How To Know If You’re With THE ONE?

Stop waiting for The One.

Everyone you are in a relationship with is the ONE. They are the one that you are meant to be with at that time.

Until you are not.

Each person you have attracted into your life is a manifestation of yourself. They are a mirror reflecting to you parts of yourself. They show you the aspects of yourself that you most need to heal, own, embrace, integrate and make peace with.

Each person you are in relationship with is “The One” for as long as you are with them. You attracted each other because there are important lessons that you have to teach one another.

So ask yourself:

Why have I attracted this person into my life?

What lessons is my soul seeking to learn?

All lessons are repeated until learned. So commit to learning the lesson for which you and your partner came together to teach each other.

You might break up with your partner seeking for a better “one” but know that you will simply attract the same lessons, patterns and dynamics in another relationship, even though the person might be different.

You cannot run from yourself. Wherever you go there you are. And you take yourself with you.

Embrace EVERY relationship as a profound opportunity to grow and evolve into the highest version of yourself.

A successful relationship is about two people who are both committed to each other’s growth and evolution, and are going in a similar direction, at a similar pace.

Sometimes we have this fantasy idea that “The One” will come in a perfect package and there will be no issues. Or we have a preconceived idea of what we think we want.

I believe that “The One” will come in the form of a person that will most serve your soul's highest evolution. And as a result cause you to grow the most!

Simply put, they might not fit your ego's limited idea of what you want, but rather will meet your soul's deeper longing of what it is seeking to experience. Hence the term soulmate.

They will challenge you to expand everything you know about yourself, relationships, and love. They are an invitation to love bigger. They are an invitation to meet yourself.

Let me make clear that it doesn't have to be pain or suffering though. And it might not necessarily be bliss, and lightness all the time.

The person who is the one will find those places within you that need healing and tend to bring up your most unresolved issues to be dealt with.

This is a great gift. And if you embrace the gift that they are giving you to evolve rather than run away, you are then both able to work through the challenges that arise consciously, compassionately and with intention. This will only lead to a bigger love and more authentic relationship.

Every single relationship you experience is a gift. Each has it's unique blessing for your growth and evolution. Whether you are with that person for one week, one month, one year, or a lifetime doesn't matter. It's not the length of time that you stay together that matters but the depth with which you loved and the degree to which you grew in the relationship.

So rather than holding back your loving, as you wait for who you think will be “The One”, give everything you have with whomever you are with. In doing so you expand, and when you love fully you gain no matter what.

Each relationship prepares you. Sometimes we can be impatient to meet “The One”. But if you actually met your life partner before the right time, you may not have been ready for what the relationship might require.

Trust Divine timing.

So rather than spend your energy seeking for The One, clear away whatever blocks you from opening your heart and being love fully.

Ultimately everyone you meet is The One.

There is only one of you.

There is only one consciousness manifesting as us all.

We are one.

BE the ONE.



P.S. Women: If you a ready for big love, and to transform the hidden blocks that keep you from having the love you deserve. Join me at The Man Breakthrough Experience (Workshop) May 15-17th in Los Angeles. You can still get the early bird price!

EDITOR'S NOTE: I attended Kute's Man Breakthrough Experience and can honestly say it helped me magnetize my life-partner soul-mate, Ross Pittman (Editor of CLN). I can't recommend it highly enough! Love and blessings, Vicki


Kute BlacksonKute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom.

Kute works with clients from all walks of life, ranging from billionaires, celebrities, entrepreneurs, circus performers, politicians, mothers and children in over 20 countries, and for the past 14 years has been a trusted advisor and coach to CEO’s and world leaders.  Acclaimed worldwide for his life changing, one of a kind, transformational experiences, he is considered one of the leading voices in the fields of transformation and spirituality.

Kute is an inspiring modern day spiritual teacher and a bold voice for a new generation. He leads transformational journeys to Bali (get more info here).  He also helps women overcome any and all obstacles to love with his “The Man Breakthrough Experience” , the Women's Seminar.

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  1.' Debi says:

    I I really enjoyed what you had to say about relationships and I thought it was pretty deep it brought an understanding to me thank you

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