The Rumours are True… I’m Easy – Farhana Dhalla



I’m Easy. Well, not THAT kind of easy … although, in my 20’s… 😉

For a long time now I have been noticing that we reward ‘all that is difficult’.

Like, “I studied hard for that exam” and, “It was a rough week” and, “I pulled an all nighter to get this project together for my client.” I am guilty of this. I have patted myself on the back many times for being able to push myself to ‘do the impossible’. I was in love with the idea of always being busy. In the past, I have rewarded myself with the false belief that because I’m busy and because I push myself, I must be doing something important.

But, the problem with that was that I didn't acknowledge my *real* skills because they came easy. So I tried to make them seem difficult because I have erroneously thought that it had more ‘honor’.

For the record, I’m a great mom, friend, coach, writer, speaker, creative partner, strategic thinker, intuitive, spiritual healer, leader, project manager and celebrationist (not sure if that is a word, but that is very much ‘me’). I smile bright when I am in these activities because in truth, they come easy and are joyful for me. Really, there is no need to play the charade and make them seem tougher than they really are.

I, in ego driven moments, like to list my ‘story’. Single mom of 3 kids, self employed, ‘doing it all myself', blah, blah, blah. Yuck. It wasn't to get anyone to feel sorry for me, it was for people to see how HARD I worked and that it has all come together for me from my sheer force. Ugh! Is that egomaniacal or what??

I realized that when I get attracted to speaking about how ‘hard’ things are for me, I was only setting myself up for the future conversation of how I overcame it. I always *know* I will overcome it so that is guaranteed. I was just setting it up for a future conversation to make myself look good.

The truth is, things come together for me pretty easily – they always kinda have. God has always been good to me. Life has always been good to me.

Magical introductions, opportunities that seemingly drop from the sky and incredible people who show up wanting to work with me or support my work are DAILY occurrences for me. Yes. Daily.

I am in truth, the luckiest person I know.

So, if you ever hear me singing any country song about my broken truck and lost dog, flick me on the forehead, activate my third eye for me and remind me that the rumours are true… I am Easy.

I’d love to hear your thoughts.


Farhana Dhalla

Farhana Dhalla is a #1 Best Selling Author, International Life Coach & Speaker, and Creator of the transformational Thank You for Leaving Me Journey. She is the visionary and leader of the enlightened divorce movement and  the ultimate ‘go to’ person for shifting perspective. As a ‘suddenly single mom’ to three small children, she intimately knows the overwhelming fear and pain – -and the liberation of stepping into the highest version of oneself. Check out her free webinar Divorce Is Not Your Fault and connect with her on Twitter and Facebook



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  1.' Joanna Wert says:

    I hear you and you make a good point. I have seven children and have homeschooled for over 25 yrs., living on one income. Difficult? You bet. But guess what, those challenges have served me well and made me the woman I am today.

  2.' Open says:

    Interesting viewpoint. What I see in your exploration, is ‘how can I give it my all, but without efforting’? Because I sense also there’s the risk of ‘throwing the baby out with the bath water’. For me, I totally recognise the situation you share. I too find creativity happens as a part of nature. But also “I” – and by “I” I’ve ascertained my soul – evolves and grows through challenge and hardship too. The warrior aspect of my soul thrives in such an environment. And I wouldn’t want to dump that out with the bath water. So for me, it’s allowing this strongly creative, passionate and committed energy to come through, yet working not to contract, tighten or attach to it. Namaste.

  3.' Rich Putman says:

    Fun, funny, and insightful.

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