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Stop Trying to Fix Yourself and Start Enjoying Your Life

Posted by on March 26, 2016 in Conscious Living, Inspirational, Thrive with 4 Comments

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By Shannon Crane | Tiny Buddha

“You think that the goal is to be over there, and we say the goal is the journey over there; the goal is the fun you have along the way on your way to over there.” ~Abraham

I have a clear memory of my mother looking at my bookshelves several years ago and commenting, “You’re always reading all these self-help books, and where has it gotten you?”

I responded with a quip about how I’ll always be working to align my personality with my soul, to which she scoffed and said, “When will you grow up and realize you have a great life, a great job, and great friends—and just enjoy it?!”

Of course, all I heard was “When are you going to grow up?” Her point, however, was a wise one: Just enjoy your life. She made a similar comment a couple of years later.

I had just been told the place I was living was going to be turned into an art studio for my landlady. Thankfully, she gave me two months notice to find a new place. But man, I loved my cinder block house on the river and was crushed by the news.

I called my mom in tears. I complained about how I’d never find someplace else so wonderful and how unhappy things were with my job. I talked about wanting to just sell everything I owned and take a walkabout.

Mom didn’t say a lot at the time. However, when I got up the next morning I had a long email from her. My favorite paragraph is this one:

Shannon, you should stop buying all that self-help crap and going off to retreats to find yourself. You are not perfect, never will be, and no one in the world is either. You make mistakes; we all do. Just live with it. You are a warm, intelligent woman—just live the best honest life you can.

All of my self-help books and years of spiritual study, and my mom nailed it in one simple paragraph. Granted, her delivery could use some work, but the essence of what she wrote was right on. Again.

I will, of course, continue to read personal development books and go on personal retreats. However, I no longer do those things because I think something was wrong with me. Now, I do them because I love myself.


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  1.' Jeff Andrews says:

    the commercialization of victimhood spread like wild fire making idiots mad and demanding brats

  2.' Jeff Andrews says:

    the cult drives gathering brain messes builds soldiers of the apocalypse just about jealousy greed violence and more whacked out amusements ..never mind over population verses food water jobs just give up and pray for miracles

  3.' Peter Hunt says:

    This is a great article. I am always wondering about who the heck I am and why I should be ‘doing better’ – whatever that means. I like the advice given here.

  4.' Kathleen Russell says:

    I use them to love myself…my whole self…and nothing but the Self. <3

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