We have all had this one moment when we just gave up on everything and suddenly, with a snap of the fingers, you felt free. Escaping responsibility is a temporary relief – one that may take the pressure off, but since our anxiety and worries tend to stem from within, we also carry them with us. Therefore, any change should stem from within, regardless of circumstances.
One person to have mastered the secrets of “not caring anymore,” is Tony Robbins. This is not to say that Robbins doesn’t care, but rather he found a way to be at peace with himself and take everything in stride. There are no bad experiences, only opportunities to grow.
We have taken Tony’s Get Motivated advice as inspiration to write our 6 step practical guide.
1. Free Yourself of the Constraints of the Present
Most people are too worried about the present that they don’t see the big picture. Instead, Robbins advises individuals to seek that inner source of motivation and balance. Whatever the circumstances and whatever you do in life, you can find a way to be at peace with yourself.
Creating a vision is not pegged to continually pushing yourself down. Short-term goals and something as simple as a list of tasks can lead to a more fulfilling present without constantly chasing the next benchmark, deadline or professional achievement.
While those are important, Robbins believes you should create a life dynamic where you are not pressured but still apply yourself to the fullest.
2. Exercise and Be Active
Physical exercise is not necessarily everyone’s go-to form of entertainment, but it carries its own set of benefits, improving cognitive function, boosting self-esteem and even leading to a longer, healthier life.
Exercise in the morning, as Robbins practices it, is designed to give your body and mind that necessary jump-start that will often replace other artificial stimuli, such as caffeine. Think you have stopped carrying?
Why not shake yourself off the lethargy with a quick exercise session that will help you find your focus and achieve clarity. Not carrying is just admitting that you are unsatisfied with your present situation and seeking a painless way out.
Clarity, Robbins says, is what you need to find your way out.
3. Focus on What You Love Doing
There is no need to fall in some pattern and pursue specific goals that are not stemming from within. Success comes when you do what you love. Robbins recognizes though that people often take this the wrong way.
To many people, doing what you love should feel an effortless undertaking, but in fact – it’s the opposite. Doing what you love means that you overcome the small challenges that crop up daily to achieve results and move forward – grow as a person if you will.
4. You Probably Need to Recharge
Finding a hobby that keeps you in check is often recommended. You won’t perhaps grow much practising your hobby, but it would provide you with much-needed relief. Escapism or otherwise, winding down is what recharges the batteries.
Something as simple as enjoying your favourite show might be enough to make you snap out of the humdrumness of real-life and launch yourself back in new pursuits in a bid to make your life meaningful.
Your hobby doesn’t have to be mind healing like Tai Chi if that’s not your thing, even something as unusual as learning stand up comedy would be perfect. You will be equally satisfied and put yourself in a more positive mental state.
5. Reduce how often you think about finances
Many of our day to day problems can stem from having financial problems. These can be difficult to overcome and affect us all no matter our wealth or lack of. It’s a common myth that people with money don’t think about their finances as much as those that are struggling to pay their bills.
However, the truth is that everyone overthinks their financial circumstances. If you have a car, you want a better one, if you have a small TV, you want a bigger one, even if you’ve just been lucky enough to win a large pot of money as this man did, you’ll be thinking about money.
How to make more and how to spend it takes up an equal share of your energy and mind. It’s very difficult but try and put time blocks in place where for the next 3 hours you’re not going to think about how you’re going to pay something.
6. Find Inspiration in Others
We all tend to copy from one another. While finding a mentor to teach you and watch over you seems a long-shot, you will still be able to read up on all the fiction or nonfiction you can find, watch the movies that really inspire you and listen to the speeches of people like Robbins yourself.
Inspiration is all about establishing a dynamic, a state where your brain is perpetually looking to find something new and exciting – a permanent state of curiosity as it were. Even the most lethargic mind, so long as it has had some basic training, will respond to an interesting fact or something that it can grasp in full or at least perceive the potential of.
When you study a new language, you might not comprehend the entire meaning of passages, but you can feel they are beautiful. The secret to finding inspiration is to hone the skills and awareness you need to find inspiration not only in others but in the surrounding world.
Lastly, you may think that giving up is an easy way out, but it’s not. It tends to be wasted energy that will weigh you down even more in the long term. A far better solution, according to Robbins at least, is to find the things you love and then do them. Feeling a little out of it just now? Find your perpetual inner source of inspiration and follow it unfalteringly.
