Are You Sabotaging Your Healing? How to Be a More Aware Healer

Written by on August 15, 2015 in Conscious Evolution, Conscious Living with 0 Comments

By Marcus T. Anthony

Note: although this post is most useful for spiritual practitioners and healers, it should be very informative for anybody who is upon a spiritual journey, or doing some kind of healing work.

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Years ago when I was part of a spiritual development group we learned how to channel the human ego. We could simply bring a person's image to mind, then act out their genuine intentions. What we discovered was that many people have a very weak intention to actually address the issues that stand between them and their conscious desires. This creates problems. When our intentions at a deep level contradict that of the conscious mind, we become spiritually fraudulent. Out energy structures contradict the image we present to the world, to others, and to ourselves.

The first problem that arises is that there is no way that one's conscious intentions can be fulfilled while the deeper part of the mind has set up the reverse intention. This includes the desire to heal.

For example, many people would come along to that group and say that they wanted to heal their spiritual wounds. Indeed, such a goal was one of the main aims of the group. We did a lot of inner child work, bringing to conscious awareness the trauma that exists within the emotional body. Once brought into awareness, the person could then integrate that part of their energy field, bringing the past into the present. In effect, they could heal.

However, as we discovered, the problem was that many people did not really want to heal. They did not want to heal because they did not want to allow their pain to surface. They were too scared of the trauma that lay within them, so they merely pretended to do the work. Under such circumstances healing was impossible. Instead they played a game of deception with all concerned, including themselves. Various group dramas arose out of the disturbed collective consciousness field. These were unconscious attempted diversions from the stated goals of the group. It wasted everyone's time and energy.

Thus the second problem that spiritual fraudulence generates is that the person starts to negatively effect the energy structures of those around them. For example, at one time in that spiritual group, after working on an issue to do with my abuse in childhood, I found that I was being badly psychically attacked by one of the women helping to facilitate the process. Although her behaviour was outwardly “loving”, the truth was that she was unable to receive a man in an emotionally vulnerable state. Her belief was that men must be strong, must protect women. When she encountered me expressing fear, sadness and anger, it was too much for her. This stemmed from her own childhood issue of being neglected by a distant father. The woman needed time away from the group to address her issue.

What this meant for me in that instance was that I was unable to fully connect with that wounded part of myself, because the little boy within me was very scared of that woman. I did not feel truly safe. The woman's unconscious projections set up a situation whereby she was sabotaging my healing.

When we do not face our own issues, we tend to unconsciously attempt to thwart the healing of others. This is why spiritual teachers and practitioners need to be very, very diligent when they work with people. A male who still has unresolved anger towards his mother is unlikely to allow another male client to express that side of himself, because the vulnerability of that client would resonate within his own consciousness field, effectively “inviting” him to feel his own pain.

What I have noticed often is that many of my clients share my own spiritual issues. Often I am contacted by a person who is a mirror for my own healing requirements at that time. Because I am typically aware of these deeply embedded energy structures, I often spend a lot of time during the period I am working with the client to ensure that I am being responsible for my energy field. If I do not do this, I will tend to unconsciously suppress the healing of the client.

Ideally, the practitioner should have addressed any related issues that the client is dealing with. For example, I experienced a lot of trauma as a child because of the abuse and neglect of my parents. Because I now hold those parts of my psyche in loving attention, clients with similar but unresolved issues that come to me will immediately sense that I can be trusted in regard to that issue. They will feel safe that they can connect with their wounded child without me judging them or unconsciously attempting to suppress or abuse their inner child. The latter happens more than many would like to think.

During the time we are working with a client, our two energy fields will tend to overlap to some degree. The work my client does will impact my consciousness field, while my own consciousness field will impact the client's. Such an energy overlap is fine for a short time, as long as it does not become deeply or chronically entangled. One time I possessed one of my clients, effectively stealing her inner child because of an unresolved issue I had. Fortunately I saw this. I have seen many similar projections emerge from my psyche over the years, and have learned from them.

Being a truly responsible healing practitioner is an imperfect business, and for that reason your task is not to be perfect; nor to become obsessed with making sure you don't do anything “wrong.” Your task is to be open to the reality that you are a fallible human being and that every day of your life you need to spend time bringing to attention all that is within your consciousness field – and especially your emotional body.

If you relax and bring gentle and loving focus to yourself, your spirit will let you know what needs to be addressed. There is no need to think of this as finding out “what is wrong with me.” That does not work as it is an implicit judgment and rejection of yourself. The right relationship with both the emotional body and psychic energy is a gentle and loving acceptance, followed by your permission for any parts of your psyche to express themselves as “you” take on the role of the witness.

Sometimes the practitioner can be faced with major issues. In such times it is certainly permissible, and indeed advisable, to seek guidance from other wise practitioners. Just be careful to use your intuition to select the appropriate one. It is no personal failure to admit you are having a problem and need help.

You are not here to become more than human, merely to lovingly and joyfully deepen into the expression of all that it is to be truly human. This is the greatest gift you can give to your clients. This simple process alone will generate much healing for those who come to see you, without you even having to lift a finger. It is part of the grace of spirt.

Marcus AnthonyMarcus T Anthony, PhD is the author of ten books about human awakening, including Discover Your Soul Template. He is also a life coach and teacher of profound intuition. His web site is

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