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Are You Sabotaging Your Emotional Well-Being with These 8 Common Defense Mechanisms?

Posted by on December 19, 2017 in Conscious Living, Thrive with 1 Comment

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By Tony Robbins | Human Elevation

Rejected from a job you wanted. A social setting you don’t feel comfortable in. A stressful argument with your partner.

For many of us, any situation that brings uncertainty triggers an unconscious protective measure that allows us to cope with unpleasant emotions. And in the short-term, many mechanisms can be adaptive. We don’t dwell. We don’t say or do something with potentially damaging ramifications. We keep ourselves in a better state.

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Yet in the long run, the effect is actually the opposite, as routine use of defense mechanisms can actually reduce the effectiveness of emotional processing. This is why it is key to become more cognizant of your personal tendencies. Do you live in a state of denial when bad news comes your way? Do you find yourself constantly making excuses for your behavior?

You may never rid yourself of your defense mechanisms. Think of them as hard-wired into your system. But with more self-awareness, you can understand how they are helping and hurting you, and how to truly tend to your emotional well-being.

Take a look at some of the most common defense mechanisms:

1) Denial

When a situation or fact becomes too much to handle, you may simply refuse to experience it. By denying reality, you are essentially protecting yourself from the having to face and deal with the unpleasant consequences and pain that accompany acceptance. If you tell yourself: “I’m just a social drinker,” or that “every couple eventually loses the romance,” for example, you are utilizing denial as a defense mechanism. And while this may alleviate any short term pain, in the long run, denial can prevent you from making positive change and can have potentially destructive ramifications.

2) Repression

There is a fine line between denial and repression. But where denial involves the outright refusal to accept a given reality, repression involves completely forgetting the experience altogether. With repression, your mind makes the decision to bury the memory in the subconscious, thereby preventing painful, disturbing or dangerous thoughts from entering awareness. This is often the case with child abuse or other traumatic experiences that occurred early on in our development. While repression, much like denial, may serve immediate purposes, particularly if you were tormented by a painful experience, if you do not eventually process and deal with the experience it can have severe consequences later on.

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3) Displacement

Have you ever endured a stressful day at work, then come home and taken out your frustration on your loved ones? What about a time where you had an argument with your partner, then got in your car and found your patience waning with every driver on the road?

With displacement, you transfer your emotions from the person who is the target of your frustration to someone or something else entirely. Subconsciously, you believe that to confront the source of your feelings may be too dangerous or risky, so you shift the focus towards a target or situation that is less intimidating or dangerous. While displacement may protect you from losing your job, burning a bridge, or saying or doing something that could irreparable damage, it will not help you handle the emotions you are experiencing, and you will also end up hurting someone completely innocent.

4) Projection

Imagine you find yourself in a situation where you feel like a fish out of water. You feel uncomfortable and a bit anxious. You start to see that others are staring at you, with what you perceive as a critical, judgmental eye. They do not say anything or do anything that is objectively negative, but your insecurity about yourself causes you to “project” your feelings onto others. And the feelings may even become so intense that you caustically question, “What are you staring at?”

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Most of us have found ourselves in a situation in which we project our feelings, shortcomings or unacceptable impulses onto others. And the reason we do so is because to recognize that particular quality in ourselves would cause us pain and suffering. While projection can also work in a positive way, when you project feelings of love, confidence and care onto others, when it impacts us in a negative way, it only compounds the stress and anxiety and prevents us from dealing with the root of the emotions.

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