We Just Can't Help It!
It's January 2016 and it's that time of year when most of us are all revved up and ready for change — we, the hopefuls, dream of stepping up our game in the new months that are about to unfold. It's all quite exciting.
Then a few weeks into the new year — well, you know the story — some of us get disillusioned and stumble off that rickety bandwagon. Our hopes, dreams and willpower get kicked to the curb and we continue with the same old same old wondering why every year feels like a sequel to Groundhog Day.
Towards the end of last year, I overheard some folks complaining about people who make new years resolutions and all that ‘blah blah blah'…then I saw a quote on Facebook that made me laugh. I'm paraphrasing here but it went something like, ‘I'm not making any new years resolutions 'cause, let's face it, who likes a skinny, rich woman?'
I even tried to stay away from making resolutions this year but I just couldn't resist the pull…
Getting Real…For the Umpteenth Time!
I'm no stranger to the Law of Attraction and positive thinking and I've applied them to most sections of my life with great success. However, I also have some areas of my life that I've applied them too with little or sporadic success.
What I mean by this is that I can achieve something one month but can't pull it off the next – it wavers (in this specific arena) and then I begin to doubt myself. And I know I'm not the only one experiencing this.
The last months of 2015 had me catching a huge wake up call.
Positive thinking is fantabulosis. But positive feeling is the vooma that lights that ignition! Some of you have probably heard of this already. I had. A gazillion times before as a matter of fact. I know this and yet I was still deluding myself and avoiding how I was truly feeling about the things I was trying to create.
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Introspection and Facing a Hard Reality
My ‘a-ha' moments with regards to manifesting finances come and go and never seem to ‘stick'. I have huge epiphanies, things go great and then I trip and fall into a rut.
I took a very serious look at my manifesting behaviors over this past year and was quite shocked to see that I was sliding down a slippery slope of limited thinking — falling back into an abyss of past experience that was dictating my future.
So I hopped to it and created a new vision board for myself in December. When I stepped back to look at it it made my eyes hurt. It was all over the place! It was so helter-skelter that I felt like crying. Why? It was such a huge reflection of what was going on in my head.
My brains and ambitions at the end of 2015 felt like watery, scrambled eggs.
Cracking the Shell
I took a long, hard, penetrating look at my life and thoughts and realized that all the positive thinking in the world couldn't help me if I felt so ‘out of control' on the inside.
I do positively affirm a lot of things when I wake up and even during the day. I try to steer my thoughts to positive outcomes but I was lacking in one thing. I wasn't checking in with myself to see if I was truly feeling positive about my situation.
I got real and figured out that even though I have set goals, vision boards, do affirmations — the whole toot — I was not always feeling the outcome. There was still a little lack in my gut (your solar plexus doesn't lie!). A little twinge to say, ‘you might not (fill in the blank)'.
That made me think further.
How did I feel about manifesting enough money for next months bills?
Exhausted. My brain was jet-lagged. I hadn't really accomplished what I wanted to this year and I felt like I didn't even know what I wanted for next year. It felt overwhelming and it was reflecting in my vision board
Their is No Space For Doubt
I set to work trying to simplify my board. I got it down to the top 10 things I wanted this year. I stood back this time and felt relief wash over me. I could feel the shift within.
It was as though all the straggling thoughts had been filed neatly for me to gaze upon and the feeling was being upgraded.
I had been too chaotic in my thoughts and it was manifesting in my life through my feelings of being out of control. I was even trying to control how I manifested things. My new board reflected what I wanted and I decided to relinquish how I was going to get it.
Within 2 days of me completing the new and upgraded vision for 2016, I manifested one of the things on that board. It involved me bartering one of my paintings for it but, low and behold, the damn thing was working!
Within a week, I had manifested another thing on my board.
What changed?
I not only do my affirmations every day now but I make myself feel what it's like to be on that holiday in Italy, sipping red wine and I can feel the wind zipping through my hair as I cycle down the main road on my new mountain bike.
Before I thought I had to concentrate on manifesting money to be able to buy things and experiences but I know now that the universe works in mysterious ways.
I've had people give me things that I thought I'd have to buy or spontaneously treat me to dinner or even trade with me for mutually beneficial gain. It's opened my eyes up to new ways of manifesting and has given me a new hope that this year is going to be epic.
All I have to do is feel it. I hope you get to feel your way to all the things you dream about doing and having!
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Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.
To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.
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Well it’s good to have a possitive mindset but you still have to have a critical thinking to. The possitive outlook and the modern worlds belief in individuality is an invention of the elite politics. Created so the public only will focus on the positive and our own lifeproject.
You are right, a positive mindset is integral, as is discernment. I do, however, believe that when we feel positive and emit that frequency we change things for ourselves and for those around us. So I don’t think it is necessarily a ‘service to self’ action. Joy is just as contagious as negativity. So, inevitably, you will be helping others too. This doesn’t mean that we walk around with rose-coloured glasses on, ignoring what’s going on around us – it just means we are balanced enough to give our compassion, attention, help and empathy where needed whilst not falling into a lower vibration.
We Are Care Takers Of These Wonderful Treasures
Let Care Open Your Hearts To The Beauty Of Each Jewel,
Yet Covet Not, Or As A Snowflake It May Melt,
Although The Beauty Will Not End
But More Vibrant It Becomes When Greeted And Passed Forward, Heart To Heart With Ultimate Grace, Gratitude,
That All Now Shine And In, And Through The Light Do Thrive/Grow
Empowerfully Glorified The Innocence Of All In Complete FREE LOVE
We In This Moment Dissolve, Transform And Overwrite All Prior Unhealthy, Unfair Agreements, Associations, Interactions,
That All May Create As, To, For Through, Ultimate GOOD Progression For All and Everything
We In This Moment Dissolve, Transform And Overwrite, All Unhealthy Co Dependent Agreements, Relationships We FREE All Beings To Play And Interplay AsUnlimited Ultimate Good
This Creation Is Protected To Be FREE Eternally In The Wish Of FREEing All, Thank You Thank You Thank You
Ubuntu Or Super Symbiosis
The Honest Non Judgemental Ascertainment And Celebration Of All GOOD, ALL Organisms, All Consciousness And The FREE Sharing Of All GOOD For True, Honest, GOOD Progression, Healing FREE Unity, Healed Unified Freeing Of All Good Potentials To Play And Interplay, Heal, Creation, Heal Healers And Create/Co Create All Empowerfully, Selflessly Perpetuating, Selflessly Sufficient, Multidimensionally, Energetically Enhancing All And Everything With Limitless Multi Frequency Gratitudinous Familial Grace, Love, Respect, Fun Reverence
Happy New Present Moment
Namaste
How beautiful. Thank you for sharing this!
The answer is “Meditation”, going beyond mind, there all oppositions seize to exist, positive-negative, right-wrong— one enters in a state of oneness where all oppositions are seen, concieved as complementaries, two sides of the same coin, expectation and frustration are not two, one inevitably leads to the other as all life is interconnected. Meditation leads to choiceless awareness, or as Jesus calls it, a non-judgemental state, a state of childlike innocence — Love Shivam —
I agree, meditation is vital and brings a great sense of balance and peace.
Chloe Ann Crighton
This is a fantastic article Cherie. I love how you share your experiential insights. I’ve been trying to manifest with positive thinking only, leaving out the key ingredient you stress in your article. As a result, I’ve been mostly unsuccessful. I will most certainly change my ways to follow in your footsteps. Thank you for this!!!! -Ross
Thank you, Ross
So glad you got something useful from this. It dawned on me – when I was reviewing my year last month – that the things I manifested with ease, I felt completely in tune with. I was totally in alignment with them and believed I deserved them but the things I was still feeling uneasy about I was having a roller-coaster ride with (even though I was doing my affirmations throughout the day). Feelings are super powerful! I wish you a year full of successful manifestations!
Meditation
Hello Cherie Roe Dirkson: It’s been a while since I’ve responded to one of your articles but this one demands response: YES!
The emotional centre in our brains, the amygdala, is much more strongly wired for most of us than the executive and good judgement centre or prefrontal neo-cortex. Therefore to manifest we must use the energy of the very large highways of neurons devoted to feelings, sensations in our bodies. Even imagining feeling good creates positive change in our brains! How do we know? Neuroscience! for more you may want to look into my book Medicine Buddha/Medicine Mind where we explore the seam between Visualization Meditation and Neuroscience. Go to my website at http://www.soulsciences.net for a free audio reading of the book by me, in four parts, and/or order the books at the same place. Whatever you do right now, breathe deeply, imagine feeling as good or better than you ever have and begin. Prayers for healing for all!