Becoming an adult is the most exciting feeling to most people. It’s a phase of life where young people start getting a taste of independence. They can make decisions on their own, form their own opinions and express their thoughts freely.
As fun as your teenage years might seem, it’s nothing compared to the life of the 30s. Science has it that the 30s are life’s best years since at that age, people have more financial & personal security, their sex life is at its peak, and real happiness is attained.
According to a study that was published in the Washington Post, old people aged 100 and above regarded their 30s as being the best decade of their lives.
Therefore, as you approach age 30, you have to equip yourself with certain skills that would help you enjoy your life. Here are some of the top lessons to learn to make your 30s worthwhile.
1. Learn to be yourself
Being yourself is the only way to live life to the fullest. Many people under the age of 30 still battle with the identity crisis. They do not know who they are and that’s why they try to adopt everyone’s view about life. They form their opinions based on what other people say.
In building an ideal personality, it’s important you do a deep soul search to really find out what you want for yourself. It’s your life and you should live it without minding what people would say. Sure, you’ll be criticized while trying to do your thing but trust me, it’s better to be criticized and be yourself than to be praised and live a pseudo-life.
2. Remember, you can't always be right
No one is above mistake. Life would be boring if we always got things right. But when we make mistakes, we always have something new to learn. You either discover something you’re not doing correctly or something you failed to do all together.
The biggest lesson here is that no matter how hard you try, you’d never be perfect. Therefore, you must embrace your imperfection without any feeling of guilt and strive to become better each passing day.
3. Apologizing is not an act of stupidity
When you err, do you apologize? That’s a simple question many people can’t answer. I saw a video recently where a little girl found it difficult to say ‘I’m sorry’ to her sister whom she offended. No matter how hard her dad tried to convince her, she insisted that it was only a mistake and that she would not apologize.
Many people feel that apologizing is a sign of weakness, so they let their ego shine instead of using their hearts. Accepting your fault and apologizing aren’t acts of stupidity, rather they portray mental strength and maturity.
4. Learning is a lifelong process
Nobody is an island of knowledge. No one has it all figured out. And that’s perfectly fine. We all live to learn every day and the moment you realize that learning is a lifelong process, that’s when you’d start to fulfill your purpose.
Going into your 30s, you’d realize that there’s a whole lot of younger people looking up to you for guidance. If you must lead the way for others, you certainly have to beef up your knowledge. First, you have to learn from your own personal experience and then from experienced people with deep insights; who’ve been there and have seen it all.
5. Don't ask for permission
If you want to be successful in life, you must stop asking for permission and start doing what you have to do. Do not let the fear of failure hold you back and never listen to naysayers. Just go for it.
Since you’re the only one that truly understands your mission, asking for permission from those who are not in the picture doesn’t sound like a smart thing to do. If you’re convinced enough about what you want, all you need is to give yourself the approval and let your conviction and determination lead you.
6. Money is not everything
Money is a beautiful thing to have. Having money means that you would have access to the niceties of life. It makes our lives comfortable and gives us power. The only things money cannot buy are love and happiness.
You could have all the money in this world and still not be at peace with yourself. This means that money is mostly capable of solving physical problems. Therefore, you must begin to focus on the real things that add meaning to your life. This includes building a real relationship with people, being compassionate with those around you, adding value to people, and engaging in random acts of kindness. These are the things that matter most.
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