Top 12 Mistakes Men Make in Bed & How To Avoid Them

Posted by on July 28, 2015 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 2 Comments

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By James Buzinko | The Stallion Style

I know that almost each man thinks he is the best stallion during sex, but we all should admit that we may be doing some things in a wrong way. Anyway, there is no better way to improve your lovemaking skills than to learn from your mistakes and those of others.

Whether you’re someone in need of a better approach, or just a married man looking to add a bit more spice back into your love life, here are 12 worst and most common mistakes that men make in bed — and what you can do to avoid them. I bet that you will find at least 2 you are doing as well!

Stop Doing These During Sex

4 Mistakes Guys Make In Bed

Mistake #1 – Not Focusing on Foreplay

In each and every sex poll of women you will notice the same thing – they complain about amount of time men give to proper foreplay.

Although having a quickie is fun from time to time, majority of women express opposite opinions. Therefore, you should always dedicate at least 10 – 15 minutes for proper foreplay. It should include everything that your woman loves.

From massage, sexting up to proper dirty talk. It should be something special done only for her to set the mood properly.

3 Ways to Fix It

In order to give her intensive foreplay to get her in mood for sex, you should try some of the following tips and techniques:

  1. Sensual massage – There is no better way to make woman´s body and mind relax than to give her sensual massage. Always begin with her scalp and neck and work your way through her torso up to her legs. You can use massage oils to make this experience even more relaxing.
  2. Sexting – You need to realize that sex does not begin in bedroom! Therefore, you should prepare her mind to sex even during the day by sending some dirty messages. However, I highly recommend you to read following post in order to not mess it all up – The Ultimate Guide to Sexting.
  3. Dirty talk – The biggest and most effective female sex organ is her brain. If you want to stimulate it and arouse her as well, then I highly recommend you to learn to talk dirty to her. There are some really good techniques provided for free in this article – The Advanced Guide to Talking Dirty.

Keep in mind: If you are searching for more advanced methods, then this post will give you much more valuable information – 8 Foreplay Tips That Will Drive Her Wild.

Mistake #2 – Poor & Awkward Undressing Skill

How to take a bra off with one hand

All guys should know that setting the mood is important for almost every woman who you are going to have sex with! On the contrary, few of us realize that you can kill it incredibly fast with your poor undressing skill.

I know that some pieces of female clothing are often testing our abilities, while others present plenty of opportunities to even spice things up!

3 Ways to Fix It

Do not lose hope, I am going to give you some advice for you to apply even tonight to fix this issue:

  1. Socks – The most common mistake we guys make while undressing ourselves (according to many women polls) is that we leave our socks on. Trust me! You should always take your socks off if you do not have any health issues that force you to keep them on!
  2. Bras – Many women invest in expensive underwear and there is nothing worse a man can do to kill their mood than to be lousy at taking her bra off or breaking a clip on it. Therefore, I highly recommend you guys to learn the technique from the video above!
  3. Panties – Similarly as with bras, some women invest serious amounts of money in their panties so be cautions when you are handling these. Just take them off slowly in a playful and teasing way. You can even try to do this with your teeth but you will need help of your hands as well to you take them below her ass.

Please note: Just think about this the next time you are taking yours and hers clothes off and try to impress her with these new techniques and advice.

Mistake #3 – Lack of Grooming & Poor Hygiene


Getting lax with your daily hygiene routine is a surefire turnoff and an easy way to make your woman feel really sick, both in and out of bed. Not only that. Although women love modern beards, they hate them while kissing or when you are giving them oral.

What is more, if she is giving you a head I bet that having “bush” down there is not comfortable for her. Therefore, you should always pay attention to your daily hygiene, sweating, odor and body hair.

4 Ways to Fix It

Luckily, avoiding this mistake is really simple with these few tips:

  1. Make shower your friend – The easiest way to avoid unpleasant body odor and to smell fresh and clean is to maintain proper hygiene and take daily showers. However, if you tend to sweat excessively or you are working out in any way, you could even shower twice a day.
  2. Use manly perfume – Women are very sensitive to smells. Therefore, after taking shower you should spray some manly perfume on your neck and hair. Focus on musk or woody essences.
  3. Shave that hair – Many guys do not realize that your short facial hair is intensively irritating her skin. Therefore, do not make this mistake and always shave to make her experience the best possible. Although some women prefer body hair, you could shave your armpits for better odor as well.
  4. Get rid of bush – Growing a bush of pubic hair is something that will make maintaining a proper hygiene more troublesome. Not only is it going to make your penis look smaller, but it will definitely make you less likely to get oral from her.

Keep in mind: It doesn’t smell like roses down there, so wash every day (and twice if you work out). The same goes for the rest of your body; as stated above, foreplay is a key & SPECIAL aspect of lovemaking, and it can be really hard to make it erotic when you look and smell like a schlub.

Mistake #4 – Being Silent & Emotionless

Being silent while having sex (unless your partner has asked for it) is a quick way to make her feel she is not good enough or that you do not like what she is doing to you. A lot of women complain about it so do not ignore this issue.

They often feel like they are having sex with a silent emotionless robot. I bet you would not like that either. In fact, this is not a great turn on and can actually prevent her from getting an orgasm!

3 Ways to Fix It

Although this one is very common for younger guys who are just beginning with sex, even some older men are repeating this mistake over and over again. Luckily, there are few steps you need to follow to avoid this one completely:

  1. Moan – The first and easiest thing you can do is to start moaning when you are having sex and she is doing something you really like. However, you need to realize that too much of it can come across as distracting in some moments.
  2. Express your emotions – This one is important. You need to express your emotions and feelings through your face. Remember, sex is not a poker tournament and positive facial expressions are highly appreciated by women.
  3. Compliment her – This is similar as moaning. Do you like what she is doing to you? Then tell her that in slow soft voice! Or you can tell her that you love her ass. Just base your compliments on truth and make them sound believable.

Keep in mind: Making these 3 quick fixes a habit can help you completely avoid repeating this mistake ever again.

Mistake #5 – Not Taking Lead During Sex

What Do Women Want In Bed: A Man Who Takes Control

In most cases, women want to have a leading and stronger partner during sex. The more so if she seems to be dominant in your relationship. Being too passive and lacking spontaneity are very often the main reasons why lovemaking in relationships starts to fade away.

Although from time to time, each woman will want to take a lead and ride you to orgasm, this should not become the norm. It is a mans role to take a dominant role during sex.

2 Ways to Fix It

Avoiding this mistake is more complicated than the ones before but it is doable. All you need is a few tips and tricks to use in bed and a slight boost in the confidence of your sex skills:

  1. Be confident – Trusting your skills is very important. Every girl is attracted to self-confidence in men generally. This is even more true in sex. So if you want to rock her world in bed, then start trusting in your techniques. If you want to know what else it takes to become alpha male, then I highly recommend you this article – 8 Qualities of an Attractive Alpha Male That Will Get Her.
  2. Lead her – This can be done in a very simple, yet effective way. All you need to do is to start playfully telling her what are you going to do to her a moment you are going to do it. Then you can start telling her what you would love from her. If you do not want to tell her this directly, you can just lead her hands (guys do not force it if she resists!).

Please note: If your girl wants you to take the lead, or you feel they’re hinting that way, lead on — but if they resist (I highly doubt they will), respect their wishes!

Mistake #6 – Keeping Your Sexual Fantasies to Yourself

How To Tell Your Wife About Your Sex Fantasies (And Have Sexy Times Ensue)

Many women complain that their sex life is falling into routine and that their partner is not experiencing with new stuff. More precisely, they point out that men do not share their kinky fantasies with them.

So why not to try out to share your fantasies with her especially if you are in a long-term relationship? I doubt she will be against it.

Want to know best ways to share your “adult thoughts”? Then you should see the paragraphs below.

2 Ways to Fix It

You may well have some fantasies or kinky ideas in mind, but if you fail to share these with her in an open and honest way, you may not be sexually satisfied. There are some ways you can do this:

  1. Discussion – The most effective way to share each other fantasies is through open and honest communication. This is easiest in more long-term relationships.
  2. Throw in the idea – You can always try to just throw in your fantasy and see how she will react. If she is not in the idea you can always turn it into a joke or fun. I recommend you initially to get some great ideas from article called – 7 Wicked Sex Games to Play in Bed.

Pay attention: If you are in a long-term relationship you should always focus on communication and share your kinky fantasies with each other. You never know what both of you will like if you do not try to talk about it.


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  1.' John Cleaves says:

    I find this post to be really shallow and one-dimensional, sorry…

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