How to Use Fear as a Tool for Success


Everything is Energy…

When I first learned that at an atomic level everything is pure energy and that nothing is truly “solid” as matter appears, I was truly amazed. I was just about 19 when this fact truly hit home with me during my very first Reiki class. If everything is energy, then this meant that nothing is truly separate and everything is intertwined in a vast cosmic web.

I went onto learn that nothing can be created without moving energy. My introduction to Quantum Mechanics years later told me how when waves move faster than the speed of light, they burst into existence as physical matter. This translated to me a message that has affected me deeply on a personal level ever since…that to ensure our own success, whatever that means to us, we must take action towards our vision of it!

This is the difference between daydreaming and reaching your goals. Daydreaming is the ego’s way of keeping our most heart-felt desires and ideas of happiness out of reach. When we put things on proverbial pedestals, we are literally sending out a message that we believe we are not good enough to manifest our deepest desires, or that we are simply unworthy of happiness, and this will keep them at bay and just out of our reach, forever and ever.

And what often keeps us daydreaming and not acting towards that which we desire is fear. Fear of what others may think of or want from us if we become successful; fear of failing and/or the fear that we were destined for a life of misery or mediocrity and therefore we don’t even try. We end up becoming numb to the inner pull of our heart and call of our Soul to step into our greatness and become to best version of ourselves we were always meant to be.

Put Those Fears to Work!

So, how do we get out from under the paralyzing grasp of fear and make it work for us rather than against? How do we turn this terrifying emotion into a friend we can rely on for guidance and motivation? We have all heard it before…we face our fears HEAD ON!

Like darkness is not “bad” but simply the lack of light, fear is also not a “bad” emotion, it is simply lacking LOVE! When in the presence of love, fear cannot exist, although many would say that love itself is pretty scary. Actually, it is the unknowing about the depths of love and the daunting task of truly being authentic (while also being accepted) that is usually what ignites fear in love relationships; not actually love itself.

When we truly understand love, we know that it is all-encompassing yet freeing. Love is solid yet unbinding and it also asks for nothing, but only to embody everything it brings to the surface in you to help you grow, mature and expand as a human being in many, many facets of the emotional spectrum. As we grow to understand love more and more though all types of experience both joyous and heart-wrenching, we also begin to embody love itself. This is the cross-over from lust to unconditional love as there is no expectation of reciprocity; only the latent desire to share the love that already exists within us.

In my own experience, the more love I showed to myself the more I was willing to also face my fears. Things that I once only daydreamed about and considered childish fantasies became so important to me, that they had no choice but to manifest in my life due to the emotional charge and action I had begun to put behind them. When I stopped seeing my own dreams as impossible, the world became my oyster. Why? Because I believed it to be so…I no longer relied on others to tell me how good or bad I was at something or that I should or should not do something in my life. I still take advice of course, but I stopped holding the opinions of others as law and instead listen to that voice I now call Spirit or intuition.

“Just Do it!”

A trick I’ve learned along my journey of self-love and discovery is that when I feel scared to do something, that usually means I need to do it. Now, I’m not talking about taking up rattlesnake wrestling or something like that, but rather those fears around things that I know I need to do to step up into the person I wish to become. In other words, doing all of those things that a person I’d consider “successful” was doing. And it began with a simple question my mentor asked me…”If you were living the life of your dreams, what would that look like, who would be in your life and what kinds of things would you be doing?”

He went on to teach me how to live (and love) “As-If”. Living as-if you already ARE that which you wish to be was a HUGE catalyst for me personally stepping up and facing more and more of my fears. Intellectually I know that if I wish to become a great Life Coach I need to learn leadership skills, public speaking, great self-confidence and trust in myself, and how to embody “the walk” and not just “the talk”. And guess what? All of these things scare the crap out of me on some level!

Rather than seeing fear as a sign to run, it must become your indicator to GO!

I’d definitely say that becoming great at anything never comes easy and always comes with having to face many, many fears. You will be pushed, pulled, stomped on and dragged around and that’s just by your own thoughts and stories about the challenges you face! You may tell yourself you can’t do it and give up or you may not even start at all, but the power to succeed is truly within each and every one of us; no matter what we or anyone else might try to convince us of otherwise.

If we let fear act as an emotion that halts our growth rather than to inspire more of it, then we will begin to see the ramifications of this in many if not all areas of our lives. We are not being punished or singled out or destined for a crappy life, we are simply being shown where WE need to show up in our own lives even MORE! Life acts to point out where we’re not giving and contributing, but this shows up as our lives appearing to have something missing or being incomplete. This is the curse of being human; always comparing ourselves to one another and looking at them as a guide of how well or not we are doing at life ourselves.

True Appreciation & Gratitude…

When we stop coveting the supposed greener grass that looms just over the proverbial fence, we begin to see the vast and vivid green pastures in our own lives and ironically this is the only way to truly maintain ANY kind of wealth by KNOWING and loving who you are, your life and your role in it, regardless of what you may think that may look like on the outside. When you know and love who you are on the inside, the outside tends to reflect that in numerous and incredible ways. Ironically, to “know thyself” is presumably THE most terrifying thing in the world to people, especially when we’ve all been conditioned to get our self-worth from others.

But that ancient philosophy of “going within” has remained a Sacred Truth all this time for a very valid reason…while the action of self-exploration will come with many hardships, inner battles, confusion, terror, sadness, and revelations, those brave enough to do so will be greatly rewarded. It will be an emotional journey like no other, but under all of the strife and lessons lays a treasure of full authentic resonance. This is a place within yourself that connects you to the All and you can always return to it and know you are safe, loved, and never ever alone, for as the Quantum Wave has taught us, we are all One and when we include our deepest fears in that knowing, we transmute them from having control and power over us and instead tame them to act as “action catalysts” and motivators towards our personal greatness. With that, we can come to appreciate and even love our fears, for they have expanded our hearts to the point we see them for what they are; un-integrated parts of ourselves that are simply yearning to be seen and allowed to come home…


Have a blessed weekend, everyone! <3


tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to

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  1.' Sarah Perez-Park says:

    Yes!!????????. I told you Rebecca Steinmetz

  2.' Colleen Mary McCann says:

    Good read!

  3.' Stephen Hubbard says:

    Awesome words

  4.' Thomas Chenhall says:

    Fear is always a mistake. The moment you fear someone, they ingest your mind…

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