As an art, marriage requires constant attention and cultivation to grow into anything beneficial. Following are some Insta-Grow solutions to further nurturing your marriage even after many years of cultivation.
1. Change your pattern of initiating sex
When initiating sex becomes a routine, it becomes all too easy to bring comparison and criticism into the mix and this always spoils the outcome for all involved. To avoid this completely rethink your ways of initiating sex. If you are a big planner, try something spontaneous on the kitchen floor. If you are not the one to initiate sex usually, go out on a limb and express what you want sexually. Extensive anecdotal evidence suggests you won’t regret being attended to!
2. Hold hands more often
You can’t overlook the smaller details that make an affectionate romance what it is. According to Dr. Kory Floyd, holding hands, hugging, nuzzling and simple physical contact (even in non-erogenous zones) produce a calming and soothing effect. The physical affection is also good for lowering levels of cortisol.
3. Allow tension to build
Truly refined and quality pleasure is found in building up energy and tension, much like fully drawing a bow string makes for the best flight path of an arrow. So, find ways to build tension and fully-experience the anticipation before actually releasing. This can include foreplay, a change in locations, being more open and expressive about fantasies and the list just goes on.
4. Separate sexual intimacy from routine
Keep your sexual activities sacred, this means when you are about to satisfy each other sexually, you need to step out of all other characters that do not contribute to the sexuality of the exchange. No talk of work, chores, kid’s grades or the weekend with the in-laws.
5. Carve out time to spend with your partner
Make sure that flirting and planning dates is never phased out of your relationship. These habits spark intimacy and sexual tension.
6. Emphasize Affection
Offer each other the full royal treatment because very few people will ever ask. This means back massage, shoulder rubs and foot massage. People often assume sexual intimacy is only sexual, but the power of touch can have practical applications that are major demonstrations of passion and affection.
7. Try a little more vulnerability
Sex is experienced best as a release, so release it all. Let your partner know what you like, what you have not liked, what you feel, experience and fantasize about. Need some help, consider therapy for you or both of you.
8. Maintain a sense of curiosity about sexual intimacy
Look for new ways to make each other feel awesome. Sex is not just a time to chase pleasurable feelings but to really get to know what your partner is like on this plane. Perhaps share something a little naughty like some naughty videos or choose a star to watch at xxxbios.
9. Vary the kind of sex you have
There is sweet soft smooth sex and then the more sweaty emotionally and passionately charged varieties and they are all great. Try a few different things out for fun.
10. Make sex a priority
Set the scene for sex and treat it as your regular “date with an angel” consider everything you will do and avoid doing to make sex more intimate and passionate. Set the scenes with incense, wine and candles –– can’t go wrong there.
