Rules for Having Sex with Your Friends with Benefits

Friends with benefits is a popular way to gain a non-committed relationship with someone you respect, trust, and like. It’s also a way to take a close friendship to another level if you want, while exploring your own wants and likes. However, before you start a FWB relationship, you need to set some ground rules.

The rules will help make your relationship fun. It’s a chance to make sure it stays strictly friends with benefits, taking out emotion and commitment, focusing on the fun of the experience. The rules protect both of you. Here are the top rules you’ll want to set for Friends with Benefits dating.

Always Be Honest With Each Other

Make sure you have a rule about honesty. This isn’t just about when you meet someone else that you want to be committed to, but about when your feelings for one another grow. Quite often, at least one person in the relationship can develop stronger feelings and wants to gain more commitment. That wasn’t what you signed up for at the start.

Have a rule so you are honest about when those feelings change. You can then break off the friends with benefits relationship.

You’ll also want to be honest about past sexual relationships and any interests you have in the bedroom. This is a person you can trust, so offer that same benefit. You also want to be honest when something that you enjoy in the bedroom or when something isn’t working. The idea is that you both enjoy this experience in the bedroom!

Always Practice Safe Sex

Talk about protection. The safest sex is with condoms and a secondary form of protection. You have double the protection against pregnancy, should one contraception fail, and you have protection against STDs. Granted, you should both have a conversation about STDs, but you’re also not committed to each other which means you can pick up something from elsewhere.

Follow the protection rule when sleeping with other people. Whether you meet people in a bar or even through another FWB finder, such as the ones you’ll find through Friends with Benefits apps, you’ll need to make sure your health is put before your pleasure.

Avoid Sleepovers

One of the most confusing parts of a FWB relationship is the cuddling afterward. This is purely about the sex. You don’t want to stay the night and sleep in your friend’s bed and vice versa.

It doesn’t have to be awkward, either. Just set up a rule of you getting dressed and leaving afterward. Of course, if you’re going for round two then you can remain naked but don’t fall asleep. This will just send mixed messages and lead to the emotional attachment.

You’ll always want to keep the activities strictly to the bedroom. Okay, passion on the couch is one thing but this shouldn’t turn into dinner dates or cuddling up on the couch. Avoid the parts of a relationship that make you a couple so you can keep having the sexy fun in the bedroom.

Avoid Meeting the Parents

Don’t let your friends with benefits become a plus one to weddings, parties, and family events. Avoid your “friend” meeting your parents, otherwise you’re crossing the boundary into being a couple. This relationship is a temporary one.

The only time this rule doesn’t work is if you’ve been friends for a while. If your friend already knows your parents outside of your current relationship, then there’s no getting around this one. However, you’ll want to keep the plus ones to a minimum to avoid the couple vibe.

Always Set a Rule for Meeting Other People

This is a temporary relationship. The idea is your friend with benefits fills a void and you both need to be clear and honest about that. It’s all about fun.

So, eventually, one of you will meet someone else. It’s important to have a rule for this to avoid jealousy and disappointment. That means you can’t be upset and angry when your friend calls things off and vice versa.

If you’re getting jealous, it suggests your feelings are going one step further into relationship territory. Check yourself and be honest about it. Are you jealous? This could be time to break things off and find another friend with benefits.

Friends with benefits dating is meant to be fun. The rules won’t distract from the fun but actually offer you more fun in your nightly sexy activities. Put them in place and you’ll protect each other.