Sex Can Expand Your Spirit When You Engage In These 3 Types of Divine Union

Written by on August 7, 2018 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 8 Comments

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By Mateo Sol | LonerWolf

What if instead of an obstacle, sex was a pathway toward a spiritual life?

Those of us who have been raised with religious backgrounds have often been taught that sexuality and spirituality are opposing forces, that you cannot be virtuous if you have sex because sex is a “sin” or is “unspiritual.”

Prior to dogmatic ideologies, sexuality was respected for thousands of years as a sacred expression of nature's life force and the mystery of creation. Although I've written about the value of Sexual Transmutation, or sexual abstinence in the past, I want to make it very clear in this article that sex can also work as a catalyst for cultivating spiritual well-being.

To lead a spiritual life you need to embrace and respect your sexuality just as much as any other part of your nature. Although sex has been linked to many dirty and “perverse” ideas, the act of lovemaking can truly be something sacred and profound.

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How to Deal With Sexual Guilt and Shame

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came and continue to exist within.

The feeling of shame is one of the biggest obstacles most of us face in learning to embrace our sexuality. We live in a culture that has infected us with the notions of virtue and shame, where a murder scene on television is more “viewer-friendly” than a lovemaking one. In a culture where women were once thought of as incapable of experiencing an orgasm, it becomes apparent how difficult it is to openly accept and acknowledge this life force that exists within us.

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Shame is an emotion that we're taught by our families and communities. From a very young age we're taught what we “should and shouldn't feel bad about,” and as a result of this we develop the capacity to experience guilt. Through guilt we begin rejecting sacred aspects of ourselves and repressing them deep into our Shadow Selves; our sexual desires, quirks, attractions and fantasies.

Related Article:Sexual Repression, Erotic Dreams and the Shadow Self

I've even seen some people deny their sexuality, dismissing it as a “lower physical instinct/vibration” or claiming to “rise above it” as if there is a division between “lower” physical cravings and “higher” spiritual functions when we are seeking wholeness. Sex forms the base notes of your Spirit's musical melody.

Of course, you are more than solely a sexual being: your sexuality doesn't define you, but it is a part of you. But it is by denying it as a part of you that you create blockages of energy within your body that perpetuate the fragmentation of your soul, keeping you incomplete and restricted instead of expanded and whole.

 Ironically, it is the sexual orgasm that gives us a taste of soulful expansion, of transcending our limited selves, and feeling boundless for the first time in our entire lives (if only for a momentary glimpse).

Spiritual Sex: 3 Types of Divine Union

Many of us haven't been taught that sex is actually a powerful tool of transcendental development. In fact, spiritual sex is the quickest and easiest way to have something resembling a mystical experience.

The powerful thing about sexual energy is that it's one of the few instincts within us that can rarely be completely “civilized.” If you are tired at home from work and a friend offers you to go out to watch a movie you may pass on the offer. But if you were to meet an attractive person instead who was to make him/herself available to you, it would arouse a deep energy within you that you weren't aware existed.

Related Article: What’s the Difference Between Sex and Tantra?

Any type of ecstatic experience – like sex – is an ideal starting point to begin cultivating spiritual moments of “no-mind” and bringing them naturally into our daily lives. In my experience, there are three main types of sex that you can benefit from:

1. The Alert Union

Most first time sexual experiences with partners fall into this type of union. When we make ourselves vulnerable, intimate, exposed and “work” toward that mutual pleasurable moment of bliss, our conscious awareness becomes heightened by the novelty of exploring the other person's body.

This union is not so much a mindful awareness but an alert awareness that instinctively takes over. Our feelings of vulnerability and excitement make our natural adrenaline mechanism stimulate alertness making the experience much more primal than spiritual. This type of sex is very addictive as the novelty of pursuing new sexual partners rewards us with that momentary “god-like” state of consciousness.

2. The Conscious Union

It's typical however that as our sense of vulnerability and stimulation weakens so too does our desire for the first type of love-making (The Alert Union).

In The Conscious Union, we learn how to cultivate a more balanced form of spiritual sex, one that creates harmony between the passionate animal and sensually playful sides of our sexuality. In The Conscious Union we listen to our sexual desires, explore our bodies and those of our lovers, build deeper intimacy through eye-gazing, sensually caress, and follow our deepest forms of sexual expression. These often generate intense feelings of union and love that briefly take us beyond our sense of self.

It is through this practice of conscious union that we can reach the next stage of soulful union.

3. The Soulful Union

There's a beautiful term in the Sanskrit Tantric scriptures known as “Maithuna” which literally translates to “sexual union.” Maithuna is one of Tantra's most important teachings as it makes use of conscious “sexual intensity” as a ladder that ascends to greater heights of intensity, focusing upon the illumination of the soul rather than solely on physical sexual pleasure.



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  1.' Colm Maguire says:

    Learn about 3 types of divine union and tips for achieving them. ????

  2.' Lucy Sy-changco says:


  3.' Shibshankar Chakraborty says:
  4.' Davitt Chin says:

    One of the subject most people who are on the road to spiritual awareness most often overlooked is embracing themselves fully in sex and sexuality. And that’s due to ingrained brainwashing from their religion. You can’t be fully onto the spiritual path if you do not embrace and celebrate sex and your own sexuality, period!

  5.' Misty Ayla says:

    I always considered mysefl asexual until I began awakening. I realized I was “becoming more sexual” and thought it was weird, until I learned that getting to know yourself and loving who you are opens up whole other dimensions of yourself that you can embrace.

  6.' Matthew Cairns says:

    That girl statue is way smaller than the guy. Ancient giants or just small girls ??

    •' Makeba Davis says:

      Probably a thirty year old man and twelve year old girl … remember girls were taken young then.

  7.' Ezedin Mohammed says:

    spiritual sex how sweet!

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