Cybersex is not associated with lonely people who can’t have sex in real life anymore. It’s no longer only for creepy men who live with their mothers after they had turned 30 and who can’t talk to women. The development of technology has influenced every aspect of our lives and though for some people it may seem ridiculous that it could affect our sex lives as well, it’s the truth. Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or you’re looking for a hookup without long-term commitments, even if you’ve never tried it before, you can learn all about it, according to Beyond Ages, as an ability to sext and have cybersex is not something that you have and don’t have.
What is cybersex and why it can be good for you
Cybersex used to involve only computers, but now some people use their tablets and smartphones to do it. There are many forms and each person has their preferred one; you may send nude photos, talk dirty on the webcam or text how you are going to have sex with someone – everything involving showing, talking, writing about sex to another person can be called cybersex.
As long as it’s well-managed, cybersex can bring you only benefits.
For most people, it’s better than porn because it actually involves some intimacy. Even when you’re having cybersex with a stranger, you will feel less lonely than after you have had an orgasm while masturbating to porn (which are basically other people having sex). You are also more in control during cybersex (unless your fantasy is to not be in control). When you watch something, you need to adjust to what you see, you may encounter what you don’t like and what will turn you off. Cybersex is all about your needs and your imagination. You’re not limited but anyone apart from your online partner.
If you have ever been intrigued by any kind of a fetish, but you’re not sure if you would like it in real life, it may be better to use it during cybersex first. If you’re in a relationship, it may be safer and more interesting to try something out on the web with your partner, and if you’re single, you may find online someone who’s also into it, and who’s maybe more experienced. It can actually help you to perform better in bed later, as you will feel more confident with it.
Also, you get to choose your preferred way to have cybersex. Some people feel better with words so they decide on chats and sexting, while others prefer visuals so they choose streaming websites. You can find general chats and forums based around fetishes and fantasies for you to find exactly what you want.
How to make sure you have great (and safe) cybersex?
Of course, it all depends on yours and your partner’s needs, but there are some rules, tips, do’s and don’ts to follow that can help you be sure that your needs are all you need to think about.
1. Don’t share personal information
You can’t ever be certain who is on the other side, especially if you’re looking for one-time partners, so don’t give away your personal details, even those that seem innocent and harmless. When you’re on the webcam or you send photos, you probably would like to leave your face out of them. Sometimes you may think you got to know someone, but there are many people out there waiting to compromise your privacy and damage your identity, and you probably don’t want to end up being blackmailed. You shouldn’t be ashamed of having cybersex if you’re not hurting anybody, but you still probably wouldn’t like anyone to send your texts/photos/videos to your boss or your parents.
2. Connect with a person and get a clear consent
Even when it’s a one-time thing, it’s important to establish any kind of connection between you and your partner. Don’t start with sexting with your very first message. Try to find out who you’re dealing with. The other person may be there for the same reason as you, but remember that it really is a person. Also, remember about respecting boundaries. It’s not impossible to harass someones sexually over the internet; if they want to stop, you stop, especially if you’re on the webcam. Make sure that the other side is ok with your fantasies and fetishes. Communication is always the key, whether it’s real-life sex or cybersex. And yes, sending unwanted dick photos is harassment.
3. Be vivid
Always tell or write exactly what you would do to the other person if you were there, and you may expect the same in return. Avoid general statements and clichés, as they are more likely to cool off the situation than get you both hot. If you decide on audio or video, use sounds to your advantage – it will make everything more intimate and you will feel like you really are together. You have no idea how much whispering can turn somebody’s on.
4. Use your imagination
This may seem obvious, but you should really remember that it’s all about what you present the other person with, especially if you concentrate on sexting. You can lay down in your pajamas or an old tracksuit but write about sexy underwear. Your only limitation is your imagination (and whatever the other person likes).
5. Don’t forget foreplay
It may mean something different for cybersex, but it doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Don’t rush things up. If you send photos, send a partially clothed one. Write a cryptic message or record a playful voice note. Try to get their imagination work without actually giving them anything. And if you’re sexting with your real-life partner, you can use cybersex as a part of foreplay to sex.
It’s all about fun
Now that you know something more about cybersex, do you think you would like to try it? There’s no rush. Remember that you can take all the time you need. No one is forcing you to do anything. Establish your own boundaries and respect those of other people. Don’t forget about safety, but, most importantly, don’t forget it’s supposed to be fun, and it should make you feel good.
