How to Overcome Fear & Create Your Dream Life by Changing Your Brain

Written by on April 11, 2016 in Conscious Living, Inspirational, Thrive with 1 Comment

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By Kari Dahlgren | Tiny Buddha

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” ~Les Brown

Fear used to be the driving force in my life.

I didn’t even know that I was living in fear at the time. I hid behind labels like “stress” and “anxiety,” but those are just clinical terms for fear.

Truthfully, my dreams terrified me because they seemed way too big to achieve. At the time, I wanted to excel in my new career, get into the best shape of my life, and create meaningful relationships—and I felt like I had a long way to go.

So naturally, I got really stressed out.


And why, oh why, did it feel okay?

It seems like stress is such commonplace now that we think we’re slackers if we don’t feel tense all the time. But that’s just our fear finding excuses to stick around.

Once I finally realized that stress was just an option, I started looking for a way through it. And I found the answers in a simple Japanese philosophy called Kaizen, which is the practice of continuous improvement through small, consistent steps.

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I learned that whenever we’re scared about making change it’s because the steps we’re taking are too big, and these leaps of faith will trigger a life-saving biological response: fear.

But luckily, there’s a way to turn that fear off, and it all starts with your brain, specifically your amygdala.

Shut Down Your Amygdala by Asking Tiny Questions

Your amygdala plays a heavy role in your fight-or-flight response, a physiological reaction to something threatening (like those big dreams of yours).

When you come across a scary thought or situation, your brain will enter flight mode and your amygdala will literally stop your brain from producing new thoughts. Most artists know this as creative block, but it’s really just fear.

So your big dreams aren’t the problem—your amygdala is. And you can turn your amygdala off by asking tiny questions.

When I decided that I wanted to excel in my career, I didn’t start out with a question like “How can I help my company revolutionize the world?” No. That question would terrify even the most capable person.

Instead, I took a step back and asked tiny questions. I thought about things like “What one benefit do I hope to deliver to our audience?” Or, “What can I do for ten minutes today that will bring me closer to completing this project?”

Tiny questions like that aren’t intimidating at all.

In fact, they’re quite doable.

Eradicate Fear by Taking Small, Relentless Steps

Once you start asking tiny questions, then you can start taking tiny actions.

The key is to pick things that are small enough to keep your amygdala from getting in the way.

And that’s why New Year’s Resolutions never work. For example, on January 1st we decide that we want to lose twenty pounds and completely give up chocolate; so we restrict our calories and give up our vice all at the same time.

When you put yourself up against a mountain, the big steps you’re forced to take will trigger your flight response and ultimately lead to stress and burnout.

If you want to achieve a big goal, you have to break it up into tiny steps.

I used this tiny-step tactic when I started focusing on becoming healthier. I didn’t do anything radical—although that’s how it started out, and I had to fail over and over until I realized radical wouldn’t work.

Instead, I took the slow and steady route, and it was brutally slow. It took me about two years to really gain momentum, but it trained me to reject instant gratification and just go slow.

First, I started avoiding processed foods, and I focused on that until I mastered it. Then, I started focusing on only eating until I’m full, and I focused on that until I mastered it.

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Then I started going to the gym two days a week and I kept it up until I gained the momentum I needed to go four days a week.

I didn’t realize what I was doing at the time, but I proved to myself (and hopefully to you) that small steps are much more successful at making big change.

And I’ve become the healthiest version of myself because of it.

Get Excited—It’s a Fearless Emotion

But what about the people who don’t do tiny things? What about the people who do really big things and do them exceptionally well?

These people have a very special talent: They know how to get really excited about their goals, and excitement is another way to keep your flight response off.

So if you want to successfully achieve your dreams, you need to get excited about them! It will help you avoid fear and take projects on with enthusiasm.

For example, my boss just gave me approval to write a book, which is something I’ve always wanted to do, and I was absolutely thrilled!

Instead of letting myself become overwhelmed by the size of this project, I chose to get over-the-moon excited about it, which helps me stay focused and creative.

Have you ever felt so fired up about an idea that you can’t wait to start working on it? If so, don’t ever let that feeling go. It will propel your dreams faster than anything.

But if you can’t make the excitement last (and that’s okay—fear likes to creep in any chance it gets), then try using visualization.

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