Three Simple Steps to Building Confidence In Your Child

Written by on August 16, 2014 in Conscious Living, Conscious Parenting with 0 Comments

Jill Hope | all things healing

Confidence is such an essential quality in living a happy, successful life. Confident people are more likely to ask for what they want, and tend to do it in a way that gets a positive response. When confident people meet failure, they tend to pick themselves up, view the situation as an opportunity to improve some aspect of themselves, and keep on going. Confident people don’t let the “no’s” in their life stop them.

The problem is that so many kids seem to lack confidence today. In fact, in terms of the things at the top of parents’ wish lists, improving their child’s confidence ranks right up there.

In working to improve my own self-confidence, as well as that of my child’s and of the children in the families that I coach, I’ve found a number of fairly easy, straightforward steps to building greater self-confidence in kids.

So, what can you do to nurture greater confidence in your child?

1) Allow your child to make decisions and experience the consequences. When you provide your child appropriate options and give your child the ability to choose, you allow her to experience little successes. As her experiences with success build, so too does her confidence in her abilities. And if her choices result in a failure of some sort, you can use the opportunity to empower her to take responsibility and show her how she can resolve the issue, which in and of itself, will give her the confidence to resolve challenges when they arise.

2) Teach your child to speak in a way that cultivates self-responsibility. You can show your child that he is responsible for his feelings by having him speak in a way that encourages self-responsibility. For example, if your child says something like “Drew made me mad”, you can ask him if it is really true that Drew made him mad, or if he chose to be mad because of something Drew did. Then you can encourage your child to instead say, “I chose to feel mad when Drew did that”. When our children realize that they are responsible for their feelings, and they start to speak in a manner that reinforces that they are always at choice with how they choose to feel, they begin to feel empowered in their lives, rather than at the mercy of how others may choose to treat them. And through this empowered feeling, greater confidence can grow.

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