Connection is the one thing that you need in your marriage for it to work well. You need to be able to physically connect as much as you need to talk and connect on an emotional level, too. You want to make sure that the person you’re with is someone you’re sure of, that you are willing to grow with. You have to ensure that you are working together for a happy and healthy relationship, which means that you have to do all that you can to better connect. You want your relationship to work well, and you have to make sure that you communicate for that to work.
If you’re planning to get married, or if you are already married, you need to remember why you’re together. That can be difficult most of the time, and if you’re new together, you’re going to want to spend as much time together as possible to keep that connection burning. For men, that could mean ensuring that they can get things moving in the bedroom to maintain that physical connection. For women, it could mean leaning more on their partner and having a better connection emotionally, too. There has to be both give and take when it comes to a relationship, both in the physical and emotional arenas. That means that you have to build together, and we’ve got some of the best tips that you can use to better connect to your partner.
- Create your own rituals. You have to choose to do things that bind you together. Whether that’s agreeing to take ten minutes just to talk about your feelings every single day with a cup of something delicious, or just going for a walk to get some breakfast, it doesn't matter what you do, you need a way to connect. Sex is a good way to connect but that can be both ritualistic or spontaneous – whatever you want to do together works.
- Check-in with each other daily. Every single day, you need to work together and that means checking in on each other to make sure that you both know you’re there and present. Connection is much easier to find and maintain when you make the effort to check in on your partner. You need to hold regular check-ins and conversations to make sure that you are aware of what each other is doing.
- Learn to appreciate each other. If your partner is excellent at sports, make a point of attending sports events that matter to them – whether to watch or to play. If they love a specific type of music, learn to appreciate dancing together to that music. There is so much that you can do together and learning to appreciate one another is really going to help you to connect.
- Ask how they are. Sometimes, a simple ‘how are you’ is enough to start a conversation that leads to so many other things! You can discuss life together as you know it and they will feel wanted and loved all because you asked them how they were doing. Make sure that you know the physical and emotional state of your partner so that you can be there for them in the event there is really a problem.
- Have sex. Honestly, one of the best things that you can do for your marriage is to connect physically. If you want to connect with one another, sex is possibly one of the best ways that you can do that, and sex isn't limited to intercourse. There are many different ways to spend a lazy day in bed together and you have to embrace those if you want to be physically intimate with one another. Sex offers both a physical and an emotional connection with your partner.
- Build some boundaries. Even the couples who are the most in love are in need of boundaries. Marriages need a boundary that allows time without each other and time with other people to have that necessary balance. It becomes complicated from time to time, but if you ensure that you have some healthy boundaries, you can learn to appreciate one another properly. This will help you to strengthen your connections and give you a space to have the right desires and wishes, too.
Connecting to the partner you are with is vital if you want your relationship to last. You don't have to be married to appreciate and respect the connection that you have together. You just need to make sure that you are both a priority in each other’s lives.
