Tantric Sex: A Connection That’s Deeper Than Love Itself

Related imageYou’ve probably heard the term Tantra or Tantric Sex a time or two, but what the heck is it? And what makes it so different than everyday, ordinary sex? Well, …abso-freaking-lutely everything!

Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning, “woven together” and we can all imagine how when we are lost in the moment with our lover in a pretzel of passion; the definition seems to explain itself. Tantric sex isn’t for those who are only into surface feelings and sensations or who are mostly concerned with their own needs being met. If you tend to be more of a selfish lover, or even a bashful lover afraid to ask for what you want, then I highly recommend giving Tantric sex a try, because the level of connection and intensity it brings will be like nothing you have ever experienced in your life.

Couples who are actively practicing Tantric sex can find a sense of union beyond the typical act of love-making and perhaps the best way to describe it would be that it feels as if you forget where you end and your lover begins; you literally merge on many levels, almost dissolving into one another. It’s about being so aware of each other, that your awareness becomes unified as well as your motions, and this easily accounts for the mind-blowing orgasms that follow.

Tantric sex is not for everyone as it does require a willingness to be open and vulnerable with your lover. It’s a literal removal of the masks we wear every day and going beyond physical nakedness. It’s allowing yourself and your lover a sacred space where you both can be as empty of labels, judgments, expectations and resentment that we often carry and pass onto our lovers, and instead bring wholeness to the experience so that both are left feeling fuller than ever.

“It is time we saw sex as the truly sacred art that it is. A deep meditation, a holy communion, and a dance with the force of creation.” – Marcus Allen

If you would like to try Tantric sex but perhaps have no idea where to start, I always recommend the breath. Tantric sex to me is literally like a sensual, moving meditation and a great practice to get you and your partner going are to sit (clothes optional lol) and face one another and simply tune into one another’s breath. It often helps if you can place your hands on one another’s hearts to tap into the feels of your heartbeats. This will get you both into the same rhythm and create a mutual awareness of each others energy.

So why try it at all? I think that many of us grow tired of the routine and this often brings drama and unresolved expectations into our relationships because we don’t often know how to rekindle those feelings we once had for our lovers. We often forget what made us fall in love with them in the first place, and Tantric sex, which to me is simply another term for “sex fully present in the moment”, gives you the opportunity to reconnect in ways you may not have previously thought of because it lets you look at things from a different perspective.

While most people tend to get insecure or angry and distance themselves when they feel there are issues in the bedroom, being even willing to try Tantrix sex is literally opening a floodgate of passion that you may not have even realized has been lying dormant with you both. Related image

We all love to be seen and validated and with the intense eye-contact, mutual vulnerability, attention, and awareness, with each person sharing the same goal (not necessarily their individual pleasure, but creating pleasure together), this process seems to bring new life into areas many couples thought were long since dead and gone.

Sometimes all it ever takes to remember what magic you are capable of is to see it in your own lover’s eyes. And when you are both willing to open up and be that mirror of love to your partner, incredible growth and closeness are possible beyond your wildest dreams…AND fantasies. 😉

Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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Take It Slow… How To Introduce Tantra Into Your Sexual Experience


Source: Finder Minds

Most reviews on Tantric sex imply this big reminder: it is not about the orgasm. Instead, the art of Tantra focuses on enriching and prolonging the sexual experience by increasing your spiritual consciousness and intimacy with your partner. This takes the term “lovemaking” to another level, by embodying it mentally, physically and wholeheartedly. Are you ready for this?

Related Article: Tantric Intimacy & Sex: Why It’s Important

For those of you not familiar with Tantric sex (in theory, at least – if you’re an expert, do drop us a note), or for those of you who immediately conjure up images of dirty ancient drawings or nudists having sex in yoga camp, well… it’s time to rise above that.

Tantric Sex, as Westerners know it, derives from Tantra, a religious ritual and meditation established in the 5th century in India. The Sanskrit word Tantra isrooted from the word tan, which means “to extend, expand, spread, continue, spin out, weave out, weave, to put forth or manifest”. How’s that for intense old school vocabulary?

Tantra purveyor Jennifer Lawless says that the idea is to achieve the ultimate satisfaction, way beyond the Big “O”. In the practice of Tantra, there is a sort of “being-consciousness-bliss” which has the power of self-evolution and self-involution. Therefore, the evolution of self helps to bring two people closer together.

In the words of our contributing author Osho Shivo in his post – Creative Sex Vs. Destructive Sex – “The key to creative sex is to let the impulse of desire pass over.” Considering that Tantric sex is an ancient art we are not advising anyone to instantly graduate to great practitioners. Instead, we did some further reading and managed to (contain our excitement and) narrow our findings down to the following helpful stages on how to introduce Tantra into your sexual experience, so you can ease into the gateway to sexual potency and spiritual ecstasy with your other half. Enjoy, apply (it is the weekend after all)… and try not to giggle 🙂

Related Article: 6 Keys to Mind-Blowing Tantric Sex

1. Prepare Your Inner Casanova/Seductress


Anticipation is a nerve-wrecker, but it can also be exciting. Find some time alone to soothe yourself into “sexual explorer” mode. Relax your body with abreathing exercise, by dancing to your favorite music or even doing some yoga stretches to warm your body up and loosen the tension in your muscles. If it helps, aromatherapy or a warm bath works well too. Going straight to wine (aha!) may get you to a different level, but we’ll leave that to your judgment.

2. Create Your Love Nest

It’s important that your setting creates a comfortable, relaxed and playful environment for you and your partner. Put away any clutter that would distract you, and this includes computers and mobile phones. Invest in flowers, candles, comfortable bedding and scented oils. If you need some background music to get you in the mood, we suggest instrumental tunes. Make sure your schedule allows you to take your time, as Tantric sex is not a sexual race.

Related Article: A Simple & Fun Guide on How to Have Sacred (Tantric) Sex

3. Rediscover Each Other

All those years or months you’ve been together may have brought you closer intimately, but it’s easy to miss, forget and take certain things for granted. Face your partner and touch and caress his or her face, hair, neck, arms, legs, back and every nook and corner with your hands. Next, explore those parts with your mouth and tongue. Engaging in this lingering and sensual build will train men to self-control and enhance the women’s arousal. Use this time to fully focus on each other and the magic of the moment – it will come so give it time.