3 Ways For Turning Your Obstacles Into Lasting Personal Growth– Gabrielle Bernstein

Posted by on November 14, 2015 in Conscious Living, Thrive with 3 Comments

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Gabrielle Bernstein provides three steps for dealing with universal assignments – those troubling situations that keep showing up over and over again.

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I have a very important topics today. This topic is important because if we don’t address it, it will keep showing up in your life. And the topic is universal assignments.

We all have personal stories of fear and doubt and uncertainty that we need to heal and restore and reorganize in our belief systems. And those stories from our past show up in many ways throughout our life until WE decide to show up for them.

Let me repeat that. They will keep showing up until you decide to show up.

I had a friend recently call me and say, “Oh my god, here I am 37 years old, still singe, just broke up with this guy because this same relationship that I’ve been replaying over and over in all my past partnerships just happened again.” It’s the same story of her not feeling good enough, the guy making her feel like she’s an adequate and triggering that place within her.

And so I said to her, “Listen, this is your universal assignment. There’s a part of you that doesn’t feel good enough in relationships. You keep attracting guys that trigger that wound within you. But you’re not showing up for the wound, so the assignment keeps showing up for you in all these different partnerships,

And she listened and she got wise. And she said, “Yep, you’re right. He keeps showing up in all these different forms.”

So we have to first and foremost except that we have this assignment – accept what the assignment is. Look at it. Call it by its name. It’s your universal assignment.

In accepting the assignment you give yourself permission to begin the healing process. So really just own this is up for me. I am in this story. I’ve got to heal it. I’ve got to move through it.

Then the next step is to really let yourself feel whatever pain and discomfort and sadness is underneath that assignment. When you start to see that assignment triggered in your life, feel the feelings underneath it. Because when step back into the old patterns and the addictive behaviors, it’s because we are not feeling the feeling underneath that wound.

And then there’s a lot of deeper healing work that can occur, but that deep healing work often comes through therapists or coaches are guides that we may be led to when we decide to show up for the assignment.

So the next step after feeling the feeling is to pray, is to say a prayer: “I am willing to show up for this universal assignment. I’m willing to see this differently and I’m ready to just express this experience of transformation through me.”

The prayer can be simple: “I need help. I need help, show me what you got.”

And be in that prayer. I witness the assignment and I need help.

And very interesting things will start to happen for you. You may be led to that therapist that gives you that exact divine beautiful guidance that you need. That was my experience. When I made the commitment to show up for one of my most universal assignments, I was led to a life coach many years ago who helped me transform, it heal it, and move through it.

Recently I was ready to show up for another assignment and I got into deep prayer: “I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to heal this. I need help.”

And, I was led to a new therapist who is rocking my world. So Spirit works through people and healers and when you open up to receive that guidance and you pray for it, it will be given to you.

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So, I’ll recap the steps:

(1)  Accept that you have the assignment and begin to become willing to show up.

(2) Feel any feelings that are underneath it and allow yourself to be present with those feelings

(3) An the final step is to pray for that guidance that needs to come through so that you can receive the great healing and support that you so long for. And know that it is available to you and know that you have a capacity to heal these wounds so that you no longer have to have those assignments showing up for you because you’re willing to show up for them.

I hope this serves you. And I hope you can take this really seriously and move into your life with so much more grace, ease and freedom because when we show up for these universal assignments we become free.

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