This Manifestation Process Works So Fast (Don’t Skip This) – Joe Dispenza

Source: Science of MIND

Dr. Joe Dispenza explains his process for manifestation by connecting to the emotions of your future already manifested.

Imagine being so whole that you no longer want anything. We’ve measured this. Imagine feeling so connected to the emotions of your future. You’ve conditioned your brain and body into that state.

If you feel like your future, has already happened, you wouldn’t be separate from it. In fact, you wouldn’t even be looking for it. Why would you look for it if it felt like it already happened? That’s when the magic happens. That’s when you move closer and closer into the present moment.

And if that singularity point, that source energy, that the all-in-all, the universal mind, whatever you want to call it: pure love. As you move closer to it, then the process of creation, the process of healing, the process of having a mystical moment would be an arousal also, but the arousal wouldn’t be fear. The arousal wouldn’t be pain, the arousal wouldn’t be aggression or anger.

The arousal is actually ecstasy and we’ve actually caught this on so many brain scans that if you’re in that state, why would you want to leave the moment? That’s you moving closer to the source. And when that happens, you experience oneness. And oneness is when your consciousness actually merges with the consciousness of the all-in-all, and that should be an arousal, and that should be an awakening.

And the amount of energy that we capture in the brain when this occurs, the amount of information being exchanged between the brain and the heart is way, way, way outside of normal.

So getting to the sweet spot of the generous present moment takes quite a bit of awareness and energy because most people wake up in the morning and their brain is a record of the past. They start thinking of their problems. Those problems are associated to people that they know, things that they have to do, and places they have to go at certain times.

And if you believe that your thoughts have something to do with your destiny and if you’re waking up in the morning and you’re recalling your past, then you’re thinking in the past. Those are memories that are etched in the brain.

Now, every one of those problems has an emotion associated with them. So the moment the person feels unhappy or feels desperate or feels fear, now their body’s in the past, because thoughts of the vocabulary of the brain and feelings of the vocabulary of our bodies. And how we think and how we feel creates our state of being. So, a thought and a feeling, an image and an emotion, a stimulus and response and you’re conditioning the body subconsciously to being in the past.

And when we live by familiar emotions, the body’s so objective that it’s it’s believing that it’s living in that same past experience that created that problem. It doesn’t know the difference.

And if the environment signals the gene, and the end product of an experience in the environment is an emotion, we’re signaling the gene without the environment. And if those stress hormones dysregulate or downregulate genes and create disease, now you’re headed for a genetic future, right?

But then people get up after they get caught up in the way they feel and reaffirm their identity, then they get up and do a series of routine automatic behaviors that they’ve done the day before. And we could take their yesterday, 90 percent of their day looks a lot like their tomorrow. And they become habituated into a predictable future. And if the familiar past is the known, and the predictable future is the known, and that person’s lost their free will to a set of programs.

But there’s no unseen hand doing it to them. There’s no room for anything new to happen in their life. Then, if the familiar past is the known, and the predictable future is known, then there’s only one place where the unknown exists. And that’s the sweet spot of that generous present moment.

And people do meditations, Kelly, and they say, Oh, I can’t meditate. You know they go, Oh my mind’s all over the place. Oh, I got to get up. I got to check my emails, I’ve got things to do. I got a baby. I got kids. I got a job. And, they buy into the thought that they can’t meditate, or it’s too hard, or something’s wrong with them. I need a brain scan. Whatever. And really that’s just the thought that’s causing them to stay in the known.

On the other side of that thought is freedom. And when a person is saying – oh, my god, it’s eight o’clock in the morning and I’m sitting meditating. This is normally when I get in traffic and I throw a tantrum. The body’s used to that. Don’t you think that at eight o’clock in the morning the body’s going to be looking for that arousal, and if you’re not getting it from your outer environment, it’ll call up a memory so that you can feel that emotion.

And if you catch yourself doing that and you settle the body back down into the present moment, that’s the moment, you’re telling the body it’s no longer the mind – that you’re the mind. And that’s a victory, and there’s a liberation of energy that happens where we’re settling the body down from its animal nature. And then it says I gotta get up. I gotta check my phone, I gotta do this, I gotta go there. And you catch yourself doing that, and you settle your body back into the present moment. Now, you’re executing a will that’s greater than the program, and that’s a victory as well.

And it turns out, if you just give people enough time to sit with themselves. We’ve done this in 30 week-long retreats: a person that has to disentangle from the hard-wired thoughts, from you know the habituated actions and the emotional conditioning that keeps him in the past. And, if you can pay attention to those thoughts, if you can notice how you’re feeling and acting, you’re no longer unconscious. Now you’re, conscious, and you’re outside the program.

And it’s the act of doing this that causes us to disentangle. And it takes energy and it takes constant awareness. And you could be a vegetarian, you could be young, you could be old, you could be gluten-free, you could be wealthy, you could be poor, you could be white, you could be black, you could be yellow, you could be anybody you want, you could be whoever you want.

Everybody, once they learn how to do this, when they can settle into the present moment, the unknown – and nothing dangerous or bad happens – it provokes adventure, it provokes novelty, it provokes the craving for a new experience, a new possibility. And that’s where all possibilities exist in that in that eternal now.

And that’s when you go from the realm of space-time (you know space-time the three-dimensional reality where there’s an infinite amount of space and we experience time moving through it) to this realm called time-space where there’s an infinite amount of time. If time is eternal, you get a lot of things done. There are not a lot of possibilities equal to your imagination.

Now, when people finally can settle into the unknown – without a name, without a face, without a social security number, without a budget, without a profession, without kids – and just be aware of themselves, aware of nothing that has anything to do with the known physical material world. And they create from nothing that’s when something begins to appear because nothing is the fundamental ground for everything physical and three-dimensional.

So teaching people how to do that, to get to that present moment, is the art. And once people actually can get there, they actually no longer really want anything. All the things they thought they want, they no longer want because i feel like they have them. And i would say that’s a really good place to be.

So a person does a great meditation. This is all of us. You get locked in your heart. Your brain is opened up. Your mind’s expanded. You’re seeing that future, you’re embracing it emotionally. And then you got to now practice with your eyes open. Now you got to be able to maintain that modified state of mind and body your entire day. And if you can, get ready: weird things are going to happen in your life.

But if you say: God, I’m so upset. And you disconnect from the energy of your future and your response is producing emotions and energy of the past, and thoughts related to past memories, don’t expect anything in your life to change.

And if you said to me: well, it’s that person or that circumstance, I’d, say: Uh oh, we’re back to the unconscious program of being a victim -that the outer world is controlling the way we think and feel. Maybe it’s how we think and feel. Change the way we think and feel, we produce an outcome in our outer life. So, the responses in the stress, hormones, causing us to feel more like matter and less like energy, we’re going to feel more separation. And so then the desperation of separation means now it’s got to happen out there to make this go away.


Dr Joe Dispenza is an international lecturer, researcher, corporate consultant, author, and educator who has been invited to speak in more than 33 countries on six continents. As a lecturer and educator, he is driven by the conviction that each of us has the potential for greatness and unlimited abilities. In his easy-to-understand, encouraging, and compassionate style, he has educated thousands of people, detailing how they can rewire their brains and recondition their bodies to make lasting changes.

“Dr. Joe Dispenza is a doctor, a scientist, and a modern-day mystic. . . . In a style that is simple, straightforward, and easy to understand, [he] has woven into a single volume the paradigm-altering discoveries of quantum science and the deep teachings that adepts of the past dedicated their entire lifetimes to master.”

“Peace Train” featuring Yusuf / Cat Stevens | Playing For Change | Song Around The World

Source: Playing For Change

Peace Train” – Yusuf / Cat Stevens’ timeless anthem of hope and unity – was originally released on the classic album ‘Teaser and the Firecat’ in 1971 and was Stevens’ first US Top 10 hit, reaching number 7 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.

This Song Around The World version features more than 25 musicians from 12 countries and unites Yusuf / Cat Stevens, singing and playing a beautiful white piano in a tranquil open air setting in Istanbul, Turkey, with musicians such as five time Grammy Award winning blues/americana artist Keb’ Mo’; Grammy nominated Senegalese artist Baaba Maal; Silkroad’s Rhiannon Giddens—also a Grammy Award winner; Ghassan Birumi playing the oud in Ramallah, Palestine; musicians from the Silkroad Ensemble in Rhinebeck, New York; Pat Simmons (The Doobie Brothers) and James “Hutch” Hutchinson (bass player with Bonnie Raitt) performing in Maui, Hawaii; and bringing together conflict regions with Tushar Lall playing the harmonium in Delhi, India, and Joshua Amjad playing the Kartaal in Karachi, Pakistan.

“Peace Train” Lyrics by Yusuf / Cat Stevens

Now I’ve been happy lately
Thinking about the good things to come
And I believe it could be
Something good has begun

Oh, I’ve been smiling lately
Dreaming about the world as one
And I believe it could be
Someday it’s going to come

‘Cause I’m on the edge of darkness
There ride the Peace Train
Oh, Peace Train take this country
Come take me home again

Now I’ve been smiling lately,
Thinkin’ about the good things to come
And I believe it could be,
Something good has begun

Oh Peace Train sounding louder
Glide on the Peace Train
Come on now Peace Train
Yes, Peace Train holy roller

Everyone jump upon the Peace Train
Come on now, Peace Train

Get your bags together,
Go bring your good friends, too
‘Cause it’s getting nearer,
It soon will be with you

Now come and join the living,
It’s not so far from you
And it’s getting nearer,
Soon it will all be true

Oh Peace Train sounding louder
Glide on the Peace Train
Come on now Peace Train
Peace Train

Now I’ve been crying lately,
Thinkin’ about the world as it is
Why must we go on hating,
Why can’t we live in bliss

‘Cause out on the edge of darkness,
There rides a Peace Train
Oh Peace Train take this country,
Come take me home again

Oh Peace Train sounding louder
Glide on the Peace Train
Come on now, Peace Train
Yes, Peace Train holy roller

Everyone jump upon the Peace Train
Come on, come on, come on
Yes, come on, peace train
Yes, it’s the peace train

Come on now, peace train
Oh, peace train

A Story of a Better World | A Touch of Gentleness [Beautiful, 3-Min Video]

Source: A Touch of Gentleness


Can you imagine a world where strangers stop to smile at each other, take time to sit and talk, to rest, and reach out and comfort one another? Where there is a sense of safety, you, and plenty for all? A world where there is no concept of loneliness? Where fear between people has no meaning. Where you can travel and learn from each other’s cultures? Where all people live with gentleness in peace. I can too. Because it’s happening.

As you know though, it wasn’t always like this. There was a time when the world was fractured and hurting. Filled with much anxiety, loneliness, depression, and greed. Stress was the number one ailment and fear a constant companion. Countries were at war. Strangers were dangerous. And your home was a place with four walls. Not a family or community or place inside yourself of peace and love.

That is until one day, little by little the change began with a group of people who came together to form a small community. Learning to embrace, embody and live in the wise spirit of gentleness they began to make contact, connect and deeply listen to one another.

Over time this once small community of people grew and spread, like lanterns of gentleness across the land their soft, bright, light rippled out and touched the world.

And as this gentleness spread so fear dissolved. Resistance softened, and people’s hearts were opened. Feelings of safety, acceptance, belonging, and love filled us up – until eventually gentle respect and tender love for all people, all species, and our earth itself became a part of our biology, our DNA and our evolution.

And it is true to say that some of this medicine did begin with ‘A Touch of Gentleness.’

MUST SEE: And the Music Played the Band | Charles Eisenstein Mini-Doc (with Transcript)

By Charles Eisenstein

I want to share with you a powerful 37-minute film that Ben Stewart made from an interview we recorded last summer. I’m not sure if I’ve ever seen such an effective treatment of what would otherwise be another talking head monologue. Just wow. Thank you Ben!

Watching it, I had the odd experience of learning from my own words. That’s because what I’m speaking to in the collective exists in me too. They are the issues I’ve been wrestling with my whole life. So, I’m not some expert or guru who’s got it all figured out; on the contrary, sometimes it seems to me that the reason I’m so insistent on speaking is that I, more than anyone, need to hear what I say. The danger for me is that I say it and say it, keeping it on the outside, directing it toward others, but never letting it in. The music and images of this film opened a gateway for the words to come into me. I know they will do the same for many of you.

We decided to release it without ads or paywalls or digital rights management of any sort. That’s a big leap of faith for an aspiring filmmaker like Ben. If you’d like to support our work and future collaboration, you may do so here.


Charles Eisenstein: Here’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to do: when I’m speaking to Ben Stewart as an avatar of humanity, I will look at Ben Stewart. And when I’m feeling like a direct connection with some other presence, I’m going to look at the camera. Yeah.

Ben Stewart: It’s not too often in a lifetime that we find somebody who speaks so well to the heart of the matter, that we feel like there may just be a simple answer to the complex problem of human existence. What you are about to hear is an early morning moment in time with Charles Eisenstein on the gift of life and the artist within us all. So, sit back, relax, still the mind, open the heart, and listen carefully.

Charles Eisenstein: Yeah, I can say a little bit about how I got here. And it’s not really a path that makes me special because probably you’ll recognize, you’ll feel like a familiarity to that. But it started with an intuition that normal, s I’ve been offered it, and life, as I had been offered it, and reality, as I had been offered it – wasn’t quite right – a sense of a wrongness in the world. And therefore a hesitancy or a reluctance to fully participate in life.

Different people express that reluctance in different ways; some by lashing out and acting up, some through depression and withdrawal, some through self-sabotage, or it could be laziness, procrastination, getting drunk, getting fucked up – like different ways of diverting, some of your life energy away from the program.

So my journey really was a quest, a quest, which is something that’s based on a question. What is the wrongness in the world? What is going on here? Why do I feel alien to this place? Because life is such a gift. Why am I reluctant to fully step into the gift of life?

And that led me to unearth the underpinnings, I mean, what I understood as the underpinnings of our civilization – like the answer to that question goes that deep. It goes to the depth of everything. On one level, and I don’t want to be like, you know, a downer here, but on the level of everything is wrong. The way our society does it from birth – literally, you know, hospital birthing, etc – to death. Our attitudes towards death and the way that we die in this society, like everything is wrong: education, medicine, money, economics politics technology. Everything about the way we live.

Then, the next step of that in my journey was okay, well, it’s not that it’s wrong, but it is a state of being, a collective and individual state of being that is ready to transition to something else. What is this something else? Who are we and what is the world? What new stories can we tell ourselves about who we are, and what is, and how to live, and where we came from, and where we’re going, and what the purpose of a human being is, and what a self is, and what’s a man, and what’s a woman? And how do you do this thing called life? What’s a new story that can make sense of a world that is disintegrating into senselessness as we speak. That’s the container of my thought.

I like to use the term, the old story, the story of separation – the story that says that who you are is a separate individual, a skin encapsulated ego, a soul encased in flesh in a world of other. In that story, your purpose here is to make a place in the world to survive, reproduce, maximize your self-interest, contend with all of the other separate selves out there who are trying to do the same. Out-compete them, establish dominance, insulate yourself from hostile or at least indifferent natural forces, and take what you need and what you want from the world. Because why not?

The story that I have been integrating into my being, and I can’t say that I’m like, you know and especially impressive example of it, but this is my my path. And I’m sure many people will write will resonate with. It is understanding that my purpose here actually is not to maximize my safety, security, wealth, or self-interest. My purpose here, and the reason that I am on Earth and in this cosmos is that I carry gifts that I yearn to express, to give to the world, just like every species, just like, every being. Like there’s no species in an ecosystem that only takes and degrades the ecosystem. Every species actually contributes to the aliveness of the collective. They contribute to life and beauty – the unfolding of life and beauty.

We’re the same, whether as a species, I mean, it doesn’t look like that right now and that we are a gift to life and beauty on Earth. Does it? But that is what a mature species becomes. And part of the transition that we are in right now is simply the maturation of the human species. And it’s true on the individual level as well, which is why you could make, you know, a hundred million dollars, but if you’re not using that to make the world more alive and more beautiful, you’re going to feel I wasn’t put here on Earth for this. You’re going to feel when do I get to live my life and not the life I’m being bribed to live? So, this is the orientation – the orientation of understanding yourself as gift.

And then that orientation, it inspires you and this is what I’m working on, right? It’s like in every situation to ask: What is mine to do? What is mine to give? And that doesn’t mean self-sacrifice, because it’s also a recognition of the giftingness or the generosity of the world too –  like to receive fully all of the gifts that then enable me to give forward. But it’s the orientation of gift, understanding myself as an agent of the of the continued coming alive and coming into beauty of the world.

If you look at Natural History, it’s a history of the world coming more and more alive. Four billion years ago, the world was not alive yet. And then there were bacteria and they became more and more complex and more and more interconnected and then they were multicellular organisms. And then the plants came and colonized the land because the land was dead up until, you know, half a billion years ago. But then the plants came and colonized the land and the insects and the land came alive too. And then the flowering plants came and it made it even more alive, and more beautiful. And now we’ve been created as a species, same reason. As long as we’re tapped into that – tapped into that story of what is humanity for? Because the old story says we’re here to transcend nature. We’re here to conquer nature.

That’s not actually why we’re here. So the more that we’re tapped into the story of we’re here to contribute to the aliveness of the cosmos, then life has meaning, Then you know why you’re here. You know how to orient, how to navigate life. There’s a North star to follow. So, that’s one way that story tells us how to live. It tells us who we are and why we’re here.

And I’ll also say that it’s not just a narration – that the story is part of a larger state of being. There’s a like separation, competition, conquest, domination. That’s not just an intellectual concept. It’s a state of being. And when you’re in that state of being, the ideology of that, state of being is seems natural. Yeah, of course the world is like this. Of course, it’s us versus them. Of course, it’s me versus you. Son, you got to get out there and you know, don’t let anyone take advantage of you and make sure that you’re right like that. It just seems natural from a certain state of being that civilization has occupied for centuries now. And that Is becoming obsolete. Our Consciousness and our being is moving past that but we’re still stuck in the systems that grew up around separation.

Anyone who’s ever been in a situation that didn’t call on their gifts or didn’t value their gifts, you feel confined. You know, you feel maybe resigned, maybe cynical. A lot of people are feeling cynical today. Cynicism is a withdrawal from the world. So we can feel the truth of this. Teenagers especially know it. They are possessed with idealism. They’ll never sell out. You know? They want to do something magnificent in the world. They have a great expectation of who they are supposed to be. So what happens? Powerful forces coordinate to crush that native understanding, powerful programming starting in childhood.

So what’s necessary is healing on every level, deprogramming from self-conquest, from the insult to our divine nature that we are taught. That we are anything less than that – than a gift to the world. That misbelief often accompanies trauma. In fact, maybe always accompanies trauma. Sometimes it’s the explicit, obvious visible, trauma of abuse and neglect, violation. But it could also be the normalized trauma of, you know, being cast into a classroom where you don’t know anybody, and where you’re confined indoors when it’s a beautiful day and you’re supposed to be exploring the kingdom of childhood.

It could be the normalized trauma of having your relationships cut off repeatedly when you’re trying to bond. And you’re moved from one daycare to another to another, and then first grade, and then second grade. And then your friends move away and you move away. And like the ties that are supposed to contribute to a full self never form. They’re broken again and again until you get used to it and you decide well, I’m not going to really make those ties. And I’m alone.

You can see how every aspect of the way that modern humans live contributes to this destruction of our innate knowing of who we are and why we’re here. So it’s a matter of of healing, and I would say in this moment, your willingness to heal. Because the healing is available. And if you find the part in yourself that is ready and has been asking in a quiet voice for a very long time for healing, and you just give that little part of yourself full attention and full welcome – as if you were holding a child, a baby. That alone will set a process in motion because you’re validating it. You’re saying yes, this is sacred. I hold you, sacred. Miracles will unfold from that.

Let’s affirm that everybody is an artist, serving life and beauty on Earth. That’s what an artist does. And if you’re in those moments when you are a true artist, that means that you hold that sacred above all else. It’s state of devotion. Whereas, if you hold making money or pleasing the client, or pleasing the art critics or something like that, above all else, then you’re no longer an artist. It’s called a sellout. An artist does things more beautifully than they need to be done for any external reason because you are in service to that which wants to be born. So that state of devotion, it says, whenever I am given as my raw materials, not just like physical materials, but the entire situation of my life, I will make as much good and Beauty out of that as I can.

And like you were saying like you face a rock climbing wall. You’re not like, oh, man, I’m not going to climb very fast because of all these difficulties, you know, like art actually requires limitation. Just because like say you’re writing a sonnet, you know, like you’re not going to say, well, I can’t really do very good job because this line has to rhyme with that line and so forth. Like no, like you take that structure and you fulfill the potential within it. You’re bringing beauty to every corner of the world. And we have to trust that we are perfectly placed in the precise corner of world that demands the unique set of gifts that we have…

That’s one way that you could say that we’re a gift. We ourselves are artistic implements by, you know, a divine artist. And to participate in that process of creation then, we simply orient toward what is mine to do in this situation. How can I express my devotion to love, to beauty in this particular situation? Knowing that every situation is practice for every other situation. It’s part of of inducing a state of being. So it might be something as simple as how you wash your dishes, how you make your bed, how you speak to your child.

Even in those moments that seem like a distraction from your mission. It’s like, oh man, you know, here, I am, you know, cooped up all day with my two-year-old. And I could be out there doing big things in the world. No! Actually the way that you are with your two-year-old sets a template for the way you will do everything else. In other words, it says, it declares here is who I am, here is how I will do it. Every act is a prayer.

Our function as an artist is like how do I make good of this? How do I make beauty of this? It is a fulfillment of who we are that expands to fill up every corner of our lives.

What I’ve been saying could be interpreted as, oh my God, here’s this like impossible standard to be in a state of devotion 24 hours a day, in every single aspect of my life. I can’t measure up to that. It’s more like as I say these things, something will come to you that is available as some part of your life where you’re ready to step more deeply into devotion and you haven’t been doing it. But you’re ready to do it and there it is, and it’s right in your face. It’s the next step. It’s the step that you’ve just come ready to do. And as you do that, as you step into devotion in that one aspect of your life, and it might be something close to home, but it might be something out in the world. You know, it might be that you’re going to, you have some role to play in public discourse, you know, in politics, and something like that, but it could also be something very, very private. Whatever. It is, you recognize that.

So it’s the same orientation that solidifies our home and relational life, that also makes us into courageous actors in the social realm. It’s the same thing. So, I don’t know what that is for you, or you, or you. All I know is that you can recognize it. It may not be comfortable, but you’ll recognize it. The patterns are largely unconscious and that they are so deep, so subtle that they will not be revealed in their totality, and you’ll be able to cast them aside. It’s more like each step that you take, that natural next step into devotion, into service, it’ll do two things.

One, it will give you a level of joy, and solidity, and satisfaction that you had not experienced before except in temporary glimpses. Like you can get transported to that state through many kinds of experiences. But you can’t stay in that state without practice. You will know that you are on the right path because you will receive benefits. You will have more ease and joy, connection, fulfillment, satisfaction in your life. And maybe you’ve seen it before but now it’s real.

The second thing that will happen is that it will reveal even more – things that you hadn’t even imagined before. So this insidious programming, the subtle programming, it’s revealed like peeling, an onion. You know, you peel one layer, then the next layer is revealed, and the next and the next And there maybe even, like the general trend will be toward more and more joy and fulfillment,

But there can also and will also be dark nights of the soul that are exceptions to that to that trend, because it can be really painful to see the new thing come up and to see the magnitude of your folly, the magnitude of your delusion that you thought that you were helping the world. You thought that you were in service, but actually, the whole time you were just trying to get Dad’s approval, you were just trying to look good. And that can be really painful and, and totalizing. And really hard to see that that pain is the process of extracting these programs.

The forces that are arrayed against change to lock in the status quo, there’s no rational way to overthrow those forces. As long as we buy into the old story account of how change happens, which is force versus force and the bigger force winds. You know, whoever pulls harder on the tug-of-war pulls, the prize to their side. Whoever has the most power, the most military force, the most money. They’re the winners, and you’re the losers. As long as you buy into force versus force, the situation on Earth is utterly hopeless and resignation actually is a good step. Paralysis is a good step, because it says I’m not going to try the impossible anymore the way that I’ve been doing it. I’m not going to try to, to outbox, Mike Tyson. You know, I’m not going to try to, Im dating myself here, I’m not going to try to outwrestle Andre the Giant, right?

There’s another way. And to reach that other way requires what’s called burnout, what’s called paralysis, maybe even depression, despondency, resignation as you put it. And there’s something on the other side of that. There is a matrix of causality that does not operate by force that you can tap into when you are in a state of devotion and surrender. That’s when miracles happen. That’s when like, in order to live in that reality where, you know, exactly where to be and when to be there where you are riding waves of synchronicity. In order to be in that reality, you’ve got to stop controlling things. Because when you try to control reality, you are actually putting yourself in a reality that works by control. And you have no access to the power of synchronicity, the power of being at the right place at the right time with the right person, the power of, you know, these spontaneous miracles.

This bardo, this in-between state of the resignation of the paralysis,  you and I don’t know how long it needs to last for any given person. When that state has ripened, they will be receptive to the ingredient that you’re speaking of. Their receptivity will magnetize that ingredient to them. That ingredient might be you coming with the right message and the right example at the right time. It might not be any words you say to them. But it might be that they witness your devotion. And that your devotion is so obvious that they can’t explain it away through their cynicism. Maybe they witness your generosity or the generosity of somebody that that doesn’t fit into what they thought was real, doesn’t fit into their resignation that yeah, this world is just shitty people, etc., etc. And there’s no hope.

The intervention, that other ingredient could take the form of a psychedelic medicine that shows them directly that their worldview of despair is missing some important information. So yes, there is another ingredient. But if I’m speaking to somebody in this state of despair, cynicism, paralysis, and resignation, this extra ingredient is not something that you have to accomplish. The extra ingredient is not an accomplishment. And the only thing that you can do in that state, at this moment, is to recognize that you still secretly have hope. And to feel the truth of what I say right now, which is that that other ingredient will come to you. And simply being in that truth also sets a process in motion. And you can feel it right now.

You’re not alone here. This territory exists for a reason. There’s nothing that’s not love.

So the state that we’ve been talking about of resignation, despair, and so forth, that’s an intense, distilled version of the state that most people are in most of the time. There’s a tinge of resignation. There’s a tinge of despair, even when it might be temporarily overridden by excitement or addictive energy. You know, like something’s going well. You know, the future is so bright I gotta wear shades. Like things are going great, you know, temporarily. I’m on a high. I’m on a roll, but underneath that there’s a despair that we take for granted as normal in this society. And there’s a philosophical foundation of that despair. It’s inherent in believing that you are a separate self in a world of other, because you’re alien.

This confinement into a small ghetto of reality is a pervasive, almost universal state in modern society. And certain people who are sensitive and in a certain stage of their evolution are going to experience it in intense form – not as misfits and exceptions to the rule, but as exemplars of the rule. They are almost channeling a generalized state of being. So therefore what I’m saying is not specific just to those who are in an intense depression.

So this intervention, this other ingredient we were talking about, it could be a psychedelic or something that’s called in from the outside, in response to our readiness and to our need, that is one of the ingredients. It shows you that there’s a there there. It confirms the secret hope that I was talking about. And it sets you on a path.

However, there’s another ingredient beyond that, which I was talking about earlier. And many people have had this experience, you have this epiphany. Finally, you get the epiphany. And you like this changes, everything. And I’ve got to live by this. I got to remember. I can’t forget it. I can’t forget it. I’ve got to hold on to this. And you eventually find out that you can’t hold on to it. What was once an obvious direct experience becomes a practice, a principle. Then it becomes a memory and then it fades. And you’re like, was I imagining things? Maybe I was just high, You know, maybe I was just whatever – like that wasn’t real.

How do you hold onto a reality that contradicts the reality that everybody is holding for you and holding you in? And not just people, but, but like the economic system. I mean you might have an epiphany about abundance, but our money system, our economic system, shouts scarcity at us every minute of the day. You will not have enough, better take care of yourself, better protect yourself, better watch out. And not just money, the police system, the prison system, all these rules, and walls, and no trespassing. I mean the whole society is built around separation, competition, distrust.

So, how do you hold that epiphany? If you have gone through this cycle, it’s not because you’re too weak and you didn’t try hard enough. That’s not to say not to try. Yes, try. Hold that as precious, everything that comes from your accurate knowledge that that is precious is a good thing.

But the third ingredient is that we need help. We need other people to hold it with us, to hold it for us, and with us. And for us to hold it for them also. That is the community that we’re seeking. There’s a lot of research about how community alleviates depression, how people are happier when they have robust social ties. And are unhappier and sicker, actually, when they’re cut off from human connection, which is the irony of current health policy: seeking health by cutting us off from each other. Social distancing, lockdown, quarantine, stay away from me. That’s not actually where health, mental or physical, comes from in the long run.

So the intense need for community has intensified in the last year as we speak. But it’s not only like this animal, biological, social community that we need. It’s also a spiritual community. If we were trying to move into another story, another reality, another self, the self is not a separate. We are relationship. You need to be in relationship to others who also understand this.

Really the essence of community is communication. So sharing material like this is a filament of community. It’s no substitute for hugs and eye-to-eye conversations with somebody who loves you. But it’s something, it’s part of the mix. It’s part of the larger community. It’s part of the ways that we’re holding each other. That we know that we’re here for each other, that we’re not alone.

So, it is okay to trust your attraction to information and to people who validate what you secretly know. Like when you say that rings true, is it that it confirms what you already believe? Or does it make your spine tingle? Is it sometimes even arresting, humbling.

Ben Stewart: It reminds me of when I was in the band and there needn’t be any, like, explanation as to why something felt right when we were all in harmony, feeling the same thing. It felt bigger than us, and it felt effortless.

Charles Eisenstein: The Grateful Dead said it: And the music played the band. That pretty much says it all.

Ben Stewart: Thank you, Charles.

Charles Eisenstein: Yeah, thank you, Ben.

Best of Dr. Andrew Huberman (2 HOURS of Brilliant ADVICE & Pure INSPIRATION)


SOURCE: Evan Carmichael

Watch this fabulous compilation of Dr. Andrew Huberman’s awesome advice about living your best life. Pay particular attention to his interview with Tom Bilyeu starting at 19:19. Follow Dr. Huberman’s advice here regarding goal setting and it WILL positively change your life.

Dr. Huberman is an American neuroscientist and tenured professor in the Department of Neurobiology at the Stanford University School of Medicine. He went from changing high schools, working in a bagel shop and getting into fights to making numerous important contributions to the fields of brain development, brain plasticity, and neural regeneration and repair.

Peace Within Me, Peace Surrounds Me, Peace From Me, Let There Be Peace | Ajeet Kaur [MUSIC VIDEO]

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“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” ~ Dalai Lama XIV

Watch this most beautiful music video with Ajeet Kaur and imagine peace in the world: Peace within me, peace surrounds me, peace from me, by thy grace let there be peace.

In this video, come with sacred chant artist Ajeet Kaur on a journey to India and chant along with her to the soundtrack of “Peace” from her album At the Temple Door featuring Todd Boston, Snatam Kaur, Sukhmani Kaur Rayat and Ram Dass Khalsa. Wash away your worries and find the peace within through this mantra to experience our connection to each other and the divine. Filmed on location in Rishikesh, India.


Peace within me

Peace surrounding me

Peace from me

By thy grace let there be peace

Ek Ong Kar Sat Nam Siri Wahe Guru (One creator created this creation. Truth is His Name. Great beyond description is His Infinite Wisdom)

Gregg Braden – Our World is a Mirror of Things Happening in Higher Realms, Which YOUR Consciousness Influences

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Gregg Braden – What would it mean to discover that the power to create joy, to heal suffering, and bring peace to nations lives inside of you? How differently would you live if you knew how to use this power each day of your life?
Join Gregg Braden on this extraordinary journey bridging science, spirituality and miracles through the language of The Divine Matrix.

A Prayer for Peace – Make Me an Instrument (Prayer of St. Francis) – Mei-lan

Source: Mei Ian

Let’s unite our voices and our hearts in a prayer for peace. 🙏
Sending comfort and strength to all in need.

All my love,

Prayer of St. Francis

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace:
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy.
O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console,
to be understood as to understand,
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

The Key to Overcoming Global Grieving and the Battle between Good & Evil | Gregg Braden

Source: Gregg Braden Official

In this video, Gregg addresses two questions: (1) How Do We Prepare for a Global Grieving?; (2) How do we, at an individual level, address the Evil so blatant in the world?

Acknowledging Ourselves as Our Own Sacred Source

I’d like to start out by saying that I absolutely love people and I adore relationships of all kinds…romantic, friendship, family, work, etc. But that doesn’t mean that it’s always easy relating to other people, am I right? I’ve come to learn, though that even the feisty, difficult, “Oh my freaking God I wanna rip my hair out” kind of relationships hold something dear to be cherished. The lessons we learn from our most trying times provided by our relationships, are what stretch and bend us, set our healthy limits and personal boundaries and no, that’s not a bad thing at all.

When we are being authentic in our personal boundaries, we treat ourselves in such a way that sets the standard for the rest of the world as well. So, there’s simply no room for “Joe Schmoe” to come prancing into your life treating you like a pail of garbage, because you simply don’t allow it into your field of existence. It’s saying something is better or worse than, it’s merely a recognition of a certain desired frequency, and they simply do not match up.

And this leads us to expectations which I’ve written about before and gotten a lot of great feedback for, so I’d like to give it another go, but with a twist. This time, let’s focus more on what we expect from OURSELVES rather than those around us.

In a previous article, What To Expect From You Everyday Expectations, I went into all of the various ways that we put our energy out across the realms of existence that we might not even be aware of. First off, you need to know that there are multiple realms and while interconnected they all “move” and “act” on their own accord; with their own style and uniqueness.

The different realms are physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric and I highly suggest reading that article before continuing on, but even without knowledge of the realms, I bet you’ll find a useful tip or two in the words beyond…

Most often our relationship is bouts of giving and take and usually roles are clearly defined. But if those roles are ever challenged by one party or if something tremendous shifts, etc. then relationships as a whole can be entirely redefined or sadly even end at a whim’s notice. But alas, every relationship serves its purpose, and even those we expect to last until our dying days often fizzle and fade, and in the end, it’s really up to each individual to determine the final destination of where that relationship status lands in their heart once the usual connection is broken.

If two conscious individuals unite in a relationship, chances are much better than if and when the union ends, the departure will not be quite as dramatic as the typical relationship, because with awareness comes an understanding always of a purpose higher than ourselves and our emotional responses to any given moment in time. It also comes with the understanding of desires, motivations, the Ego, the self with a little s .vs a big S, etc., and if you’re lucky a knowing that each person is THEIR OWN SOURCE! Therefore just as the union came together in love, so can each person allow such a respectful and honest, unattached letting goes if and when the time comes to do so.

Sadly, so many relationships begin in a dazed and confused stupor of puppy love infatuation of what we want people to be. We refuse to foresee the flaws we know will eventually show themselves and temporarily convince ourselves these people are unwavering perfection, and we delight in the fact they think the same of us! Oh, what a high! 🙂 But when we instead really see people from the get-go for what they are and not what we want them to be nor what we can tell they’re trying to be, we will understand better that everyone is a mere traveler here, that everyone is still learning and growing and that while technically we all are perfect because we are of Divine Creation, we are here to experience the illusion of imperfection, so that we can expand in third-dimensional reality and live as conscious creators ourselves. So, it’s wise when falling in love to simply not fall with blinders on.

For most of us, though in the dust-storm high of new love, we start to dump our expectations on this new person to fulfill desires and wants in our lives, and if they do we stay the path, but if and when they don’t, especially if they were at first, then we twist our version of who we thought we knew and loved and withdraw, don’t we? And the games begin…

How about we try something new? How about we stop using one another as our source of happiness and realize it’s always been US?

If we teach our children to go within for strength, courage, and ultimately to love themselves enough to trust their instincts, to set healthy boundaries, etc. then perhaps we can raise the next generation to not look to MTV to see what is acceptable to wear or how they should talk. How about we instead raise independent, beautiful, kind-hearted kids that not only love themselves but love each other and bring this into adulthood? Then we will be granted a new generation that knows to go within to find their confidence; to BE their own Source. Remember, they don’t call it SELF-worth for nothing!

That sounds like a great plan right there, humanity…let’s get on it! 🙂 So. Much. Love. <3


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer, and a Conservative voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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Beautiful Music for Your Soul: Awaken to Love | Mei-lan

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Want to awaken to love? Just listen to this incredibly beautiful music by Mei-lan Maurits.

Five Powerful Allies for Love, Compassion and Healing

Everything boils down to quality of life. 

Life is for living and we can do many things to aid in making our life pleasing.

This can happen in simple moments as enjoying a beautiful sunrise or sunset, rain drops hitting a leaf, the movement of water over rocks or up onto a shore, trees swaying in the wind, a meal spent with family or friends with candlelight and good conversation. A myriad of ways exist for our enjoyment.  

Within us, we have all we need. Sometimes though it’s nice to have an ally, a confident, a kindred spirit or one that just knows us and can connect on a higher level. 

These allies don’t have to be humans, they can come in many forms. One such form is what some call inanimate, a rock or crystal that was formed so long ago. It may seem that change nor consciousness is apparent. Yet they are conscious! Very different than us, our physical life span is short in comparison and is always changing or being changed.  

Would you like more compassion, unconditional love, forgiveness, generosity and healing in your life?

We help others by being the best version of ourself as possible.  So grab a stone or look at pictures of ones and “love up” on yourself. 

As we connect with a clean crystal (one discharged of negative energy) we aid not only ourselves but each other. Our consciousness attunes to the crystal and vice versa. It’s a subtle concept, yet enormous in character and potential. Our subtle nature supersedes words. It is this subtlety that heals, completes and shows our wholeness within ourself as well our union with all that is. 

Many of the green crystals resonate with the fourth energy system in the body, the heart, which is the seat of emotion and intuition. Let’s focus on a few today. (You will notice I use rock and crystal interchangeably, they are one in the same.) 

Mediate with them, carry them, place them, wear them; for they are endowed with consciousness. Cleanse them with the sun, moon, salt or a powerful cleansing stone. Just like we need baths, so do they. They can absorb negative energy, so it is important to discharge them every so often, dependent upon use.

My rocks, top and clockwise:

Raw Emerald, tumbled Aventurine, Raw Amazonite, Raw Calcite, Raw Unakite, Raw Aventurine, Unakite heart (tumbled by Lake Superior)

The middle stone, the heart shaped Unakite, I picked up in Ontario on the shoreline of Lake Superior. The rainbow rock beach I walked on many times is one of the reasons I began studying crystals. The raw unakite I found on my neighborhood gravel road. Unakite was named after the nearby Unaka Mountains. The rest of the crystals I discovered as I mined with my grandchildren in nearby Thermal City Goldmine.



Here is the short list of how these beautiful stones can be your ally.


  1. “Of all gemstones, Emerald is the purest crystalline emanation of the Green Ray, color of the heart chakra. This chakra is at the center of our physical selves and it is our center on many other levels as well. It is the wellspring of the emotions, especially love and compassion.” Robert Simmons
  2. A stone of courage, aiding you to move forward.
  3. Helps one to develop a sense of beauty, harmony and justice.
  4. Offers clarity, wakefulness and a broad vision
  5. Strengthens the heart, heals inflammation and strengthens the immune system (to name a few).


  1. One of the best stones to stabilize and open the heart.
  2. Calms the emotions, encourages a positive outlook, relieves anxiety and fear
  3. Assists one in embracing challenging issues. Take things in stride when dealing with heavy issues, can help with humor or a feeling of lightness when in those challenging times.
  4. Supports the heart and stimulates life giving energy throughout the body.
  5. Naisha Ahsian’s  aventurine affirmation: I move forward with optimism, confidence and renewed vitality.


  1. Powerful heart stone helping to release toxic emotions and is an anti-anxiety meditation crystal.
  2. Brings joy, clarity and an understanding of universal love
  3. Assists in communicating higher truths and higher knowledge
  4. Awakens compassion
  5. Physically helpful in cell regeneration and healing after injury. Excellent for gout, arthritis and thyroid imbalances.

Green Calcite

  1. Clears the heart chakra of stress and other types of low energy debris.
  2. Aids in helping one’s sense of purpose and possibility.
  3. Brings in fresh energy to a room, especially helpful for those affected with seasonal disorders or depression. Can help release buried emotions.
  4. Allows one to desire forgiveness to self and others
  5. Assists with the elimination organs. Helpful for the absorption of calcium as well as dissolves calcification that builds up on broken bones and joints.


  1.  Resonates with the frequency of love, compassion and kindness.
  2.  Helps you be in the present moment, let go of painful memories or addictive behaviors
  3. Super charges your spirituality.
  4. Comprised of red Jasper, pink Fledspar and green Epidote; it is solidly bound together and symbolizes growing together. Think of universal harmony.
  5. Physically supports healthy tissues: especially heart, lungs and connective tissues.

The Book of Stones, Who They Are & What They Teach, Robert Simmons & Naisha Ahsian; North Atlantic Books; 2015

Crystal Power, Crystal Healing, The Complete Handbook, Michael Gienger;  Octopus Books, 2009

The Crystal Bible, Judy Hall; Walking Stick Press; 2003

Julia ParsellJulia Parsell is a Certified Holistic Health Counselor with an emphasis on the intersection of science and the sacred.  She writes from experiences and transformative understandings that have led her to an authentic and peaceful life. She goes by these names: mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, niece, cousin, and friend. As home educator of her three children, she also developed/ran cafes, and maintained various leadership roles within her community.  Her greatest desire is to encourage others to live life fully.  Her passions are family, art creation, writing, and trail blazing. She loves her life in Western North Carolina.   


This Valentines Day, Be Love

Cynthia Sue Larson

What if we are getting a chance to be in love with everyone and everything around us? What if we are being invited to ‘level up’ to communicating unconditional love?

“Wherever you are,
and whatever you do,
be in love.”

Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve loved Valentines Day. Mostly, I loved the idea of a day to celebrate love—not just romantic love, but feelings of connection and caring that we can have for everyone in our lives. When I was in grade school, I loved the idea of giving Valentine cards to all the students in my class—since I felt this was a wonderful opportunity for each person to feel loved and appreciated. This holiday seemed very special to me, since it Valentine givers had such a rare opportunity to show love and appreciation that was socially condoned and encouraged. We usually got Valentines Day cupcakes and treats, but for me the high point of the day was receiving Valentine cards from all the students. Every Valentines Day, my teacher would ask all of the students in my class to bring Valentine cards to deliver to every student in the class, and gave us time to deliver our Valentines to each student’s Valentine envelope in their mail slot. Most of us handed out tiny little Valentine cards, that our parents purchased for us that typically featured cartoon images, and playful quips and puns. There was not room to write much more on these tiny cards than our names, and sometimes young students forgot to do that important step, leaving recipients wondering who that card came from.

Snoopy Valentine

While it might seem uneventful or not tremendously meaningful to receive a card from each and every student, I remember feeling a sense of wonder and even surprise to see Valentine cards in my envelope from some children I was too shy to talk with, or who I didn’t know very well. This simple exercise invigorated me every year, even long after I knew I’d likely be feeling surprised (again!) to receive Valentine cards from everyone in my class. I loved receiving so many colorful Valentines, and felt in those moments better than if I’d won a prize or contest. Experiencing such loving connection with all the students in the class felt wonderful, and I treasured those moments as some of the very best.

According to some historical records, by the middle of the 18th century, it was common for friends and lovers to exchange small tokens of affection. Valentines can be sent to everyone, and this holiday provides us with a lovely occasion to be kind and loving in all our relationships. I hope and wish that maybe at some point, everyone in the world—including adults—would feel inspired to share words, thoughts, and emotions of kindness with everyone else. This would be quite an auspicious moment. It would feel ‘almost like being in love,’ to quote lyrics from the song by that same name in the movie, Brigadoon. And of course we’ll want to ask—and experience the answer to—how good can it get when we are in love? By asking this question, we might be blessed to discover what this can feel like, being experienced by people all around the world:

Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves,
the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God
the energies of love,
and then, for a second time in the history of the world,
man will have discovered fire.
—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

What if everything happening in the world right now is giving us a chance to be in love with ourselves and everyone and everything around us? What if we are being invited in these somewhat chaotic, challenging times to ‘level up’ to better expressing and communicating pure, unconditional love? How good can it get when we learn to share our dreams, without fear? How good can it get when we learn to be courageously vulnerable emotionally? Humanity now has opportunities to share love, compassion, kindness and respect with everyone—even those we don’t see eye-to-eye with.

You can discover and rediscover some truly amazing reality shifts over the past twenty plus years of reporting them in RealityShifters, and any time you’d like to remind yourself of some of the remarkable changes we’ve witnessed, I welcome you to browse through a few issues, and fall in love with the wonder and magic of life.

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You can read the entire RealityShifters February 2022 ezine issue that this article came from at:



QuantumJumps300x150adCynthia Sue Larson is the best-selling author of six books, including Quantum Jumps.  Cynthia has a degree in physics from UC Berkeley, an MBA degree, a Doctor of Divinity, and a second degree black belt in Kuk Sool Won. Cynthia is the founder of RealityShifters, and is president of the International Mandela Effect Conference. Cynthia hosts “Living the Quantum Dream” on the DreamVisions7 radio network, and has been featured in numerous shows including Gaia, the History Channel, Coast to Coast AM, One World with Deepak Chopra, and BBC. Cynthia reminds us to ask in every situation, “How good can it get?” Subscribe to her free monthly ezine at:

6 Questions to Help You Love Yourself More When It Feels Impossible

By Vironika Tugaleva | Tiny Buddha

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha

In 2012, self-love became the most important thing in my life. After self-loathing and addiction led me to rock bottom, there was nowhere to go but up. When someone asked me last year how long I’d been on the self-love journey, I counted back from 2012. That’s when I thought it began.

In my old journals, however, I recently found something strange and incredible—my self-love journey started long before I thought it had. Years prior to hitting rock bottom, I’d been having the same epiphanies: I need to love myself, I need to stop trying to get other people to love me, I need to be kinder to myself.

Yet those epiphanies wouldn’t last. In fact, I habitually forgot about them as I returned to my “normal” back then—anxiety, depression, self-judgment, social anxiety, and a host of addictive behaviors that helped me escape these uncomfortable states.

Strangely enough, when my suffering was at its worst, few people could have said that self-love was the problem. I had an outward facade of ironclad self-confidence. Most people thought I loved myself too much.

Yet my journals tell another story. It is a story of not only silent suffering but also accidentally ignoring all my attempts to heal that suffering. Even though I was chronically self-sabotaging, I was also trying to help myself along the way.

In a Facebook comment to one of my other posts on Tiny Buddha, someone wrote, “A lot of truth in this, but I’m so tired of the thing about loving yourself. Nobody has ever written about how this happens when you don’t feel that way. It sounds so simplistic—just love yourself first. Great, still no answers!!”

Related Article: 11 Life-Changing Rules of Success (from the “Why” Guy, Simon Sinek)

It might be ironic to give an even more simplistic answer to this, such as “Find the answers within you.” But I think it’s important to note that there is a difference between simplicity and ease. The most important lessons in life really are simple—love yourself, find your own answers, know yourself. Yet implementing these lessons is a lifetime job full of tears, fears, and uncertainty.

The truth is—the answers are within you, just like they were within me. It’s just a matter of discovering them and implementing them consistently.

Your answers are within your experience. But they aren’t filed into neat folders. They’re scattered in every moment between alarm clocks, worries, and errands. They’re also not labelled by which questions they answer. You might get a bad feeling about something and that could be self-love, but it could also be fear.

So, instead of answers, I’d like to provide some questions. Your relationship with yourself is unique and your answers will be unique. And the answers will keep changing. You can ask these questions every day, and that wouldn’t be too much.

1. How can I better understand this experience?

One sentence that I found frequently written in my old journals was, “Why does this always happen to me?” I said this about periods of depression as much as relationship patterns.

When I asked this question, I wasn’t looking for an answer. My biggest mental health breakthrough was learning to genuinely ask that question. No, really, why do I always end up alone when I most need people? Why do I sometimes experience overwhelming periods of depression? Thus, I started to learn important things about myself.

I learned that I had a tendency to never take breaks, strive for perfection, and burn myself into the ground. I also learned that I had a way of pushing people away to “test” if they’d stick around. Seeing these patterns was painful, but much less painful than believing I was broken, unworthy, and doomed to being alone.

When you’re in the middle of criticizing or judging yourself, take a moment to shift your focus toward understanding.

Instead of trying to fix your emotions or your reactions, how can you understand them better? What are your feelings trying to communicate to you? How can you acknowledge these messages?

Instead of beating yourself up for saying or doing something, how can you get a more holistic perspective on your motivations for saying/doing this thing?

When you make a conscious decision to be more curious about your experience, you will naturally stop resisting, judging, and criticizing it. The more you embrace each moment, the more you will be able to embrace yourself.

2. Who am I beyond my behaviors, thoughts, and emotions?

To be able to embrace the ups and downs of life without losing self-love, you must love yourself beyond those ups and downs. This is the difference between self-approval and self-love.

Approval comes and goes. When you make a mistake, you might disapprove of yourself. This is healthy and normal. If you didn’t experience lulls in self-esteem, you might never learn from your mistakes and end up hurting others.

Self-love, on the other hand, is something you need in each moment—especially when your self-esteem is low.

When you don’t approve of your behaviors, ask yourself who you are beyond those behaviors. How can you accept yourself beyond the rollercoaster of day-to-day experience, so that no matter what those experiences are, you continue to think of yourself as worthy of existing?

Related Article: How to Meet Your Grief with Mindfulness and Open the Door to Joy

3. What do I need right now?

Each day, ask yourself what you need. Like this, you can begin to nourish yourself. You can also begin to understand some of the side effects that you experience when you don’t meet your needs. Once you feed your hunger, you’ll better understand your symptoms of starvation. This can lead to profound self-forgiveness.

Especially when you are trying to break bad habits, you can ask which needs you’re trying to meet with those habits.

Every single self-harming action, even if it hurts you deeply, also serves you in some way. Maybe your unhealthy habits make you feel comfort, control, or even help you gain attention. The need behind each behavior is always valid, but some behaviors are more sustainable and healthy than others. By acknowledging your deeper needs, you can make a plan to consciously meet them in a healthier way.

One thing I’ve discovered that I need is movement. I have so much energy in my body from day to day. I didn’t realize this for a long time because I expended that energy on chronic anxiety.

When I realized that I could use my energy to be physically active, my life changed. My anxiety levels plummeted. I formulated a completely different relationship with my body. I also got a new perspective on my long struggle with eating disorders, smoking, and addiction.

I had a basic need to control my body, to influence my physical state. I still have that need. The only difference is that, now, I’m making conscious choices about how I’m going to meet it.

4. How can I give myself what I need?

Once you discover what your needs are, you can begin to anticipate them and fulfill them.

Simply to acknowledge your desires is half the work (especially if they are different from those of the people around you).

The other half of the work is asking yourself, every day, how you can meet your needs. The key is to foresee your hunger and feed it before you feel starved. This way, you can avoid relapsing into those desperate self-destructive habits.


So Happy It Hurts: Why The Greatest Growth Is Often So Painful

quoteWe tend to find it easier to smile when things seem to be “going right” in our lives. We may have found the prefect mate, landed our dream job, have a supportive and loving family, and find that overall things are pretty smooth sailing. But what about when that perfect mate cheats? Or we get fired? Or that loving family rejects something about you dear to your heart? What does that do to us on a soul level and why is our reaction to it vital in the level of growth we take from it?

Believe it or not, we are not mere victims of circumstance. Yes, environmental factors play a huge role in our overall development, and how we are treated and what we are taught about ourselves and the world around us as children is pretty much what we take into adulthood. However, it doesn’t have to stay that way. We are always free to choose our next step, our next reaction and our next goal.

So, how do we react when life gives us a swift kick where the sun doesn’t shine? Do we get pissed off and curse the Universe or God? Do we take it out on those around us whose lives still seem to be going pretty well? Do we go into hermit mode and recluse ourselves into a month long pity party? Or do we step back and try to see if there’s anything to learn from the situation…anything good that could come of it…any reason the Universe may have “made it all go to shit” perhaps to make way for something even BETTER!?

“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” – Bernice Johnson Reagon

I’ve come to learn that life really is a matter of personal perspective. You can live 90 years with each day incredible and purpose-driven; full of creative ambition. Or you can live the same day over and over for 90 years. It’s really up to you, no matter where you come from, who your parents were, what gender or race you are, or nationality you are born under. Yes, these factors have their own undeniable struggles, but those too are calling to be looked at in an entirely new way. When one sees “short-comings” not as obstacles, but as catalysts for motivation, the world opens up with new possibilities.

If the greatest leaders, peace-makers, speakers, loving-hearts of our time had let themselves be mere victims of circumstance, imagine how the world might feel a little less full without their voices ever being heard; without their presence being known to the world; without the differences they made, ever being made at all. My point is we ALL have that ability within us, to do such incredibly wonderful, great things. The only difference between “us” and “them” is how we choose to see ourselves against the rest of the world.

And with great vision, often comes great growth which can bring one to endure great pain. Why so? Well consider the caterpillar’s journey through metamorphosis. If its vision only stretched as far as becoming the best caterpillar it could be, it would be denying itself of its true purpose, which is to become the spectacular butterfly. The caterpillar must be open to the belief that he is so much more than what he can physically see now and that in time he will naturally grow into his magnificence. He doesn’t need to plan for it, or hope for it, or wish it. But he will go through a complete and utter destruction of his current self and what he knows himself to be in this moment as a caterpillar. And that can be terrifying and is guaranteed to be quite painful.

“How does one become a butterfly? They have to want to learn to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” – Trina Paulus

And as humans grow, whether intellectually, mentally, spiritually or all of the above, we are not that different from the caterpillar. We often get torn apart, hearts melted, broken and beaten down into an unrecognizable pulp, but in the end we endure as a stronger, wiser version of our former selves. We have become the proverbial butterfly. Only as humans, we get to do this continually throughout our lives as we go through our life lessons and experience what we would perceive as those “painful” times in our lives. Those times that we look back on and whose memory can still make us cry, bring forth anger or sadness, or even guilt and regret.

These experiences stretch us, and can hurt in terrible ways, but if we look at the pain as a measure of strength, we often realize that we are so much more capable of handling life’s trials than we ever imagined. And with this comes an unexpected respect for the pain as you begin to realize that without it, you would not be the person you are today, for it is the pain that pushed you to face your greatness and to pursue your perpetual purpose. It is in the pain that we find appreciation for the little things we take for granted every day. And we are gifted the knowing that without a bit of struggle, we’d never learn how to fully break free of the self-defeating limitations placed upon us by society. Pain challenges us, and it can be our greatest motivator for change; a catalyst for new beginnings and for me personally, perhaps the greatest mentor I’ve ever had.


TamaraRantTamara Rant is a Co-Editor of CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. Connect with Tamara on Facebook by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com