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Healthy Habits: Teaching Children Early

You’ve probably heard the saying “old habits die hard.” People often say it in a negative way, but the same thing holds true for good habits. The earlier you can get your children into the routine of eating healthy, staying active, and getting plenty of sleep, the more likely they are to keep it up for their whole lives.

Set a bedtime routine.

One thing that children need in their lives is predictability. Research has shown that kids between one and six years old need about 12 hours of sleep per night. If you let them go to bed whenever they choose, they won’t sleep as well and will end up having a harder time keeping their emotions in check throughout the day. For children four years old and younger, going to bed around 7 p.m. seems to be a good time. After that, you can start increasing the time a little every few months or a year. Over time, it will show them the importance of getting plenty of good sleep, which can be very helpful during teenage years.

Set an example of eating well.

Children learn by watching the adults in their lives, so if they see their parents snacking on crackers, drinking sugary beverages, and going out to get fast food, they’ll think that’s what they should be doing. Instead, eat meals as a family and make sure to incorporate different vegetables, proteins, and carbs to make it fun and exciting. You can also try out new things together. Emphasize that you enjoy whatever healthy food you’re eating, and your child will become more interested in it. Once your child establishes a love for all kinds of foods, they’ll keep eating them into their adult lives.

Focus on personal hygiene.

Kids love to make messes and of course don’t always understand that clean hands keep them from getting sick. Before every meal, make a point of having them wash their hands. You can do it together to show them how to scrub well. At night, have them take a bath or a shower (with soap) and brush their teeth for two minutes. Good oral hygiene can actually help the health of the whole body. They’ll start to see that being clean is just a part of life, which will make the teenage years easier to transition into as their body odor increases.

Make exercise fun.

Daily exercise isn’t just good for the heart and lungs, it has been shown to decrease the risk of things like depression and cancer, as well as help improve memory and thinking skills. Take your kids to a new park regularly, run around with the dog somewhere, or set up obstacle courses in the backyard. As they climb and play and have fun, they’ll also get their blood flowing and find their strengths. Maybe one of your kids is a fast runner who will do cross country in the future, or maybe you have a kid who loves to do cartwheels and wants be a gymnast. Whatever the activity, spending quality time getting exercise with your kids will only make them more likely to stay active.

Reinforce positive thinking.

Always make a point to compliment your child on their abilities. It can be something small, but little kids feel very proud when they excel at something. Also encourage your child to talk to you if they feel scared or upset, and let them know they don’t have to deal with negative thoughts alone. As they get older, it will teach them self-confidence and skills to cope when stress or anger gets in the way.




10 Ways to Give Your Child an Abundance Mindset

By Faith Spencer

“In the present moment, we already have more than enough conditions for our happiness. We just need to stop and recognize them in order to touch true happiness.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

One major hallmark of children is that they want things. Lots of things. They desperately want their bottle, their pacifier, and whatever shiny toy we flash in front of them. As they get older, every TV commercial sends them our way with a squealing plea such as, “I want the Squishy Snugglemuffin!” 

As adults, however, we have learned the pitfalls of craving thing after thing to make us happy. We’ve learned that, in the Buddha’s words, “The root of suffering is attachment,” and so we try to rise above cravings and attachments. 

Also, we’ve realized that the key to abundance is to appreciate what we already have. As Oprah Winfrey wisely said: “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.” 

We’ve also discovered the value of having faith in a Source beyond ourselves that provides for us. As Jesus said, “Be not therefore anxious, saying, What shall we eat? Or, what should we drink? Or, wherewithal shall we be clothed? For after all these things do the Gentiles seek; for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.” 

This way of viewing life represents what’s called an “abundance mindset” — a belief that the things that we want and need will be provided to us, and that we already have much to appreciate. This mindset helps us to enjoy life without lamenting what we don’t have — and it leads to more abundance.

But how do we help our children to develop this mindset, sooner rather than later? Although children are always going to be little “cravers” to a certain extent, we can facilitate their ability to be satisfied with what they have and to be hopeful about having enough in the future. 

To help our children develop an abundance mindset, try these 10 suggestions:

1. Say YES more often. We all want our children to believe in a benevolent, giving God who bestows blessings upon them abundantly. Since we are all manifestations of Spirit, as parents we are representatives of God as the provider. It follows, then, that as we give to our children as unrestrictedly as we can, we exemplify the giving nature of God. 

This begins with us showing them that spirit of abundance through our attention, time and emotional generosity. We also try to say yes to their requests (within reason). When we are stingy with our children or act as they must always earn good things, we transmit a scarcity mindset that is counter to the nature of God. (We still say no sometimes, of course, but we do so lovingly — see #5 below.)

2. Give before they ask. In the Gospel of Matthew, it reads, “Father knows what you need before you ask him.” As representatives of God, we can delight in giving to our child, making a practice of anticipating their enjoyment as we choose items that we know will brighten their day. Although we may not do this every day, we can try to do it regularly, as this helps our child escape their “greedy” mode and “asking” mode. 

3. Attune to your child. Highly attuned and responsive parents create a secure attachment with their children, and studies show that “the securely attached person expects to be liked and cared for,” according to Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Child. When children expect to be cared for, they can also trust in life to provide for them.

4. Practice empathy. According to Michele Borba, author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World, research reveals that empathy plays “a surprising role in predicting kids’ happiness and success,” including their health, wealth, relationship satisfaction, resilience, and more. To help our children develop empathy, we must first be empathic towards them. We also can teach them empathy in various ways, such as educating them in emotional literacy and asking them how other people might feel.  

5. Help them self-regulate. All children have trouble accepting their limited means to acquire what they want, and they need help recovering from their disappointed feelings. A good way to help children self-regulate is to empathize with their emotions: “It’s so hard to not get that toy! It makes you so sad because it looks so fun!” Next, offer alternatives to help them recover, such as “Maybe when we get home we can get out the play-doh and make a new toy of our own!” Or “I’m so sorry honey,” (hug), “but you know what? We haven’t played much with your new Legos set…maybe we can do that when we get home!” 

The idea is to help them feel that life still offers good things, even if they feel disappointed that they can’t have a certain thing right now. This helps them to develop resilience, to trust in abundance, and to avoid a backlog of stuck feelings that distort their behavior and make them more demanding. 

6. Model and teach gratefulness. One way to foster gratitude is to model a thankful attitude yourself. Teaching children to say thank you is important, but even better is to instill a sense of genuine gratitude and thankfulness by creating a family culture of gracious and generous givers and receivers. Also, studies show that regular gratitude practices, even when done for a short time (such as a few weeks), produce greater happiness levels in children that remain months later. One such practice is asking each person to list what they are grateful for at dinner, at weekly family meetings, or at bedtime. 

7. Model reverence for life. When your children are excited about the rocks they collect in the yard, act excited too. And when they enjoy a small toy from the store, delight in it too. Notice what is special about that toy with them and the amazing things it can do. This instills a reverence for things. The opposite would be a lack of appreciation for things and boredom even when playing with a newly acquired toy. We want our children to be appreciative and to bask in the beauty and glory of everything. This helps them to feel satisfied with what they have.

8. Speak abundantly. Since children unconsciously absorb the beliefs of the people in their home environment, watch your thoughts and especially your words, ensuring that they represent an abundance mindset. Don’t say, “We can’t afford that,” but instead say, “That isn’t in our budget right now, but we can do it another time.” Talk positively and optimistically about money instead of conveying fearful thoughts about your finances.

9. Teach mindfulness. One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is to teach them mindfulness techniques. When children learn that each moment is a friendly moment, rather than something to escape from, they are less likely to engage in mindless consumption. Explains Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh: “Many people consume because they want to cover up the suffering inside.” With so many books, apps and DVDs available today, it’s easier than ever for families to do yoga, meditation or breathing exercises together.

10. Teach “Give, Save, Spend.” When the time is right, give children a weekly allowance and their own money to use. Teach them about thegive, save, spendphilosophy and buy them a special three-slot piggy bank so they can decide how much to use as spending money, how much to save for future goals and how much to give to charity. This helps them to begin to feel powerful about money, to set goals, and to become discerning about what they value. 

As parents, we are in a position to help our children develop a sense of abundance, and this mindset will serve them well their entire lives. It’s important to help our children eschew the notion that things and money equate with happiness. As explained by Shakti Gawain, in her book Creating True Prosperity, “The sad fact is most of us do not experience prosperity no matter how much money we earn or have.” 

As we help our children realize how abundant their lives can be regardless of how much money (or how many toys) they have, they will be ahead of the curve in their ability to thrive. We want our children to know that life will provide for them abundantly and without reservation. This comforting knowledge will help them become adults who can easily create an abundant, fulfilling life.




True Authenticity: The Art of Learning Who You Are & How to be YOU!

Image result for authenticityFrom the moment we’re born, we are subjected to the opinions and labels of the people around us…

“OH! What a beautiful baby girl!”, “I will name her Jasmine because it’s MY favorite smell.”, “She WILL go to college.”

Now, while I’m sure we can all agree these are pretty innocent and common examples of how we are labeled without our input, but it just goes to show how quickly it begins upon our entering the world. We may think we come as a blank slate, but does anyone know any parents that don’t already have some sort of life plan mapped out they hope their kid will follow?

And while I’m sure we can all agree it’s usually with good intentions and comes from ma good place, a lot of the time, it does not. And the weight of the baggage that can add to a person’s incarnation is quite heavy. Because if we already already have it in our minds that because our little girl is just “so cute” and because perhaps Mom always wanted to model, but didn’t…she will now live vicariously through the child and force her will and own un-lived and unexpressed desires onto her children, and hopefully she will at least ask them if they even want to.

But many parents don’t and we see this in the little boy that feels not good enough because his dad was a quarterback all-star for his high school, and expect the same from his boy. Dad sees this as a measure of success and therefore pushes the boy in the same direction so he can also be “successful”. But what IS success? The amount of money in your bank account? The number of likes on your Facebook feed? Or perhaps it goes a bit deeper and is more authentically represented in how happy and aligned someone is living their life.

To me, the true measure of success has always been a genuine smile. If you are truly happy with the life you’ve created for yourself, no matter WHAT it looks like, then in my humble opinion you’ve obtained the ultimate success in life. Because while some of the richest people can be secretly depressed and feel alone and isolated as they realize money doesn’t fill the emptiness inside, and while some of the poorest people can be outwardly joyous and feel connected and alive as they realize happiness is a choice, and that it is often the love you are surrounded by, not always the money in your bank account that gets you through the hardest times.

I think deep down, we all kind of know this innately. I believe to BE human, no matter where you land on the “kindness” scale in regards to what type of energy you choose to put out to the world, each and every one of us is ingrained with a sense of humanity and connectedness. Even those who apparently have gone off the deep end, or appear so evil, distant, and/or inhumane, to be human, it simply comes with the turf…some of us have just had the switch turned off temporarily due to trauma, etc. Some choose to incarnate that way, in order to learn the lessons they were meant to. My point is, we are not here to judge ANYONE, no matter what they do.

I’m not justifying wrong-doings and I’m not supporting negativity or hate. What I’m doing is simply revealing the honest expression of balance we all came here to find. And it would be impossible without the sprinkling of different human personalities; each at a different level of emotional quotients in relation to experience and reactions. We are all literally unique in that regard, and it’s why while nothing truly is original as all comes the “the Aether” (I’ll save that for another article…), rest assured we are all UNIQUE. No one has ever had, has or will ever have the same mixture of DNA, memories, choices, experiences, traits, etc. that we do. And therefore, even if there are a million other people doing exactly what you are, NO ONE can do it exactly the way you do it.

This is why it’s so important to learn who we truly are. What WE truly love to do in life and what brings us joy, regardless of what that looks like to ANYONE ELSE. When we drop the expectations of others, only then are free to truly be who we are. And sadly, many adults never even discover who they really are until well into old age; and then it becomes a fast-down hill ride into regret town.

If we keep our best hopes and dreams in our hearts for our children and for everyone we love, but still allow them the creative space to bring their own energy and needs into the pictures, then we begin to see children growing up into adults who actually know who they are, and are actually okay with it!

It’s when we express our own need for validation through others that our kids will see themselves as not good enough. If they see us doubt ourselves, knowing they are a part of you, they will, of course, begin to take on that same energy. If we instead expressed our confidence in a way that creates space for everyone else to do the same, we instead show our kids that it’s okay to be who we are and it’s okay to let others find out who they are for themselves.

I think while we often think we are coming from a good place, we place such high expectations on the people we love and it’s time we just step back and remember that love is not about itself. It’s about expansion. And by that I mean, the release of anything tight, constricting, barring, or in the way of growth so to speak. Love is free-flowing and has no intentions other than its own self-expression. Consider it like the fractal of emotions, in a state of permanent authenticity.

And when we begin to see ourselves in the same way, the love that we ALL are when we remove the labels, judgments, and expectations, we all ourselves to enter that same state where learning who we are ceases and we are finally free to just…BE.

“We are constantly invited to be who we are.” – Henry David Thoreau

 

Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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The Top 10 Things Children Really Want Their Parents to Do with Them

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By Erin Kurt | Lifehack

What do you think matters most to your children? You driving them to lessons and practices, or is it the smile and hug you greet them with after school? If you guessed the latter, you are correct.

Sixteen years of teaching and giving the same assignment every Mother’s Day has led me to the exact same conclusion. You see, every Mother’s Day I would ask my students to give me advice on being a mother. They were to think about things their mother or guardian did for or with them that made them feel happy or loved. The classroom would go silent as the students wrote intensely for longer than they had ever written before. Often smiles would appear on their faces as they reflected on the happy experiences they were remembering. After reading their responses I would add to my list all the ideas they mentioned. Surprisingly, many of the responses were the same. Year after year, in every country I taught, and in every type of demographic, the students were saying the same things and had the same message: It’s the small things that their mothers did that meant the most and that they remembered.

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Many moms today feel as if they are not good mothers unless they are racing around, shuttling their children from lessons to practices and back to lessons again. I’ve had mothers tell me that they want to give their children every opportunity they did not have. While this thinking might bring the mother some comfort, it really does not do the same for their child who is potentially feeling overextended, stressed and tired.

After speaking endlessly about this topic with my students, it became clear to me that children today are involved in too many activities and are in turn becoming less in touch with themselves and their families. In addition, my students told me they really wished for more time to “just play”. Of course, many of them enjoy their extracurricular activities, but it is not necessary they said to be allowed to do everything. What they enjoyed most, and what made their hearts happiest was when their mothers did simple things for or with them.

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Here is a list of the top ten things students around the world said they remembered and loved most about their mothers.

1) Come into my bedroom at night, tuck me in and sing me a song. Also, tell me stories about when you were little.

2) Give me hugs and kisses and sit and talk with me privately.

3) Spend quality time just with me, not with my brothers and sisters around.

4) Give me nutritious food so I can grow up healthy.

5) At dinner talk about what we could do together on the weekend.

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MRI Study Associates Screen Time Exposure In Children To Lower Brain Development

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By John Vibes | Truth Theory

 

According to a new study published in the journal JAMA Pediatrics, too much screen time for young children could be linked to slower brain development. The study’s lead author Dr. John Hutton, a pediatrician and clinical researcher at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital, says that this is the first known study to examine how screen time affects the actual structure of a child’s growing brain.

In the study, Hutton and his team scanned the brains of children in the sensitive age group between 3 and five years old. They found that the white matter in the brain was less developed in children who spent more time in front of screens. White matter is important to thought processing and the development of speech and literacy.

Hutton says that the first five years of brain development is extremely important.

“This is important because the brain is developing the most rapidly in the first five years. That’s when brains are very plastic and soaking up everything, forming these strong connections that last for life,” Hutton told CNN.

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Hutton said that children who spent more time in front of screens spend less time interacting with actual people, which is an essential part of creating the pathways in the brain that will make it easier to develop social and cognitive skills.

 

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5 Important Steps To Develop a Strong Morale While Growing Up

By Patricia Evans | Purpose Fairy

Becoming a great leader isn’t an overnight thing. It takes years and years of hard work, determination, grit, and experience to display good leadership skills. Some take the mantle of leadership when they start working, some in their later years, while others are groomed in their younger years.

If your child starts to display qualities of leadership at a young age, give a helping hand as early as possible to hone that gift. How? By checking out these five steps on how to develop a child’s morale when growing up. This way, he or she can get a head start.

What is Strong Morale?

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines “morale” as principles, teachings, or conduct. What does it have to do with leadership? Everything! Having good morale is one of the building blocks of a good leader. 

Good morale is especially important to children, as they face the different trials life throws at them. Without it, a child who is aiming to become a leader will not have the motivation to succeed.

5 Important Steps To Develop a Strong Morale While Growing Up

They will have no initiative to start things, and apathy will kill their dreams. With that in mind, here are five steps to develop strong morale in your child while growing up.

1. Be a role model 

In their early years, children look up to the people they spend time with the most. These would be their parents or primary caregivers. These people, by default, become their role models who mold the child’s character and traits.

According to Live Strong, role models can affect a child’s self-esteem, academic performance, anger management, and a child’s ability to overcome difficulties. Moreover, role models can play a factor in drug and alcohol abuse. This means that children can copy both the good and the bad traits of their parents. Even success at work can be affected, especially if children grow up not knowing what leadership is in management or by copying bad behavior.

Show your children empathy. Psychologist Michele Borba teaches in her books on moral development in children that empathy in a parent-child relationship allows parents to teach important values to build their child’s character. 

2. Let them practice

How will they know what their leadership skills are if they don’t try? They need to practice the things you teach them. Let them practice becoming a leader. Start with simple team-building activities to boost morale within the family.

You can try the spaghetti and marshmallow tower activity so they can practice their leadership skills. Depending on the number of people in your family, split them up into different teams. Assign your child as the leader of the team. If you have two children or more, you can each assign them as leaders of their own respective teams.

Give each team a box of uncooked spaghetti noodles and a pack of marshmallows. Instruct them to use these to build the tallest tower they can within the allotted time. Five minutes should be enough to spark their competitive spirit and save some food. The team with the tallest tower wins.

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3. Allow them to make mistakes

Whether they just tripped on a stone and hurt their knee or get their hearts broken by their crush, it’s no secret that parents see their children making mistakes hurts them as much or even more. Parents wouldn’t want to see them get hurt physically or emotionally because that’s their natural instinct. But some of the most important lessons in life are learned from making mistakes.

Parents need to burst their protective bubble to a certain extent and allow their children to make mistakes. They need to learn when to step in and when to stay back.

A secret to coming up with creative morale boosters after making a mistake is to listen to them, allow them to admit their mistakes, be private as possible, and be positive. Doing these will help children learn from their mistakes and allow them to bounce back with confidence – especially when treated with love and empathy.

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This School Replaced Detention with Meditation – and the Results are Amazing!

Video Source: Holistic Life Foundation

By Carey Wedler | The Anti-Media

(ANTIMEDIA) Though many schools across America are embracing police in schools and strict forms of punishment, others are taking a different, more peaceful approach — and they’re generating extraordinary results.

The Holistic Me After School Program, run by the Holistic Life Foundation, has made huge strides at Baltimore’s Robert W. Coleman Elementary School. By teaching yoga and meditation techniques to young students, Holistic Life is helping them deal with difficult circumstances.

The program first started as a response to troubled communities. Andres Gonzalez, Atman Smith, and Ali Smith are three locals who decided they wanted to make a difference.

What these kids experience, it’s like a war zone out there. The environment, in general, with crime and drugs and just violence, it’s like all these kids are experiencing PTSD. This is the war zone…they’re in the midst of it. They’re living it,” Andres explains in a Ted Talk from 2014. These adverse environments in struggling communities can contribute to children’s ability to excel in school.

One thing we always say is that they call inner cities hoods and not neighborhoods because all the neighbors have moved out,” Atman says. “Honestly, that’s one of the reasons why we wanted to start doing the work that we did… to bring that love, that village, that family vibe back to our community.

They approached Carlillian Thompson, the principal of nearby Robert W. Cole Elementary School, eager to implement an after school program. She welcomed them with open arms.

“’Give us a list of all the kids that you think are the problem kids,’” Andres says they told her. “[S]o we took all those under our wing.,”

After about the first three months, I started noticing a difference in the behavior. I said ‘Well, there must really be something to this,’” Thompson recalls.

She says the program started with 30 children suffering from anger management and low self-esteem issues. Since it was initiated, it has grown to 90 students and also includes gardening, cleaning up local parks, and visiting farms. Additionally, the school has replaced detention with the “Mindful Moment Room,” where unruly students go to meditate or practice breathing exercises before returning to class. This project is also being implemented in other schools.

The children love Holistic,” Thompson says, noting students who have moved on to middle school often return to participate and help out.

Ms. Thompson, a teacher at the elementary school, also enthusiastically praises the program. “The after school program is benefiting the school in tremendous ways. I know for a fact that the services they’re providing to the students help them calm down,” she says.

I’ve had a girl in previous years that was rambunctious — [she] didn’t know how to control her anger.” She recalls the girl was in third grade when she joined the program. “[S]o by the time I got her in fourth, she was making healthy decisions about dealing with conflict and calming herself down.” Thomas says the girl participated in the program each year, and by fifth grade, “she was becoming a leader.”

In addition to teaching meditation and breathing techniques, mentors with the after school program also help students use movement to become more in touch with their bodies. “Yoga helps me because I get to relax my legs and my neck every day, and every day I get to relax new parts of my body and it helps my body,” says one young girl who participates in the program, which also allows students to help guide the classes.

Jon Kabat-Zinn, a renowned meditation and mindfulness expert, has praised the innovative approach.

It’s wonderful. First of all, to see the kids guiding the various yoga poses and keeping the cadence, keeping the rhythm, keeping the attention of all the kids is really remarkable,” he says. He believes the program is empowering children, both internally and externally:

I think just for a young student to have that opportunity to get up in front of the class and regulate the whole class and invite them to engage in this really extraordinary practice that involves having the kids experience their own interior life, in terms of the body and in terms of their breath and in terms of the thoughts and emotions that move through the mind.”

Evidence continues to emerge suggesting yoga and meditation are effective tools to combat stress and anxiety. One recent study found a consistent meditation practice is as effective at combating depression as some anti-depressants. Another concluded students who practice yoga experience reduced stress and improved academic performance. Meditation may also help improve students’ performance.

Considering the power of yoga and meditation, it’s no surprise they are increasingly being used in schools (and inprisons and with veterans). Holistic Life Foundation, alone, serves 14 schools and 4,500 students in Baltimore, according to the organization’s website. They also employ 30 Baltimore youth, some of whom went through the program themselves when they were in elementary school. In addition to their after school program, Holistic Life runs programsfor other age groups.

Perhaps the core of Holistic Life’s effectiveness rests on one particular aspect of yoga and meditation. As Ali explained:

Kids get empowered by learning yoga mantras. They see they’re in control of themselves and that no one else has to give them medication or yell at them and scream at them. When they feel — and they’re aware of — anger rising or sadness rising, they can address it…You give them tools to deal with it and they feel happy about it because they’re in control.

Rather than using force and discipline, which is often the first course of action in educational institutions, Holistic Life’s mission is different.

Instead of punishing students, they are uplifting and empowering them, and the results speak for themselves. Robert W. Coleman issued zero suspensions last year. As one fifth grade student in Baltimore said of what she learned:

Sometimes when I get mad I just breathe deep… I just, like I picture me being in a certain place I like, and I just [think] I [can] overcome everybody and then I just stop being mad…I think of being a bigger person and doing something maybe a wise man would do… I think of something that a stronger, a mentally stronger person would do.”


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2 Dire Growth Problems Our Youth Face

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The iPhone Generation or Zombie Apocalypse

I was listening to a radio program where a psychologist was talking about the problems this new generation face — one being a high rate of teen suicide due to lack of coping skills or the ability to communicate with others.

The expectations (and most are fake or supremely fudged over) that the young adults of today face are insurmountable — the ‘look like this’, ‘have a body like that’, ‘look how happy we are’ statuses and the constant flood of societal dictation of what beauty, brains and normal is.

God forbid if you think for yourself, dress how you want, love your body for what it is or stand up for others who are being ridiculed by their peers and not follow this preordained trend.

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To the trained eye and savvy social media peruser, it can even be a difficult task to filter out the fake from the true. Can you then imagine how difficult it must be for a developing adolescent to figure out what’s going on? The pressure and high intensity of our current techie age must be daunting to an impressionable mind!

Calling it What it is…

We need to help guide the youth to trust their instincts, follow their dreams, think for themselves, question everything and be comfortable in their own skin.

We also have a duty to warn them of these 2 inherent dangers that are about to stunt their personal growth, as I see it:

  1. Lack of Humility/Modesty — this new social media age is breeding a monster called ‘selfies’. If I see another duck face on my Facebook feed I think I might take a long walk off a short plank. I fear this syndrome has not only captivated the youth and teens — it has some adults in its firm and fierce-some grip too! To continually post photo’s of yourself (as taken by yourself and not to be confused with good ‘ol holiday snaps or ‘capturing the moment’ snaps as taken by others) on any social media platform is just darn-right vain. I have some acquaintances who do it several times a day and they’re adults! I can’t actually believe this kind of behavior and cringe when I see my whole feed taken up by fish faces. I don’t even think once a week is healthy (which reminds me of a status I saw: ‘I didn’t have time to take a selfie but you can rest assured that I still look fabulous!’…he he). Some people find ANY excuse to take a pic of themselves and don’t hesitate to hit the share button…again…and again. It shows either a massive ego at play or a very small one (lack of self-confidence hence wanting constant affirmation of one’s beauty/relevance). I saw a quote the other day that sums it up nicely: “Never before has a generation so diligently documented themselves accomplishing so little” (credit on photo: www.thefreethoughtproject.com). If we don’t nip this in the bud, we will be breeding a world full of egocentric individuals more focused on what other people think of them/their abilities instead of just getting on with the job quietly without pomp and ceremony (‘Dare, Do, Keep Silent’). Our children need to be made aware that to be humble in service to others and help our fellow human beings build immense strong character — to be of service only to self whilst blowing your own trumpet creates none. Selfies could indeed paint a more grim picture than we might have imagined. Our children need to be taught that relevance, appropriateness, and subtlety is key.
  2. Lack of One-on-One Communication — the other problem our youth face is not being able to effectively communicate with others. With faces firmly glued to screens for most of the day, it’s little wonder that this generation lacks proper social relations. This is more of a problem than it may appear on the surface. Of course, it’s annoying (and bloody rude) when people are constantly checking in on their phone apps whilst with you (read related article: Stop (Wi)Frying Yourself — Starting Today (Especially Family Units!) but the more inherent problem is when these youngsters really need help and to talk about their problems but have no skills to relay or open a dialogue to discuss their issues either with their parents, elders or peers. Communique with others predominantly via electronic devices leaves out the imperative one-on-one contact you get when corresponding in the flesh. You don’t get to develop your skills at body language, eye contact and a host of other things. This can lead to faulty judgment and/or a complete lack of confidence when corresponding in the outside world. Our youth will need this kind of report when seeking employment or any other grown-uppy kind of thing and how are they possibly going to manage when they have no clue when it comes to a physical interface?

We all like the comfort of having the world at our fingertips via our phones but we also need to be aware of the downside and curb excessive and unnecessary use — and that goes for all, young and old.

Limit your time on your phone and have a cut-off point where you pack it away and spend quality time with your friends or family — phone free. Do this and you will be an example to your children (and/or other people’s children).

Related article: How Balanced Are You?

CRDCherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist, and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose, and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.

Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment — for article updates). She also has just recently launched her official art Facebook page (Cherie Roe Dirksen – for new art updates).

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12 Things to Never Tell Your Kids

Source: Power of Positivity

Children learn by example, period. How you act, what you say, and personal shortcomings – if done within the earshot or eye line of a child – is prone to replication by your kids.

Unfortunately, far too many parents disregard or downplay the susceptibility of the child’s brain. Out of ignorance, these parents ramble on, curse, and even verbally abuse one another in a child’s presence. Caught up in their own internal world, the adult fails to self-monitor for the sake of the child.

On the flip side, good behavior and speech are just as prone to replication. A child, after all, looks at their parents as role models. “Oh, this is how I’m supposed to talk?” “This is the way I’m supposed to act?.” “Okay, well, if Mommy and Daddy are doing it, it must be right.” Make no mistake, this is how every child perceives their parent’s actions until they know better.

In this article, we’re going to discuss twelve things never to tell your kids. As to gain an understanding of why restraining speech is paramount, we’ll provide a rudimentary discussion on child psychology.

The Child Brain

“Early experiences affect the development of brain architecture, which provides the foundation for all future learning, behavior, and health.”

~ Center on the Developing Child, Harvard University (source)

To say that the human brain is remarkable is putting it lightly. The adaptability, growth, and sheer complexity of the human brain is impossible to fathom.

Get this: In the first five or so years in life, the child’s brain forms over 1 million new brain cell (neuron) connections every second. Every second. Astonishing.

This immense growth helps to explain why these first fear years are so vital to development.  The combination of genes (which “provide the blueprint”) and experience (which “constructs the building”) serves as the mechanism which forms the child’s brain architecture. We will primarily focus on the latter.

Serve and Return

Psychologists use the phrase “serve and return” to describe the child-parent interactions that shape the brain architecture of children and infants. An infant or young child “serves” by babbling, crying, or gesturing; the parent “returns” by responding appropriately with eye contact, a hug, and/or words. Or they don’t. Or they “return” in a way that stunts the child’s communication, social skills, and other pertinent functions.

This serves and returns relationship is absolutely vital to a child’s development. When adults and parents place importance on this relationship, the child (and parent) benefits. So when parents, for whatever reason, do not, the child is deprived of an environment conducive to emotional and psychological health.

“When adult responses to children are unreliable, inappropriate, or simply absent,” states the Harvard University Center on the Developing Child website, “developing brain circuits can be disrupted, affecting how children learn, solve problems, and relate to others.”

12 Things To Never Tell Your Kids

“The words with which a child’s heart is poisoned, whether through malice or through ignorance, remain brained in his memory, and sooner or later they burn his soul.”

~ Carlos Ruiz Zafón, The Shadow of the Wind

  1. “Hurry Up!”

When a child is continuously told to “Hurry up!” they become super sensitive to fluctuations in their parent’s mood. While this may sound rather harmless, psychologists state that aggressively telling a child to hurry causes additional stress.

Instead, you may want to try turning your frustration into a game. “Who can get their shoes on first?!” “Bet I can get to the car faster than you!”. You get the idea.

  1. “Don’t Talk to Strangers.”

While telling a child to avoid people they don’t know sounds like good advice, it can backfire. For example, if someone’s nice to your child, they may think that they’re not “strangers” anymore.

Instead, imagine a situation and ask your child what they would do. “If a strange man pulls up in a car and tells you to get in, what do you do?” Another strategy is to issue a wide ultimatum and keep repeating it until the child remembers it. For example, “If anyone ever makes you feel afraid, confused, or scared, you need to ignore them.”

  1. “I’ll Do It” Or “Let Me Help You.”

It can be challenging to see our beloved child struggling with something, especially when they’re putting their hearts into a problem. “If you jump in too soon,” says Myrna Shure, Ph.D., and professor of psychology at Drexel University, “that can undermine your child’s independence because he’ll always be looking to others for answers.

Try to help the child by offering some advice or asking a guiding question relevant to the task at hand before jumping in.

  1. “I Know You Didn’t Mean To Do That.”

Do you really know this? Be careful here. If you unknowingly profess ignorance regarding some unfavorable action, your child may be inclined to try and get away with it again – or something else.

Of course, if a child feels incredibly guilty about something that you know they didn’t do, that’s a different story. By all means, offer comfort and support.

  1. “I’ll Turn This Car Around.”

This one is all about empty threats. When your child misbehaves, do you actually turn the car around so that they think twice?

Perhaps a more important question to ask is: why are they misbehaving in the first place? Children misbehave for several reasons, some of which are overlooked by parents.

  1. “I’m So Fat/Ugly/Stupid.”

In early childhood, the concept of self-image is foreign. Babies and young kids don’t think about how they look. How should they judge themselves and others? By how much fat they have? By physical appearance? Or by inherent intellect?

This is the message we’re sending when we complain about being fat, ugly, dumb or any other self-defeating language in front of a child.

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How to Make Separation Anxiety Easier for Mum and Bub

Separation anxiety is a regular occurrence for toddlers. Some sources have indicated that separation anxiety is at its highest level around the three-year-old mark. However, the fear has been known to start from as early as six months old, lasting up until schooling years.

If your child is showing symptoms of separation anxiety, you can try the tips below to make it easier for them and yourself.

Keep the Surrounding Familiar

Where possible, stick to the same nanny or babysitter to take care of your toddler at home while you are away. You can start hiring this nanny from before your baby reaches six months old so that your toddler will get familiar with them.

If you cannot keep your toddler at home, provide your baby with some familiar creature comforts such as his or her regular baby capsule. An everyday object in an unfamiliar place can help to ease some of your toddler’s anxiety and stress.

Play Peek-a-Boo with Your Toddler

Your infant has no concept of object permanence before they reach the age of six months old. This is why, when you play peek-a-boo with young infants, they seem to marvel at how you can disappear and reappear so suddenly!

Slowly, start to play peek-a-boo from behind furniture, rooms and so on. This activity trains your child to anticipate your returning. Once they start understanding object permanence, they will realize that you have left and will soon return.

Inform about Your Departure

Toddlers do not have a firm concept of time. Nevertheless, it would be helpful for you to tell your child when you’re leaving and when you’ll be back, assuming that they will understand. Try to do this while keeping a relaxed and happy face so that your child will feel safe and secure.

Letting your child know about your leaving is better than sneaking out while your child is not paying attention. When your child notices that you are suddenly gone, they may feel confused or upset. It would also be harder to comfort them the next time you leave them!

Provide Positive Reinforcement to Your Toddler

While at home, you can tell your child stories about separation anxiety involving animals and creatures. Stories like this can make your children feel like they are not alone in feeling the way they do. A child being able to relate to another character will always provide a sense of comfort.

Additionally, you can compliment your child when they are well-behaved when you are away. Let them know how brave they are. You can also give them plenty of positive affirmations to help them learn about the behaviour they should display whenever you’re not around.

Start with Short Absences

Instead of being away for the entire day the first time you are leaving your child, try limiting your time out to just an hour. Make the farewell short and sweet, and don’t come back to check on your child in that timeframe.

Interact with your child for a while before you leave them in your babysitter’s care. After a few practices, your child will get used to your being away. You can then extend your time away from your child a little longer each time.

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12 Simple Steps for GUIDING Children INTO Their Highest Expressions

By Jessie Klassen | Wake Up World

As parents during this intense and exciting time on Earth, we accepted and/or chose an extremely important job.   We are guiding the next caretakers of the Earth and the evolution of humanity.

Our children are growing up in a world where they are faced with challenges unlike those we have ever seen.  The world is literally at their fingertips, and although this has a great opportunity when applied correctly, it also brings constant distraction and stimulation, therefore pulling them away from connecting with Nature and looking inward and knowing who they are.

Not only this but with climate change, a contaminated food chain, toxic water,  questionable vaccines, and outdated school programs, it has never been more important for us as parents to be “awake.”

Because the truth is, we can thrive here if we are living our lives by heart-centered decisions that are led by our intuition, and not by the lies and propaganda that we have been told.

And yes, it may seem impossible to not get caught in the traps, but when we teach our children awareness and allow their “awakened selves” to shine through, they will be aware of the traps and will be able to see them for what they are.  When we are aware, we are impossible to trap.

And essentially, we will be creating the peaceful, joyous Earth that we all came here to create.

A misconception that I have noticed around our children commonly known as the Indigo’s, starseeds, etc., is that they are automatically “tuned in” and kind or that they would never do or say something rude or questionable.

But what I have experienced with my oldest son, Shep, is that, yes, he is incredibly sensitive, and he is “tuned in”, but he is also clearing SO much old karma and re-balancing back to his Highest Expression of himself in this lifetime, that he has been susceptible to all kinds of interference and questionable behavior.

Shep is, in His Divine Nature, a sweetie.  He loves to hug and snuggle, but he also would experience intense and erratic mood swings.  You never knew what kind of day you were going to have with him.  His highs were high – loving, jokey, and creative.  And his lows were low – brooding, angry, sulky, withdrawn.  Never mean but constantly unpredictable.

As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to see your child in this unhappy little body and know that they are in there, but how do you get to them?

It was also heartbreaking and disappointing when we would hear of something completely out of character that he had done because you just knew that that wasn’t really him.

And afterward, he always felt awful, but he could barely remember doing it.  It was as if he had no control over himself.  He struggled to communicate or give any explanation, as there really wasn’t one that he knew of.

Because he really didn’t know, because it wasn’t really the “true” Shep.  His energy body was so influenced by energetic cords from past lives and outer stimulation’s (and we live on a secluded farm), that the real Shep was unable to shine through and be in control all of the time.

So how do we guide our children into the Highest expressions of themselves?

1. Energetic Cord Clearing

This simple practice has worked wonders for my older kids as they seem to have come into this life with a lot of old baggage to clear out.  My article An Empowering Cord Cutting Exercise for Children” gives an easy technique for doing so, or you can visit an energy worker/healer who can help.

I have found with my kids that explaining how energy works have been extremely empowering for them because understanding how energy works is understanding how EVERYTHING works.

That essentially, everything you “put out there” will come back to you, and that everything you do to others you are doing to yourself.

That energy always attracts the energy of the same frequency or vibration, and when we have a “high” vibration, we attract other people and experiences with a high vibration as well.  These include love and joy, kindness, compassion, and vitality.

I often ask my kids, “what are you feeding?”  Which energy pathway are you focusing on and giving energy to?  What we focus on, we strengthen.

Simply knowing how energy works awaken our children to the truth that we are powerful beings, and that they always have control over their own energy.

And when things don’t always go their way?

2. “It’s All For You”

These four little words relieve a whole lot of pressure.  Because no matter what, the experience was meant to teach you something and help you grow into who you are meant to become.  I often ask my kids after something happened, such as, “what did you learn?”

The importance of looking for the lesson is life-altering.  We begin to trust Life because we know that it is always looking out for our best interest.  And when we acknowledge and look for the lesson, Life will not have to repeat it.

3. “You are Already Good”

Not long ago, when we were going through a major shift and purging, Shep’s behavior was hitting an all-time unpredictability.

Whoever he happened to be around at the time, he became.  He always joined in and seemed to have no self-control.

After a certain incident at school, he came home crying, “Help me be good! I want to be good! I don’t know how!”

I hugged him, and the only words that I could think to tell him were, “You are already good.  You have always been good.  You just have to believe it.  I will help you, but I can’t do it for you.  You have to believe in yourself.”

Shep made a decision that day to be true to himself, and his willpower shifted his entire energy field.  Although we had been clearing constantly, he had to reach a level of maturity and awareness where he could let it go and stand strong in himself.

He changed who he was hanging around with at school as he could recognize their influence.  I told him, “You can still play with them as long as they are behaving in a way that is true to you.  And when they are not, walk away.  You do not have to join in.”

I have to say, Shep’s older sister, Summer, has been a wonderful teacher of this lesson.  At ten years old, she has the ability to always being aligned with who she is.  She can simply observe from a neutral standpoint and never get carried away and join in.

4. Affirmations

We did a lot of them. We fine-tuned them to project what Shep was wanting most of all; to trust himself, and for his family to be able to trust him as well.

Shep wrote them out and we placed them where he could see them every day as a reminder to help solidify new beliefs into his being.

They were, “I am good. I am strong. I love myself. I can trust myself to always do what is true for me. My family can trust me too.”

I did constant reminders to him when he would step out the door for school, “be strong in who you are”, or “you will remember who you are”.

Related Article: 11 Affirmations to Build Confidence in Yourself

5. Eating Clean, High Vibration Food

What we take into our bodies has to match the vibration that we are encouraging.  Therefore, as little processed food as possible, lots of organic fruits and veggies, if possible, and lots of water.  My kids have always been exceptionally thirsty during these shifts, as we are moving a lot of energy and as we are mostly made of water, keeping hydrated is essential.  Shep still occasionally craves meat, but I always tell my kids, “Listen to your bodies”, so we ensure that the meat that is eaten has been ethically raised, which for Shep, happens to be right here on our farm.

6. Connect with the Earth

Plant a garden or a planter box with your child. Develop a relationship with Nature.  Mother Earth is here for us as we are here for her.  We form a connection and an interaction by showing respect and kindness to all beings.  Set an example by stepping around the bugs, hugging the trees, and giving thanks to Mother Earth for the food that you eat or the home that you live in.

I like to ask, “What does Nature have to teach me today?”

You will soon find Nature responding to you and “seeking you out.”  Because as we change the way we look at things, the things we look at will change.

One of the greatest gifts that we can teach our children is that magic is real and is around us at all times.  Encourage your child to help Nature with something as simple as setting up a colorful bowl of water with stones for the bees and butterflies to land on while they drink.

My children and I do regular garbage pickups when we are out and about.  I always tell them, “Don’t expect somebody else to do it.  If everybody picked up garbage every time they have seen it, what a different world this would be.  Be kind to Mother Earth.  She feels everything you do and she’ll thank you in many ways.”  This simple lesson will instill responsibility for the world around them and hopefully a proactive approach to life as they grow up.

So many have the attitude, “it’s not my garbage, why should I pick it up?”

Well, it’s not Mother Earth’s either, so pick it up!  Your fellow species dumped it there, so take responsibility for it.

7. Make Self-Love a Daily Routine

Our children need to feel love for themselves if they are to heal and shine in their Highest Expression.  Every night at bed, and every morning when they wake up, I have my kids look into a mirror and say “I love you.”  Have them look straight into their own eyes.  Encourage them to go farther and give themselves compliments such as, “I love how unique you are”, or “You are so kind to others, you really are making this world a better place” or “You are important and are bringing light to this world.”

Related Article: 4 Sure-Fire Ways to Love Yourself More So You’ll Have More Love to Give (Video)

Let’s face it, the days will go by regardless, so we may as well love ourselves and make the choice to be happy with who we are.

8. Gratitude

By far, one of the fastest emotions to shift energy to a higher vibration.  In the morning, they can thank their bed for a good night’s sleep or they can thank a pet for their love and comfort.  There are literally opportunities for gratitude everywhere we look.  And when we are appreciative of what we have, we open our energy pathways to more things to be grateful for.  These are the basics that will spark awakening and cultivate fulfillment and contentment.

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15 Things Great Parents Do Differently

By Luminita D. Saviuc | Purpose Fairy 

“Great parents raise their children to value people for what they have in their hearts, not in their pockets…” ~ Luminita D. Saviuc

Your children are life’s gift to you. The way you raise your children is the gift you give back to life. Pour your love and wisdom onto them, and you will pour your love and wisdom into life. Pour your ignorance and passivity, and the whole world will suffer – yourself including.

15 Things Great Parents Do Differently

1. Great parents strive to be like their children, and not to the other way around.

Great parents are aware of the fact that our prior condition is love, light, and happiness. Therefore, they don’t try to make their children be like them. But rather, they aspire to become like their children. They know that just as Kahlil Gibran said it so beautifully,

“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.” ~ Kahlil Gibran

2. Great parents practice non-interference.

They understand that parenting isn’t about having children lean on you, but rather about making learning unnecessary. And through their words, actions and behaviors, they teach their children how to become self-reliant – to always follow their own compass and to trust the quiet voice of their heart and intuition more than the loud voice of the world. 

“Parenting is not about having children lean on you but making leaning unnecessary. They have a compass, let them follow their own compass; freeing you up to be your own person on your own time and allowing them to become who they are to become.” ~ Wayne Dyer

3. Great parents teach their children to honor the relationship they have with their inner Divinity.

Great parents know that the relationship with their Inner Being is the most important relationship in their children’s lives – even more important than the relationship with their parents. Thus, they encourage their children to look within; to seek for Truth, for Love, and for guidance, within the center of their own Being; to honor the voice of their heart, and to always walk on the path that life intended them to walk upon.

“Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” ~ Matthew 10:37

4. They protect, preserve and develop their children’s genius.

Years ago, an incredible study was made at Harvard University called Project Zero where Howard Gardner, together with his colleagues found that every child is born a genius across multiple bits of intelligence and that by the age of 20, the percentage of geniuses within a population whittles down to 10%… and over the age of twenty, only 2% retained their genius ability.

As Buckminster Fuller said it so beautifully, “All children are born geniuses; 9,999 out of every 10,000 are swiftly, inadvertently degeniusized by grownups.”

Great parents are aware of the fact that their children are geniuses. And they do their best to protect, preserve and constantly develop their child’s genius, talents, and unique gifts and abilities. They treasure their children’s genius and do not interfere with their ability to create and express themselves freely and openly.

5. They encourage their children to live in alignment with their life purpose.

Great parents don’t try to impose unrealistic or unsuitable expectations on their children. But rather, they encourage them to always do the things they feel in their hearts is right for them, even if these things make little or no sense to others.

They are constantly reminding their children that each and every one of us is meant to walk on a unique path in life and that only by walking on this path we will always remember who we really are, where we come from, where we’re going and why we are here on this planet.

6. Great parents don’t give up on themselves ‘for the children’s sake.

Even though they take the lives of their children seriously – caring for their happiness, education, health, and well-being, these parents know that they are more than the roles they play. Thus, they honor themselves and the path they walk in life. They take good care of themselves and the things that have so much value and meaning to them. And they make sure not to fall into the trap of giving up on themselves and their lives ‘ for the children’s sake’.

7. Great parents teach their children to never look for love and approval outside themselves.

Because they know that we were all created whole and perfect and that within ourselves lies hidden all the love, happiness, and approval we need and desire, they teach their children to never burden anyone by making other people responsible for how they feel or don’t feel. But rather to look within. And to trust that in doing so, they will discover the love and approval we all need and long for.

8. Great parents teach their children to live with an open heart.

In spite of the many disappointments, heartbreaks, betrayals, and hurtful situations they might experience in life. And in spite of the many pains and struggles they might face as they advance through life, great parents teach their children to never give up on love.

They know that love is life and life is love. And they teach their children to never give up on love. Because if they do, they give up on life… 

9. They educate their children to be happy.

Great parents don’t educate their children to be rich, but rather to be happy; to seek to become men and women of value, not of success. So that when they grow up, they realize the value of things and not their price…

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” ~ John Lennon

10. They inspire their children to treat all living beings with respect, love, and compassion.

Through their wise words and living examples, they teach their children to treat all living beings with respect, love, kindness, and compassion. And they help them understand that just as their parents are worthy of their love and affection, so is the whole world.

“How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.” ~ George Washington Carver

11. Great parents encourage their children to honor their authenticity.

They encourage their children to honor their authenticity and uniqueness. To stay true to themselves at all times and to never trim themselves to suit those around them – even if that means “offending” some people.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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6 Simple Ways to Keep You and Your Family Grounded for More Wellbeing

By Jessie Klassen | In5d.com

With so much of an energetic shift occurring within our Universe, upon our planet, and within the entire collective, it can be increasingly hard to stay grounded. Throw in work, family, and everyday responsibilities, and it can be even harder to find time to think about how to stay grounded!

But the good news is that staying grounded is not something that takes up extra time or effort. Simply being mindful is all that you need.

Why is it so important to be grounded?

Being grounded means that you are fully present in your being. When you are present, you are able to fully integrate the positive energies of the Universe. This means that you are able to experience what you came here to experience and learn the lessons that you came here to learn. Which means that you are being full “you”, which is why you are really here!

Also, you are helping Mother Earth by holding the light here and grounding it into her.

We all know what it means to not be fully present. You know, those times when your temper flares suddenly or when you are dropping, breaking, or tripping over things? When you don’t feel like you are really here? When you feel like the world and your life is out of your control?

These are usually the times when it seems that everything that could go wrong, goes wrong.

Related Article: “Bicension” Is The New Ascension — 6 Ways To Get Grounded Now (Video)

This or it feels like we are going through life on autopilot. Hearing but not really listening to our loved ones, continually focused on our future tasks or living in the regrets of our past. Where we are distracted by a busy world and not engaged with our own life. In this way, our lives flash by us in a series of duties without us really experiencing true joy and bliss.

And what is it to be fully present?

To show up and be engaged with our own lives. To be aware of each moment of our day and our role within it. To notice our children and our loved ones and the gift that they are within our lives. To be aware of our surroundings and not oblivious to the beauty of nature.

Being grounded is when you have trust in your life and the unfoldment of it. You are not easily shaken by outside circumstances. You respond instead of reacting to the world.

This does not mean that we are not busy or that we stop working, it simply means that we are calm and peaceful within our lives.

So what are some easy ways to stay grounded?

1) Be aware of your body

We are here in a physical body for a reason. But so many of us have lost contact with our own sacred body temples.

Sometimes just taking a moment to breathe in and feel your body will bring your awareness into your self and ground you. Notice anything you feel. Sensations, pain, these are all signals from your body. Are you carrying any stress? Where is it in your body? Take note of it, and breathe in and out, inhaling pure, healing air on your in-breath and exhaling the stress on your out-breath.

You can ask your kids to do the same. If they feel stressed or anxious about something, this is a practice that can be done while sitting in the car or lying in bed at night.

Let them know that we are not meant to feel stressed all the time and that our bodies are happy to let it go. Our stress is just a warning signal and should not be a constant part of our existence.

Saying “I love myself” will also bring your awareness into your body, as well as, “I am fully present in my being.”

2) Engage your physical senses

No matter where we are throughout our day, or what we are doing, simply noticing all of our senses makes our lives here a richer experience. We are pulled into the NOW moment and we find ourselves able to stay there for longer periods of time.

Inline at the supermarket, notice your surroundings. What do you see, hear, smell? What food are you purchasing for supper? As you choose your ingredients, smell them. Hold them in your hands and feel their texture on your skin.

When making love, be aware of your body and of your partner’s body. Focus on your pleasure, and on that of your partners’. It makes for a deeper, more sensual, closer bond with your partner and it increases your own confidence. A more satisfying sexual experience depends on us staying in the Now.

Throughout your day, just notice your body in your surroundings. Appreciate the senses that you have and what they tell you. You will start to notice the subtleties of life and your world will become richer. You may also start to notice smells and sounds in your environment that you hadn’t minded before but now find offensive, and you will know it is your senses waking up to the world around you. You will probably notice your sensitivity increase to perfumes, and this is a good thing, as most of them are quite toxic to our bodies.

Our perception of our world is quite limited for the most part because most of the time we are not using all of our available senses. As we open to them and use them, they become keener, much like a muscle that we are exercising.

Don’t be surprised if your perception of your world continues to change. It will continue to change as you continue to see through the many layers that make up our experience.

The skies will become more vivid, nature more beautiful, and you will start to notice the subtle kindnesses and beauty amongst people as well. You will also find these kindnesses extended out to you, as higher frequencies will be aligned with yours.

3) Cooking and eating mindfully

Honoring our bodies with healthy food is one of the easiest ways to feel present.

When you are cooking supper, engage with the food that you are preparing. Imagine where it was grown and how it will nourish your body. Taste it with your eyes closed. What is the texture like on your tongue?

Give thanks to the earth for her gifts, and if you are eating meat, to the animal that gave themselves to you.

As you eat your meal, mention to your children where their food was grown. Discuss why it is good for them and what it is doing for their bodies. Our bodies are a reflection of what we nourish them with, and they are our vehicle for this world. Let your children know how important it is to be mindful of what they eat.

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If you can, try to purchase food grown by responsible and ethical farmers and companies, such as fair trade and organic.

And if you can’t have this interaction with your food? Chances are you shouldn’t be eating it.

As you become more mindful of the food that you eat, your body will become clearer and better able to communicate with you. You will find yourself craving healthier foods and you will stop craving less healthy, over-processed foods.

4) Get physical/Get outside!

There is nothing like moving, working, stretching, pushing the limits of your body to bring your awareness into it. With farming as my livelihood, I have no shortage of physical work that I can engage in throughout my day, and sometimes, it still doesn’t feel like it’s enough for me to stay grounded.

There are moments when I haven’t been outside yet because of housework that I am doing, and suddenly it will hit me, “I have to go outside.” And out the door, I go. My soul, body, and mind are all screaming at me to get out there.

Both of my parents are like this, and my husband knows this about me now as well and he understands. I am not running from my household duties, but I simply need to be healed by nature and I need the open space around me as I move. I need to feel the sun and the sky, and have the wind wash my worries away.

Sometimes all I need is a quick fix in my garden, or a walk around my farm, or to just go out to my chicken coop and pick eggs. Or to throw a ball around with my kids or jump with them on their trampoline.

So I have blended getting physical with getting outside, which for me, is necessary. But simply stretching in your home, or doing yoga would be great too. Or going out for a walk or sitting on your balcony or on a bench in a park and observing your surroundings.

If you have potted plants, play in their dirt or gently touch their leaves. Our hands are like grounding rods for us, and that is why our sense of touch is so important to engage.

Sitting beneath a tree is a great idea, and imagining yourself with roots like one as well. Feel yourself held by Mother Earth. Feel her unconditional love surround you.

Pick up a rock, feel it’s sturdiness, and allow it to ground you.

If being outside is an impossibility, observe nature from a window. Nature is here to heal us, and her healing begins as soon as you notice her.

The other morning as I was doing chores with my eyes on the gorgeous pink sunrise that was lighting up the sky, I could hear a soft voice say, “as you begin to notice the life that is in nature, the nature of life is revealed to you.”

And of course, if you can, go barefoot. Truly feel the earth upon your feet, holding you, supporting you.

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The 5 Lessons Children Should Learn When They Are Little

By Carol Wang | Purpose Fairy

The most important things children should learn when they are little are the things you teach them as a parent, right?

Okay, having a child is an adventure. There are many enjoyable aspects but also a great deal of responsibility to raise a functional, righteous, and happy human being.

The 5 Lessons Children Should learn When They Are Little

To do that, there are some things children should learn when they’re still little. Discover the tools that will help your child become a better version of themselves. 

1. Be Independent

If there’s one thing your children must learn from the moment they walk and talk, it is to be independent on some level. This doesn’t mean you’ll leave your child on their own to take care of themselves, but encouraging them to be curious and figure small things out on their own can save you a lot of trouble when they reach school age.

If you see your child trying to get out a toy that got stuck somewhere, instead of running to solve the problem for them give them guidance and support so they know they can do it on their own. The feeling of independence equals self-confidence. 

2. Be grateful

A grateful child is a happy child. How so? It’s not just about teaching them to say “thank you”.

It’s about making them understand what people do for him/her and genuinely recognize someone’s efforts. When children are truly grateful for what they have (a home, a family, food, education) it’s easier to raise selfless people who focus on values, effort, and knowledge rather than shallow feelings and material things.

3. Communicate

One of the most important lessons you should give to your children when they’re little is to communicate and to do so effectively. When a child is capable of properly sharing feelings, ideas, and opinions, they grow with a sense of their voice mattering.

Also, teaching them to communicate will guarantee you’ll always have a very open and candid relationship with your children which ultimately leads to trust and deep understanding.

4. Develop Reading Habits 

For a while, people forgot reading can be a big part of a child’s life and have a huge impact on them. Luckily, over the past few years, the reading habit has been retaken by parents because of the proven benefits it has on children as little as less than a year old.

Reading to and with your children can increase their attention span, strengthen their vocabulary, spark their curiosity on several topics, and, ultimately, prepare them for school.

If you can link reading to a pleasurable activity, the school will be more enjoyable for your children.

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Indigo Children, Who Are They and How Can We Support Them?

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Many parents have heard the term Indigo used to describe their children. There are a few different approaches that parents, family and friends can use to identify, understand, and help support Indigo Children. It is also quite possible that a few parents may be Indigos themselves. The Indigos are here to help raise the consciousness of our planet and to help us change the old paradigms and implement new ones. At times it may be difficult to relate to them and vice versa but we can coexist beautifully if we understand a little bit more about them.

What Is An Indigo?

An Indigo person is born on the Indigo Ray vibration with specific personality traits, interests, perspectives and energetic sensitivities. We started to see an influx of Indigos being born in the 1980’s. Yes, there have most certainly been Indigos that have been born before 1980 such as Albert Einstein and Karl Jung.

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You or Your Child Might Be An Indigo If:

  • They have strong empathic abilities and are sensitive to harsh environments and people
  • Have difficulty with routine or following directions
  • Possess the ability to see through dishonesty and deception
  • Is highly intuitive
  • Sees aura colors around people and objects
  • May be diagnosed as dyslexic or ADHD
  • Has the uncanny ability to predict future events
  • Can be overconfident and or has a very strong sense of self-worth
  • Is often passionate about charity, and environmental awareness
  • Often has a short temper and sometimes is unable to express their fears and anxieties  in a healthy manner

Now that we have identified the characteristics of an Indigo there are different approaches that we can take to help nurture them so that we are able to understand and connect with them on a deeper level while supporting them on their path as well as not completely disconnecting with them.

How To Support Indigo Children

  • Patience – By being patient and remembering that we may be dealing with two different thought processes and that Indigos have strong wills, we will not make progress when we try to out-will them
  • Schedule regular Reiki sessions for them because energy healing will do wonders for their mind, body and spirit
  • A regular smudging with sage and or bathing with epson or kosher salt will help keep their auric field strong and healthy
  • Having them wear or carry grounding crystals such as hematite, tiger’s eye, or black tourmaline will help ground them and keep outside environmental influences at bay
  • Teach them how to put themselves in an energetic bubble when they are in large crowds, this will help them feel secure
  • Encouraging them to keep a regular meditation practice will help them to decompress and be more in touch with their inner power
  • Avoid food additives, preservatives and food coloring will help their moods and help them stay focused and grounded
  • Spending time outside in nature works wonders for Indigos

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Being an Indigo is a challenge but also a blessing as well. They are bright, funny and help us think outside of the box and encourage us to let go of old programming that may not serve us as a collective for our future as a conscious collective. There is a lot we can learn from them if we can meet them halfway.

Blessings and Light,
Laurie Barraco

Laurie Barraco

Laurie Barraco

Laurie Barraco is a professional intuitive counselor, medium, author, recording artist, teacher and the owner of The Mystical Moon, a healing center in Fort Myers, Florida. Laurie offers readings, courses and healing products through The Mystical Moon Online Store. You can connect with her at The Mystical Moon Facebook Page.

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