Why You Should Never Sleep With Someone You Don’t Want to Be

Written by on January 13, 2017 in Conscious Living, Relationships & Sex with 42 Comments

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Pay attention to whom you share your intimate energy with. Intimacy at this level intertwines your aural energy with the aural energy of the other person. These powerful connections, regardless of how insignificant you think they are, leave spiritual debris, particularly within people who do not practice any type of cleansing, physical, emotional or otherwise. The more you interact intimately with someone, the deeper the connection and the more of their aura is intertwined with yours. Imagine the confused aura of someone who sleeps with multiple people and carries around these multiple energies? What they may not realize is that others can feel that energy which can repel positive energy and attract negative energy into your life.

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I always say, never sleep with someone you wouldn’t want to be” – Lisa Chase Patterson

I believe the original author of the above passage is Lisa Chase Patterson. How she described the intimate nature of exchanging energy with another during sex is something that I’ve been lecturing friends about for years. It was nice to see someone else discussing it as well.

We are all physical beings, but we are also so much more than that, including ‘energetic beings’. When you get intimate with anyone you merge with their energy. It doesn’t matter if it is OBE (astral) sex, physical sex, or oral sex — anytime you are intimate with another person (or people) you absorb some of their energy and they absorb some of your energy.

If you have sex with positive, loving, uplifting people – that wonderful energy is absorbed and uplifts you. If you have sex with negative, pessimistic, unstable, depressive people – that energy will have you crashing down and uninterested in day-to-day life. (Among other ways. We are all unique after all) Keep in mind that if this person sleeps with a variety of people, they absorb their energy. A married man or woman has absorbed their spouses energy and will mix it with your energy if you are the other man or woman. It’s vice versa.

So the next time you jump into bed with someone or want to hook up for OBE sex – keep in mind that unless they cleanse their energy on a regular basis, you will be getting intimate with whomever they have been intimate with.

Oh, and just so you know, this isn’t a new discovery. Christians often call this connection ‘Soul ties’. It is also widely discussed in the study of Tantric Sex.

As we accumulate unwanted energies in daily life, regular aura cleansing supports health and well-being. Like psychic dust bunnies, we go around collecting debris on our aura, until we finally do something to cleanse it…

It is the same with personal hygiene. If you do not bathe, your body will become dirtier and dirtier. Gradually the smell becomes unbearable. Eventually, your body even becomes a breeding ground for disease and bacteria. If you do not cleanse your aura, your spiritual energy system will also become ‘dirtier and dirtier’. Eventually you become unpleasant for others to be around (though they may not consciously understand why). Your energy system then begins to attract lower vibrations which are also unhealthy for you and others.

In modern culture, we expect people to take care of their personal hygiene by bathing regularly, if not daily. But we are not yet so spiritually evolved!

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Cleansing your Aura

Just like washing your hands cleans one part of your body and washing your face takes care of another… different approaches to aura cleansing will support you in clearing different aspects of your energy system. Some aura clearing approaches are more lightweight–in terms of personal hygiene– like changing your clothes, or putting on deodorant. They are still useful, but they can’t replace bathing! Other methods of aura cleansing go much deeper–equivalent to having a good scrub-down, or going for a detoxifying spa treatment.

Options for Cleansing…

Bathing with Epsom Salts

Water helps wash away dirt, both physically and energetically. Adding Epsom Salts to your bath stimulates the flow of your own energy and also draws minor psychic debris out of your aura.


Submerging yourself in water helps cleanse your aura. As ocean water contains salt and minerals, it is especially useful for drawing minor psychic debris out of your aura.


Gentle exposure to sunlight stimulates the flow of your own energy. Some lower vibrations cannot exist with exposure to bright light.

Related Article: 3 Simple Steps To Clear Your Aura


1. Aura Meditation

Even basic meditation helps you relax and release. Aura meditation works directly with releasing unwanted energies through grounding, clearing your aura, energy channels and chakras. One of the most powerful ways to cleanse and care for your aura is energy-based aura meditation.

2. Aura Healings

In an aura healing, the healer supports you in cleansing unwanted energies out of your system. The healer assists you in grounding out psychic debris, releasing blocks and helps you get your own energy flowing. If you’d like to find out more about Aura Healing, I highly recommend you research Reiki. If you’d like to experience it yourself, I recommend you look for a Reiki healer in your area)


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  1. 1003968909669316@facebook.com' T-j Hoskin says:

    Katarina Hoskin

  2. 10207908684545218@facebook.com' Gedren Vera says:

    Lilly Rosales Jairo Serrano

  3. 1645625639047482@facebook.com' Katarina Hoskin says:

    No wonder why I’m such a cunt

  4. 10205423727741616@facebook.com' Julie Raymond says:

    That’s so stupid… “you don’t want to be”… come on! you fall in love and share your body and soul becuase you want to BE them? NO… together we BECOME…

  5. 10207675077096322@facebook.com' Jeremy Philip John Penrice says:

    Why would you say that about yourself

  6. 171457333195122@facebook.com' Bone LeightonLee Brody says:

    LoL at katarina

  7. 984167811634537@facebook.com' James Burns says:

    What if u can’t remember most of them. This is must be why I’m so confused. I don’t even know what to have for breakfast. Thanks

  8. 1072992376047147@facebook.com' Karen Kelly says:

    Very profound.

  9. 1047140598664703@facebook.com' Michelle Ann says:

    It”s true being in nature, gardening, sunlight, wind ,water and Epson all will cleanse your Aura…give it a try I know from experience and want to look further into reki and meditation. Great article ty.

  10. 144789675874215@facebook.com' Aleena Mary says:

    Sir paniyunnu

  11. 1621347374790449@facebook.com' Stephen Firns says:

    I 100% agree with this

  12. 10203901416214875@facebook.com' Raquel Powley says:

    OMG Joe Catalano I’m going to become a wog ????

  13. 10153687860237558@facebook.com' Jamaine C Bryson Sr says:


  14. 944771372255685@facebook.com' Rajeev R Prabhakar says:

    …..and this post is not meant for you?

  15. 1641333692810752@facebook.com' Tina Angelinthepit Bailey says:

    Carl Stedman

  16. 1042820235751022@facebook.com' Brenna Cahill says:

    So interesting that this is the 1st article I see lol … Kate… somthing like this…

  17. 10156152796530352@facebook.com' Warren Bond says:


  18. 757504484395486@facebook.com' Raymond De La Torre says:

    Sometimes people just don’t grasp the concept of perseverance &/or being intimately exclusive. There’s serious energy involved.

  19. 10207765428194067@facebook.com' Vicki Dicki says:

    Does that mean slutts have múltiple personality disorder because they become like all the people they have sex with? LOL.

  20. 916017298473553@facebook.com' Austin Maxwell says:

    Mackenzi-Mae Johnson

  21. 1481035618876924@facebook.com' Christie Gil says:

    The more I read what other people’s instructions are for successful living and spiritual cleansing, the more I see I have come so far and learned so much. I read this article, and I love it, it’s fabulous, but for me I read nothing I didn’t know. That’s not intended as a boast. I am happily tearful at the thought that all my learning in the school of hard knocks is also what other enlightened people have found to be true.

    • 10207675077096322@facebook.com' Jeremy Philip John Penrice says:

      I really enjoyed your perceptiveness I found my partner with another man disastrous consequences but I knew when I made love to her something was wrong I think we undervalue our own intuition and perceptions Jeremy

    • 1481035618876924@facebook.com' Christie Gil says:

      ^^Precisely. I knew, too.

      I’m sorry you went through that.

    • 10207675077096322@facebook.com' Jeremy Philip John Penrice says:

      Its OK its my school of hard knocks which I’m trying to live through Luckily maybe like you I have a brain and can find my way to help myself and others
      I read Daniel Goleman vital truths and simple lies ?? Title I learned so much about personality deception projection wow can people really do that unconsciously Its like I haven’t really been awake at all thanks Jeremy

    • 10207887445411946@facebook.com' Michelle Cusumano Meyer says:

      Truly Jeremy Philip John Penrice, I feel as if very, very few of us are awake. Our society works to keep us that way. Can you imagine if the majority of people felt the same as us…what a different world we would be living in. Our jobs now are to help guide others back to themselves…away from the commercialism and division whether they’re racial, political or otherwise. When we start living with the notion that our actions, even the smallest seemingly inconsequential, do have a ripple effect on the whole living organism that is earth, we begin to choose paths that leave only footprints. 😉

  22. 934002036666826@facebook.com' Raffy Ginez says:

    is it really true?

  23. 1640199756218440@facebook.com' Ryan Keller says:

    Don’t sleep with people who don’t do cleansing… it may cause you to realize what a load of crap this article is.

  24. 713740832091366@facebook.com' Joe Catalano says:

    You are now becoming a better person haha

  25. 415843665274924@facebook.com' Maurice Wendo says:

    Just the desire of the flesh dictates, for naturally everyone is somebody for what he is. No criteria here.

  26. 1669293276622333@facebook.com' Lynn Crutchfield says:


  27. selenawallace043@gmail.com' Selena Jane Wallace says:

    I’d read quite a few different writings from other author’s and all had similaritie’s. There’s was one that i had read about taking in lower vibration’s of another and that unbeknown we were like a breeding ground or a incubator of some nasty horrible spirits. The only way you could get rid of these nasty things was spiritual cleansing, healing or a shamen as sometimes cleansing isnt enough. I had a grey eg; reptillian leave my lower abdomen area after seeing a spiritual healer through prayer released this grey from me. This grey reptillian crocodile looking creature belonged to my ex lover. As you can guess our parting wasnt not desirable. I knew deep inside i had something attached inside of me and these creatures are a nasty piece of work that would had caused alot of emotional, psychological and spiritual damage to my soul. It was quite interesting after that healing this creature was lost and angry that prayer had made it leave me. However i had to also be responsible for what i had allowed to attract into my life as it taked two and therefore one needs to look within themselves and ask themselves why did i think i was not worthy or why did i think i dont deserve to be treated with respect or love. This article to me means are you sleeping with the enemy? Food for thought? Love yourself be respectful of yourself and love yourself enough to know you deserve someone on the same heart and soul level as yourself. God bless to you all…..

  28. 10200815481065798@facebook.com' Dezahrae Antoinette says:

    Tommy Bridgewater

  29. 1739389736285112@facebook.com' Marcella Janet Torres Pacheco says:

    Luiz Angelo i think this is what you were talking to me about

  30. 10153110649401232@facebook.com' Gary Smith says:

    I don’t want to be a woman, does that mean I have to stop sleeping with them?

  31. 1032143180139981@facebook.com' Delia Herrera says:

    Very interesting

  32. 10204921760065588@facebook.com' Stefan Sierra says:


  33. 1009736159060403@facebook.com' Cris Da Silva says:


  34. ghostangelcakie97@gmail.com' Tough Kookie says:

    I am not the people I’ve slept with, nor are they are part of me nor am I a part of them. I don’t believe in this way of thinking, it can be very detrimental, especially for those of us who were sexually coerced, abused or raped. Energy from the perpetrators is not a part of me and they don’t have the privileged of me being a part of them. This is my actuality.

    • Hannahkrawczyk2555@gmail.com' Lena says:

      Actually Taugh I was sexually abused myself as well and his energy stayed with me until i healed it physically,emotionally and spiritually through compassion,cutting cords and powerful reiki healings

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