I am literally convinced that I came careening into this world an infant epistemologist seeking enlightenment. But, who isn’t? 😉 No seriously. I mean think about it, whether we are aware of it or not, we are all here for a reason, right? And we can choose to believe that reason is meaningless and minute or a pretty fucking big deal. But what I’ve come to learn is the ever-priceless lesson, that no matter what you believe…you are absolutely correct.
You see it is not always that things just ‘are’, but rather they are ‘as we see them’. Perception is an objective woman and she is never taking sides with any one person. She will always cater to the individual and encourage them that what she is showing them; the picture she has designed up based upon past experiences and beliefs, is the absolute truth about what is being experienced in the present moment.
Regardless, whether you believe you played a role in designing your path and now creating the drama unfolding as ‘your life’, it IS unfolding. The only other option I can think of is to believe that shit just randomly happens to us; which is, of course, worth entertaining just as much as the next belief. But which feels more empowering to you? Which one feels like you have a say or get a vote?
I was around significant victim mentality throughout my childhood, and I hadn’t realized how ingrained it was within my own psyche until very recently. It’s hard to love the world that you grew up hearing is nothing but full of people that cannot be trusted. So, subconsciously that is all I have ever done, which is trying to be someone the world will love and trust; unconditionally. And with this core belief running the show from behind the scenes, I was so lost in my own story that I actually believed it was all real. But one thing I must give myself credit for is that I never stopped asking questions or seeking knowledge. At least I was curious about the reality I had invented without my knowledge. 😉
I had to learn on my own that love is best served without an agenda. Have you ever seen someone capable of literally turning off their “love” like a switch? Perhaps over a single act or mistake? I realize this is broad speculation, however when it comes to just an automated reaction over being offended by something you have limited information on, then we need to revisit whether this is coming from a place that is serving us in a positive way. Usually, this happens when we react from the emotional, ego-driven mind, rather than the neutral heart space. Love must be unconditional, or it simply is not love.
I’ve also learned that when you don’t withhold love when people disappoint you or fail to meet your expectations, or don’t fit a mold…you allow people to learn and grow in the space you create for them. This is not a task for the weak nor an excuse for intentional abusive douchebaggery. Learn the difference between mistakes and personality traits, it will save you a lot of heartaches and worry, most likely about shit that is not even true. It’s simple really, don’t judge.
What I prefer to do is live life in between these two lessons in what I’m going to call ‘intellectual intuition’. It’s where I will always take into account what my ego/mind/fear has to bring to the table because it drives and pushes me to move and act. And it makes me stronger the more I face it and heal the traumas of the past lingering in the shadows as we all can do. But my heart..beating with the rhythm of life, and rippling out into a wide electromagnetic field, will always be my spiritual compass; both my intellect and my intuition.
And if you can learn to walk the thin line between the two, you will come to find that the opinions of others become less of an influence on you and how your form your beliefs. You begin to trust yourself because you have pulled all that power back that you’ve put out into the world you could never trust. We’ve since learned to trust the Universe. Now…let’s work on trusting ourselves, shall we?
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer, and a Conservative voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality.
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