow up to become and therefore anything less doesn’t feel acceptable. Or perhaps it was simply ingrained in you that you really don’t have a choice either way.
Regardless of where the negative self-talk is flowing in from, it’s important we first recognize just that. It’s outside of us and not actually part of us. In fact, it really has nothing to do with us at all and the quicker we figure that out in life the better chance we give ourselves of realizing that our thoughts and feeling are valid and in fact what YOU want for yourself out of life is what matters most.
We all feel that pressure and pull and while some of us can use it as great motivation, others simply succumb to it and may even forget their own idea of purpose while busy going after what’s expected of them. While we can all presumably say we like to make people happy, especially those we love, there is a fine line between being considerate of others’ feelings and opinions and ignoring your on altogether simply to please other people. One is generally healthy, the other not so much.
I think often times if parents feel they missed out or failed on/at something they in good faith will encourage their children to go for it, believing it would make them just as happy. But our children’s lives are not ours to live, nor design for them. We are simply here to protect, love, guide, support and encourage.
When more than that is raising our children, we may not even realize how damaging that can be because we think we’re doing good by them if our heart is in the right place. But anytime we assume control over another’s free will, even put children under the guise of parenting, we are stripping them off personal freedoms.
I’m not speaking of ignoring bad or unhealthy behaviors, but rather listening and observing more so we were to mold a relationship where the child feels free to be themselves. Because no matter what society would judge us as label and expectations are perhaps one of the subtlest ways of chiseling at their self-esteem. And we all know how well we fare when feeling unsure of ourselves or unworthy of love or attention.
So, remember my friends… don’t ever grow up no matter how old you are! There’s a huge difference between maturing and aging and as one leaves you wiser the other simply leaves you…
We only begin to age when we stop playing, so know who’s game your in and don’t be scared to break some rules!
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com
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