By Lilly Miller
Marriage is a hard job, and whoever tells you otherwise — isn’t really honest. Not because they’re blatant liars, but because being married requires communication, compromises, and patience. Newlyweds usually have it great because the honeymoon phase of the marriage is always the sweetest. But, after a number of years, things tend to get a bit stale, which isn’t uncommon, since working from 9-5, paying bills and raising a family can take its toll on one's marriage. However, it’s important to point out that things are always easy to fix, but in order to do that, both you and your partner need to trust each other and be willing to change. Therefore, here are some sure ways that can help you reconnect with your partner.
Go down the memory lane
Strolling down the memory lane is the easiest way to reminisce about all the things that made you fall for each other. If you’ve gotten tired of the same old dinner dates, why don’t you do something that you used to do back when you used to date? Going to an amusement park (sans the kids), or attending a gig of your favorite band can have a positive impact on your relationship and the way you see each other. So next time you feel like doing something together, make sure to skip the boring dinner and do something fun that will help you remember the way you used to be.
Talk to each other, even if it’s uncomfortable
Having an honest and open conversation might seem like something you’d rather avoid, but in reality, it’s a wonderful way to reconnect with each other. Remember that your partner is your companion for life, so all topics should be up for discussion, no matter how uncomfortable they might seem at first. But, it takes time to reach that level of comfort and trust, so make sure to do it little by little: even chatting while sipping a glass of wine after dinner can be a great place to relax and discuss certain things.
Don’t forget about sex and intimacy
After many years of marriage, familiarity and comfort tend to replace passion, so if you’re looking to rekindle your sex life, then it’s important to have a frank conversation about your sexual needs and preferences. Maybe you can’t make love like you’re in your 20s, but you still can connect on a spiritual level that transcends age, which can always improve your sex life. Also, using adult toys for couples can help you rediscover yourselves in a unique way so don’t be hesitant to try them out. Being open to new things can be beneficial on so many levels, so feel free to explore, until you find something that works for you both.
Consider couples therapy
Sometimes, there is too much to unpack, and going to therapy can be a wonderful way to finally admit certain things without resorting to violence and anger. After many years of marriage, it’s understandable that there is a lot on your plate, but that’s why it’s essential to work towards finding a solution. Keep in mind that there’s nothing shameful about asking for help because some issues are meant to be solved by talking to a professional. But, before you decide to go to therapy, it’s important to make sure that you both want it because otherwise, your therapy sessions won’t be as successful. Uncovering deep and intimate secrets will surely help you reconnect, as long as you put your egos aside.
Do something new and interesting
Routine is the biggest killer of all things' passion, and unfortunately, being married consists of multiple routines, so if you’ve noticed a lack of romance, then doing something fun can be a great way to reignite all the emotions that have been lying dormant for years. For example, you can explore some of the most romantic travel destinations or sign up for cooking classes. Don’t be afraid to try silly and outlandish things as well because being able to act goofy around each other is often the best form of intimacy. You can also try yoga, guided meditation for couples or maybe even playing a new sport, but remember to keep an open mind especially if it’s your first time doing it.
Conclusion
Being spiritually in tune with your partner requires you both to be dedicated, patient and kind to each other. However, doing new things and communicating openly will definitely help you reconnect, as long as you actually stick to each other. You and your partner have chosen each other for a reason, and that reason will always be there with you, so next time you feel like you’re drifting apart, feel free to use some of these tips, as they’ll likely help you reconnect and rekindle that spark that has always been there.
