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Chakra Talk: All About Shadow Integration!

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Hello Beautiful Soul,

This week on Chakra Talk, we’re diving into my favorite (and perhaps the most overlooked and maligned) transformational topic — Shadow Integration.

What is Shadow Integration?

It’s the juicy and courageous process of owning back ALL of the rejected (disowned) parts of ourselves.

As infants, we naturally live in the wholeness of who we are because we haven’t yet been taught what is “right” and “wrong.” And we haven’t yet discovered the parts of us to which others respond “negatively” or “positively.”

Little by little, we’re conditioned to believe that certain parts of us — like the greedy, selfish or promiscuous parts of us (just to name a few) — are unacceptable. So we put those parts in a dark box within us and mark it “Do not open.”

The true spiritual journey is one of coming back to our innate wholeness. And in order to do that, we need to accept (even love!) and embody ALL of who we are.

Energy cannot be suppressed. So the shadow parts that we have rejected are always trying to come back home to us.

The good news is this: no matter how “negative” these parts of us might seem, they always have an energetic gift to give us when brought into our consciousness and expressed in a healthy, balanced way.

What do you think is the gift of selfishness when “dialed down?”

Or the gift of being a liar when used consciously?

Watch this week’s video (above) and discover the gifts of a selfish, liar and even the potential positive side of violence.

In the video you’ll also discover:

~ The process of how we develop shadow qualities

~ The #1 sign that you have a shadow around a particular quality

~ The #1 tenant/premise of doing Shadow Integration (what you MUST believe for shadow work to work)

~ What chakra relates to grief and how sadness is a sort of “mini grief.”

~ What to do when someone is acting out dangerous shadow qualities – and much more!

My assistant, Cyshia Belin is now helping me do Chakra Talk. If you have any chakra-related questions you want to be answered, you can send them directly to Cyshia@chakraboosters.com.

Thanks for diving into this deep, transformational topic with us. You’re a real spiritual warrior!

Much love and many blessings,

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A Shadow Work Visualization to Heal Core Wounds

Image result for shadow healingI’ve been told that I am an awesome listener. I am supportive, kind and I really do appreciate what others bring to the table because I love to learn from so many different outlets. But, like everyone else, I can just as easily list out some traits that I often struggle with or am not always proud of. Those parts of me that have often held me back at times, kept me from taking a chance or have just always made me feel not so great about myself overall. One area in particular that I have often wondered about is how some people around me can speak in front of a group with such grace and ease, while even to this day it still makes me a bit nervous. What I’ve learned is that to be a great speaker, it takes confidence; a deep security in your own authenticity, along with a connection to who you really are allows you to speak so freely, and to do so in such an engaging way that others are drawn to you and willingly hand over their undying attention.

So, where did I miss-step on my path, that I didn’t gain this same amount of self-confidence? What happened to lower my self-esteem where I am not able to speak as freely with as much “oomph” behind my words? What creates the tip of the scale in the various “strengths” and “weakness” amongst the personalities within the human population? Perhaps it is so eluding because it hides deep within us; a manifestation of our childhood experiences. Perhaps we don’t often recognize the source, because of the fact that it is right in front of our faces…in our own reflections. And perhaps if we simply turn the light on, we can begin to illuminate these shadows to finally allow ourselves the growth and healing they are calling for.

I know it’s easier to put ourselves down for our shortcomings, especially when we compare ourselves to others that hold traits we wish we had further developed within ourselves, but it does us no good to belittle, as our flaws are just as beautiful as the qualities we admire and are perhaps our greatest teachers. They invite us to peer into areas of our lives that seek attention. These parts are like the little kid within us; tugging at our coattails, begging you to spend some time with them. And when we do, we can learn so much, and it’s been my experience with the process I like to call “integrating your shadows”, that I’ve never had more profound, personal growth and healing in such a short amount of time. This process not only has made me realize that we could not see greatness in others if it did not already exist within ourselves (lying dormant), but it has also allowed me to be so much kinder with myself when I am struggling to work through things; to be patient and allow myself to trust the process.

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” ― Mary Oliver

When we are children, we literally soak up the world around us. This is to help us form ideas about the world that will serve to assist us in navigating through life. And as children, we have no filters, we are pure authentic beings…free of societal constraints, living from pure heart and spirit expressing what comes naturally. That is until we are told NOT to. So, what does that do to us on a subconscious level? As we age, we begin to learn that just being “who we are” is not acceptable. That we must conform and change who we are to please those around us and follow rules set out by other people to live by. “Don’t do that, you’re embarrassing me!” (Could make one believe they cannot be themselves or they are not good enough as they are. That they must change to be accepted in the world). “You’re so wasteful; don’t you know there are kids starving in other parts of the world?” (Could make one feel as if their voice doesn’t matter, their opinions are stupid, or they are ungrateful or undeserving). Parents, who of course believe they are just “showing the way” and doing what’s best with some tough love, obviously do not realize that they are taking a proverbial hammer to a child’s self-esteem and implanting beliefs that they are not good enough as they are.

While there are some parents out there who truly would rather not be, and some that are so damaged they take out every one of their issues on their children intentionally, I truly believe for the most part that parents today want nothing for the best for their kids. And I think if they stopped to think about this a bit, they might also see how things they struggle with inside of themselves are even from their own childhoods and could also stem from beliefs implanted by their own parents or other adults that were in their lives at the time. It’s a cycle, and all it takes is a bit of awareness, a shimmer of light to illuminate the shadows, and then and only then the healing can begin for all.

So, we can identify what our shadows are, and we now know where they come from, but how do we use them to grow and heal? First off, I want to make it clear that you don’t want to look at your shadows as something to be ashamed of, or something you want to dissolve or get rid of. Your shadows are parts of you, after all. Rather, you want to bring them to light, find out what they want from you now, and what you can do to heal them, so they no longer hold you back in areas of your life, but instead propel you forward. The ultimate goal is to meet them with love, get to know and understand them, integrate them into your heart, and move onto another day lighter, more peaceful and stronger than you were yesterday.

Shadow Integration Visualization

  • Close your eyes and picture your sacred space. Imagine it is a quiet, peaceful place where you can sit in solitude and meditation. It could be a warm beach as you listen to the waves roll in, a fragrant garden, a forest waterfall; whatever you like. Once you find your sacred space and settle in, take 3 deep breaths.
  • Next, focus on one particular area of your life where you are struggling. An area that often causes you pain, anger, suffering, and/or sadness. An area that no matter what you do always seems to bring the same disappointing results. This is the shadow we will focus on.
  • Ask your shadow to show itself and come forward into your sacred space. Pay close attention to what it looks like; what form it takes. Invite it to sit down with you.
  • Inquire as to when you created it. Ask it to show you that moment in your life. Sit with this for a while if you need to as you go back in time as it may bring up some intense emotions.
  • Ask your shadow what it needs from you at this time, so you can grow and heal. Really connect with it here and make mental notes of what it tells you, so you have clear action items to work on.
  • Finally, sit with your shadow and tell it how much you love it. Thank it for all it has taught you and see it getting smaller and smaller so it fits in the palm of your hand.
  • Put the palm of your hand over your heart and feel your shadow integrate into your entire being, but no longer a broken fragment, but now as a stronger piece of you.
  • Take 3 deep breaths and sit for a moment in your sacred space.
  • When you are ready, open your eyes and take note if you feel more at peace, lighter and more confident in that area of your life.

tamaraTamara Rant is a Co-Editor/Writer for CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. She is an avid lover of all things Quantum Physics and Spirituality. Connect with Tamara by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

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Can You Embrace These 5 Shadow Qualities for More Authenticity and Purpose?

Hello Beautiful Soul, this week we’re going to look at the shadow qualities of your throat chakra. Click on the video above to watch now.

If you haven’t yet seen the other videos in this shadow series, you can access them here:

Chakra Healing with Shadow Integration

5 Shadow Qualities of the Root Chakra

5 Shadow Qualities of the Sacral Chakra

5 Shadow Qualities of the Solar Plexus Chakra

5 Shadow Qualities of the Heart Chakra

As you may already know (but just in case you don’t), the throat chakra is blue, its element is sound/vibration and it’s related to your truth, authenticity, purpose and personal expression.

It’s the first of the upper chakras (consisting of throat, third eye and crown), which are related more to the spiritual than the physical realm. For this reason, the “negative” or “dark” shadow qualities come from a different dynamic than the ones in the lower chakras.

In the lower chakras (root, sacral and solar plexus), the dark shadow qualities come from having too much of the energy of a particular chakra. But it’s the opposite with the upper chakras. The dark shadow qualities in the upper chakras come from having too little of the energy of a particular chakra.

Why? Because growing up, our caregivers and culture teach us that it’s bad to be in our lower chakras and good to be in our upper chakras (or the heart and above) where love and spirituality resides.

This kind of socialization causes us to relegate our strong lower chakra and our weak upper chakra qualities into the shadow realm and pretend that they are not a part of us. And this pretending causes us to lose a lot of our chakra power.

Shadow integration is the realization that all our energy comes from one consciousness (the Divine) and we need it all to be whole. When we don’t integrate the shadow aspects of ourselves, they come out in subconscious (leaky) ways. When we understand that we are everything, we can act more consciously and accept all of ourselves and others. Shadow integration creates true peace both inwardly and outwardly.

Here are the 5 Shadow Qualities of the Throat Chakra

  1. Liar (Gift = Imagination)
  2. Aimless/Lacking Purpose (Gift = Being in the Moment)
  3. Fake/Inauthentic (Gift = the Ability to Play Bigger )
  4. Inexpressive (Gift = Mastery of Listening)
  5. Crooked (Gift = Playful, Powerful, Irreverence)

To Integrate These Qualities, Work with These Five Healing Methods

  1. Find the gift of each chakra quality. What does each shadow quality give you?
  2. Tap on each shadow quality. You can watch my video on tapping to heal your throat chakra to learn the simple and powerful EFT technique.
  3. Elicit memories of times you’ve embodied each chakra shadow quality.
  4. Love yourself (as a child or adult) when you’ve embodied each quality.
  5. Take back your shadow projections. One easy way is to fill out Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet and then do the work.

Of course both of my lists — the shadow qualities and the integration methods — are not exhaustive. There are more that can be added to each. So please share any you come up with here on my youtube page (it’s the best forum for making comments and asking questions).

Thanks for being on this spiritual journey with me!

Love and blessings,

Vicki

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How to Heal Your Chakras with Shadow Integration – Vicki Howie

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I’m excited to talk about shadow integration and the chakras this week. Shadow work has been a huge part of my personal transformational. I studied with the late great Debbie Ford (read her book, “The Dark Side of the Light Chasers) and it was an absolute game changer!

So this week I’m talking about how chakra blocks are related to shadow and how you can open up your personal energy field by owning back the disowned parts of yourself. It’s challenging work. Are you ready?

Watch the video above for an introduction to how shadow integration relates to your chakras. Then join me next week as we begin a 7-week chakra series on shadow integration. Starting at the root and working our way up the chakras, I’ll be sharing five shadow qualities for each chakra on a weekly basis. These will be qualities that tend to get labeled “negative.” In other words, these are personal qualities most of us tend to resist.

So why would we want to dive into qualities we typically resist?

Because resisting our shadow qualities:

  • Creates chakra blocks
  • Saps our energy as we try to maintain a false (only acceptable) façade/identity
  • Causes us to either act out in subconscious ways or be passive-aggressive. Because when we can’t be a “negative” quality like angry consciously, we’ll eventually burst out in rage due to repressed anger or we’ll consistently do mean things in a passive-aggressive way.
  • Causes us to judge and be triggered by the people who demonstrate the shadow qualities we have disowned because we live in a mirror universe.
  • Makes us feel out of control of our own choices and destiny

I’m sure there are other downsides, but these are the main ones. And the point is simply this: there is great value in integrating your shadow.

Still, this kind of spiritual work is not for everyone. If you are interested in sculpting your behavior and trying to become a “good” person, then this work is not for you.

Carl Jung once wrote, “I’d rather be whole than good” and shadow work is Jungian work. It is for the spiritual seeker who wants to know ALL of him or herself and is more invested in owning and knowing the full Self than in upholding a image of being “good” or “spiritual.”

So what exactly is shadow?

It’s the aspects of ourselves that we reject and deny. All of us do it on one level or another and we can’t blame ourselves for it, because we were trained to do it!

When we come into this world as a tiny infant we are basically helpless and must be cared for properly by our family or caregivers. We are totally needy and in order to get our needs met – and to have the food, shelter, love and attention we need and desire, we learn to adapt to those around us and what they want us to be – and NOT TO BE.

We begin rejecting the parts of ourselves that the people around us reject. If we find out that we aren’t loved or given the attention we want when angry or loud or greedy, then those three qualities get pulled out of our conscious identity and relegated to the shadow bin.

In order to fit in and get our needs met, we learn to reject and betray all the parts of ourselves that those who raise us judge and make bad or wrong. It totally makes sense that we do this, and yet, it is very sad, because it sets up a life-long habit of rejecting, betraying and fracturing ourselves.

Shadow integration is the process of owning back all the disowned qualities of ourselves and learning to have an unconditionally loving relationship with not just our “good” qualities (as that would be conditional love and acceptance!) but with our “negative” qualities as well. We are learning to accept and love ALL of ourselves.

Watch the video above to learn more, and join me next week as we start shining light on five common shadow qualities for each chakra

Good for you for being a spiritual warrior. Let’s do this!

Love and blessings,

Vicki

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Integrating For Growth & Healing: How to Illuminate Your Innermost Shadows

I’ve been told that I am an awesome listener. I am supportive, kind and I really do appreciate what others bring to the table because I love to learn from so many different outlets. But, like everyone else, I can just as easily list out some traits that I often struggle with or am not always proud of. Those parts of me that have often held me back at times, kept me from taking a chance or have just always made me feel not so great about myself overall. One area in particular that I have often wondered about is how some people around me can speak in front of a group with such grace and ease, while even to this day it still makes me a bit nervous. What I’ve learned is that to be a great speaker, it takes confidence; a deep security in your own authenticity, along with a connection to who you really are allows you to speak so freely, and to do so in such an engaging way that others are drawn to you and willingly hand over their undying attention.

So, where did I miss-step on my path, that I didn’t gain this same amount of self-confidence? What happened to lower my self-esteem where I am not able to speak as freely with as much “oomph” behind my words? What creates the tip of the scale in the various “strengths” and “weakness” amongst the personalities within the human population? Perhaps it is so eluding because it hides deep within us; a manifestation of our childhood experiences. Perhaps we don’t often recognize the source, because it right in front of our faces…in our own reflections. And perhaps if we simply turn the light on, we can begin to illuminate these shadows to finally allow ourselves the growth and healing they are calling for.

I know it’s easier to put ourselves down for our shortcomings, especially when we compare ourselves to others that hold traits we wish we had further developed within ourselves, but it does us no good to belittle, as our flaws are just as beautiful as the qualities we admire and are perhaps our greatest teachers. They invite us to peer into areas of our lives that seek attention. These parts are like the little kid within us; tugging at our coattails, begging you to spend some time with them. And when we do, we can learn so much, and it’s been my experience with the process I like to call “integrating your shadows”, that I’ve never had more profound, personal growth and healing in such a short amount of time. This process not only has made me realize that we could not see greatness in others if it did not already exist within ourselves (lying dormant), but it has also allowed me to be so much kinder with myself when I am struggling to work through things; to be patient and allow myself to trust the process.

When we are children, we literally soak up the world around us. This is to help us form ideas about the world to that will serve to assist us in navigating through life. And as children, we have no filters, we are pure authentic beings…free of societal constraints, living from pure heart and spirit expressing what comes naturally. That is until we are told NOT to. So, what does that do to us on a subconscious level? As we age, we begin to learn that just being “who we are” is not acceptable. That we must conform and change who we are to please those around us, and follow rules set out by other people to live by. “Don’t do that, you’re embarrassing me!” (Could make one believe they cannot be themselves or they are not good enough as they are. That they must change to be accepted in the world). “You’re so wasteful; don’t you know there are kids starving in other parts of the world?” (Could make one feel as if their voice doesn’t matter, their opinions are stupid, or they are ungrateful or undeserving). Parents, who of course believe they are just “showing the way” and doing what’s best with some tough love, obviously do not realize that they are taking a proverbial hammer to a child’s self-esteem and implanting beliefs that they are not good enough as they are.

While there are some parents out there who truly would rather not be, and some that are so damaged they take out every one of their issues on their children intentionally, I truly believe for the most part that parents today want nothing for the best for their kids. And I think if they stopped to think about this a bit, they might also see how things they struggle with inside of themselves are even from their own childhoods and could also stem from beliefs implanted by their own parents or other adults that were in their lives at the time. It’s a cycle, and all it takes is a bit of awareness, a shimmer of light to illuminate the shadows, and then and only then the healing can begin for all.

So, we can identify what our shadows are, and we now know where they come from, but how do we use them to grow and heal? First off, I want to make it clear that you don’t want to look at your shadows as something to be ashamed of, or something you want to dissolve or get rid of. Your shadows are parts of you, after all. Rather, you want to bring them to light, find out what they want from you now, and what you can do to heal them, so they no longer hold you back in areas of your life, but instead propel you forward. The ultimate goal is to meet them with love, get to know and understand them, integrate them into your heart, and move onto another day lighter, more peaceful and stronger than you were yesterday.

Shadow Integration Visualization

  • Close your eyes and picture your sacred space. Imagine it is a quiet, peaceful place where you can sit in solitude and meditation. It could be a warm beach as you listen to the waves roll in, a fragrant garden, a forest waterfall; whatever you like. Once you find your sacred space and settle in, take 3 deep breaths.
  • Next, focus on one particular area of your life where you are struggling. An area that often causes you pain, anger, suffering, and/or sadness. An area that no matter what you do always seems to bring the same disappointing results. This is the shadow we will focus on.
  • Ask your shadow to show itself and come forward into your sacred space. Pay close attention to what it looks like; what form it takes. Invite it to sit down with you.
  • Inquire as to when you created it. Ask it to show you that moment in your life. Sit with this for a while if you need to as you go back in time as it may bring up some intense emotions.
  • Ask your shadow what it needs from you at this time, so you can grow and heal. Really connect with it here and make mental notes of what it tells you, so you have clear action items to work on.
  • Finally, sit with your shadow and tell it how much you love it. Thank it for all it has taught you and see it getting smaller and smaller so it fits in the palm of your hand.
  • Put the palm of your hand over your heart and feel your shadow integrate into your entire being, but no longer a broken fragment, but now as a stronger piece of you.
  • Take 3 deep breaths and sit for a moment in your sacred space.
  • When you are ready, open your eyes and take note if you feel more at peace, lighter and more confident in that area of your life.

“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.” ― Mary Oliver

TamaraRantTamara Rant is a Co-Editor of CLN as well as a Licensed Reiki Master, heart-centered Graphic Designer and a progressive voice in social media activism & awareness. Connect with Tamara on Facebook by visiting Prana Paws/Healing Hearts Reiki or go to RantDesignMedia.com

Tamara posts new original articles to CLN every Saturday.

 




Healing And Transformation: Why It’s Important To Understand Your Dark Side

By Milan Karmeli | Collective Evolution

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When you were little, were you afraid of the dark? Most of us were. And I doubt we ever thought to question this fear. We were almost naturally taught to be afraid of the dark, because the dark is full of unknown things that might hurt us.

But what usually happened when you turned the light on? You learned the unknown things were not so scary. And they were not so unknown. They were just part of the environment.

We learned to associate darkness with scary and unknown, and we learned it’s better not to speak with our dark thoughts and emotions. Turning the light on our emotional shadow is a lot more challenging than flicking a physical light switch on. So we avoid it. Superficiality is easier. But this darkness of our soul has a life of its own which thrives, whether or not we choose to acknowledge it.  It’s there, and it’s powerful.

Understanding Darkness

This fear of our emotional complexity grew as we grew, and with time became our shadow. It’s a hidden part in us that influences our choices more often than we are aware.

In truth, much effort goes into repressing and hiding it from ourselves and others. It’s our dark side. The parts we are ashamed and afraid to show. But through denial, we fail to see that in the obscurity of darkness also lay our strengths.

For reasons originating in the past, we have decided to negate and hide this dark side without exploring it further. And so in return it keeps us distant from truly expressing ourselves.

In many ways, hiding our shadow can be considered the highest form of betrayal. By concealing this part of us, we are saying we don’t deserve to show our complete selves, thereby betraying ourselves. In return, secrecy, manipulation, and pretending take over large parts of our lives from fear of being ‘exposed’ and rejected for the part of ourself we are hiding.

As mentioned, our shadow can show itself as weakness or strength. Becoming aware of our complete self allows us an opportunity for expressing strength.  Ignoring these qualities, however, will always produce a damaging result.

The more we repress these dark corners of our being, the more we face disorder in our personality. This can manifest as addiction, anxiety, intentionally failed relationships or jobs, or other behaviors that cause destruction to ourselves and others.

To become aware of our shadow is to shed light on our earliest wounds and to give ourselves a chance for healing and transformation. But as long as we choose to close our eyes to this, the wounds will continue to decay while emitting poison into our lives.

Learn how to illuminate your innermost shadows, integrating for healing and growth. 

Understanding Darkness

This fear of our emotional complexity grew as we grew, and with time became our shadow. It’s a hidden part in us that influences our choices more often than we are aware.

In truth, much effort goes into repressing and hiding it from ourselves and others. It’s our dark side. The parts we are ashamed and afraid to show. But through denial, we fail to see that in the obscurity of darkness also lay our strengths.

For reasons originating in the past, we have decided to negate and hide this dark side without exploring it further. And so in return it keeps us distant from truly expressing ourselves.

In many ways, hiding our shadow can be considered the highest form of betrayal. By concealing this part of us, we are saying we don’t deserve to show our complete selves, thereby betraying ourselves. In return, secrecy, manipulation, and pretending take over large parts of our lives from fear of being ‘exposed’ and rejected for the part of ourself we are hiding.

As mentioned, our shadow can show itself as weakness or strength. Becoming aware of our complete self allows us an opportunity for expressing strength.  Ignoring these qualities, however, will always produce a damaging result.

Harness the power of your combined light and darkness and master energetic symmetry.

The more we repress these dark corners of our being, the more we face disorder in our personality. This can manifest as addiction, anxiety, intentionally failed relationships or jobs, or other behaviors that cause destruction to ourselves and others.

To become aware of our shadow is to shed light on our earliest wounds and to give ourselves a chance for healing and transformation. But as long as we choose to close our eyes to this, the wounds will continue to decay while emitting poison into our lives.

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