How Much Sex Is Too Much? Doctors and Sex Experts Weigh In

Written by on January 14, 2018 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 1 Comment



By Justin Demarco |

There are some things guys just can’t get enough of—quoting old movies, for example, or football. Then there are other things that they can most definitely do without, like the most popular song of the summer that’s played over and over and won’t go away.

When it comes to sex, however, a lot of guys like to think their horizons are unlimited. You can never have too much sex, Mr. Champion Sex-Haver will say, giving you a lecherous wink while Walk The Moon’s “Shut Up and Dance” plays somewhere off in the distance.

But are guys really telling the truth about the amount of sex they can handle (or even how much they want to have)? “You can’t handle the truth,” Jack Nicholson’s character inA Few Good Men would say—movie quote!—but we think you can handle the truth.

“This needs to be answered like all the other ‘too much of a good thing’ questions,” says Ursula Ofman, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in private practice in New York City. “If sex begins to take over your day and your thoughts, starts interfering with your relationships, work and family life, then you have reached the area of ‘too much.’”

Some facts: 18-29 year olds have sex 112 times per year, on average, according to The Kinsey Institute. It's 86 times per year for 30-39 year olds, and 69 times per year for those ages 40-49. So if you’re having more than the average amount of sex per year for your age, are you having too much sex? Or are you just doing what people do?

“Frankly, asking how much sex is too much sex is a little bit like asking how many drinks makes a person an alcoholic,” says Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, a senior vice president of clinical development at Elements Behavioral Health and the author of Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age. “This approach fails to recognize that with booze, it's not a matter of how much you drink, it's a question of how it affects your life. If alcohol is consistently creating problems for you, then you might want to look at your drinking. Sex is the same way.”

Medically speaking, “there’s no such thing as too much sex,” says Lauren F. Streicher, M.D., says associate clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University and the author of Sex Rx: Hormones, Health and Your Best Sex Ever. “Obviously, listen to your body. If you’re sore or tired, then don’t have sex.”

We can’t overstate that last piece of advice. Couples in long-distance relationships often overdo it sexually when they’re finally reunited, especially if they know their time together is limited, says Jonthan D. Schiff, M.D., assistant clinical professor of urology at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City.


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  1.' anthony arredondo says:

    I wish you wouldn’t post so much about sex. How to make it better, make her happy, make him happy, whatever. It makes me feel bad since I’m not getting any

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