From a very young age, we are often told “no” to the things we want. And depending on the circumstances, that’s fine and dandy as long as the delivery method is appropriate and properly explained to a mind that cannot possibly yet comprehend why their wants are not those deemed worthy enough to be fulfilled.
When we are children, we are unfiltered, raw, pure consciousness and in my humble opinion, a hell of a lot smarter than we end up later on in life when it comes to being authentic. If we are sad we let it out and wait even if we are in the middle of a church sermon or aisle 9 in the grocery store. If we are mad we stomp our feet or yell until someone listens dammit! If we are confused or want to know something we are not afraid to ask why…a million times.
In other words, we are not afraid to BE ourselves, to BE true to our wants and desires and to EXPRESS our needs. However, while it’s our parents' jobs to keep us alive, safe and healthy, it too often comes along with the deal that children must also take along whatever unresolved baggage the parent has carried throughout their life, and this can manifest in numerous ways.
Regardless of how it can be a painful experience to take on energy that isn’t yours and ultimately to not understand why or what it is. It can be even more difficult if you have parents who are not conscious about this and thus react negatively when the child doesn’t accept this baggage as their own.
I think as we grow up, we stop seeing through the eyes we promised ourselves we would never lose sight of. We can all take a moment and think back to the freedom of youth and the care-free, albeit confusing torment of adolescence and unknown coming changes. We can also think back to how fun it was to sneak out to go see your crush, or to not have to worry about paying bills! How about all those promises to “never end up like them!!!” (Your parents!)
And yet here we are…I don’t have kids personally, but I have so many friends who jokingly say their kids' behavior is some kind of “payback” for how they acted LOL. Like karma in utero just waiting to come for ya when it grows up! And while I believe in karma to a degree, I think this is absolutely absurd, and that if anything, your children are teachers and reflections of your own innocence lost.
Too often this triggers resentment in people, however, if we can shift perspective it can be used as an amazing catalyst for positive change and growth. If we can remember that our kids are seriously pure awesomeness (just as we are, and were before we piled on all the other stuff), then it becomes easier to see them as teachers rather than just little versions of yourself set out to annoy the living shit out of you.
See…children remind us that our own needs are just as important as anyone else’s. It just that we learn to believe they are not and begin to repress them and even worse we often pile on other false beliefs about ourselves such as we are not good enough or we must do certain things or be a certain way to even be accepted, liked, loved, or acknowledged at all. And it’s this nonsense that keeps us all separated and divided under our masks and ultimately that is usually who we introduce ourselves as, fall in love with initially in others, and miss once we really get to know people.
Therefore it’s not only vital to know who you are but to also love who you are enough to show up authentically to the world. That way there are no surprises in your relationships. People won’t be resentful to find out you are someone other than you came off to be initially and you won’t be resentful for people not accepting “the real you” once it comes out…and it always will.
So, let’s teach our children well and while that may mean different things to different people, I think we can all agree that feelings accepted and loved for who we are, regardless of what we like, want, need, have done or said, excelled or failed at, is the greatest feeling in the world and when we as humans stay tapped into that, into our TRUE beauty, we will inevitably see the world as such. And this type of vision allows us the freedom to enjoy who we are and to know we are whole as we are…full and fulfilled and need not seek validation in others.
So remember, you are beauty…you are full…you are beautiful.
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com
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