I think it's pretty common to grow up in our society with guilt and shame as heavy motivators for doing things in our lives. Whether it's cultural traditions and/or religious customs passed down from our parents or peer pressure from the media to conform to a set of ideas and beliefs to what you should look like, act like, talk like, etc. at certain stages of your life, fear-driven “encouragement” appears to be the norm.
So…what's up with that? Well, I think much of it has to do with what I love to call “human amnesia”. Upon incarnation, we literally (well, most of us anyway) forget who we really are and what the hell we really came here to do. And for those “in the know” the temptation to manipulate, confuse, etc. those who are unaware has become quite prevalent all over the world. As the saying goes, “Knowledge is power”, however, it's not the power that's necessarily the problem here, but rather the intention, the initial reason behind wanting the power in the first place that changes everything.
For those who do recall what this fiasco of life is all about and remember their life plans, and that we're here to learn, apply what we learn to expand and grow and to embody our personal truth to the best of our ability as that resonance, that literal frequency is what connects us all; the sound of knowing who you are literally “rings truth” and we ALL hear it, even if it is on a subconscious level that we may not initially be aware of.
And that is what separates those who have found their own power, or rather never forgot they had it in the first place from those who have no clue how powerful they even are. There are those who will be quick to convince us that we are weak and need to be ruled and governed and cannot make decisions for ourselves. This way of thinking is prevalent throughout our educational system and religious institutions.
We punish any children that may question authority and label them as “rebels” and we reward children for conforming to social norms and basically for sitting down and shutting up. And perhaps what makes me the angriest and sad at the same time is that we tend to measure intelligence by how much our children can remember and regurgitate random “facts” while we need to be looking deeper…at their talents, and their dreams and what they love to do. What makes them feel good and alive and start encouraging THAT!
Unfortunately, that is not common in our society and most of us adults are just big kids who are still hurting, confused and angry because we are not doing what we love to do and feel shorted in life. We may also feel guilty for how we feel and also pissed off because our feelings are yet again going invalidated. So, how do we stop this toxic cycle and break the chain of guilt and shame motivation?
I think it starts with changing our perspective on how we look at the past because if we can drop the labels of having to feel bad about things we've done and actually learn the process of healing through them (remorse, forgiveness, acceptance, tolerance, etc.), then we can allow the experiences to serve their purpose and let them play the important roles they were meant to in our lives. NOTHING is trivial and NOTHING happens on accident. EVERYTHING is as it should be and is in divine order.
Once we can tap into that frequency rather than always stuffing down things we feel shame and guilt over, we literally are folding time and space and creating closure. You will literally feel a shift in energy and lightness in your field, your body and ultimately your life. When we give ourselves the freedom to actually BE human and make the mistakes we were meant to come here to make, we begin to see the bigger picture and stop getting caught up in the drama that duality often affords us.
The more we accept and embody who we are we naturally allow others to do the same, and when we all feel like being ourselves is not only OK but “enough” we can all focus on being the best US we can be for the US! (Which is honestly the only way we can ever have anything to offer anyone else; when we are taking care of ourselves.)
There is a sense of rejuvenation in surrendering to not only what is, but what has been. It opens your eyes to the possibilities of all that can be and reminds you that it is always you who is telling your story, so you might as well make it worth sharing. It also reminds us that while shadows can be scary sometimes, just remember that they always “have your back” and if we just take the time to face them, they will always lead us to our light.
“If You Are Depressed, You Are Living in the Past. If You Are Anxious, You Are Living in the Future. If You Are at Peace, You Are Living in the Present.” – Lao Tzu
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com
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