Persistent Resistance: Why the Things You Avoid Don’t Go Away

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It’s all about the vibes, man…

We’ve all had that experience of coming up against something we don’t want to do or someone we don’t want to be around. And sometimes in the midst of it all, we begin to notice that the more we think about it or try to resist or push it away, the more it seems to be around and in our face. So…what’s up with that?

What is happening is actually physics at play. In other words, the energy moving around the situation or person and you beliefs and feelings around the entire thing is what will determine if it does in fact go away or continue to haunt you mercilessly. When we are in a place of wanting to avoid someone for example, the energy that we are putting out is usually the fear of running into them, having to converse with them, explain something to them, etc. And it is because there is fear present, that you will continue to draw it towards you, rather than away from.

I recently wrote an article about fear and how to use it as a tool for success. It is cliché, yet so very true that the only ways fears ever go away is by us facing them head on. In this action, we are putting a new kind of energy into motion. Instead of the heavy, stifling vibe of acting from fear, when we come from a place of confidence, self-love and trust, it’s a completely different vibe; one that empowers you to know you can count on yourself and that you control the nature of your reality, simply by shifting the energy around your beliefs.

Oh, that’s attractive…

Like magnets repel or attract depending on their polarity, we also are gifted with this ability if we know how to use it properly. When someone makes us uncomfortable, it is wise to not immediately follow and act upon the feeling, unless of course you feel threatened in any way. If it’s more of an overall annoyance for the person or they’ve done something you are not quite ready to forgive, etc. then the feelings of wanting to avoid the person should be first looked at and dug through, not immediately acted upon as that creates a container for fear-based, heavy draining energy. And in this type of energy, it’s quite hard for things to “escape” and settle on their own because it’s very binding and constricting. You many even physically feel like your body is incredibly tense and your mind uneasy when in this type of container.

Instead of creating a groundhog’s day of perpetual avoidance, try instead to look at the feelings instead of just feeling them. Let them speak to you as an equal, not like they are giving you orders to act upon. When we sit with our feelings, we create a neutral space for reflection and insight and often we begin to unravel clarity where there was confusion as our hearts begin to open.

We may begin to see the situation or person in a new light and finally be able to forgive them for past hurts. And if not, we may at least begin to forgive ourselves for carrying the pain for so long, and perhaps gift ourselves the freedom of surrendering the pain to the ethers and allowing it to become the lesson that lifts us, rather than the wound that keeps us down.

Your greatness is waiting to emerge…

Often times I find when something scares me, it’s actually a sign that is pulling me to become a better version of myself; to expand and grow so I can hold more abundance, love and light in my life. And I find that when I resist these types of things, the Universe tends to bring me fewer opportunities. It’s as if I was saying, “I don’t believe in myself, so please allow me to keep living small where I feel safe.” And so the Universe responds as such, but only for so long. It will always continue to get you to your true center; to walk the path not created by fate, but the one you were destined to create for yourself.

When we are in a place of resistance that is fear-based, it will stick around because it’s merely asking to be looked at and explored. It will continue to weigh you down, make you feel uncomfortable, etc. until you do. If we continue to place blame on things outside of ourselves, then the Universe will continue to just give you things to complain about. But, what if we instead go inward and commit to being our own best friends? What if we all took the time to really get to know ourselves like we were meeting a new friend or lover, and give ourselves that same undivided attention?

This is moving towards your light…your authenticity and your Truth. In this energy you will instead feel a pull, not a push and the more you surrender to it, the more you will open your heart to all of life’s experiences that come your way. If not because you’ve learned to trust the Universe responds to energy (not mere wishes), but because you’ve learned to trust yourself.

 

Have an amazing, irresistible weekend everyone! 🙂

 

tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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    No family is perfect…We argue, We fight. We even stop talking to each other at times. but in the end. Family is Family…The love will always be there. – Unknown.

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    Ermmmmm….both / neither/ it depends?? ..shit…I think I may be indecisive! EEEEK ! HELP me inner self HELP me…..boy I’m gonna give myself SUCH a Karmic kicking in the a.m 😉 XXX <3

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    They don’t go away because they are important to you.

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