When we think of someone being Egotistical, most of us might think of those types of people that tend to disregard the feelings of others and only think of themselves. And most of us would probably agree that those types of people are not the most pleasant to be around, however is it ever good to be Egotistical? Well, yes and no. The Ego in and of itself has gotten a seriously bad rep over the years, so I’d first like to take a moment to explain my take on the amazing tool I’ve come to discover the Ego to be, and to share so insight into how when used properly can send your life into a more positive direction, and not at the expense of anyone else.
I believe the Ego to be a navigation tool that can guide you in one of two ways. It can be the Captain of your ship or it can merely be the compass pointing the way. While the Ego strives to be in control and will fight to survive at all costs, if you are aware of it’s tricks, then it loses it’s power over you and can be simply observed and learned from. It is when we are unaware of what the Ego is capable of that we can get caught up in it’s tricks and illusions and this is when we’d find ourselves acting out in such a way of separation to make those around us feel less than or that we are somehow of greater quality, rather than seeing our fellow man equal in love.
If left on auto-pilot to tend to itself, the Ego will automatically assume the role of Captain and take over command of your ship, especially if you really know nothing more about the Ego, the Self, etc. We may even blow it off as our inner child simply having temper tantrums here and there, but even that’s a fine trick of the Ego.
If left to it’s own devices, the Ego can become one of the most chaotic and confusing things in your life. Especially if you have to deal with someone who has unconsciously let their own Ego run rampant and out of control. On the flip-side, however, the Ego can also be quite simplified and subjected to only a single role, and if used properly can be one of the best tools in your spiritual toolbox. That single role is that it can and will always show you those parts of yourself that still need to be looked at, healed and integrated into your heart.
To further clarify, if you have specific areas in your life that seem to be continuously out of whack or causing you issues, it is most likely that a core belief was formed early on in your childhood in that specific area that has formed some kind of block that is now causing an imbalance in your life. This is much easier to recognize when you find yourself asking, “Why does this keep happening to me?” It’s not so much that things just keep happening TO you, it’s that there is something stuck in a pattern that you have not quite learned from yet, and so it repeats.
What can be very helpful with untying the knots in these patterns we develop over our lifetime is learning the difference between the Ego and the Intuition. We are all told to listen to our “gut”, or our instinctual knowing otherwise known as our Intuitive voice, but why has the Ego always gotten such a bad rep? My take on it is that because we’ve not been taught how to see the entire spectrum of the Ego’s purpose.
See…we can be “in Ego” and not be harming ourselves or anyone else. When we learn to put our needs first in a healthy way, that is literally a healthy Ego. When we learn to say no when we mean no or finally say yes to a dream we’ve been putting off because we have lacked courage for so long, those are also examples of a healthy Ego.
As I mentioned previously, the Ego is not just in reference to when people are being un-courteous and un thoughtful towards others,that is only one facet of it. The Ego can also be used as a compass and when we let it guide the way through the healing process of our inner most buried pains, hurts, traumas, and negative core beliefs, the Ego can actually be a very good thing in our lives and a positive influence that will allow us to interact with those around us in a more “WE” centered way rather than a “YOU vs ME” view of the world.
When we’ve taken the time to heal, we are giving ourselves the greatest gift we can give; the gift of Self. What I mean by this is the gift of Self- Awareness, Self-Acceptance, Self-Knowing and most importantly, Self-Love. When we can see ourselves in the light of awareness, acceptance, knowing and love, the Ego becomes something completely different from the what we’ve been taught in the traditional sense. It becomes the greatest transformational tool we are bestowed with, and once we learn how to use it properly, the rewards it reaps will be everlasting in not only our relationship with ourselves, but in all of our relationships we have now and will develop in the future.
Tamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com
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