Fun & Pleasure Go Together: Try These 7 Tantric Sex Games

sexy couple playing in bedBy Ava Cadell | Your Tango

Get ready for a unique journey of sensual and sexual exploration.

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Tantra is a Sanskrit (ancient Hindu language) word that means to weave energy, specifically Yin (female) and Yang (male) energy, between two lovers. This energy includes our thoughts and feelings and physical and sexual actions.

I’d like to welcome you to a unique journey of sensual and sexual exploration that will prepare you for the 5,000-year-old practice of Tantra. Tantra can improve intimate communication and enhance a relationship that has lost its sizzle and spice.

For women, Tantra can empower and fulfill their sensual needs; For men, it can open up a whole new world to intimacy. For couples, it’s an opportunity to create a more meaningful, intimate and spiritual connection.

This is an ancient form of worshiping and loving each other. So, get ready to explore new sexual territory with the following Tantric sexercises.

First, you need to prepare a few props to make your Tantra experience even more memorable and magical. Find a scarf that you can use as a blindfold to take away one of your lover’s senses. Make sure you have some massage oil, water-based lubricant, and last but not least, some feathers. These will complete your prop list.

The following Tantric sex games are all about enjoying the journey of sensuality as opposed to the destination of orgasm.

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1. Striptease

Take turns taking off three pieces of your clothing for your lover slowly and provocatively. Add music so that you move your body to the rhythm.

2. Symphony

Imagine you’re a musician, choose an instrument, and play a rhythm on your lover‘s naked body for at least five minutes. Your lover has to guess what kind of instrument you are and what tune you’re playing. Then alternate.

3. Surrender

Surrender yourself to your lover and let him/her caresses and kiss you wherever he/she wants for five minutes, then alternate. Use a blindfold or even restraints.

4. Tantric Breath

Blow your warm breath all over your lover’s naked body from their neck to their toes, both sides and then alternate. You can also use a feather to tickle one part of their body while you’re blowing your warm breath on another part.

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Tantric Intimacy & Sex: Why It’s Important

healing sexBy Katrina Bos | Collective Evolution

Many people begin the journey into tantra because they hear that they can have AMAZING SEX!! (And who doesn’t want that?)

Others feel the mystical call of the ancient spiritual path of tantra — the desire to experience the divine in every moment of their lives, the desire to truly awaken to their full divine/human potential.

And many feel broken in some way. They’ve had painful past relationships, sexual difficulties, feelings of being disconnected and having lost meaning in their lives, and hear that the path of tantra can help them.

The truth is that in order to experience the phenomenal bliss and ecstasy of tantric intimacy, we have to embrace all three.

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Tantra Forces Us To Get Real!

The magic of practicing tantra is that we absolutely have to get real with ourselves if we are going to have a tantric experience. We can learn techniques and do group exercises and read books. But if we don’t actually look into our hearts, our brokenness, and our challenges and heal them, we will not find the ecstasy that we’re looking for.

This is because tantric experiences are energetic. Yes, there can be physical aspects to the experience for sure. But the ecstasy, unboundedness, and divine experience are energetic.

And energy can’t lie.

Whoever you are right now is who you bring to the experience. Whatever fears, worries, pain, and struggles you are having are all present energetically.

Physically, we can pretend. We can talk a good talk. We can dress properly and take care of ourselves. But none of this matters when you are sitting in front of another human being desiring to truly merge with them.

In fact, this is why when we first begin studying tantric intimacy and we eye-gaze with someone, it can be incredibly uncomfortable… We often laugh or make light of it. But truthfully, we are very uncomfortable with someone else seeing into our truth… that we aren’t as strong as we are trying to be, that we don’t have it all together, that we are vulnerable, that we are longing, that we are lost…

These are scary realities to share with others… and scary to admit to ourselves.

Bringing The Divine Into Our Healing

The foundation of tantra is integrating the divine into our day-to-day lives.

This is key in our healing path.

Many of our struggles are old. They come from our childhoods.

But we must have compassion for ourselves and know that the only reason they are a “struggle” is that we just don’t know what to do with them. Maybe we have talked with counselors. Maybe we run or work out when life becomes too much to handle. Maybe we medicate ourselves with everything from drugs (illegal and prescription) to excessive busyness. Regardless, at this point in our lives, we don’t have the tools, the awareness, or the strength to make the changes necessary to relieve us of these struggles.

All these changes when we start integrating the divine into our process.

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Our Healing Path

It starts with an idea of what the ‘divine’ is. What feels right to you deep in your soul? It might be a combination of descriptions you’ve heard over your lifetime. Or maybe it’s just that you know that there is “something more” out there. All we need to do is believe it enough to trust it.

And then we do various exercises… maybe eye-gazing, maybe meditation, maybe intimate exercises. And in that intimacy with ourselves, issues arise. Previously, these issues were overwhelming because they overwhelmed us in the past. So we stop. We freeze. We bring up a self-protection mechanism to stop us from feeling whatever painful feeling is triggered.

But in our practice of tantra, we remember that there is more in the world than just us. We can close our eyes and ask for help. We can feel comforted by a presence that we cannot see. We can trust the wisdom that is beyond our understanding. And at this moment, we realize that there is another option to take in our healing. Intuition whispers in our ear. A prayer is answered. However we hear it, our healing takes a new direction.


9 Surprisingly Simple Lessons In Intimacy From Tantric Sex


By K. Aleisha Fetters | Prevention

For the uninitiated, the idea of tantric sex can be mystifying. You might assume it’s all kink or you may be reminded of rumors about Sting’s famous (or, rather, infamous) nine-hour sex sessions. The rest of you probably just scratch your head. Luckily for both your comfort zone and schedule, tantric sex is about more than marathon lovemaking.

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With its roots in ancient Indian principles, tantric sex is a form of meditation—a way to connect to both your partner and yourself in a more intimate way. Rather than focusing on recreation, it emphasizes the same mindful techniques that can slash stress and increase your focus—both of which can lead to more pleasurable sex.

Ready to find the bedroom and relationship bliss? Take a lesson (or 9!) from tantric sex’s mindful practices.

1) Ditch your expectations

When you hang onto what you think sex should be—how it should feel, how long it should last, what positions you should hit, and so on—your pleasure doesn’t stand a chance, says Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. Those expectations are probably founded more in TV and movies than they are in reality. But when you let go of those comparisons, you can truly tap into the sensations you’re experiencing, as opposed to what you think you should be feeling (and how quickly you can get there).

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2) Know your body

“The better a woman gets to know her body, the more connected she feels to herself, and the better she can make requests to her partner during sex,” says Elsbeth Meuth, director of the TantraNova Institute in Chicago. And that’s a big part of tantric sex—exploring your own body to better understand (and articulate) your pleasure points.

3) Slow down

There’s nothing wrong with the occasional quickie. But if you really want to use sex to connect, call off the race, says psychotherapist Barnaby B. Barratt, Ph.D., and author of What Is Tantric Practice? Your move: During intercourse or foreplay, aim to make three strokes for every 30 you typically would. It sounds impossibly boring but the opposite is true: Every sensation will stand out so you can fully enjoy it.

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4) Excite your senses

Sure, sex feels great, but what about your other senses? “Tantric sex is about creating a fully sensual experience,” says Carrellas. Dim the lights, dip strawberries in chocolate or invest in a set of 1,000-thread-count sheets. Catering to all of your senses will help get your entire body and mind get in on the fun.


5 Tantric Tips for OMG Love-Making

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We’ve all heard rumors about tantric sex. The 40-hour lovemaking sessions, the mind-altering massages, and the explosive orgasm meditation techniques but can us normal (but still naughty) people really get anything from tantric sex?

Well if you’re daydreaming of better, longer, more intimate, more satisfying sex, more often – then using a few well-placed tantric sex techniques can get you a hell of a lot.

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For all of you who haven’t seen American Pie or read about Sting’s more intimate lifestyle; tantric sex is the ancient erotic art of prolonging sexual ecstasy to reach new levels of sensual satisfaction and intimacy.

Just think of it as a marathon of erotic experiences, not an in-and-out sprint. Now here’s the weird part, the focus isn’t even on you orgasming. Tantra shifts the focus to tapping into all of your sexual senses to make it more likely for you to naturally come to an ecstasy induced end – pun intended.

But all that meditating and abstaining for hours on end might seem like a bit too much dedication for most couples so we thought we’d make things a little easier.

We spoke to Tantric sex Expert, Rebecca Lowrie, to get her top tantric inspired tips to introduce you to a whole world of frisky fun.

1) Eye contact

It might sound pretty obvious but looking at the lad your lusting over can actually help make your sexual experiences together a lot more intense.

Rebecca says: “One of the quickest ways to deepen intimacy is to look into each other’s eyes.” We’re not talking about staring wistfully into each other’s eyes across the restaurant like love struck puppies – this is X-rated eye gazing, so get ready.

“Find a comfortable place to sit so that you and your partner can look into each other’s eyes. Start with your eyes closed and take a moment to get yourself centered.

“As each of you feels ready, open your eyes and gaze into the eyes of your partner. Allow them to really see you as you in turn witness the whole of them,” says Rebecca.

You might feel a bit stupid at first but stick with it, Rebecca assures us that this simple technique will have a big pay off and you can incorporate it whenever it feels most natural to you.

“You can include eye-gazing in your foreplay or just take 5 minutes in your day to practice with your partner. It will help you to fall in love over and over again, and make sex a much hotter, richer experience,” she says.

2) Conscious touch

The whole point of Tantra is to explore you and your partner’s sensuality with teasing and tension – what’s more sensual than touching each other?

The thing that Tantra focuses on is making each touch count, Rebecca says the key is to really be in the moment.

“If you’re busy thinking about work or what you’re going to eat later, then your touch will feel vacant and that doesn’t feel good to anyone,” she says.

We know that sometimes it’s hard to really get into sex, especially if you’re both busy, stressed and tired but these techniques can not only boost the quality of your sex together but your appetite for it too.

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So Rebecca says forget everything and really focus on what it is you want from being with your partner.

“Be aware of where you’re touching your partner and more importantly what your intention is.”

3) Explore your senses

Tantra isn’t just used to improve the physicality of sex, it’s about the emotional and sensory experience too – this means taste, touch, sight, smell, and sound.

“It has long been known that when we lose one of our senses, the others are heightened,” says Rebecca.

By taking advantage of this idea you and your partner can experience sex on a whole other level and is why Rebecca says it is important for you and your partner to really explore each other’s senses by creating an atmosphere that ignites each one.

“Create a relaxing, intimate and sensual experience for your partner by blindfolding them and offering them a variety of things to stimulate their senses.

“Try essential oils, cinnamon or vanilla for the smell. Play bits of music they love or read them a love poem for sound. For taste, you could feed them juicy berries, bits of chocolate or let them lick honey off your finger.

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“For touch, try caressing their body with bits of silk, feathers or a rose petal. Then remove their blindfold and let them see you looking at them with love and desire!”

It might sound like a lengthy process but the result will be well worth waiting for.



Take It Slow… How To Introduce Tantra Into Your Sexual Experience


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Most reviews on Tantric sex imply this big reminder: it is not about the orgasm. Instead, the art of Tantra focuses on enriching and prolonging the sexual experience by increasing your spiritual consciousness and intimacy with your partner. This takes the term “lovemaking” to another level, by embodying it mentally, physically and wholeheartedly. Are you ready for this?

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For those of you not familiar with Tantric sex (in theory, at least – if you’re an expert, do drop us a note), or for those of you who immediately conjure up images of dirty ancient drawings or nudists having sex in yoga camp, well… it’s time to rise above that.

Tantric Sex, as Westerners know it, derives from Tantra, a religious ritual and meditation established in the 5th century in India. The Sanskrit word Tantra isrooted from the word tan, which means “to extend, expand, spread, continue, spin out, weave out, weave, to put forth or manifest”. How’s that for intense old school vocabulary?

Tantra purveyor Jennifer Lawless says that the idea is to achieve the ultimate satisfaction, way beyond the Big “O”. In the practice of Tantra, there is a sort of “being-consciousness-bliss” which has the power of self-evolution and self-involution. Therefore, the evolution of self helps to bring two people closer together.

In the words of our contributing author Osho Shivo in his post – Creative Sex Vs. Destructive Sex – “The key to creative sex is to let the impulse of desire pass over.” Considering that Tantric sex is an ancient art we are not advising anyone to instantly graduate to great practitioners. Instead, we did some further reading and managed to (contain our excitement and) narrow our findings down to the following helpful stages on how to introduce Tantra into your sexual experience, so you can ease into the gateway to sexual potency and spiritual ecstasy with your other half. Enjoy, apply (it is the weekend after all)… and try not to giggle 🙂

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1. Prepare Your Inner Casanova/Seductress


Anticipation is a nerve-wrecker, but it can also be exciting. Find some time alone to soothe yourself into “sexual explorer” mode. Relax your body with abreathing exercise, by dancing to your favorite music or even doing some yoga stretches to warm your body up and loosen the tension in your muscles. If it helps, aromatherapy or a warm bath works well too. Going straight to wine (aha!) may get you to a different level, but we’ll leave that to your judgment.

2. Create Your Love Nest

It’s important that your setting creates a comfortable, relaxed and playful environment for you and your partner. Put away any clutter that would distract you, and this includes computers and mobile phones. Invest in flowers, candles, comfortable bedding and scented oils. If you need some background music to get you in the mood, we suggest instrumental tunes. Make sure your schedule allows you to take your time, as Tantric sex is not a sexual race.

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3. Rediscover Each Other

All those years or months you’ve been together may have brought you closer intimately, but it’s easy to miss, forget and take certain things for granted. Face your partner and touch and caress his or her face, hair, neck, arms, legs, back and every nook and corner with your hands. Next, explore those parts with your mouth and tongue. Engaging in this lingering and sensual build will train men to self-control and enhance the women’s arousal. Use this time to fully focus on each other and the magic of the moment – it will come so give it time.


Tantric Sex: What Is It and How Do You Incorporate It Into Your Life?

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Tantric sex is an ancient Eastern method of sex that is meant to broaden the range of pleasure and deepen the connection formed when making love.

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Blending spiritual awareness with physical being, tantric practices quantifiably lengthen the time spent having sex and exaggerate the sensations felt.

Tantric sex can seem like a tall order, but it’s fairly simple to incorporate into your current sex practices. The main difference between western ideas of sex and tantric ideals is the west focuses on the orgasm, tantric sex focuses on the pleasure of intercourse.

How To Start

These are some basic methods of connecting more deeply with your partner. Take your time and do what feels natural.

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  1. Sync your breathing. Both of you should should try to follow each other’s breath, all the while deepening your breaths. Look into each other’s eyes and share words of love and encouragement throughout the experience.
  2. Gently massage and lightly touch one another. stroke one another with your finger tips to bring awareness into different parts of the body. get close to the genitals but don’t touch them yet.
  3. Move away from foreplay and into medium play. Tantric style kissing is a fun way to build connection. Th lips stay apart so breath can pass from one to the other easily. The lips eventually close enough to kiss.
  4. It would be a good time to start paying attention to the erogenous zones. Don’t just focus on these areas though move back and forth between playing and massaging other areas.
  5. After you and your partner feel stimulated and on the same wavelength, sex is the next step. Try to choose positions that make everyone feel grounded and connected. Eye contact and shared breathing are big aspects of tantric sex so try to stay mindful of them.

Tips On Growing Your Tantric Practice

Stay In The Moment, Be Honest

There enjoy what is happening now, don’t try too hard or dishonestly express yourself. The moment is the beautiful part of Tantric sex, not the finish. Communicate with your partner to make every moment amazing and blissful.

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4 Simple Ways to Create a Sexy and Sacred Love Life with Tantra


By Leslie Carrington | Sivana Spirit

Has your sex life become all about that scheduled Thursday night romp in the sheets? As we grow older and spend more time with the same person, the mystery and excitement slowly begin to fade from the bedroom.

However, while there are a number of new things that couples can try to spice up their sex life, none are more exciting and spiritually rewarding than Tantric sex.

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Translating to “woven together” in Sanskrit, including Tantric practices in the bedroomcan set every nerve on fire and lead to a deeper level of intimacy between two partners.

Like yoga or Zen, Tantric meditation has been used for over 5,000 years in order for those to draw on the divine energy of the macrocosm and attain enlightenment. In the Tantric view, sex and orgasm represent the peak of spiritual awareness, and thus, the practices of the meditation were used in the coupling.

Today, Tantric sex is renowned for being some of the most fulfilling and longest sexual experiences a couple can have. However, it is not all about running a marathon in the bedroom.

At its core, Tantric sex is about bringing couples to a deeper level of intimacy and feeling the pleasures of sex in every corner of their bodies.


You are not having raw, rapid, animal sex. You are making love with your partner, and you should prepare for such. Start by creating an intimate space for love-making filled with things that will awaken your senses.

Sensual fabrics, soft lighting, and relaxing smells from candles, incense, or flowers are all a must for creating an intimate spice.

Before the act itself, the couple should also prepare their bodies for tantric sex by relaxing with a hot bath and literally shaking out all the tension in the body.

By vibrating everything from your fingertips to your buttocks, any excess tension is removed, and the whole body becomes surprisingly more sensitive.


The key to Tantric sex lies in the breath. Some Tantric couples can orgasm purely through breathing alone, but couples new to the art are still far away from that level of skill. However, it is never too soon to practice.

It is best to start a Tantric sex session by sharing your breath with your partner. Sit before each other and try to get into a breath zone by visualizing your breathing together, rising up and down through your body.

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As you synchronize, rock forward as you inhale and rock back as you exhale, pushing and pulling each other with your energies.

Feel the connection between you and the sexual sensations rising as you push and pull within the energy field.


The kundalini is the sexual energy that rests within the body like a coiled serpent.

To awaken it within ourselves, it is recommended to massage yourself and think of nothing but your carnal desires.

However, couples can also awaken each other’s kundalini by one partner sitting behind the other so close that their chest rest on the back of your partner.

By massaging their partner’s body at nine points, starting from the nipples to the groin, this helps stimulate both kundalini for the act of love-making.


While Tantric sex has many different positions, the easiest one for beginners is the Maithuna that aligns the energy chakras of both partners.

In this position, the woman moves onto the man’s lap, sitting down and facing him.

As they sway together with the aforementioned rocking that came from shared breath, the man penetrates the woman and the couple locks thighs. The woman then places the man’s right hand on her back in between her shoulder blades while his left hand supports the buttocks.

The woman places her left hand on the man’s back between the shoulder blade and rests her right on the sacrum, thus completing the alignment of their energy chakras. As you gaze into each other’s eyes, seal your lips together and breathe into each other as you sway back and forth.

Mastering the art of Tantric sex can take couples years to master, but the act of trying is fun and hosts some welcomed benefits.

As you continue to practice Tantric sex, you will find that orgasms begin to come more quickly, and you will begin to have multiple orgasmic experiences per session.


In Pursuit of Sacred Sex: Who Will Define the New Sexual Ethics?

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By Don Lattin | Spirituality & Health
In a world where Judeo-Christian faith no longer writes the rules 
on intimacy, who will define the new sexual ethics?

John Christensen—born, raised, and married in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints—had flown all the way from his Utah home to attend the beginners’ workshop in Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving. He arrived with lots of baggage about love and beauty, sex and spirituality.

For years, his Mormon wife had resisted the idea of attending a tantric sex workshop with him. She thought their sex life was just fine. She’d previously agreed to go with John for a private consultation with two tantra teachers, a male  daka and a female  dakini, but it wasn’t her thing. She did not share John’s enthusiasm for learning how to blend Eastern mysticism and exotic sexual techniques, nor was she tempted by promises of multiple, mind-blowing orgasms. But, as a gift, she’d agreed to let John go to this workshop by himself.

The weekend gathering was a mix of couples hoping to spice up their sex lives and single men and women looking for a new kind of love. They did breathing exercises, simple yoga postures, and watched as the two workshop leaders—Charles Muir and Leah Alchin—demonstrated various sexual techniques using a penis-shaped dildo to represent the man’s  lingam and a velvety puppet for the woman’s  yoni.

There was no nudity in the group sessions, but lots of hugging, touching, and staring into the eyes of strangers. Single women picked the single men to pair up with for various exercises, including one in which the couples gazed at each other and asked, “What are you afraid I’m going to see?”

The first day of the workshop led up to the big event that night, when the couples—including the newly created ones—returned to their hotel rooms to practice “sacred-spot massage.” This is a sexual technique in which the man uses his fingers to lovingly enter the woman’s vagina, find her G-spot, and, if all goes well, give her an orgasm like she’s never had before.

John, who asked that his real name not be used in this article, thought he was ready for this, but he was not. He was sitting in a circle with the other single men, his eyes closed, waiting for a woman he didn’t know to select him for her night of sexual-spiritual bliss.

“There was guilt. There was shame,” he recalled. “I’m sitting there thinking, How can I be drawn to this? This is so different than anything I’ve been taught to understand. Why did I spend all this money to fly here? Emotionally, I went crazy. Fight or flight kicked in, and I fled. I bailed out.”

It wasn’t just the sexual guilt of his religious upbringing that freaked him out. Looking back on that weekend, John now sees that Madison Avenue was as much to blame as the Mormon Church.

Most of the single women at the workshop were not his idea of “sexy.” They were either overweight or “defective” in other ways that veered from the  Playboy playmate of his dreams.

“My idea of love was totally based on physical beauty,” he recalled. “If a woman didn’t have a certain look, I just could not engage.”

John returned to the workshop on Sunday, embarrassed by his behavior the previous night. “It wasn’t pretty,” he says. “I cried for six or seven hours in class. Finally, when the course was over, a young lady came up to me and asked if she could be with me that night. I couldn’t do it. I turned her down three times. Then she said, ‘How about if I come to your room and draw you a bath and just hold you?’”

John reluctantly agreed, and as he recalls this encounter, he once again starts to cry.

“This woman was from Mexico. She’d had breast cancer. She’d lost one of her breasts. Her physical shape did not meet my Madison Avenue beliefs. But I came to see that she was gorgeous. When I was massaging her and got to her breast, her tears began to flow. The intensity of love began to grow. She changed the way I thought. She rewired my brain. Pleasuring a woman for five-plus hours with unconditional love, with orgasm after orgasm radiating from her body—it was so intense. There was no right, no wrong. Just being. It changed me.”

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Beyond Religion

Seven years later, John is still married to his Mormon wife of  29 years and still living with her and their children in Utah. But he has continued his work with the Source School of Tantra Yoga and has become a teacher of sacred-spot massage. “This is who I am,” he says. “This is what keeps me alive.”

John’s story—from Mormon family man to tantric masseur—may be extreme, but it shows just how far afield Americans will roam in the search for sacred sexuality.

For most Americans, issues of sexual ethics and sexual morality have long been intertwined with the teachings of the Judeo-Christian tradition. But today, growing numbers of people who call themselves “spiritual but not religious,” along with more liberal members of the nation’s churches and synagogues, are looking for a new sexual ethic—one that goes beyond the “thou shalt nots” of organized religion.

Many are searching for a more joyous, sex-positive theology. They are looking to see what their own sexual experiences tell them about spiritual truth—and to connect their spiritual and sexual selves.

This exploration raises as many questions as answers in an era of rapidly changing sexual mores. Today, once-closeted gay couples are living happily ever after in marriage; pornography formerly restricted by obscenity laws is available 24 hours a day for mass consumption online; teens flirt by “sexting”; and online dating sites facilitate everything from quickie hookups to clandestine extramarital activities (“Life is short, have an affair,” suggests Ashley Madison.com, a dating website specifically for married people). Without the sexual rules that once governed our relationships, how do we separate right from wrong? What makes sex “sacred”? What makes it “profane”?

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3 Couples Try Tantric Sex for the First Time and Share Their Experience (Watch Video)

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6 Keys to Mind-Blowing Tantric Sex

tantric sexBy   | ThePersonalRevolution.com

Every journey begins with a single step.  The journey of the soul can sometimes be a difficult one, and sometimes be an easy one.  Of the different ways our souls may choose to make those journeys, taking the road that leads through our sexuality can be one of the most troublesome, as well as one of the most rewarding.

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Tantric sexuality shows us ways that we might take that reward and double it, then double it again, then spin it around and amplify it, and then send it out so that it comes back to us amplified yet again.  Imagine that you could do that.  For most people, it will be a difficult thing to imagine.  And yet, great numbers of people are drawn to Tantra every year; many of them seeking only pleasure; many of them seeking enlightenment.

The vast majority of those seekers receive both the spiritual blessings and the better sex.  They go hand in hand.  If you’re expecting or wanting the one without the other, you may be surprised to find them intertwined.

Readers may find the techniques described here to be similar to or the same as things already learned in yoga, meditation, intense exercise, etc.  The basics of tantric sexuality are really fundamentals of many forms of energy work or spiritual practices utilized in various traditions to move and/or transform the life force energy.

What is Tantra?

There are many schools of Tantra out there in the world today, just as there are many schools of each spiritual belief system or practice that exists.

To begin with, it is important for the initiate to understand that Tantra is not a belief system.  Most tantric teachers or experts would agree on this.  As Osho, one of the masters of modern Western Tantra, put it:

Doctrine is meaningless to it.  It is concerned with method, with technique— not with principles at all.  The word “tantra” means technique, the method, the path.  So it is not philosophical — note this.  It is not concerned with the “why” of things, it is concerned with the “how”; not with what is truth, but with how the truth can be attained.

Tantra means technique.  So this treatise is a scientific one.  Science is not concerned with why, science is concerned with how.  That is the basic difference between philosophy and science.  Philosophy asks, “Why this existence?”  Science asks, “How this existence?”  The moment you ask the question, How?  Method, technique become important.  Theories become meaningless; experience becomes the center.

Tantra is science, tantra is not philosophy.  To understand philosophy is easy because only your intellect is required.  If you can understand language, if you can understand concept, you can understand philosophy.  You need not change; you require no transformation.  As you are, you can understand philosophy — but not tantra.

You will need a change…rather, a mutation.  Unless you are different tantra cannot be understood, because tantra is not an intellectual proposition, it is an experience.  Unless you are receptive, ready, vulnerable to the experience, it is not going to come to you.

Tantra, being a form of spiritual practice, becomes very difficult to define.  One will find many definitions of Tantra if one begins to read books on the topic, or if one surfs the Internet.  There are dozens, if not hundreds, of differing definitions.

One thing most will agree upon is that Tantra is not only about sex.  Tantra is a series of techniques handed down from master to initiate over many millennia, and documented in many spiritual texts.  Some of these ancient texts come from other parts of the East, but they predominantly originate in India.  Most of the ancient texts focus on various methods of altering the consciousness or attaining enlightenment, and only a handful of the total number of techniques refer directly to sexuality.  Many of the non-sexual techniques may also be applied during sex, but to say that Tantra is about sex would most certainly be mislabeling Tantra.

Since those ancient times, many more texts have been written, and many have integrated similar teachings from other traditions, such as Buddhism, Native American sacred-sexual teachings, Western ideas about consciousness and sex, and other traditions.  This article will draw primarily upon the ancient and modern Eastern teachings in combination with some more modern Western teachings.

That said, the focus of this particular article is tantric sexuality, and as such, will focus mainly on tantric techniques that relate either directly or indirectly to sexuality.  Do not make the mistake, however, of thinking that this article talks of Tantra as-a-whole.  We’ll focus on only a narrow portion of what Tantra encompasses.


Below are some basic teachings of Tantra.  These can be used to build intimacy, expand the sexual pleasure, and even transform lives and/or relationships.  Used properly, they can be used to move closer to enlightenment.  Each teaching may be used both sexually and non-sexually.

1. Breathe!

Central to most Eastern teachings about attainment of enlightenment are teachings about the breath.  First off, why is this?  Or, more appropriately to Tantra, how does breath relate to spiritual advancement?

We all breathe all the time.  If we stop breathing for too long, we pass out or die.  So in this sense, at least, breath is directly related to consciousness.  Breath is energy.  Each breath brings in new oxygen, which is circulated by the blood, and energizes every living cell within the body.  Breath and oxygen are among of the foundations of human energy.

Most people breathe totally unconsciously most of the time.  Think about that for a second.  Most of the time, you don’t pay any attention to your breath.  It simply happens without your considering it even for a moment.  Your life is entirely dependent upon something of which you are mostly unconscious.

What happens when a person makes breathing conscious?  Tantra and other Eastern systems utilize breath in a conscious and deliberate manner, and thereby transform the relationship of the practitioner to their energy.  By becoming conscious of the breath, and focusing intently upon it, the practitioner can move and/or regulate their energy.

If you begin to pay attention to your breath during the sexual act, or the breath of your partner, you may notice some interesting things.  Very frequently in sex, when people become excited, they will hold their breath for a few moments or for a long time, then letting out or in a large amount of air.  Breathing often becomes strained, or tense, and then releases suddenly.  Such breathing stops the energy from moving.

In making breathing conscious during the sexual act, one may learn to move the energy at will, rather than simply allowing it to flow and stop in an unconscious manner.

The teaching here is to make the breath full and relaxed.  Breathe deeply.  Breathe fully.  Do not stop the breath, or tighten the chest/lungs.  Let the breath be complete.  Full complete breaths allow the energy to move throughout the body.  Short, shallow or start/stop breathing slows the energy and can even choke it off.

A more deep and full body type of orgasm becomes more easily obtainable by allowing for full complete breathing.  So relax.  Focus on the breath, and allow it to move completely.  Feel the whole breath going all the way in and filling the lungs, and going all the way out and emptying them.

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2. Relax!

Much like the breath and the shallow start/stop breathing most people engage in during sex, muscular tension can slow the energy.

Again, for most people the level of muscular tension in the body, especially during sexual acts, tends to be a completely unconscious thing.  The key in tantric energy work is to make muscular tension conscious so that one becomes intimately aware of every muscle and how it is being held.  Of course, some tension is required for movement, and for holding the body up, but tension is not required for anything else.

If you make your tension conscious you may notice that you hold many muscles tense during sex with no need or purpose.  If you observe your lover, he may be the passive partner during a particular sexual act, such as oral sex.  He may simply be lying back and enjoying a woman’s oral attentions, but still he may be tensing the muscles in his torso or legs, or any other part of the body.  In such a case none of this tension is necessary, and indeed stops the flow of energy.

By simply relaxing all of the muscles not required for a particular sexual act, the energy moves through the body more smoothly and easily.  Focus your attention upon relaxing all the muscles of the body.  Relax.  Let go.  Feel your sexual energy spread into all those relaxed areas and flow throughout the body.

Relaxation, however, is not just about the body.  Let go of your expectations.  Let go of your preconceptions, too.  Relax.  Relax your rules and restrictions upon yourself and others.  Release those old emotions you’ve been holding on to.  Relax.  Allow yourself to just be.

3. Make a Sound!

Making sound is also critical to moving of energy.  Some people are nervous or self-conscious about how they sound, but do not make this a consideration in tantric lovemaking.

Let go of your internal self-talk about how you sound.  Make the noises that most clearly express exactly how you are feeling right now. This type of sound may be labeled a connected sound. It is a sound connected to an emotion or sensation; the sound of whatever you are internally present to in the moment.  The sounds you make will move your energy.

If you are silent, it is much harder to move your energy, than if you are very loud.  The more noise you make, the higher your pleasure.  The more those sounds are connected to your emotions, the more powerfully they will move the energy of those emotions.

If you attempt this, and think to yourself something like, “that emotion doesn’t have a sound,” or “I’m not feeling anything right now,” then ask yourself these questions.  What if it did have a sound?  If it did, what would it sound like?  What if you took that little nothing of an emotion or sensation that you’re feeling right now and turned it up?  What would it feel like then?  What if you spun it around, made it brighter, amplified it, and then looked again?  Does it have a sound now?

If not, make one up, and keep going.  If you still say to yourself, “but I don’t feel anything,” then ask yourself “how do I feel about not feeling anything?”  This may sound redundant, but you surely must feel frustrated.  Frustration has a sound too, and if it does not have a sound to you – make one up anyway.

Sometimes, we experience unpleasant or disturbing physical sensations or emotions during sex.  Allow these experiences to be vocally expressed as well.  Do not hold them back.  If something makes you feel pain, make the sound of the pain with your voice.  This not only helps to move the energy of the pain, it also is excellent feedback for your lover.  If he hears you making pain noises, he can alter what he is doing to bring your noises back more towards pleasure.

Of course, you can be verbal as well as vocal.  Verbal means using words.  Vocal means using sounds and/or words.  Feel free to outright say, that’s hurting if you feel pain, or to say that’s perfect, but a little more to the right if that’s your truth in the present moment.  Expressing through sounds, however, tends to move energy faster and more easily than expressing through words.

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We can see this quite clearly in children who have just acquired language.  A child of this age does not typically attempt to express emotions through language.  They do it through sound.  Think for a moment of a toddler in a tantrum.  Typically you hear a lot of sounds, but not many words.  And if words are present, they’re simple and to the point, such as “NO, NO, NO, NO, NO!”  Toddlers will launch their emotions off the charts at full volume, whether that calls for the sounds of laughter or the sounds of wailing sadness.  Be a toddler with your expression of emotion.

Let go and really make sounds, no matter what they sound like to you or your partner, that truly express what you are physically and emotionally feeling in the moment.  The more that you do this, the deeper and more connected your sex will become, and the higher you will feel as a result.

This point cannot be emphasized strongly enough.  Perhaps the article should begin with sound, to stress how vitally important this component is to the practices of most tantric seekers.  Of all the teachings of Tantra, people seem to struggle most with this one.  Get over yourself.  Open up.  Express.


How to Awaken a Woman’s Sexuality with Yoni Massage

Water lily flower in woman hands

By Christina Antonyan | Confident Lover

Tantric philosophy approaches the vagina from a place of love and respect and giving a yoni massage is a means of honoring women.

A yoni is an ancient tantric term used to describe a woman’s vulva and vagina.

In Sanskrit it’s translated to sacred space. The original source – the doorway into this world.

A yoni massage is a massage of the vulva and vagina.

Similar to a lingam massage a yoni massage allows a woman to experience healing, release, expansion and transcendence.

She experiences different kinds of feelings, stimulations, pleasures and sensations by moving the energy from her yoni throughout the entire body.

The goal is not to bring her to orgasm or have sex.

Instead the intent is to awaken her awareness and all the subtle sensations of her sexuality using breath, sound, and massage.

Scientific studies are now verifying how our psychology and neurology shape our physiology.

The body is an extension of the mind’s thoughts, both conscious and un-conscious, and past memories, stories, tensions and traumas remain stored in the tissues and fascia of our musculature affecting our current behaviors.

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A yoni massage can be an experience of deep pleasure, intimacy and connection.

This is a chance for her to open and release any emotional, physical and psychological blocks such as guilt, anxiety, shame or other limiting beliefs that are holding her back from fully expressing her sexuality.

A yoni massage allows a woman to fully let go and receive pleasure without thinking or needing to reciprocate.

This allows to her to completely relax into the moment of pleasure. Before she can fully let go, she needs to feel safe.

Below are 5 essential preparation tools:


The intention of the massage is to experience deep pleasure, healing, awakening and transformation.

There’s also a strong focus on reserving space for whatever emotions arise during the massage so the emotions can be felt and experienced without fear or judgments.

There are no expectations or goals.


In the beginning it’s important to set clear intentions and boundaries.  This allows both partners to fully relax and be in alignment.

Once the massage has begun, it’s best for the woman to communicate with sounds, emotions and movements.

If she’s constantly talking and giving feedback it will make it difficult for her to fully let go and enjoy the complete experience.

Clean Hands

Gentlemen please have clean hands and trimmed fingernails. This might seem obvious, but men generally don’t realize how sensitive the female genitals can be.


The space should create a safe and relaxing environment for sharing.

Cushions, blankets, towels, soft music, soft lights and whatever else you need to ensure you both feel comfortable.

The first time I had a yoni massage I couldn’t relax at all, because the room was too cold and there was no way to heat it up.

Even though the therapist was using hot oil, I couldn’t fully let go, relax, and be in the moment.

When the body is cold it gets rigid, and warmth is a very important aspect of any sensual experience.


Lubrication is a necessity for a Yoni Massage. What’s more important is the choice of lubricant. The yoni is very sensitive, the more natural and pure the lubricant the better it is for her.

My personal favorite is coconut oil.

Once the space is created now it’s time to slowly initiate the massage.


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Below are 6 Essentials To A Deeply Enjoyable Yoni Massage

1) Patience

A complete yoni massage can take up to 3-6 hours, because a woman’s body needs time, nurturing, and trust to open.

First, start with a full-body oil massage. There is no touching of her yoni until she’s fully relaxed.

Patience is the key for providing her the space to savor the sensations and feelings.

Depending on her emotional and mental state, the massage can be far more of a spiritual and mental experience instead of a physical one.

2) Connect With Her

Have her lay on her back with you sitting between her legs, and her legs wrapped around your waist.

For many this is the most comfortable position for the person giving the massage.

You can choose any other position you like, as long as you both feel comfortable.

Put your one hand on her heart center in the middle of her chest, and the palm of your other hand on her yoni.

Allow your hands to go soft and feel her body.



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3) Breath and Sounds

Start with massaging the vulva (the outside area). Ask her to breath and make sounds accordingly.

You can then prepare her by slowly circling the entrance of her yoni with your middle finger and letting her exuberance draw you in.

Remind her to breath as breathing releases tension and increases oxygen to the cells.

4) The Art of Stroking

Because of the sensitivity of the yoni, this type of massage requires variety of touch, intensity, and pressure, which are all welcomed, but keep in mind that it’s not about stroking fast or hard.

For most of the massage you will not be stroking hard of fast, but as her arousal level builds she will need more intensity.

5) Explore Many Spots

The clitoris has roughly 8,000 nerve endings – find her soft spots and tease her to bliss. For most women, her clitoris is the most erroneous and sensitive spot.



What’s the Difference Between Sex and Tantra?

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By Christina Antonyan | Confident Lover

I was recently having a group discussion with a few friends (3 men and 2 women) when the topic of sex came up.

It always turns into an entertaining and educational discussion and sometimes into an article.

One of my lady friends was rather annoyed because she said “I don’t know why men think because they sleep with many women, they are great in bed. Nothing can be further from the truth.”

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She went on to say…

“I’ve had the displeasure of having sex with a few of these men and they were horrible lovers, because it was all about them – they were selfish and greedy.

The men were carefully listening and they eventually chimed in by saying “women can be horrible lovers as well, especially when they just lay there and do nothing.”

This conversation went on for over an hour and it became a blame game, then escalated to which gender is more superior.

I eventually said “it’s not about which gender is superior over the other, at the end of the day, it’s how we choose to express our sexuality in this world.

But, because for the most part it’s still an uncomfortable or a taboo topic, it’s difficult to have open and healthy conversations.

Plus with all the misinformation out there it becomes even a more intense and complex subject.

Just like anything else in life, it’s our personal responsibility to educate ourselves about our own sexuality and then decide how we want to express it to the world.”

We generally think of sex as nothing more than a physical expression of our genitals with an end goal of orgasm.

But, what exactly is sex?

It’s more than a physical expression – it’s an expression of energy exchange – it’s our life force energy.

Our entire life is an endless cycle of sex – a constant sexual rhythm of creation and ending.

It’s an interaction between masculine and feminine energies in harmony.

Sexual desire is the most powerful human emotion and when directed properly our imagination comes alive, we cultivate courage, will- power, and creativity among many other expressions.

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The way we express our sexuality is what distinguishes a physical experience from a spiritual experience. Tantra is a mystical subject that is almost impossible to define.

It’s a study of spiritual and sexual science that has no static definition.


10 Secret Tips to Make Your Sex More Conscious & Unforgettable (Video)

Source: Adina Rivers | MyTinySecrets

Adina Rivers says sex teaches us about who we truly are. She has learned about sex from ancient texts as well as her own personal experience, and she shares these 10 tips for making your sex more conscious and unforgettable:

(1) Increase consciousness in your relationship and with yourself – sex begins with energy, so be aware of your energy/sexuality.

(2) If you’re a woman, be more oral – you’re sexuality begins in your mouth, so begin there, and use it more.

(3) Worship your lover – Openly admire your lover, especially in the areas where he or she a more confident lover

(4) Practice edging/surfing/peaking – take things slowly and get close to orgasm, then pause, and allow the energy to calm a bit, then start all over again. Repeat this as much as you can, and you will find that your orgasm will be much more expansive.

(5) Practice slow sex. Take your time. A woman’s body takes much longer to warm up sexually than a man’s, so going slow allows there to be more connection and desire.

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(6) If you’re a man, learn the art of penis thrusting. There are so many different ways you can thrust. Knowing them takes love-making to the artistic level.

(7) Be aware of your genital energy. Be conscious about the energy you are sharing with your partner and focus on love and positivity.

(8) Practice sexual sound. Natural moans and groans make the sexual experience better and stronger.

(9) Like your body naked. You need to have a healthy body image in order to be open to the full sexual experience (and not be in your head). Go to a nude beach and look around. You’ll realize that bodies come in all shapes and sizes and almost nobody looks like a magazine cover. Love yourself as you are.

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(10) Exercise. It keeps you tuned up, since the body is your instrument for love-making.

These are the main secrets. There are other things like sharing fantasies, making love in different locations, practicing sexual massage and more that will improve your sex life too, but these 10 secrets are the foundational things to focus on if you want to have awesome, conscious sex.

A Simple & Fun Guide on How to Have Sacred (Tantric) Sex

tantric sex coupleBy Anita Naik | GoodtoKnow.co.uk

Tantric sex is easier than you think! Fancy hotting up and slowing down your sex life? Even if you haven’t got hours to spend in the bedroom, Tantric sex may be the answer.

What is Tantric sex?

Tantric sex is an ancient Hindu practice that has been going for over 5,000 years, and means ‘the weaving and expansion of energy’.

It’s a slow form of sex that’s said to increase intimacy and create a mind-body connection that can lead to powerful orgasms.

Tantric sex – or Tantra as it’s often known – can be done by anyone interested in rebooting their sex life and finding new depth to their love-making.

If that sounds confusing think of it this way – if quickie sex is the sexual equivalent of a takeaway, tantric sex is a Michelin-starred meal, slowly and lovingly prepared and all the more delicious thanks to the wait.

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Why should give Tantric sex a try?

Tantric experts believe that if you extend the time and effort you put into sex, you will reach a higher and more intense form of ecstasy.

And it obviously works, because celebs such as Tom Hanks and Sting have said how great it is. In fact, Sting’s wife Trudie Styler once famously boasted that her husband could make love for more than 5 hours at a time!

How to perform tantric sex

The good news is Tantric sex isn’t ‘goal oriented’, which means you don’t have to work hard at learning what to do.

The trick is to take your mind off your orgasm and instead focus on making foreplay enjoyable and rewarding until you’re ready to take it to its natural end.

This is easier said than done of course, so to delay orgasm Tantric sex experts use a variety of methods including meditative techniques, breath control and massage.

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What to do

If you want to give it a go, try the following:

  • Start by turning down the lights and shutting out the rest of the world
  • Loosen your body: Tantra is about moving energy through the body, so expert Louise Van Der Velde suggests ‘shaking your limbs vigorously to energise and unblock your system before you start’.
  • Stay off the bed: This will trigger the sleep button in your brain, which, according to Louise ‘means you’ll be settling for a quickie romp instead of deep connection and loving sex, which is ultimately what Tantra is all about.’
  • Get comfortable: Try lying down with your partner on the floor and slowly start to touch each other, taking your time to leisurely make your way around their body.
  • Experiment: Try a variety of touches – firm massage, light feathery touches, and gentle stroking. The aim here is to heighten his senses in a slow and intense way so that you’re building him to a peak but not taking him all the way and vice versa. Performed in the right way this can prolong sex and your pleasure for hours.
  • Think about breathing: If you find your mind starts to wander, re-focus on your breathing. Inhale as your partner exhales and vice versa – it can help improve the connection between the two of you and keep your mind on what’s happening.
  • Don’t give up: If you don’t last beyond 10 minutes, try again. Tantric sex takes time to get to grips with because we’re all used to sex in a western way – this means we expect sex to have an obvious start, middle and end.

With practice you can let go of this idea and enjoy sex without thinking about the conclusion as well as be able to control your body so you can delay climax and increase the strength of your orgasms.

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Tantric sex exercises

As Tantric sex is all about intimacy between two partners, the following exercises can help you get a hang of Tantra:

1. Try the heart breath to tune into each other. Stand opposite one another and look into each other’s eyes placing your left hand on your partner’s heart. He should then place his hand over your left one and you should try to match each other’s breathing for at least two minutes.

2. Sit face-to-face (this works better if you sit in his lap). Wrap your arms as tightly around one another and press your body against each other. This kind of skin contact promotes greater feelings of intimacy.

3. Ensure you move and breathe slowly during sex (it can help to avoid any position that you know makes you orgasm easily) and work towards a gradual build-up of pleasure. The more slowly you can allow your feelings and sensations to build up, the more intense your eventual orgasm will be.



This Tantric Orgasmic Breathing Exercise Will Open Up Your Sexual Energy

Video Source: Ronja Sebastian

Our day-to-day world with it’s tasks and to-do lists can really take us out of our natural, sensual flow and disconnect us from our own orgasmic energy. This simple tantric breathing exercise by tantric coach, Ronja Sebastian will get your sexual juju flowing again.

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