Why Some People Are MAGNETS for Bad Relationships

“Why Some People Are MAGNETS for Bad Relationships” was originally published by Raise Your Vibration Today.

Have you ever known someone who always attracts the same bad relationships over and over again? Chances are, you have a friend (or two or three!) who always seems to attract cheaters, or losers, or jerks, or “unavailable” men/women.

From your observation, it probably seems like this friend is somehow a magnet for bad relationships.

Well the truth is, if your friend attracts the same kind of person over and over again, he or she actually IS a magnet, thanks to the Law of Attraction.

With the Law of Attraction, whatever we believe in and focus on becomes our reality. Our reality is an accurate reflection of our beliefs about the world and our place in it.

So, if we believe that all guys are cheaters, that will be our experience. If we focus on how much we dislike our current girlfriend, we’ll be attracted to another one just like her in the future. If we believe that we are going to be dumped, we’ll get kicked to the curb every time.

This is why it’s all too common to see someone attracting the same  “bad relationships” over and over again.  We may end up in different places, surrounded by different faces, but we often end up with the same kind of person over and over again.

Has this ever been your experience? Have you been a magnet for cheaters, or losers, or jerks or heartbreakers? Have you been a magnet for people who treat you poorly or people who are “unavailable?”

Well, if you have, the good news is that you can break the cycle whenever you want, and it’s an easy process when you’re ready to do it.

All it takes is a little investigating to figure out what beliefs you are putting out there that are attracting what you do not want. After all, if you can locate the magnet, you can throw it away and stop using it.

If you’d like to know why you are attracting the same kind of person over and over again, here’s a quick exercise to help you uncover the magnet and identify the limiting beliefs you are projecting about love and relationships.

Grab a pencil and a piece of paper, and at the top of it write “Why do I Attract _________ (Cheaters/Losers/Jerks/Etc)?”

Then, spend a few minutes and brainstorm every single reason you can think of that might explain why you are attracting this kind of person.

These can be statements about you, love, relationships or particular people. They can be about circumstances or events in your life.  Any contributing factor that has led one of these bad girlfriends or boyfriends into your life can be considered, particularly if it’s a reason you feel strongly about or one that evokes a lot of frustration.

Flesh out the list as much as you can.  Make sure to take your time with this brainstorm, because the more complete it is, the better this exercise will turn out for you.

When you’re done, look over the reasons you’ve written.  These statements are the limiting beliefs you are projecting out into the universe.  They are the beliefs you are carrying and focusing on that are attracting what you do not want, and they can be eliminated!

Here are a few examples of limiting beliefs I’ve encountered on love and relationships as a Law of Attraction coach:

  1. You can’t trust people.
  2. I’m not lovable.
  3. My parents didn’t treat me well as a child.
  4. I’m attracting men like my dad/women like my mother.
  5. Men always cheat.
  6. My friends always set me up with losers.
  7. There aren’t a lot of good men to pick from in this town.
  8. Women these days are lazy and expect the man to do everything.
  9. I’m only attracted to bad guys.
  10. I’ve got a hot body that attracts guys who only want one thing.
  11. I’m afraid of commitment so I always pick unavailable men.
  12. The kind of girls I want only want guys with good jobs.
  13. My friends/family always give me bad advice.

You get the picture…

After you’ve identified your limiting beliefs, you can start to set them aside and remove your focus and attention from them.  Make it your mission to stop talking about these beliefs and to stop looking for evidence of them in your life.

Stop gossiping with your girlfriends about how much you’ve been cheated on. Stop telling your mother about how all girls just want you for your money.  Stop saying these statements aloud altogether, and distract yourself from conversations, television shows, stories and songs about them as much as you can. Turn away from the problems, and you will eliminate their negative momentum.

As a replacement for all of the limiting talk, start talking about the things you like about love and relationships.  Look for the things that are going well in your love life, and give them a little more PR.  Redirect your focus away from what is unwanted, and place it on what is going right.

In other words, make a new list.  What’s going right?

Maybe you’re attracting bad boyfriends, but they’re often good kissers who are hot. Maybe you’re attracting the wrong girls but they’re often generous and do nice things for you.  I guarantee that for every “bad” thing you are attracting, you’re attracting something else that’s good.  Move your emphasis to the good.

Related Article: “The #1 Reason Why Your Soul Mate Is Still Out of Reach

Ending your dependency on limiting beliefs will help you to stop attracting bad relationships. It’s an important part of the transformational process, and it’s a necessary step if you are wanting to change the kind of relationships you are attracting into your life. 

Be mindful of your words and be mindful of your focus.  Through identifying and eliminating your limiting beliefs, you will have the power to change your love life for the better.

Everyone you know deserves to have love and partnership in their lives.  Stay positive about love and relationships, and encourage the people you love to do the same!

XO, Andrea

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About the Author: Andrea Schulman is a Law of Attraction educator and coach who works with people around the globe, teaching the LOA with fun, clarity & success!  You can sign up for her free Law of Attraction newsletter here.  You can also become a member of her membership website for as little as $1.99, and gain access to a library of her LOA video tutorials, ebooks, audiobooks and guided meditations. 

This article (Why Some People Are MAGNETS for Bad Relationships) was originally created and published by Raise Your Vibration Today and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to Andrea Schulman and RaiseYourVibrationToday.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement (with all links in tact).

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  1. 1707381456206716@facebook.com' Joanne Howard says:

    Abbi Nicholls

  2. 10153781640603705@facebook.com' Charlie Morales says:

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  3. 206017946443388@facebook.com' Ali Rosario says:

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  5. 206017946443388@facebook.com' Ali Rosario says:


  6. 10209483060572665@facebook.com' Michele Beach says:

    Stop being a desperado for love..

  7. 814974065274762@facebook.com' Yeymi Ortiz says:

    You attract what you are

  8. 10153781640603705@facebook.com' Charlie Morales says:

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  10. 988327131281445@facebook.com' Nikkie Jorcsak says:

    Philadelphi Vadkerti-toth i don kno if thats gona be useful to you but here yu go anyway ?

  11. 10153705302519132@facebook.com' Daniel Miller says:


  12. 1167167773314204@facebook.com' Giresh Thani says:

    I know PLENTY of’Em!

  13. 206017946443388@facebook.com' Ali Rosario says:

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  14. 10153587324546247@facebook.com' Leslie E. Morales says:

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  15. 10206182802277220@facebook.com' Joey Hutchinson says:


  16. 1799569140266922@facebook.com' Cat Tester says:

    I’ve had plenty of them and I’m a genuinely good person. Thats why, because I was taken for granted… it used to upset me about why I was the one always being cheated on, lies to and used… but I always took them back… recently I’ve realized that maybe it was just to teach them a lesson in life.. . Ultimately it didn’t break me, but these people are now better people for realizing they hurt someone that was worth keeping. I broke off these relationships as I just wasn’t happy anymore… not during a fight and not because of the terrible things they had done.
    To this day I am friends with a few of them and they have apologized.. they have really made a difference in their lives and I think thats something wonderful.
    I’m in a fantastic relationship with an amazing guy so none of this has hurt me in the long run. I just feel as though I needed to be used to teach others a better way ?

  17. 1649311948675423@facebook.com' Jelena Benjak says:


  18. 1190965220914875@facebook.com' Jessica White says:

    Here is a clue for finding a trick question. If your question claims, Always or Never, it generally is false… The question itself flawed by assumption.

  19. 237897883229211@facebook.com' Ita Elizabeth Jones says:

    let them go

  20. 587818431392465@facebook.com' Meskelo Infinity says:

    No! but i guess the reason to attract bad relationship over and over again is bcos of old habits!!

  21. 10207723732204795@facebook.com' Michelle Zombee says:

    Some people don’t notice they don’t have bad luck, it’s YOU. Ask questions like why do you give certain kinds of people your time and energy? The screening process needs to be changed. ?

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