Many of us are not quite able to love the things we are trying to change about ourselves and I get that sounds rather odd and counter-intuitive. I mean, if we liked this part of ourselves, why would we want to change it, right?
We may not stop to consider how damaging or hindering our own thoughts about things, people, and events from our past can affect not only our present lives but our future as well. If we hold onto guilt, regret, anger, or shame for things we did or didn’t do; things others said or didn’t say, it is US that keep ourselves locked in a prison in our own minds.
Emotions are awesome and none is better or worse than the other. Each simply has it’s job to do and has a certain aspect of healing that it points out for you. Emotions are not US, they are not meant to be taken on as who we are because they are not, they are FEELINGS, and they are FLEETING. They are meant to flow in and out of our existence like rain…but if we grab and hold, they will fester under our attempt to control them.
It is when we hold tight to things in such fear of losing them that there is sometimes literally no room to breathe, and therefore no room for creative expression to emerge. So, in reality holding tightly often times is the very cause of something falling away from us. We never really “lose” anything. We simply experience lessons we choose to learn from (wins) or not (what we’d call losses), but the moment you accept and acknowledge the lesson, you have won.
We begin to learn it’s not always a matter of just making the choice, but learning to ride the wave of possibilities as well so we know for sure which choice is absolutely best for us. When we do that, we gain confidence and trust in ourselves and over time this only makes the decision process simpler because we are literally exercising our trust muscles by showing ourselves we are there for US!
I felt compelled to write about ‘being the change’ this week after all of the negative news going on the world lately. I won’t get into it, as I’m sure most of you are aware of what’s been going on but I just wanted to take the time to remind everyone that it all starts with each and every one of us. We all matter and we all mean something. Somewhere along the line, it became acceptable; almost required to teach us that we are insignificant and we began to lost our luster, our soul shine…and that is the greatest lie ever taught. We are all significant, we are divine, we are love. Don’t ever forget that because once you remember, the world will reflect a place that won’t need changing.
We go about our daily lives, mostly unaware that all of our actions are simply effects of one grand idea, one cause unfolding. But if we stop and look at the Universe as one Divine Mind or Infinite Consciousness expanding to know itself, then it only makes sense that we are unique yet integral and interwoven parts of that Divine Mind, and everything we do are expressions or movements of it as well.
The moment we incarnate we are bombarded with outside stimuli from the physical world that demand our attention and we rightly so give it to learn how to navigate this new environment to ensure our greatest chances for survival. However, it is rare that we are taught that this is not the only place to get your cues in life from. Sure, we often get the good old generic lessons passed down to us like, “always trust your gut” or “follow your heart”, but these cookie-cutter conversation pieces are rarely ever more deeply explored even though they carry some serious hidden gem insights. And this must lead us to wonder are they really understood and communicated from one generation to the next on what it really means to do either?
If we’re unaware of core beliefs, we may even convince ourselves that we just are not destined to be happy. Sadly many people accept this belief and thus manifest it into their destiny. But what if we are made aware of those core beliefs and we know that they can be healed? As long as we are open to the idea that they are not just “who we are”, there is not one core belief that cannot be overcome, healed and integrated so that you can live a happier, healthier life.
Whether you believe you played a role in designing your path and now creating the drama unfolding as ‘your life’, it IS unfolding. The only other option I can think of is to believe that shit just randomly happens to us; which is, of course, worth entertaining just as much as the next belief. But which feels more empowering to you? Which one feels like you have a say or get a vote?
As humans, we are here to learn and to grow, and what may look like ignorance, or like blurred lenses, or apathy is often just a necessary part of the growth process that each and every one of us go through in our own way. And the beauty of life itself, the essence of creation lives through us in the experiences we have as we grow and learn. And what is even more beautiful is when we each discover that we’re all walking our paths, and that it best suits us to focus on where we are headed rather than worrying about how far ahead or far behind others may be on their own paths.
Meditation is an incredible way to calm the mind and clear away the noise of the day that we all tend to carry well into the late evening. With regular practice, the mind will naturally get into the rhythm of starting to calm down and meditation will get easier for you. It is not about having NO thoughts; it’s about letting those thoughts pass by like clouds in the sky and coming back to your calm center.
The longer I date someone who is just like me in so many damn ways, but in the ways that matter, my absolute complete and udder opposite, I also learn to embrace those dualistic parts within myself. I learn to recognize and discern between the judgments I surpass as things I am projecting and things that I genuinely am picking up on that he needs my help pointing out that he is simply not aware of.
According to Quantum Theory, if we simply rely on “common sense” to understand the nature of reality, we refuse ourselves the chance to see the whole picture; which takes a bit of being open to…well, a little bit of weirdness. It says that our rational minds simply cannot perceive the ultimate truth of reality and to even begin to understand, we need to expand, go deeper and think outside of the box.
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The more we self-observe, however, the more we give ourselves an incredible amount of control over our beliefs & feelings and allow ourselves to act less impulsively. We are creating a space for ourselves to consciously act rather than subconsciously react and giving ourselves the freedom of choice, rather than continuing to be a slave to our emotions, experiences and previous neural connections.
