In the beginning…sometimes there is no choice. We are born for instance, seemingly there is no choice there, in the physical sense. Yet, how we end something is entirely our choice.
The way we end something is also how we live our life. The ending is part of the flow or the conflict, it’s our choice. Do we wish to struggle, resist or get upset? Make a decision on what is important, develop what is useful, and determine to have a good ending.
How to Develop a Good Ending and Live a Good Life in the Meantime
1. Set an intention for peace. Relax. Breathe. Be.
2. Be observant. Witness what is going on around you or in a current situation or relationship. Make room for things to be ok, without strife, conflict. How? Let go of feeling you have to be in control of the situation. Don’t get caught up in results. Allow your expectations to be open-ended. Keep them in an open hand. Agree with another as much as you can with another, otherwise, show polite disinterest or just nod your head.
3. Go opposite of the crowd. Instead of following or listening to the masses telling what you must think, do or be. Listen to your heart. If you can’t discern with your heart, then set an intention to develop it. Remember, the heart is not only a muscle that pumps blood, it is a communicator of inner knowing and wisdom. Your heart has much to offer: get quiet and learn. Ask, what do I need to know right now? Get quiet and listen. As an adult, you can choose what to think about, how to use your time wisely. Train your brain! Listen to your heart.
4. Embrace synchronicities and serendipities. If something pops up that is convenient, use it, otherwise embrace the ‘walk’. The walk is your life, activities and all that goes on around you. When you develop your heart and live with higher intelligence, then synchronicities come more often. Or do they? Possibly you are in tune, now recognize and utilize them. As these synchornicites happen be grateful, when they don’t enjoy the process. The process will often take you where you need to be. This is living a serendipitous life. Serendipity is finding something you needed while doing another thing. As you live serendipitously, it is almost like being part of a game.
5. Live so you never have to say you are sorry. In other words, don’t be a jerk. Be kind, be patient and gracious. Grace is a gift. It is a good attitude, a gesture of love, good intentions and is given even when the recipient is, in your estimation, undeserving.
Remember, how you live your life is up to you. Make good choices and live well. Love, Julia
Julia Parsell is a Certified Holistic Health Counselor with an emphasis on the intersection of science and the sacred. She writes from experiences and transformative understandings that have led her to an authentic and peaceful life. She goes by these names: mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, niece, cousin, and friend. As home educator of her three children, she also developed/ran cafes, and maintained various leadership roles within her community. Her greatest desire is to encourage others to live life fully. Her passions are family, art creation, writing, and trail blazing. She loves her life in Western North Carolina.
