How to Create Congruent Conditions for Optimal Living

Alignedcongruence, in tune, synced up, connected…

These are all words I would use to describe how it feels when things in my life are going great! And you could ask, “Well…what exactly are you feeling aligned, in tune, synced up, and connected with?”

And I’d answer that question with a question. 🙂 Have you ever had a gut feeling that something was or was not for you? Like a little voice deep within tugging you in one direction over another? Or perhaps a deep feeling in the pit of your stomach telling you to avoid a person or place?

You have? GREAT! So, THAT would be my answer. That voice; that feeling that is so terribly difficult for us all to ignore is what I am aligned and connected with when life is at its best. And we can actually call it for what it is; our Intuition.

Being in tune with your intuition and knowing how to read and decipher the signals and signs it sends to you is vital to creating congruent conditions in your life that will naturally draw in the experiences that you desire. This pertains to all categories of our lives…from work to love to family and education. In fact, living a truly congruent life actually means having all parts of your life existing wholly as they are. A life lived in balance and harmony. The energy that is manifested via your own creative expression that you bring to these various areas of your life. " No one can experience authentic happiness without living an authentic life in which beliefs and behaviors are congruent." Dr. Paul TP Wong.:

It is when we put too much focus into one corner of our lives, or intentionally avoid another that discord arises and our lives fall out of balance. The natural order of the Universe is to be in balance and it will always try to get you back there as well, but we silly humans have convinced ourselves that we must fight to survive; that we must struggle against this natural order of balance and abundance in order to get balance and abundance. It’s quite an exhausting way of thinking…if you stop to think about it lol.

The Art of Creating Congruent Conditions has 3 main parts, each having their further depth and lessons.


  1. Explore the main areas of your life to see where you are unhappy. For most of us, this should be a simple task as by nature we tend to focus there the most instead of on creating what we want. This exercise will show how to do just that by first acknowledging how we are reacting to/responding to these areas of our lives.
  2. Once you have the main things you wish to work on in your life for this exercise, feel through each of them to see which one gets the most rises out of you or where you feel the most pain in your heart. This shows where the deepest wounds lie and where healing needs to occur; this will lay a path for us to follow on how to best prioritize our focus in Part 2.


  1. The one area that causes you the most pain and discord in your life is what we will focus on here and how we work through this issue will be a blueprint for any remaining areas in our life that still feel out of balance and require healing.
  2. Start to pay extra special attention to how you’ve been thinking and feeling about this issue in the past and how you can consciously choose to change how you think and feel about it in this very moment. Feel how freeing it is to forgive yourself and others involved in conflicts or to face a fear that has been looming over your head. Own your feelings and you immediately take away their power to own you.


  1. Here is where the magick happens! Instead of letting the same old programs play over and over in our minds, we are going to install some new software. Call it an upgrade of sorts! It may sound difficult or complicated, but honestly it is quite simple because it is merely surrendering to All that is. Some may call it “hacking the Matrix”. This is not to be confused with giving up, as this is more in accordance with “letting go”. It’s a careful dance between control and responsibility. While we wish to take the reins of our lives and be responsible for what is ultimately created within it, to do so we must also be willing to relinquish control of part of that process. “Which part”, you ask? The “HOW”. Your part is to think of the amazing life you want, to FEEL that life NOW regardless of what your senses are telling you is going on “out there” (resonance or being in tune with the life you want will only draw it towards you!
  2. Be the observer of yourself. When you see yourself falling into old habits of wanting to complain and throw a big ‘ol pity party, don’t judge yourself, but don’t let yourself continue to think (and ultimately live) so small when you were destined for greatness! In order to live a congruent life, we must be willing to look at those areas of our lives that are not currently congruent! We must do this with a fierce kindness and patient awareness of ourselves, otherwise our egos will just stall us, distract us and/or guilt us back into stagnation and disharmony; which ironically is quite comfortable to many people! We need to change that and feel GOOD about our lives like we were all meant to.

An “optimal” life will look very different depending upon whom you ask, but I think we can all agree on one thing. We all enjoy being happy, and a simple shift in the perception that happiness is somewhere we eventually get to or that it is dependent on “outside” things such as material items, to one that knows that simply being alive, incarnated onto planet Earth as sentient human beings instills the birth-right of abundance to us all. The vibration and resonance of “lack” is taught and is a state of mind, no matter how much material wealth you may have or not.

It is always possible to choose how you see ANY situation. This is not to condone one way of life over another or show apathy towards those born less fortunate, not in the least, but this is rather to empower people back into their own minds. No matter what riches it appears we are born into or not afforded in this lifetime, absolutely no one has the ability to take our thoughts, which are our power tools for creation! Once you learn how to use your thoughts, a manifestation is at your fingertips and the Universe WILL respond. This is resonance, cosmic harmonics, and how the Divine speaks across all dimensional fragments of space.

Tune into that fact and you are whole, complete and empowered with the knowledge of your true self. I cannot think of anything more powerful than an empowered human being on a creative journey of self-expression. The goal is not so much to master ourselves, but rather to master the process of creation. It is the poetry of existence; it is how we honor creation…by BEING creation.

And there are two ways to create; auto-pilot or manual. The term “manual” implies that we must do it ourselves, and while that is partially true, we must only think, feel and push out the energy of our desires and the Universe abruptly responds (by taking care of that resounding “HOW”). So, while our emotions often get crushed, our hearts get broken, our fears come to life, learning in 3D is an expansive growth process that comes with one fail-safe; the Universe ALWAYS has your back! So, while yes we must do the work to observe and heal ourselves, the Universe works its creative magic to align the cosmos to our desires in return. To me, there’s simply no question. Auto-pilot living (being in constant reaction-mode and allowing life to form you rather than you forming your life) is simply not for me.

As more and more of us are beginning to awaken from the so-called “American Dream” (which has ultimately been a nightmare for so many), we are seeing more and more people no longer willing to settle for an “OK” life or one that is constantly a struggle and/or out of balance. People are beginning to cherish themselves more (in a non-egoistic way) and therefore are able to begin to cherish others in the same way. This has begun a cosmic wave of humans that are refusing to play other people’s games any longer. And if you feel the pull to serve others from a sacred heart space rather than from a sense of obligation and necessity, like you are here for a greater calling and your current job is simply not fulfilling you, then you are most likely riding this wave as well.

Congruent living isn’t some new fad or something we need to fight for. It’s returning to our natural state of being. It’s a release that is long overdue. If we can learn anything from the vast and mighty universe it would be that in order to bring the greatest light to a situation, it must often be ripped apart. When we can embrace the letting go, the destruction of our comfort zones, then we are truly free and living in the flow of creation. When we finally realize how important we are as individuals to the Whole, then we begin optimal living. This often reminds me of physics’ Chaos Theory which states that a butterfly flapping its wings on one side of the world can contribute to a tornado on the other side of the world, also known as ‘The Butterfly Effect” in that we seldom stop to think of the global implications of our actions and most certainly not our thoughts. But everything is energy, and with thoughts being the beacons of light upon which your life is shaped and formed, it would serve us (and everyone around us near and far) to begin to mind our thoughts with care; to keep them…congruent for the collective.


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What Is Karma And Learn How To Create Good Karma

Karma by definition is the sum of your experiences from this lifetime as well as previous lifetimes balancing themselves out. Often we ask ourselves, “What have I done to deserve these types of experiences? I am a good person and try to do the right thing, yet I keep having bad luck and experience challenge after challenge.” The answer to these questions has to do with karma and the soul’s journey.
Why Me? 
It is quite possible that you have in another lifetime or in this lifetime been the aggressor or taken advantage of another soul and now must experience the opposite perspective to have a deeper understanding of how our thoughts and actions affect others. Honestly, no one has “bad luck”. Our misfortunes or unfortunate circumstances may be the result of past life experiences, this lifetime’s experiences, limiting belief systems or challenges that the soul has chosen to take on for its own evolution. It is often hard to fathom why the soul chooses these experiences, but the fact of the matter is that the soul has the most growth when challenged and overcomes negative patterns, belief systems, and struggles.
I’d also like to point out that our karmic experiences are not only the actions that we make but they are also our thoughts, emotions, and intentions. Just because we did not follow through with a negative thought, it does not mean that the laws of karma do not recognize the unhealthy intention, thought or emotion. Be mindful of what and where you give energy and intention to.
Here’s The Good News!
The good news is that we can correct and minimize the negative karma that may be scheduled to head our way. By being a proactive participant and observer in our lives, we can recognize and catch ourselves when we notice a pattern forming or redirect our potential negative reactions (thoughts, words, and deeds) before we add to the negative karma bank account. The process of correcting and healing our negative ego is the main purpose of having this Earthly experience.
The Karmic Bank Account
There is good karma and bad karma, therefore all karma is not bad! It is human nature to focus on the negative events of our lives but by giving equal attention to the positive and awesome experiences we have, we bring in the energy of gratitude. Gratitude automatically is deposited to our good karmic experiences and is quite effective in evening out negative energetic boomerangs.
Karma Timeline
Karma isn’t always instant, so please be patient when you are trying to be positive and are doing the right thing. People often give up and become discouraged and have a negative disposition when they do not experience an instant shift in their lives. This is the tricky part of karma, it is often a mystery when the tide will begin to change. In the meantime, keep forging ahead with your intentions of creating good karma.
What About Other People?
The only karma that we need to concern ourselves with is our own. Every action has a reaction and if other people have intentionally or unintentionally hurt you, there is the cosmic 2×4 that will be heading their way, either in this lifetime or in another lifetime. If we are consumed by revenge, we are creating negative karma for ourselves. The best thing to do in these frustrating circumstances is to surrender our negative thoughts and intentions to the spirit and redirect our reactions.
Now that we understand that there are cause and effect in our lives that are not just related to this life but is an accumulation of all of our lifetimes, we hopefully can shift from disempowerment and victimhood to a proactive, consciously-aware light being and create more positive and good karmic experiences in this lifetime as well as our future lifetimes.
Here’s to an abundance of good karma coming your way!
Blessings and Light,
Laurie Barraco

Laurie Barraco

Laurie Barraco

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To All Who Can Hear

By Zen Gardener | Waking Times

We’re at an amazing time in human as well as cosmic history. What we do with it is up to each of us individually, as well as the inescapable collective of which we are all part. How we each respond individually affects the entire collective. This is our tremendous power. To do right or wrong, bring light or continued ignorance and darkness.

This responsibility is too weighty for most. They feel not just disempowered, but cowed out of their integral self-soul expression. The forces are many, but playing the victim is nothing but an escape from personal responsibility. Fear, self-doubt, conditioning and subconscious inertia are difficult but not impossible to overcome. One right decision and exercise in true self-affirmation leads to another, and as momentum builds it does become easier, and quite inspiring as well as horizon expanding.

All of that is co-conditional on a true willingness to let go – of past programming, false self-stories, and external influences. The heart is the key; a love of truth and love itself, and for the ultimate betterment of humanity as we heal ourselves. All great and true energies align with such a spiritual disposition and the river of change and empowerment flows seemingly supernaturally in that zone, apparent parallel realities to what we witness in the external.

If we’re willing and truly desire to go there.

Again, the past attachments will fall away. But there’s nothing to fear, as what’s real and true in your life will continue on. Not all will be lost as so many fear. Sincere heart led relationships, the means for peace, contentment and survival, everything is healthily maintained. It is all well taken care of. The dualistic realm of separation here will fight this knowing tooth and tong, but it cannot win. If we are determined.

We all must remember that this is a training place, a proving ground, with wonderful soul lessons we came here to learn. That is the purpose of life on this very challenging yet bountiful and beautiful planet. Many say that is why we chose to come here, to learn and grow. But the amnesia we experience upon re-entry and immediate psycho-social conditioning fight our waking up and remembering quite comprehensively. By design.. And it’s not “bad” like we think. That too is an “allowed” construct to give us contrast and clarity, as well as soul strengthening during our adventure and lesson learning time.

Yet we are up to the challenge, otherwise we would not be here. That deep soul-sucking sense of futility we all run into and apparent meaninglessness is just a construct. It’s a lie of the first order. We know that in our hearts, yet so many waver and weaken and fall back into the victim mentality in a resignation to just get by and avoid conflict and pain. But as we’ve all experienced, that never works. The overwhelming external, all in escape mode, keep the amusements and distractions amply offered front and center to numb the deep inner pain and longing, all the while knowing that there is something else we are here for.

Enter Religions and Belief Systems

Sublimation is an interesting concept. One definition says “Sublimation is the transformation of unwanted impulses into something less harmful. This can simply be a distracting release or may be a constructive and valuable piece of work. When we are faced with the dissonance of uncomfortable thoughts, we create psychic energy. This has to go somewhere. Sublimation channels this energy away from destructive acts and into something that is socially acceptable and/or creatively effective.”

This is basically a replacement or camouflage dynamic. It is prevalent in our unconscious as we maneuver through life. It’s quite stealthy until we begin to recognize it. It’s sort of a “find and replace” program to help us not face the raw truth about our real selves and condition.

Religion is a perfect example. We have an innate knowing there is so much more to this life here. We sense it strongly. Society gives us labels for these feelings such as “faith” in something unseen, for which they have a ready explanation. This lower dimensional construct we live in is quick to fill in this sensation and need with religion – “faith” in the unknown, “trust” the hierarchy of those that know more than you, etc etc. A very clever design. That or sincerely relate to us “outside” formal religions and then direct or shunt humanity into one of the myriad religious practices and “alternative” belief systems of this world.

Belief systems are a bit more subtle, as they claim independence from the mainstream religions, so there’s that added element of spiritual and mental pride that “I’m not going for that – I’m going for this!” An amazingly clever “catch all, clean up” dynamic, but it’s just another manifestation of ignorance and pride. We’ve all fallen for one form or another of this. After all, throughout all this that shallow, false egoic self wants to survive no matter what. And that belief thing is fully hooked up to the veil, the matrix; i.e. the illusory testing system. But I digress, a bit.

If this is too abstract or esoteric for some, I apologize, Hence the title. I will close with something of a summary of this particular exercise:

  1. We are way more than we can even imagine and we need to tap into it.
  2. We need to be willing to do so at any cost. Any.
  3. Doing so will solve any and every personal as well as global issue or problem.
  4. Understand that limitation devices are in place for a good reason – to help us recognize false ego driven attachments – – in order to let them go.
  5. The challenge is subtle yet plain as day. Beliefs are just that: temporal non-real constructs that offer convenience, excuses cloaked in ritual ego-based offerings based in superstition, and in most cases justifying what we want.
  6. Reality is reality. Find it, face it, embrace it.
  7. The illusory matrix we’ve encountered here is purely fear driven. When we let go of fear every door opens and the love, beauty and simplicity of true creation and who we truly are pours through.

We are the light of the world. Let it shine.

About the Author

Zen Gardner is an impactful and controversial author and speaker with a piercing philosophical viewpoint. His writings have been circulated to millions and his personal story has caused no small stir amongst entrenched alternative pundits. His book “You Are The Awakening” has met rave reviews and is available on Amazon.com.

This article (To All Who Can Hear) was originally created and published by Waking Timesand is printed here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to Zen Gardner and WakingTimes.com.

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